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In this episode we look at the ways we might be betraying ourselves by not exploring certain parts of our personality or by not giving ourselves the space to experiment and try on new ways of being.

We talk about the very real and human need to belong and how sometimes in order to belong to a community, we feel like we need to set aside or deny a part of ourselves. When are we choosing to make a compromise for the sake of something greater and when are we betraying ourselves? When are we putting restrictive labels on ourselves that stop us from growing and changing?

We discuss the opposite of self-betrayal, which is self-leadership and the courage to trust yourself and know that you are the leader of your own life and you get to decide how you want to live.

This episode wraps up our 3-part series on exploring your identity. We hope you’ve enjoyed it. We can’t wait to bring you more episodes on all things self-love and self-compassion.


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In this week’s episode we dive deep into Lindsay’s personal journey over the past year and the biggest shift she’s experienced in her identity. This is such a vulnerable episode and we’re so grateful to the courage Lindsay showed in sharing her story.

We explore the way that Lindsay’s relationship to faith has completely changed and how she’s moved away from some of the core beliefs she’s held throughout her life. We talk about how it can feel scary and uncomfortable to question your beliefs and core parts of your identity and the way that building a deep sense of self-trust, self-acceptance and self-love can help you through those moments.

We discuss how there are aspects of ourselves that we sometimes hide or deny in order to belong to a group and how that can be problematic. We often compromise parts of ourselves, our values or our beliefs because we fear the rejection of others. But if we can find the courage to love ourselves and belong to ourselves, we can feel ok and safe in the face of rejection and there is true liberation in that.

As much as we often want things to be black and white or right and wrong, because we crave certainty and answers, the reality is that life is truly complex and we need to become comfortable with living in the grey and dancing in the questions.

Resources Mentioned:

Reverend Angel Kyodo Williams - https://angelkyodowilliams.com/

Dare To Lead Podcast - Brené with Adam Grant on the Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know

The Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions


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In part 1 of this short series of episodes about identity we reflect on a few different questions to start exploring how you may have changed since the pandemic began.

Take a moment and have a think about these questions...

Do you feel you’ve changed over the past 15 months?

Have you noticed certain expectations have been lowered during this time?

If so, how has the lowering of these expectations allowed you to shift your identity?

What aspects of your identity have you lost or haven’t been able to express lately?

What has become more important to you? Have you honed in on your values?

What part of your identity have you dropped? Or what do you want to let go of?

We get personal in this episode (don’t we always?) and explore our own answers to these questions. Lindsay and Koes talk about the positive experience of living more intentionally during the pandemic and noticing the relationships that have become really important to them. Sam opens up about her own struggles with depression during this time and how self-compassion is really helping her through it.

We discuss how mental health struggles are a very appropriate response to an incredibly difficult time and how it really is ok not to be ok. And of course, if you’re experiencing mental health challenges then we really encourage you to not only double down on the tools of self-compassion that we’re always preaching about, but also reach out for professional support. You’re not alone in this.

Resources Mentioned:

The imperfects podcast - The Academy of Imperfection with Ben Crowe


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We’ve decided to change things up a little on our podcast over the next few weeks. Today’s episode is an introduction to themes we’re going to explore over the coming episodes. Questions of identity.

As anyone who’s been through a transition knows, big changes often lead to changes in our identity and make us reflect on who we are and who we want to be. For the first time in most of our lifetimes, the whole world has been through a transition together and you may be wondering - what now? Who have you become? Who do you want to be? What do you want to let go of? What have you learned about yourself that you want to incorporate into a post-pandemic life? What’s really important to you?

All of these questions (and more) will be explored in the next few episodes. We can’t wait to share these episodes and navigate these changes together.

And if you have questions or stories about transition, change and identity, then please share them with us by sending us a DM @youareinfinitelyloved. We’d love to hear from you and incorporate your ideas into our episodes.


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This week’s episode is all about procrastination. That annoying habit so many of us are familiar with where we put things off that we know we have to do and then beat ourselves up for procrastinating.

We talk about the work of Adam Grant and a new way of looking at procrastination that focuses on the emotional side of things. Because when you really think about it, you’re not avoiding particular tasks for no reason, you’re avoiding the negative emotion that you associate with completing that task. If you can uncover what that particular emotion is, then you can find ways to work with it and move forwards.

We discuss the shame associated with procrastination because of the huge value that society places on productivity and why that can be problematic.

We also talk about the difference between precrastinators and procrastinators and the benefits and downfalls of both. You read that right, there are actually some benefits to procrastination!

Finally, we talk about why this has become even more of an issue during the pandemic and why it’s perfectly ok if you find yourself procrastinating more than usual at the moment. We get it!

Resources Mentioned:

Procrastinate Much? Manage Your Emotions, Not Your Time - Adam Grant

Why I Taught Myself To Procrastinate - Adam Grant

Better Than Before - Gretchen Rubin


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Can you believe it’s been a year of this? A year has passed since covid came along and shook up everything about our lives. In today’s episode we reflect on how we’re feeling a year later and the importance of re-setting our expectations during this time.

We talk about the resilience of humans, the very real struggles that people are facing, how to recognise if you’re experiencing depression or anxiety and the importance of asking for help.

And of course, it wouldn’t be our podcast if we didn’t also talk about how you can take care of yourself and be self-compassionate at a time like this - in fact, at any time!

We’d love you to reflect after you listen...How are you feeling 12 months on?

Resources Mentioned:

Lost Connections by Johann Hari 


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