We Couldn’t Wait to Meet You: A Father’s Heartfelt Stillbirth Story

Trigger Warning: This episode discusses infant loss, including miscarriage and stillbirth. Please listen with care.

There's not only heartbreak, but resilience that comes with the loss of a child. Our guest, Scott, shares about the devastating loss of his beautiful son, Benjamin, at 40 weeks and how this has reshaped his life and strengthened his bond with his family.

In today’s episode, Scott and Lee talk about the heartbreaking moment when Scott and his wife, Veronika, discovered Benjamin had only one umbilical artery, sparking fears around the diagnosis. Scott dives into the painful experience of going to the hospital after noticing a lack of movement from Benjamin, only to hear the words no parent wants to hear: “He has no heartbeat.”

Highlights from our conversation with Scott:

• The events leading up to Benjamin’s birth

• Scott’s struggle to process his emotions 

• Arranging Benjamin’s cremation and saying goodbye

• Explaining Benjamin’s passing to his two young children

• The role grief support groups played in helping him process his feelings and find community

Though the pain of Benjamin’s loss remains, Scott has so much gratitude for the growth and resilience he has gained. He now approaches life with a renewed sense of purpose and awareness of what truly matters—all while carrying Benjamin’s memory.

Quotes:

‘There are problems and solutions, and you want to try to figure out how to handle this. And I didn't know what to do in that situation. It is very confusing. It's, it's frightening, it's, it's scary, it's heartbreaking––all at the same time.” – Scott (27:22)

“As men, we tend to bottle things up more and we try to figure out how to handle it ourselves, but it did help to kind of hear some techniques and things to work on.” – Scott (49:05)

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