In this podcast Brad & Morgan Robinson outline everything you need to know to heal after infidelity has wrecked your relationship. If you want to heal after betrayal - whether you had an affair or multiple affairs or it was your partner who hurt you - this podcast is for you! Each episode has a free download available at healingbrokentrust.com so you can work together to fully heal or you can work alone. Either way you'll experience transformation! Brad is a nationally recognized affair recovery expert and licensed marriage and family therapist. He and his wife have helped thousands of couples heal after betrayal and save their family. You can save your family and completely heal even after betrayal.
What Makes Love Last
Watch or listen to Brad's TEDx talk called "What Makes Love Last" here: https://youtu.be/gjLuX8ph3_w
Stress and the Negative Cycle
At the time of this episode, we are experiencing a pandemic and we're all quarantined and practicing social distancing. We are all so stressed and now we're in close quarters with our spouse. This can make healing broken trust so difficult. If you're ready for help visit healingbrokentrust.com.
What Happens When The Unfaithful Is Vulnerable
In Episode 64 Brad discusses what happens when the betrayer opens up and is vulnerable with the partner they've hurt. How this can affect the future of the relationship.
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The Challenges To Understanding Why The Affair Happened In Your Marriage
After an affair is discovered in a relationship many people find it difficult to understand why the betrayal happened. In Episode 63 Brad and Morgan discuss some of the challenges to healing after cheating is discovered. They outline how shock and trauma affects the way understanding the affair betrayal is interpreted. How the "big why" and "little whys" make a difference in healing after the affair is discovered. How the level of pain affects the number of questions asked.
The Crucial Moments After The Affair
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Is Your Situation Unique?
This episode we have a real "come to Jesus meeting"....we constantly hear people say that their situation must be the worst situation that we've ever heard...they're surprised when we share what we share in this episode.
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Brad I hope you get a chance to read this. I just wanted to say thank you for creating this. It’s been the number one reason we’re healed today. I’ve done an intensive and coaching with you and you were everything we hoped for when working with you. My wife and I are 100% restored. R and H Morrison
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Some good but some VERY bad
Listened to a number of episodes so as to not throw the baby out with the bath water. There are some points that are useful and help to normalize the experience but there are some fundamental issues with their philosophy that I find Incredibly problematic. Even a broken clock is right twice a day but with an issue as difficult and traumatic as infidelity, I wouldn’t recommend it.
The biggest, and they admit this is “going to step on some toes” is that they suggest the betrayed look at “what vulnerabilities they created in the marriage”. This is 100% blameshifting and toxic. No one creates vulnerabilities in their partner. We create our own vulnerabilities and it is our own responsibility to share those with our partners. We can look at how we contribute to a dynamic that makes it difficult for our partners to feel safe with us but another’s failure to recognize their own internal process is their responsibility alone. Brad provides an example of a woman who cheated because her husband betrayed her confidence which in turn made her feel like she couldn't trust him. The husband did not create that vulnerability! He certainly hurt his wife and needs to take ownership of that (as we all should take ownership of our transgressions and how they affect people) but the husband is not responsible for her actions in response to the hurt. I cannot ever recommend any healing resources that even hint at suggesting this to a betrayed.
They also talk a lot about betrayal being traumatic then completely discount the effects of trauma in their discussion of challenging automatic thoughts. This is a common CBT technique but can be retraumatizing when used in this situation. I’d encourage them to really dive deep into the trauma literature to understand how trauma is processed differently than regular memories because they miss the mark time and time again and as they say a bad therapist can be worse than no therapy at all.
This is also supposed to be a team effort but most episodes are Brad talking the overwhelming majority of the time and Morgan asking follow up/clarifying questions every now and again. His mansplaining is tiring.