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The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.

Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.

Learn more at http://solasystems.xyz

Episode transcripts: https://www.solasystems.xyz/podcast

The Unmasking Unschool Podcast SOLA Systems // Louisa Shaeri

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.9 • 7 Ratings

The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.

Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.

Learn more at http://solasystems.xyz

Episode transcripts: https://www.solasystems.xyz/podcast

    S2 Ep8: Learning Publicly: the unfolding of self-clarity, after late-identifying as autistic / AuDHD

    S2 Ep8: Learning Publicly: the unfolding of self-clarity, after late-identifying as autistic / AuDHD

    Tightly attuned for survival
    teaches you: to be oriented to how other people see you.

    Then comes: a late-diagnosis/self-identifying as autistic, or AuDHD
    opening a door, unfolding a second adolescence, that doesn't match your age, and the "supposed to have done X by now"s:

    supposed to know what I like
    supposed to know how to do life
    supposed to have a job, kids, partner(s), purpose, blah blah by now,
    supposed to know what I really feel and what I really want by now
    supposed to be living that already by now
    supposed to know WHO I am, by now

    That AGE COMPARISON,
    in the unacknowledged context of survival,

    creates a sense of loss;
    shoulda woulda coulda
    IF ONLY I'd known earlier.

    Yes, if only. It hurts. And -
    We are a product of our times;
    of so much before our times
    of so much outside of our own spheres of influence
    and yet
    here we are.
    EXISTING.

    Here you are.
    Still alive to find out.
    Still alive to re-write the story of WHO you are
    based on what you did next.

    That journey of WHO AM I NEXT?
    means:
    learning publicly.

    Giving over to a process of sharing the process of finding out who you are,
    visibly.

    Of being someone who is re-oriented to inner self
    in order to FIND OUT.
    And letting go of the shame of
    not knowing (how)
    so you can GET to know WHO you became next.

    That willingness to learn publicly, transforms the sense of loss
    into mind-blowing unfolding
    of finding out.

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

    • 30 min
    S2 Ep7: Imposter syndrome, and the need for explicit feedback

    S2 Ep7: Imposter syndrome, and the need for explicit feedback

    Imposter syndrome feels be like:
    You're not supposed to be here!
    That's not yours!
    Who do you think you are?
    Who asked you?
    You're not good enough!
    You don't know enough yet!
    But is it true?

    Sometimes, its just a product of industry bias; narrow paths to a position of recognised expertise; ~isms presented as meritocracy.

    And sometimes its a LACK of feedback, or feedback you can't perceive or receive,
    that has you doubting if you can really call yourself that

    Other times, it's a signal that you are in the process of becoming.

    In this week's podcast episode, I get into these three reasons, 
    so you can decide whether 'imposter syndrome' feelings are worth believing
    or are there to be welcomed as a sign that you are on track.

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

    • 20 min
    S2 Ep6: Make your dreams real by Skills Stacking for monotropism + distinction depth

    S2 Ep6: Make your dreams real by Skills Stacking for monotropism + distinction depth

    Like many late-identified autistic / AuDHD / ADHD folks,

    a foggy, porous, unstructured sense of self;
    illusions, fantasies, pipe dreams...
    was my predominant experience of myself,
    until I learned to take EFFECTIVE, STRUCTURED ACTION.

    That action has to be structured a certain way
    for it to be effective.
    I couldn't do things the way other people did them
    nor follow their ideals, without losing myself.
    "falling into holes"

    In finding what has worked for me, I've adapted a concept that makes a strength out of my need to go deep; my monotropic tendencies; my need for distinction depth;

    A way of structuring ACTION, called 'skills stacking'.
    And this week's podcast episode is about why this works.

    Focusing on the next skill / system / sensorial groove
    until it is established, STACKING them one by one,
    has given me the material experience 
    of my own agency, boundaries, and effectiveness
    (the antidote to a porous self)

    and helped me to build belief, clarity and unconscious competence
    for my big impossible dreams
    at speed.

    I hope it serves you too.

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

    • 18 min
    S2 Ep5: Autistic affordances: 'Distinction Depth' and related strengths

    S2 Ep5: Autistic affordances: 'Distinction Depth' and related strengths

    In this episode, I speak to the importance of knowing and centring in your strengths, to create more energy. And offering a new term as a way to think about some of those strengths, called 'Distinction Depth'. When an environment or activity affords and rewards distinction depth: you excel!

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

    • 38 min
    S2 Ep4: The Seven 'C's of Change: Riding the Waves

    S2 Ep4: The Seven 'C's of Change: Riding the Waves

    In this episode I talk through seven 'C' words;

    CHOICE
    CLARITY
    COMPETENCE
    CAPACITY
    CADENCE
    COACHING

    and I also reference The Social Change Ecosystem Map:
    https://buildingmovement.org/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/Ecosystem-Guide-April-2022.pdf

    and invite you to consider what 'C' or 'season' are you in?

    I also mention that I am sharing some behind the scenes of the creation of the 'final evolved form' of The SOLA System on my mailing list
    Subscribe HERE

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

    • 53 min
    S2 Ep3: Beyond performance, with Jem Dobie

    S2 Ep3: Beyond performance, with Jem Dobie

    This episode is an interview with Jem Dobie (they/them). Jem is a 'sensory sibling' who has been through the Unmasking Unschool journey, and you're going to hear them talk in generous and vulnerable detail about what it's been like to transform their experience of their life, their sense of self, their relationships and the work they're doing in the world.

    More about Jem:

    The Feel Good Circus:
    Jem Dobie & Rowan Berry
    thefeelgoodcircus@gmail.com

    On instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.feel.good.circus/
    On facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thefeelgoodcircus

    Mentioned:
    Access Intimacy, by Mia Mingus:
    https://leavingevidence.wordpress.com/2011/05/05/access-intimacy-the-missing-link/

    Jem's favourite resource on boundaries, by Prentis Hemphill:
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/65HYFdou7s7vR8LDQpjVAV?si=T3NN1_M8QOearLu-O22cPA

    The 'Finding our way' series is also a really important resource for Jem, and this episode, in which Prentis Hemphill interviews Kazu Haga, is where Jem first heard ‘slow is smooth, smooth is fast’:
    https://open.spotify.com/episode/5oPiPY4iB7GbbLSq3oOOEr?si=wNnzzGPqQTy_m537SX-nXw

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    TRANSCRIPT

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    The Unmasking Unschool Podcast is for autistic visionaries, creatives and change-makers. Who are seeking to exit the burnout cycles, pathology paradigms, masks and self-negations of the past that keep you stuck, and want to realise the self-reinventions, life pivots and culture-shifting projects to become your boldest most authentic self.
    Hosted by Louisa Shaeri, artist, coach, cultural activator, founder of SOLA Systems.
    Learn more at solasystems.xyz

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    • 51 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
7 Ratings

7 Ratings

dusty oldbones ,

Great resource for late-diagnosed individuals!

I especially loved the episode about scripting—mind blown! I feel that I have been given a useful framework adjustment :-)

My only critique: I found the “self esteem” and “other people’s thoughts” duo of episodes quite emotionally difficult to finish, because they make the point that other people’s opinions don’t/shouldn’t have real bearing on one’s life and self image. I get where the host is coming from, and idealistically, I agree… but in my practical everyday experience as a mostly-“passing” autistic adult woman… people just say mean things all the time, and you can’t avoid it if you need to work and interact in the outside world.

Maybe I’m just stuck on my own rejection trauma, but I wish the host would do an episode about dealing with the fact that people will have really awful negative reactions, and treat you worse than others, no matter what you do to try and prevent it. It’s a hard pill to swallow.

💜 love to my fellow autists, life’s rough out there

Audreyromaine ,

Soothing Support, Solid Solutions

As a late-identified, self-identified neurodivergent, I found Sensory Siblings podcast helps me unwind the years of internalized abelism and neurotypical standards I've been judging myself by. Louisa's voice and thoughts are a comforting guide along the path of unmasking and understanding some of the traps I've laid for myself and fallen into! I especially love the episode on other people's thoughts. This podcast is both meditative and constructively helpful!

Brusspup1 ,

I’m Hopeful

I’ve only listened to the first episode but I’m hopeful about this podcast. I’ve been looking for more in depth guidance on autism as I’ve only just discovered I’m autistic in my 30s and part of that is learning to understand the parts I always labeled as “broken”; this podcast looks to be a helpful guide to finding out who I really am and explore my constant but often hidden desire to be creative.

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