What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood | Parenting Tips From Funny Moms Margaret Ables and Amy Wilson

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How do the stereotypes we harbor about raising boys harm them in the long term? Ruth Whipmann, author of BOYMOM: REIMAGINING BOYHOOD IN THE AGE OF IMPOSSIBLE MASCULINITY, discusses what most modern parenting advice misses when it comes to raising boys.
Ruth, Margaret, and Amy discuss:

why so much parenting advice for boys has historically sidelined the role of mothers

the ways in which the emotional lives of boys are suppressed

how to be "annoying in service of the project" of changing the conversation in your own family


Here's where you can find Ruth:

https://www.ruthwhippman.com

@ruthwhippman on X and IG

Follow Ruth on Substack: https://substack.com/@ruthwhippman


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Most of us hear “bullying” and picture a sand-kicking, lunch-money-stealing menace. But today’s bullying can take other forms. Research by Dr. Charisse Nixon shows that about 7% of kids report experiencing physical aggression once a week— but that HALF of kids report experiencing relational aggression at least once a month. 
On the other hand, as bullying expert Signe Whitson explains, some things get termed “bullying” that are more correctly described as mean or rude. Knowing the difference as parents will help our children navigate these waters more effectively. 
In this episode we discuss how to help our children understand what bullying is, plus how to know if our kids are being bullied themselves— since it’s the kids who are truly frightened and struggling who are often the most likely not to tell us. 
We also discuss whether, how much, and in what ways parents should intervene— somewhere in the middle ground between “so find new friends!” and beating the bully up yourself. (Spoiler alert: don’t do either of those things.) 

Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in this episode:

Katie Hurley for Washington Post On Parenting: "What does childhood anxiety look like? Probably not what you think."


Katie Hurley for PBS Kids: What to Do If Your Child Is Being Bullied


Sherri Gordon for Very Well Family: 7 Tips for Helping Kids Deal With Being Ostracized


Sumathi Reddy for WSJ: Little Children and Already Acting Mean


Signe Whitson for Huffington Post: Rude Vs. Mean Vs. Bullying: Defining The Differences


Louis Sachar: There's a Boy in the Girls' Bathroom 



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Hooray, summer is finally here! No more French quizzes or spirit days to dress for last minute! So now what? Million-dollar summer camps? Kicking our kids outside from sunup to sundown so they don't drive us crazy?
Here's how to give everyone, including yourself, a sane summer that won't send you into bankruptcy.
Margaret and Amy discuss:

Why summer light affects our mood

Summer camp inflation

Farmer's almanac predictions - here are the 2024 predictions



Here are links to some of the resources mentioned in the episode:

Johns Hopkins School of Public Health: 7 Things To Know About Daylight Savings Time


Michele Marchetti & Mia Taylor for Parents: How To Handle the Rising Costs of Summer Camp


American Camp Association: How To Afford Camp



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During the pandemic, most moms hit a breaking point. All of the increased labor of childcare, at-home teaching, and caregiving seemed to land mostly, or only, on their plates. It was a clarifying moment for many of us that things simply could not continue as they were going—and that perhaps they had been going that way for a long time.
Jessica Calarco is a Professor of Sociology at the University of Wisconsin and the author of the new book HOLDING IT TOGETHER: How Women Became America's Safety Net. In this interview, discusses the forces that place the burden of childcare and domestic labor on women.
Jessica, Amy, and Margaret discuss:

how societal expectations around motherhood have always pointed toward a lack of choices

how "mom guilt" is weaponized to ensure women keep doing more than their share

what Jessica calls "DIY society," and why it's a myth


Here's where you can find Jessica:

https://www.jessicacalarco.com

@JessicaCalarco on X

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We've both traveled with our extended families over and over again, and have loved the memories we've made together. But different bedtimes, sightseeing styles, and mealtime expectations can lead to unexpected conflict.
Laura in our Facebook group wrote in to say:
"Might be a fun episode before summer: large family vacation traditions. I'm wondering if there are favorite games/foods/tips/funny stories on going away with lots of members of your non-immediate family."
As usual, our listeners responded with great tips for maintaining both organization and sanity when vacationing with extended family, and in this episode we discuss them all, including:

Which conversations to have ahead of time—and which conversations never to have at all

Systems for family vacations that don't fall on one person (or one gender) to execute

Limiting your non-negotiables as a nuclear family ahead of time


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This month, we're doing a deep dive series into mom guilt—why it's so pervasive and what we can do about it. You can find the playlist with all of the episodes in the series here.
In this episode we discuss all the reasons we’ve felt like failures as mothers, why we’re never as hard on others as we are on ourselves, and what we have done to mitigate these feelings of failure in our own lives.  
“I feel like I’m failing at parenting fairly often,” our listener Becky wrote when she suggested this topic. If it makes you feel any better, Becky, you’ve got plenty of company. These self-inflicted guilt trips are nearly universal among mothers.
But why? Is it the 24/7 nature of the job? Is it the admittedly high stakes that come from nurturing small humans towards successful adulthoods? Is it our parenting culture, which tells us no matter how much we do, how hard we try, there’s another mother doing it just a little bit better?
We think it’s all of the above. We also think talking to other mothers is the best solution. Thanks for being part of our mothering community.
Here’s links to research and other writing on this topic discussed in this episode:
Regan Long for Motherly: To the Mom Who Feels Like She's Failing: You're Not. Promise.
Heather Marcoux for Motherly: 66% of working parents feel like they're failing—but the system is actually failing them
Doug Parker for Babble: I Feel Like I'm Failing This Parenting Thing Every Damn Day
Denise Rowden for Empowering Parents: “I Feel Like a Failure as a Parent.” How to Turn That Hopeless Feeling Around

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