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Dr. Michael Vlerick presents a concrete 10 step plan on how to become a happier person!
 
He emphasizes the need to develop good habits and discard bad habits, starting with small changes and being kind to ourselves. Living a healthy lifestyle, including getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising, is crucial for both physical and mental well-being. Meditation is also highlighted as a powerful tool for rewiring the brain and freeing ourselves from negative mental reactions and cravings.
 
In this conversation, Michael Vlerick and Aldo de Pape discuss the final 10 steps to becoming happier.
 
These steps include observing mental reactions without reacting, developing contentment and gratitude, engaging in flow activities, investing in social relationships, and not making happiness the direct goal.
 
They emphasize the importance of training the mind to wander less and be more present, as well as the benefits of altruism and helping others. They also discuss the negative impact of mindless relaxation activities and the importance of focusing on the present moment.
 
Takeaways Understand your genetic programming and the stick and carrot principle to achieve happiness. Develop good habits and discard bad habits, starting with small changes and being kind to yourself. Live a healthy lifestyle, including getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising, for both physical and mental well-being. Use meditation as a powerful tool to rewire the brain and free yourself from negative mental reactions and cravings. Observe mental reactions without reacting and extend this practice to daily life Develop contentment and gratitude for a deeply satisfying life Engage in flow activities instead of mindless relaxation Invest in social relationships and practice altruism Don't make happiness the direct goal, focus on equanimity, contentment, and loving interactions  ---
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In this conversation, Aldo and Dr. Michael Vlerick discuss the topic of happiness and how to train the brain for happiness. They explore the importance of remaining equanimous, developing contentment, and connecting with others in order to live a happy and meaningful life. They also delve into the practice of meditation and its benefits, including training attention, gaining insight into one's psychology, and developing a new relationship with thoughts and emotions. The conversation emphasizes the transformation of the experience of life through mindfulness and detachment from emotions. In this conversation, Michael and Aldo discuss the importance of meditation in training the brain for happiness. They explore different types of meditation, how to get started with meditation, and the benefits of cultivating positive states of mind. They introduce the Saber protocol as a tool for managing negative mental reactions and offer practical advice for implementing it in daily life. They emphasize the importance of practicing gratitude and cultivating contentment to enhance happiness.
Takeaways: 
Remaining equanimous, developing contentment, and connecting with others are important pillars for living a happy and meaningful life. Meditation is a practice that involves manipulating attention and can lead to a transformation of the experience of life. Through meditation, one can train attention, gain insight into their own psychology, and develop a new relationship with thoughts and emotions. Detachment from emotions allows for a greater appreciation of both positive and negative feelings, without clinging or craving for them to last. The quality of life is more determined by the attention one brings to the present moment than by external circumstances. Meditation is a powerful tool for training the brain and rewiring mental patterns. Different types of meditation, such as concentration, mindfulness, and cultivation meditation, offer various benefits for happiness and well-being. The Saber protocol (Stop, Accept, Bring attention, Examine, Release) can help manage negative mental reactions and promote emotional freedom. Practicing gratitude and cultivating contentment are essential for enhancing happiness. Training the brain for happiness requires daily practice and a commitment to observing and transforming negative mental reactions. ---
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In this conversation, Aldo de Pape and Dr. Michael Vlerick discuss the simple recipe for happiness.
 
They explore the three major elements of a happy life: equanimity, contentment, and the quality of social connections. They emphasize the importance of working on oneself and cultivating a new relationship with negative emotions. They also discuss the illusion of control and the illusion of self, highlighting the liberating potential of understanding these concepts. The conversation touches on the parallels between human consciousness and artificial intelligence. In this conversation, Dr. Michael Vlerick discusses the illusion of self and the liberating effect of dispelling this illusion. He explains how understanding the constant flow of experiences in life can free us from unnecessary suffering. Dr. Vlerick emphasizes the importance of equanimity, accepting what we cannot change, and cultivating contentment. He also highlights the profound impact of social connections on our wellbeing and happiness. The conversation concludes with a discussion on implementing practices to reprogram the brain and enhance happiness.
 
Takeaways The three major elements of a happy life are equanimity, contentment, and the quality of social connections. Working on oneself and cultivating a new relationship with negative emotions can lead to greater happiness. The illusion of control and the illusion of self can contribute to unhappiness. Understanding the parallels between human consciousness and artificial intelligence can provide insights into the nature of the self. Understanding the illusion of self can lead to a more liberating and freeing experience of life. Equanimity, accepting what we cannot change, and cultivating contentment are key elements of happiness. Social connections play a crucial role in our wellbeing and happiness. Implementing practices to reprogram the brain can enhance happiness and improve overall wellbeing.  ---
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In this conversation, Dr. Michael Vlerick discusses the mismatch between our modern environment and our Stone Age brains, which can impact our happiness.
 
He highlights examples such as our predilection for sugary and fatty foods, our stress response, our sedentary lifestyle, and the artificial ways we seek dopamine boosts. Dr. Vlerick explains how our brains evolved to seek opportunities and rewards, but our modern environment often provides excessive and unhealthy stimuli. He also touches on the addictive nature of social media and the importance of cultivating attention and quieting the mind. The conversation explores the negative consequences of overusing social media, the complex nature of addiction, the role of environment in addiction, the prevalence of loneliness in modern times, the mismatch between our natural responses and the modern world, the possibility of adapting to the modern environment, the importance of habit formation, gratitude for modern living conditions, and looking forward to increasing happiness.
Takeaways Our modern environment often clashes with our Stone Age brains, leading to mismatches that can impact our happiness. Examples of mismatches include our predilection for sugary and fatty foods, our stress response, our sedentary lifestyle, and the artificial ways we seek dopamine boosts. Understanding the evolutionary purpose of certain behaviors can help us navigate the challenges of our modern environment. Cultivating attention and quieting the mind are important for our well-being in an environment filled with distractions. Overuse of social media can have negative consequences, especially in young people, leading to depression and social isolation. Addiction is a complex phenomenon influenced by both chemical compounds and environmental factors. The environment plays a crucial role in addiction, as seen in studies with rats and the experiences of soldiers in the Vietnam War. Loneliness is a major problem in modern times, with one-third of adults suffering from it. Our natural responses and instincts are often mismatched with the modern world, leading to challenges in maintaining happiness. Adapting to the modern environment requires knowledge and caution. Habit formation is key to protecting against threats to happiness and increasing long-term well-being. Despite the challenges, it is important to be grateful for the improved living conditions in modern times. There are strategies and solutions to increase happiness and improve overall well-being.  ---
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In this conversation, Aldo and Michael discuss the importance of happiness in life and how it becomes more apparent when reflecting back on one's life. They explore the idea that everything we do is ultimately in pursuit of happiness, whether consciously or unconsciously. They also discuss the need to be more conscious of our actions and behaviors and how they contribute to our long-term happiness. The conversation touches on the role of mourning and the coexistence of happiness and sadness. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the importance of living a life that encompasses all emotions and finding beauty and meaning in each experience.
 
Keywords: happiness, reflection, life, actions, behaviours, mourning, sadness, beauty, meaning
 
Takeaways
Happiness is the currency of life and becomes more apparent when reflecting back on one's life. Everything we do, consciously or unconsciously, is in pursuit of happiness. Being conscious of our actions and behaviors can contribute to our long-term happiness. Mourning can coexist with happiness and bring beauty and meaning to life.  
Sound Bites
"I want you all to know that I was very happy." "Everything we do, everything we pursue in life, directly or indirectly, consciously or unconsciously, is to make us and other people happier." "We can radically transform our lives for the better, but it won't happen without a kind of conscious effort."  
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In this conversation, Aldo interviews Kian Katanforoosh, CEO of Workera; a platform that measures competencies and provides insights in how people can acquire the right job skills for the future.  

The two discuss the impact of AI on jobs and the future of work, and dive into how important it is to prepare our world for all the changes that are to come. 
They also touch on the role of AI in different fields and the need for both durable and perishable skills. 

Kian shares his personal journey coming from France to the United States, working and growing at Stanford University, and reveals why he is so passionate about Education. 

Check out Workera’s website to find out more about the great work they do: https://workera.ai/

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