"The Recovery Room" is a podcast focussed on affair recovery discussions and interviews hosted by author and licensed counselor Tim Tedder, creator of AffairHealing.com resources.
#503 Gaslighting - You Make Me Crazy
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder talk about gaslighting. What is it? How does it show up during infidelity? During affair recovery? What should you do if someone is gaslighting you?
* Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast503.html
#502 Dealing with Multiple Affairs
Counselors Tim Tedder and Jenn Gingras discuss unique issues to consider when dealing with someone who has had multiple affairs. Is there hope for recovery? What difference does it make to the betrayed partner? What does it mean to the involved partner?
* Episode Resouces: https://www.affairhealing.com/podcast502.html
#501 Satisfying Choices, Lasting Change
Tim Tedder talks about what influences the choices and changes we make, with particular focus on decisions made in the aftermath of an affair. In the introduction, Tim and Sharon discuss life shifts resulting from COVID-19.
* Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast501
#408 Stuck On A Feeling: The Power of Limerence
Counselors Tim Tedder and Sharon Tedder interview a neuroscientist to learn more about the limerence experience. What's going on in the brain of someone who is caught up in the powerful emotions often experienced in an affair (a condition sometimes called "Affair Fog")?
* Episode notes and resources available at https://AffairHealing.com/podcast408
* See also https://livingwithlimerence.com
#407 Infidelity Choices: Compromise, Indecision, Recovery
Three counselors discuss affair choices as they result in compromises (crossing the line into infidelity), indecision, and recovery.
* Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast407
#406 Infidelity Responses: Anger, Children, Forgiveness
Three counselors discuss affair responses related to anger, children, and forgiveness as they review their earlier conversations about these topics.
* Episode notes and resources available at AffairHealing.com/podcast406
Super helpful to those who have been in tough marriages
These therapists are super helpful in helping people who have been hurt in marriage. They are great at communicating about emotions and decisions that have been or need to be made.
Just listened to episode 204.
This topic is a huge struggle
for me as the betrayed spouse. My husband has answered many of my questions about details, times, places etc, however the answers I never seem
To get me or he is not “able” (maybe just not willing) to answer to my satisfaction revolve around how he was feeling during his affairs and betrayal. He tells me he didn’t have any feelings for his affair partners. Even if I believed that, which I don’t ; when I ask him “how do you think they believed you felt about them? How did you talk to them, behave with them?
What do you believe they felt about you?”
He gets defensive and says he can’t answer to what “they” felt. I know he can give me more clarity. There’s no way he has NO clue what and how he lead them to
Believe he felt about them.
I feel like he is not willing to answer questions like this because he knows the “feelings” part is more painful for me
than the physical part. So I continue to feel lied to and manipulated.
Not sure it’s the answers I really seek or if it’s more about trusting him to give me the honest answers.
Hopefully that made sense? That is just one example of my struggles.
The resource I needed
This has been an incredible resource as I try to navigate all the emotions after being betrayed by my spouse.