UNLEASHED (at work & home) with Colleen Pelar Colleen Pelar

Everybody has a story that will break your heart. We all have our own traumas and dog trainers are no exception. Working with dogs and their owners is deeply rewarding, but it is also often a difficult and emotionally grueling task that leaves trainers feeling burnt out and emotionally and mentally exhausted. While this is a real problem, there are few resources out there designed to help trainers and behaviorists who are struggling in this regard.Annie Phenix knows firsthand the stress and pressure that leads many dog trainers to leave the field they loved, feeling exhausted and frustrated. She joined me today to talk about her own journey in and out of dog training, and her mission to provide support and advocacy for struggling trainers.

Whether we like it or not, fear is a powerful force in our lives- fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of losing the people and things that are important to us. Even as much of the animal world shifts to a “fear free” mindset when it comes to training and interacting with animals, many of us still struggle to let go of our own fears. Too often, that fear keeps us trapped in uncomfortable and painful situations, or prevents us from doing things we love or aspire to.
 
Mikkel Becker, the lead animal trainer at Fear Free Pets, came on the show today to talk about overcoming the fears that hold us back and keep us from living full and joyful lives. Join us as we discuss giving yourself grace, granting yourself permission to do things, and getting career advice from Diane Sawyer. https://colleenpelar.com/113

What we want to do is very often different from what we should do (or at least, what we think we should do). Obligations and responsibilities need to be met, but the temptation is always there to push them off until later and spend the current moment doing something more pleasurable. Malena DeMartini joined me today to talk about balancing doing what we ought vs. doing what we want and to take me through her roundabout path from corporate America to enthusiastic dog trainer.
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None of us like to acknowledge that things might not turn out fine, yet we all know deep down that that’s always a possibility. How do we deal with the chance that things might not be all right in the end?For Veronica Jarvinen, founder of EMMAvet Veterinary Urgent Care, it’s important to acknowledge plainly that things might not be fine, make sure we’ve done everything we can to ensure the best possible outcome, and then go forward secure in the knowledge that we’ve done our best. She joined me today to talk about using this mindset in her own business to create an intentional workplace where her employees can thrive both personally and professionally.

We hear a lot about the importance of not judging, whether that’s not judging ourselves or not judging others. Most of us probably try to live by that advice, but it’s often harder than it sounds. So often we fall into attitudes of judgment without even meaning to, especially when it comes to ourselves, where our judgments are often the harshest of all. That attitude of judgment can cloud our perspective on things, making it hard for us to see the actual truth of the matter.
Learning to recognize those moments of judgment and peel them away to see the truth underneath can lead to important insights about ourselves and give us clarity about our lives.
Psychologist and dog trainer Amy Binder joined me today to talk about how her work with at-risk kids and at-risk dogs taught the importance of letting go of judgment to look at things honestly. 

We’re used to the idea of work and play being not just separate things, but often polar opposites. Work is serious, play is frivolous. Work is necessary, play is more optional. Work is useful and productive, play is our less useful reward for putting in all that productive work. But while this is definitely the case sometimes, does it really have to be the case all the time?Professional pet sitter Collin Funkhouser came on the show to discuss this very thing. Join us as we discuss what the ideal form of work looks like, and finding joy and value in your job- even if it’s one that people don’t take seriously.