21 episodes

Curveball is a podcast about life's unexpected moments with a black comedy tell-it-like-it-is approach. These late-night chats, hosted by Beth Armstrong, share the nitty-gritty truth from three women as they speak anonymously and frankly of their particular club's lows, surprises misconceptions, and silver linings. No experts, just everyday people with extraordinary stories. How people survive and grow from challenging experiences is the take-away from these intimate, privileged discussions that usually take place behind closed doors.

Curveball – The Club you didn't want to be part of Beth Armstrong

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.8 • 97 Ratings

Curveball is a podcast about life's unexpected moments with a black comedy tell-it-like-it-is approach. These late-night chats, hosted by Beth Armstrong, share the nitty-gritty truth from three women as they speak anonymously and frankly of their particular club's lows, surprises misconceptions, and silver linings. No experts, just everyday people with extraordinary stories. How people survive and grow from challenging experiences is the take-away from these intimate, privileged discussions that usually take place behind closed doors.

    Curveball - Single Mothers By Choice

    Curveball - Single Mothers By Choice

    As children, we read stories about romance and living happily ever after. We learn there’s a script to follow: find our passion, our job, meet somebody and create a family. What happens when your life doesn’t follow that script, and you are single and want to have children? This is the Single Mothers by Choice club. 

    Beth interviews three bold, funny and wise women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of how and why they decided to raise children independently.  

    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    Topics include: 
    IVFTraumaMaternal instinctBaby lossmiscarriageyounger mumsgeriatric mumspregnancy optionssurrogacyIUIinternational sperm donorslocal sperm donorsanonymous donorsknown donorsadoptionembryo donationteenage mumsFather’s daycontrol seeking to co-parent websitesAge-appropriate explanations for childrenmedical system catering for couplesempowermentintroducing donors to baby/childrenbullying role modelsbirthing classesGrief lonelinesssingle mother by necessity single mother by choice judgement blended families accidental pregnancyDating personal spacelack of sleepnumber of children spare embryossiblingssafetyWho will care for the children if something happens to their sole parentFear of dying in childbirth Birth stories IVF counselling misconceptions about surrogacy, donors and IVFmothering myths, fantasies and realitiesattitudes to one-parent or duo-parent familiesgender-specific skills as an outdated conceptWhether to seek out donor siblings - “diblings.”Children’s characteristics similar or different to birth motherSelecting the donor and seeking specific characteristics Advice to others considering becoming a SMC (single mother by choice)The realities of conceiving at different agesDating while undertaking IVFIntrusive questions, judgements, romanticisationCurveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

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    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.  

    • 53 min
    Later Life Lesbians - Part 1

    Later Life Lesbians - Part 1

    You’re married or partnered, maybe have children, a career and your identity is heterosexual, but then you’re single again and unexpectedly you fall in love with a woman. How does that work? Tonight’s club is the Later-Life lesbian club.

    Beth interviews three bold, funny and wise women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of coming out later in life and how it has affected their lives. 

    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    Topics include: 
    coming out blended families gay marriage identity religion online dating love heteronormative privilegesingle mother identifying words and pronouns  awakeningsexhomosexuality lesbian films and televisionintimacy one night standssymbolsAnglo Saxon discrimination  references to violence towards the gay community self-acceptance IVFgay community Curveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

    Follow our social media to keep up to date: 
    instagram.com/curveball_media/
    facebook.com/curveballpodcast

    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.  

    • 46 min
    Later Life Lesbians - Part 2

    Later Life Lesbians - Part 2

    You’re married or partnered, maybe have children, a career and your identity is heterosexual, but then you’re single again and unexpectedly you fall in love with a woman. How does that work? Tonight’s club is the Later-Life lesbian club.

    Beth interviews three bold, funny and wise women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of coming out later in life and how it has affected their lives. 

    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.

    Topics include: 
     marriage equality coming outlesbian clubslesbian cultureThe pink sofa online dating u-haulingfamily reactions to coming out as gay later in lifediscrimination generational changechildren of gay parents coming out as straight or otherwiseMardi Grasidentity within gay community/pansexual lesbian films and television pronouns/categories  step-family dynamics/blended familiesgold star lesbians bi-phobia patriarchy impact on marriage/domestics comparative to same-sex book - the tragedy of heterosexuality pressures of representing a community longevity as a dubious marker of success sexual attraction sharing breastfeedingthe complexity of breadwinner/mother dynamicswho gets pregnant, and bonding with both motherspost natal depression IVFlove Finding community/your tribe and allies religion toaster oven conceptsexual similarities/differences heterosexual men learning from lesbians to appreciate women and heterosexual women learning to ask/express sexual desiresmale/female gaze 
    Curveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

    Follow our social media to keep up to date: 
    instagram.com/curveball_media/
    facebook.com/curveballpodcast

    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.  

    • 50 min
    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 2

    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 2

    As children, we grow and learn the ways of the world and what is right and wrong. Our parents and carers, who we rely on, are our guides. But what happens when those adults or any person asks you to do something, or someone does something to you, touches you in a way that doesn't feel right or makes you feel strange? Maybe you're told it's special or a secret, or that it's your fault. When someone who professes to love you and should protect you, hurts you, it's confusing and damaging at any age, especially for vulnerable children. How do you make sense of it, escape it and cope? Tonight's episode is the Child Abuse Club.
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of abuse when they were children and how it has affected their lives. 
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
    Topics include: 
     why the perpetrator sexually abuses a child? love/coercion/grooming/using the idea of love as manipulation pornographic imagesfamilial assault abuse begets abuse as an excuse if most victims of sexual assault are women, why isn't there a pandemic of female abusers? forgiveness stranger assault psychologist entitlement/sickness of perpetratorsinflicting devastation on children  immediate tangible effects of assault not evident or even understood by the victim allows perpetrators to excuse behaviour invisible harm, but mental devastation strategies of violence or emotional manipulation to comply sexual abuse survivor triggersaddressing sexual assault as an adult head onmistrust and defensiveness, violent reactions scepticism from others because of nondisclosure as a child scepticism because you didn't go to the police and report the offences facing/confronting the perpetrator many years later visualising little vulnerable self and protecting them name change/moving away from the perpetrator hatred strength, using your voice crossing the road to avoid men Hannah Gadsby show, “Nanette”validating having experience confirmed  family dysfunction  abuse has a ripple effect through families parenting style anti-secrecy body autonomy Curveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

    Follow our social media to keep up to date: 
    instagram.com/curveball_media/
    facebook.com/curveballpodcast

    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.  

    • 42 min
    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 1

    Curveball - Child Abuse Part 1

    As children, we grow and learn the ways of the world and what is right and wrong. Our parents and carers, who we rely on, are our guides. But what happens when those adults or any person asks you to do something, or someone does something to you, touches you in a way that doesn't feel right or makes you feel strange? Maybe you're told it's special or a secret, or that it's your fault. When someone who professes to love you and should protect you, hurts you, it's confusing and damaging at any age, especially for vulnerable children. How do you make sense of it, escape it and cope? Tonight's episode is the Child Abuse Club.
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who speak together anonymously to share their stories of abuse when they were children and how it has affected their lives. 
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14.
    Topics include: 
    sexual assaultgrooming pornographic imagesemotional abuse sexual responses out of body experiences coercionviolencesecrecy disclosure  vulnerable target intergenerational traumamultiple perpetrators recriminations social difficulties brain development learning difficulties  taboo, shameful, hidden healing non-abusive parental guiltsigns of abuse sleeping difficultieseating disordersrunningmasking true emotions - clown facetrust difficultiescelibacy turning to religion sexually promiscuous distorted true nature suicide family reputation accusations of victim being somehow partly responsibledistorted ideas of love, manipulationgrooming - victim feeling sexual pleasure is an indicator of guilt, confusion  anger whistleblower syndrome, where the victim is seen as the troublemakerthreats of violencepower of the voice, of speaking out self-punishment drugs as a coping mechanism Curveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

    Follow our social media to keep up to date: 
    instagram.com/curveball_media/
    facebook.com/curveballpodcast

    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.  

    • 45 min
    Domestic Violence - Intimate Partner

    Domestic Violence - Intimate Partner

    We meet someone, fall in love, and develop a relationship, but then something happens, and your partner hurts, manipulates or frightens you. Perhaps you address it, but it's denied, or it's somehow your fault, or they apologise and promise it won't happen again. And we all make mistakes, so you trust this person who has hitherto loved you to redeem themselves. But what happens when this becomes a pattern, and you slowly realise you are walking on eggshells and embroiled in a volatile or destructive relationship?
    Some topics included in this discussion may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. If you need support, please contact Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636 or Lifeline on 13 11 14. 
    Beth interviews three brave, astute and articulate women who anonymously speak together to share their domestic violence stories with an intimate partner, how they escaped, and how it has affected their lives.  
    Topics include: 
     impact of domestic violenceemotional, physical and sexual abusestereotypes family law courtcross-cultural and classovert and covert abusealcoholismonline connectionscharming, manipulative and deceitful frog in boiling water analogyabusive childhoodemotional dependencecontrol - creating dependencejealousy preference for a boy baby obsessed with perfection - “mini-me” childperpetrator playing the victim - accusations of affairs and deceitrelationship models from childhoodcompassion - women brought up to fix things emotional investment for love, wanting the dreamrespecting their vulnerability, their hurt, wronged by past partners, comparisonsshared bank accounts, controlled by the perpetratorfriends who call out abusive behaviour as enemies, perpetrator criticising themisolationguardian angel friendsmanaging safety for childrenthe victim minimises the impact of a person intervening,  as they'll suffer when the abuser takes his anger out on them. monitoringcycle of violenceblinded by social-economic factorspsychological abuse and coercive controlphysical intimidationperpetrators in the police forceimage-based abuse - fake profile - publishing intimate photos onlineturning point leaving means abuse will get worse and putting children in dangernavigating escapeCurveball Media is an independent company working in collaboration with Unison Sound, Sydney, Australia. We give voice to everyday people who have extraordinary stories, which are considered taboo. The best way to support Curveball Media is to click ‘Subscribe’ on Apple Podcasts,’ Follow’ on your Spotify app, or subscribe for updates at curveballmedia.com.au, where you can also leave feedback, share your own story and suggest topics; we’d love to hear from you. Please leave a review in the app where you listen to the podcast, as it helps bring new listeners and share with your friends. 

    Follow our social media to keep up to date: 
    instagram.com/curveball_media/
    facebook.com/curveballpodcast

    Beth Armstrong hosted and co-produced this episode, produced by Luke Mynott at Unison Sound, edited by Tom Herdman, sound engineered by Cihan Siral and music by Biddy Connor.         

    • 53 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
97 Ratings

97 Ratings

AussieKyz ,

Part of the club

It’s wonderful to hear people tell stories about the unexpected situations that happen in live. Cheating husbands, failed IVF, divorce… I’ve been there, all in the same year. It hurts, but life can improve beyond imagination just as quickly. It is comforting to know I’m not alone in the painful experiences I’ve been through. Thanks team!

Amiel M. ,

Stepparenting

I am so grateful for this podcast! This episode hit home on so many levels for both me and my wife. We are a blended family, we both have two kids each from previous bad decisions. Real people talking about things we thought were unique to us is a massive relief. So much good advice as well.

Aislinn Marc. ,

Stillbirth

I love this episode. We lost our baby girl at 39&5 and we had a lot of support. Throughout the hardest part of my life thus far we were so loved and I’d love to share our story somehow.
Similar to these women who have shared here with you.
Sharing is so so healing. I love hearing other stories and journeys.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!

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