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In this classic Mailbag Episode Dr Talia and Doug tackle two tough but relatable relationship issues. In the first, Amy gives Jake an ultimatum; either he quits his dangerous air courier job in Alaska after he lost two of his best friends doing the same dangerous job, or she leaves. But this career is his soul filling passion. What to do? And in the second mailbag Jess messed up with her serious long distance boyfriend of 6 months when she started up a “platonic” in-person friendship with her ex lover. She has been incredibly transparent and has done everything to honor her boyfriend’s feelings short of ending the friendship. Dan says he has had enough. What to do? Can these couples be saved? Tune in to find out!
00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
01:20 Recap of Previous Episode and Live Event
10:19 Introduction to Mailbag Episode
11:43 Jake's Dilemma: Convincing Girlfriend About Job Safety
18:12 Navigating the Balance Between Passion and Relationship
23:42 Understanding Different Tolerances for Risk in Relationships
25:55 Addressing Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment in Relationships
26:51 The Importance of Open Communication and Compromise
28:17 Accepting the Inherent Risks in Certain Professions
31:59 The Importance of Transparency and Trust in Relationships
34:19 Learning from Past Mistakes
37:26 Navigating Long-Distance Relationships

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In this LIVE recorded episode, Doug and Dr Talia have a conversation with Kim Harms, DDS about her journey through multiple catastrophic losses in her life; the resilience and grace with which she came out of the darkest grief pit, as well as the incredible wisdom and advice she gives to other survivors of painful losses of loved ones. She lost both her mother and her 19 year old son to suicide, and her husband from what she is certain was a broken heart. This episode will give you such compassion for yourself and empathy for others in similar painful circumstances. We also hope you will be inspired to fight your way back to yourself, as Dr Kim says, and fight your way back to your remaining loved ones.
Website: drkimberlyharms.com

Book #1: Naomi & the Widows Club https://a.co/d/7QZdDuo and the workbook is just coming out!

Book #2: Are You Ready? How to Build a Legacy to Die For also coming out now, more information on her website!

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcome
03:18 The Importance of Finding Joy in the Present Moment
06:40 Dr. Harms' Personal Experience with Suicide and Mental Illness
09:26 The Tragic Loss of Dr. Harms' Son
12:20 Finding Meaning and Beliefs About the Afterlife
17:01 Family History of Suicidal Depression
19:50 The Loss of Dr. Harms' Husband
23:03 Navigating Loss and Making Alternative Plans
25:20 The Power of Revenge and Fighting the Grief Pit
27:17 Understanding the Phases of Grief
30:07 Navigating the Stages of Grief and Healing
32:03 Finding a Safe Place and Conquering Fear and Loneliness
33:02 Updating Identity and Finding Purpose and Joy
35:20 Navigating Relationships and Love After Loss
39:34 Overcoming Obstacles to Healing
45:00 Planning for the End of Life
01:00:00 Conversations about Death and Downsizing
01:01:28 Planning Ahead and Choosing Where to Go
01:03:12 The Challenge of Downsizing and Feeling Clean
01:05:05 Leaving a Positive Legacy
01:08:50 Finding Purpose Within and Living a Joyful Life
01:09:46 Seeking Professional Help and Fighting for Well-being

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In this episode, Dr Talia and Doug talk boundaries with Dr Catherine Cleveland. Boundaries really get a bad rap. We think of them as entitled, cold, rejecting, and whiny. Well, the joke is on us. The fewer boundaries we have with our loved ones, the more those relationships are fraught with irritation, resentment and even bubbling rage. "They should already know they are asking too much", we say to ourselves. "They should intuit that I hate when they drone on about my day." "Can't they see I am overwhelmed and can't take another thing on?" And then we say "go on", "sure, honey", "no problem", and then guess what? We add to our pile of resentment towards someone we care about that ultimately ends up leaking out of us with sarcasm, eye rolls and passive-aggressive snarkiness. What is the antidote? Boundaries! Let's rebrand this bad boy. If we understand our own values and communicate them clearly and lovingly, we eliminate over 50% of our interpersonal frustration. The other 50% of our frustration is most likely that we are not being honest with ourselves about our own needs and preferences. Well, we will help you with that! Meet our guest Dr Catherine Cleveland. She is a PhD-trained licensed mental health counselor who is deeply passionate about assisting individuals in rural and local communities with their personal challenges. She founded Cleveland Emotional Health, LLC, and developed The Cleveland Emotional Health Residency Program for master’s and PhD-level graduates, dedicated to promoting distinguished mental health counseling. She also wrote the Book The Four Essential Pillars of Boundary Setting: A practice-informed guide to Elevate your Empowerment, Authenticity and Self-Worth.
https://a.co/d/03QpghE3


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Hey listeners, this is We're Not Fine with a quick update. We're taking a break this week to celebrate the holiday. We'll be back next week with more great content. Enjoy your holiday, and thanks for understanding!
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WNF Family, we did it! And we couldn’t have done it without you! Our 100th episode marks two years of growth, amazing connections, brilliant guests, so many great topics hi-lighting the interplay between mental health and relationships, new learnings and much wisdom imparted. Join us as we reflect on our 2 years, share BTS drama, bumps and bruises along the way, and honor our beloved team Alex, Geoff, Jon and Digg as we ask them their secrets to a healthy relationship and their greatest insights about relationships. You don’t want to miss this one!
00:00 Introduction and Disclaimer
02:43 The Impact of Mental Health on Relationships
04:09 Reflecting on the Journey: Challenges and Growth
09:07 Building a Supportive Community
23:57 Excitement for Future Episodes and Live Events
36:39 The Power of Honesty, Communication, and Empathy
37:05 Assuming Nothing and Listening
38:01 Being Considerate and Setting Boundaries
40:24 Self-Love and Not Compromising
54:25 Don't Be a Dick and Empathize
57:13 Continual Learning in Relationships
01:00:52 You Can't Beg Someone to Love You
01:06:23 Differentiating Between Healthy and Enmeshed Relationships
01:08:24 Self-Love and Confidence in Pursuing Personal Goals
01:11:34 Gratitude for Team Members and the Opportunity to Create


Alex's Chocolate chip cookie recipe
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230g Cake Flour
27g AP Flour
5g Kosher Salt
8g Corn Starch
6g Baking Soda
1.25 cups (2.5 sticks) Unsalted Butter
285g Brown Sugar
115g White Sugar
2 Eggs
3 Egg Yolks
100g Walnuts
450g chopped chocolate bars (mix of milk chocolate and dark)

Mix wet, mix dry, combine together, add chocolate and walnuts, refrigerate overnight. Preheat oven for 375F. Bake 6oz cookie balls on sheet tray for 23 minutes sprinkling generously with flake salt halfway through.

I've also been experimenting with creating Nutella "wafers" in the freezer to bake sandwiched inside the cookie dough. I press a bit of Nutella between two sheets of Parchment paper, then freeze until solid. Cut cookie dough in half and insert Nutella wafer before baking.

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In this episode, Dr. Talia Jackson and Doug Jensen discuss the five main personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. The characteristics of each trait and how they manifest in individuals are explored. The hosts emphasize that these traits exist on a continuum and that there is no good or bad trait. The importance of understanding and accepting different personality traits in ourselves and others is also discussed. The conversation covers how different personality traits can impact relationships, mentioning specific disorders such as generalized anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder, dysthymic disorder, borderline personality disorder, and obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. The Big Five personality traits are revisited, and the concept of agreeableness is examined, particularly in relation to valuing harmony and cooperation. Positive and negative personality traits are discussed, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance. The episode concludes with 11 practical ways to give yourself a personality makeover.
Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Overview
09:12 Exploring Openness
13:32 Understanding Conscientiousness
23:24 Navigating Introversion and Extroversion
26:39 Understanding Neuroticism
28:15 Exploring Personality Traits and Disorders
29:04 The Big Five: Understanding the Core Traits
29:31 Agreeableness: Harmony vs Authenticity
30:27 Positive and Negative Personality Traits
36:57 11 Ways to Give Yourself a Personality Makeover

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