What To Do When

Kathleen McBride
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For overthinkers, feelers + recovering chill girls. This podcast is part voice note, part pep talk, part “I probably shouldn’t tell this story, but here we are.” We spiral, we cry, we self-reflect — then we figure out what the hell to do next. Messy, hilarious, real AF healing for people who are tired of pretending they’re fine. Created by Kathleen McBride — coach, counsellor + emotionally intelligent chaos human.

  1. JUL 6

    81. The Girls Get Off Episode (and Honestly, So Should You): Vibrators, Shame & the Orgasm Gap

    If you’ve ever felt shame around pleasure, been nervous about trying sex toys, or wondered how the hell to ask for what you actually like in bed — this episode is your new safe space. Kathleen is joined by Viv from Girls Get Off — the powerhouse brand behind some very buzzy bedside drawer staples — for a no-filter conversation on all things pleasure, desire, and ditching the shame. They get into: → The real reason so many women still struggle with receiving pleasure → The orgasm gap (and how to actually close it) → Sex toy 101: a breakdown of the types + how to explore them without the overwhelm → How to talk about sex without spiralling into “Do they think I’m weird now?” → And why connecting to your pleasure isn’t just sexy… it’s healing. This one’s equal parts spicy, empowering and giggle-worthy. And yes — it’s VERY R18. Plug in your headphones, babe. Resources mentioned: → Girls Get Off Website → Girls Get Off Instagram → GGO Facebook Community Group → Yoni Mapping Practitioners → Anal Dilation 101 (yes, we went there) → Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz → Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski ✨ Want to keep healing and reconnecting with your body, mind and self-worth? Join Kathleen’s 1:1 program HEAL — designed to help you unpack the beliefs, patterns, and parts that have kept you stuck in self-abandonment, anxiety, and shame. More on HEAL here → https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching

    1h 6m
  2. 80. The Rejection Spiral: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself to Be Liked

    JUN 29

    80. The Rejection Spiral: How to Stop Abandoning Yourself to Be Liked

    Feel like you’re too much, not enough, or one awkward text away from being exiled from the group chat? Yep. Been there. This episode is for the overthinkers, the approval-seekers, the “they took 3 hours to reply so they probably hate me” crowd.(raising my hand here too). In this vulnerable, no-fluff chat, we dive deep into: Why rejection spirals hit so hard (hint: it’s not just in your head — it’s in your nervous system)The childhood roots of people-pleasing and self-abandonmentWhat’s really happening when you start performing, shrinking, or over-explaining to stay likedHow to move through the fear of rejection without losing yourself in the process You’ll also learn my go-to practice for building rejection tolerance (yes, that’s a thing), plus practical tools to regulate your nervous system, stop spiralling, and stay connected to you — even when someone else pulls away. Because confidence isn’t about being liked by everyone. It’s about trusting yourself enough to stay, even when someone else doesn’t. In this episode, we cover: The biology of rejection and why it feels so unsafeThe parts of you that hijack your brain when you spiralHow to stop outsourcing your worthWhat to do instead of shrinking or shapeshifting to fit inReal talk on boundaries, shame, and self-trust“Rejection reps” — how to build emotional resilience without armouring upThis one’s for you if: You feel rejected way more than you’d like to admitYou lose yourself trying to be likedYou’re exhausted from performing, fixing, or explaining yourselfYou want to feel grounded even when someone else pulls awayYou’re ready to stop ghosting yourself just to avoid being ghosted Mentioned in this episode: → HEAL Coaching Program — Join here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching → Follow Kathleen on Instagram @kathleen.mindsetcoach P.S. Rejection is a normal part of being a human. Abandoning yourself doesn’t have to be.

    34 min
  3. 79. You’re an Overthinker Who Just Wants To Trust Themselves

    JUN 22

    79. You’re an Overthinker Who Just Wants To Trust Themselves

    If you’ve ever asked everyone else for advice… and still felt more confused, this episode is for you. This one’s for the deep feelers, the spirallers, the ones who’ve built a voting system just to make a decision — only to feel further away from their own gut. Inside this episode: Why self-trust is so hard (especially if you’re an overthinker) How childhood and past relationships shape your decision-making patterns What your perfectionist/avoider/inner critic is really trying to protect What a Sense Reset is — and how to use it to interrupt spirals What it actually looks like to rebuild self-trust (without needing to be 100% sure) You’ll leave this episode feeling less alone in the noise — and more equipped to come home to your own voice. Try this next: ✨ Download the free Protective Parts Mapping Practice I mentioned in the episode — to meet your inner protectors and start untangling your overthinking loop. →https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Km7mYM5RltBfpQhGCnm9IVTbKxCX6v5U/view?usp=drive_link Want to go deeper? → DM me the word “HEAL” on Instagram if you’re ready to explore a space for emotional safety, self-trust, and support through the messy middle or learn more about HEAL and 1:1 coaching here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching

    29 min

  4. MAY 24

    78. The 5 Stages of Emotional Growth (And Why You’re Not “Behind” in Your Healing)

    Ever felt like you're emotionally self-aware but still stuck? You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, analysed your triggers — but nothing’s really changing? This episode is for you. Inside today’s solo, I’m walking you through the 5 stages of emotional growth and healing — the exact process I’ve witnessed every single client move through inside my 1:1 coaching program, HEAL. We explore what it really means to: Move from emotional avoidance to emotional embodiment Feel your feelings in the body — not just talk about them Build emotional capacity Use emotions like anxiety or anger as messengers (instead of things to fix) Let emotional clarity lead to practical, real-life change I’m also walking you through real-life examples with anxiety and anger so you can see how this process unfolds in everyday moments — and how you can begin applying it to your own healing journey. This episode will help you locate where you are — and give you language for what’s next. Resources & Links Mentioned: 🎧 Free Resource: The Emotional Processing Masterclass This free masterclass walks you through a simple, body-based process to feel your feelings without spiralling — and begin moving from reaction to clarity. Ready to stop avoiding your feelings — and start healing for real? This is the exact path we walk inside HEAL, my 1:1 coaching program that blends deep emotional healing with practical change. Inside HEAL, we move through: ✔️ Building a relationship with your emotions ✔️ Unpacking protective parts and past patterning ✔️ Using your emotional world to guide how you live, relate, work and lead You’ll be supported through somatic practices, real-time emotional tools, and grounded integration — no more over-intellectualising, no more doing it alone. ✨ DM me HEAL on Instagram to chat about whether it’s the right next step for you ✨ Learn more about the program here: kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching ✨ Book your free 30-min intro call here: tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect Come say hi on Instagram: @kathleenmindsetcoach If this episode spoke to you, please share it, leave a review, or send it to a friend who’s ready to meet themselves more honestly. You’re not behind. You’re becoming. Let’s walk this path — together.

    25 min

  5. MAY 18

    77. You're Doing Everything Right But Still Don’t Feel Like Enough

    You’re ticking the boxes.Doing everything “right.”Showing up, trying, pushing forward. So why does it still feel like you’re falling behind?Or worse—like you’re quietly failing at life? This episode is for the person who looks like they’ve got it all together… but inside, they’re exhausted by the pressure to prove their worth. We’re talking high-functioning anxiety, invisible timelines, and the myth that achieving more will finally make you feel okay. Inside this episode: The deeper reason you still don’t feel like enough (even when you’re doing it all) Why your brain ties self-worth to productivity—and where that started A personal story I’ve never shared before about achievement, identity and fear of failure How to start getting off the hamster wheel and relate to yourself differently A gentle reminder that you’re probably doing better than you think If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling in “I should be further along by now,” this one’s going to meet you right where you are. ✨ Mentioned in this episode: Free 5-Day Inner Child Healing Challenge – Start here if you're new to this work: https://kathleenmindsetcoach.myflodesk.com/c99440de-5165-4166-b6b3-012465456e8b HEAL – 1:1 Coaching Support – Explore the offer: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching Book a Free Connection Call – Let’s see if it’s a fit: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect Let’s connect:Instagram: @kathleen.mindsetcoachWebsite: www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com

    28 min

  6. MAY 11

    76. Boundary Setting for More Love, Not Less

    In this episode, we’re flipping the script on boundaries. If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries makes you mean, cold, or too much — or if you’ve used boundaries as a way to keep people out rather than let the right people in — this one’s for you. I’m sharing how I used to use boundaries as a defence mechanism — a way to protect myself from discomfort and avoid hard conversations. And how I’ve come to realise that real, healthy boundaries aren’t about pushing people away... they’re about opening your heart with clarity, not chaos. We dive into: What open-hearted boundaries actually are (and what they’re NOT)Why boundaries aren’t about controlling others — they’re about trusting yourselfHow to set boundaries without guilt, shame, or shutting downThe connection between people-pleasing and boundary avoidanceTangible tips to communicate your needs with love, not fear Whether you’re a recovering people-pleaser, someone afraid to rock the boat, or just ready to stop abandoning yourself — this episode will help you set boundaries that create more connection, not less. 💛 Want support with this work? I offer 1:1 coaching for people ready to stop people-pleasing, start honouring their truth, and build real confidence. 👉 Book a free 30-minute connection session here: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect 🎁 Free Resource Mentioned: Want access to my emotional processing masterclass — the one that’s helped so many people get unstuck and learn to feel again? → DM me EMOTIONS on Instagram + your best email address or email me at kathleenmindsetcoach@gmail.com and I’ll send it your way. 💭 Journal Prompt: What’s one moment recently where you abandoned your needs to keep the peace? What would a loving boundary have looked like instead? ✨ If this episode resonated, share it with a friend or leave a quick review — it helps this little podcast reach more people who need it 💛

    41 min

  7. APR 19

    75. Getting High on Your Own Supply: The Science of Self-Love

    In a world that teaches us to chase love, validation, and approval from everyone but ourselves—what happens when we flip the script? In this episode, we're talking all things self-love—the kind that's rooted in science, self-compassion, and real inner safety. We unpack the lies we've been fed about what it means to love yourself (spoiler: it's not cringe, it's revolutionary), how society polices confidence, and why self-love is often misunderstood as bubble baths and skincare. You'll walk away with a powerful new lens on: Why seeking external validation is the norm—but not the vibe The difference between self-care and true self-love How to rewire your relationship with your inner critic The science behind self-compassion and its wild impact on your brain and body Tangible tools to shift from self-critical to self-kind And if no one's told you lately: You're allowed to love the hell out of yourself. Loudly. Proudly. Unapologetically. 🔗 Resources & Mentions Research by Dr. Kristin Neff on Self-Compassion Self-Compassion free downloadable guided practice: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GBLeEMsZinMQ790abnb_ywjmrPVWalpD/view?usp=sharing Want to work with me 1:1 - book a free connection call to chat 1:1 and see if we’re a powerful fit for this next season of life:https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect

    42 min

  8. APR 13

    74. You're in the Chaos of Change

    Ever expected change to feel exciting and empowering—only to find yourself deep in anxiety, overthinking, and overwhelm the minute you take a step forward? In this episode, we’re getting real about what change actually feels like. Not the Instagram version. The real, messy, chaotic one that brings up old wounds, fear, resistance, and allll the spiraling thoughts. Kathleen shares personal stories from her recent leap into a new job and starting her counselling studies, and how—even though these were things she wanted—she was smacked in the face with emotional chaos she didn’t expect. We unpack why that happens, how to support yourself through it, and why feeling lost or overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’ve made the wrong decision. You’ll learn: Why our brains hate change (and how to stop letting that hold you back) How to stop reading resistance as a “sign” to quit What it really means to build a new way of being (and why it’s so damn hard) Kathleen’s top 3 tips for grounding yourself in the chaos This one’s for you if:→ You're trying to make changes in your life but it feels harder than it "should"→ You're beating yourself up for not having it all figured out→ You want permission to embrace the mess, feel your fear, and go for it anyway

    42 min
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For overthinkers, feelers + recovering chill girls. This podcast is part voice note, part pep talk, part “I probably shouldn’t tell this story, but here we are.” We spiral, we cry, we self-reflect — then we figure out what the hell to do next. Messy, hilarious, real AF healing for people who are tired of pretending they’re fine. Created by Kathleen McBride — coach, counsellor + emotionally intelligent chaos human.

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  • Creator
    Kathleen McBride
  • Years Active
    2022 - 2025
  • Episodes
    81
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Kathleen McBride
  • Show Website
    What To Do When