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A Blessing in Divorce is a podcast born out of Elisabeth's personal divorce experience as well as the years she has spent guiding women through this difficult time. Listen and subscribe for weekly uplifting, relevant and helpful content that will help you heal and rise while you navigate your divorce and create a new life for yourself. This is a safe space where all are welcome.

A Blessing in Divorce Elisabeth Joy

    • Society & Culture
    • 5.0 • 12 Ratings

A Blessing in Divorce is a podcast born out of Elisabeth's personal divorce experience as well as the years she has spent guiding women through this difficult time. Listen and subscribe for weekly uplifting, relevant and helpful content that will help you heal and rise while you navigate your divorce and create a new life for yourself. This is a safe space where all are welcome.

    76: How and why to stop the blame game we all play when going through divorce

    76: How and why to stop the blame game we all play when going through divorce

    Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, discomfort, troubles or anything going badly in our lives. Extremely prevalent during divorce.

    Everyone wants to be the "good one", the "innocent one" and for no one to perceive us as having caused the divorce or the unhappiness within ourselves or in the other person.

    All very ego driven. And very normal and understandable because when we blame we feel less vulnerable, less like failures and we receive sympathy, support and validation.

    But there are costs to the blame game and not just for the one you are blaming.

    One of the biggest ones: It holds you in the past and in the pain.

    So join me for this important conversation to help you heal and move forward now that your marriage or relationship is over.

    Same strategies apply to issue with people in your family, at work etc.

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    ✴️ BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal

    ✴️ I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching

    ✴️ ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat

    ✴️ Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024

    ✴️ Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon

    ✴️ Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist

    ✴️ Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/

    ✴️ You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce. And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444

    • 39 min
    75: Understand and overcome the fear you feel as you go through divorce and other life challenges

    75: Understand and overcome the fear you feel as you go through divorce and other life challenges

    So many things make us feel fear. And especially during big life challenges like divorce, new jobs, big moves etc. We feel fear of the unknown, fear of not being good enough, fear of not having enough, fear of judgment, fear of rejection, fear of being seen, fear of failure, fear of imperfection, fear of abandonment, fear of quitting, fear of death, fear of change, fear of vulnerability, fear of being alone, fear of missing out.

    As a Spiritual and Intuitive Guide and life coach, I’ve worked with many different clients who have a wide range of fears that influence how they experience life. In my own journey fear of judgement and fear of abandonment have been the major fears that impact me and how I show up. 

    Fear is an emotional state of mind that triggers a deep seeded belief that has been programmed around how you view yourself and life as a whole.  When someone has a fear it’s not as easy as changing your mind about the way you view the situation, because subconsciously you are carrying a belief that says your fear is 100% based in fact. Your body has been programmed to believe something that may in fact not be true.

    What happens if we don’t do the work to overcome fear?


    It turns to anger - anger feels more powerful and is less vulnerable
    Anger causes poor judgement, bad choices and can cause more harm to an already volatile situation.

    How do we overcome fear?


    Get used to doing things that scare you - in other words, practice being courageous
    Let go of control - when try to control outcomes, situations to alleviate fears, but if we don’t succeed it only feeds our fears and trying to control something that is not in our hands is a losing battle. It’s like I have said before - you can’t control what someone else chooses to do - so let it go. 
    The 5 questions
    And many more ideas mentioned in the episode

    Remind yourself that fear holds many lessons. So grab your Joy Journal and start writing with this prompt: Thank you fear for stopping by. As you leave me now I want to thank you for teaching me the following:

    I would love to hear what you learned about yourself and your fear. Please share under my post about this podcast or share it and tag me so I can cheer you on. 🦋💖🌸

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    BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
    I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
    ONLY 3 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat 
    Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 


    Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon


    Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
    Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
    You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
    And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 

    • 33 min
    74: Finding inner peace and calm during the storm of divorce

    74: Finding inner peace and calm during the storm of divorce

    This is an episode that came to me on morning and I never had to write down any notes. 

    I am a strong believe in our ability to choose our life, our perspective and how we want to feel every day. 

    Some days we achieve that feeling easier than others and some day it's out of reach all day. But if we don't even try to find the calm, the peace and the love in our days then for certain most days will not be easy.

    You deserve peace in your life and you can create that for yourself and in doing so you are helping create that for your family and those you love. 

    I wish you all the peace and love and happiness in the world. And I am here to help you get more in touch with that through this podcast and the work that I do. I would love to work with you to achieve this. Send me a message on social media, grab one of the coaching packages linked below or email me and let's start doing this work together. Or you could join one of my retreats. 🥰

    You deserve this.

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    BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
    I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
    ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat 
    Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 


    Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon


    Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
    Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
    You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
    And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 

     

    • 32 min
    73: Making the big decisions about your marriage, your family and your healing with Cindy Stibbard

    73: Making the big decisions about your marriage, your family and your healing with Cindy Stibbard

    Deciding to leave your marriage can feel like an impossible and overwhelming decision.

    Deciding to stay in an unhappy marriage also feels so so hard.

    Figuring out the way forward and what is right for you and your family - well that's what we talk about today with Cindy Stibbard who has an impressive resume and some stories to tell.

    Remember it is not a failure to end your marriage, the failure lies in doing nothing. And it is not weakness to need help - in fact it takes so much courage to ask for exactly that.

    I am waiting for you call so we can get started working towards making those decision in a way that feels true to you and aligns with your integrity.

    I know you are so brave and strong even when you feel like the exact opposite. If nothing else, know that I believe in you. And if you can believe in my belief of you then you are half way there.

     

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    BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
    I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
    ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat 
    Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 


    Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon


    Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
    Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
    You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
    And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 

     

    Cindy Stibbard, a compassionate entrepreneur and devoted single mother of two teenagers, is the visionary force behind Divorce ReDefined. Her own journey through a high-conflict divorce, followed by the sudden loss of her post-divorce partner, sparked a profound transformation in her life. Her personal experiences have not only shaped Cindy's outlook but also fuelled her dedication to inspiring others to embrace their own transformative journeys after such momentous and sometimes unexpected life transitions.

    With a unique perspective and unwavering empathy, Cindy intervenes at the contemplation stage, empowering individuals to make informed decisions with clarity and confidence about their relationship. Through Divorce ReDefined, she provides unwavering support, guiding clients toward a path that aligns with their well-being and aspirations.

      With Divorce ReDefined, Cindy strives to eradicate the stigma surrounding divorce and foster a culture of understanding, empathy, and personal growth. Through her coaching, she inspires hundreds of individuals every year to redefine their divorce experience and embark on their transformational journey by showing them that it is possible to rewrite their life narratives.

    Cindy Stibbard, BA, BEd, CDC®, CDS® CHCC™, ABA

    CEO of Divorce ReDefined CDC® Certified Divorce & Transition Coach CDS® Certified Divorce SpecialistCHCC™ Chartered Career Coach  Member of the American Bar Association (ABA)  Member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals (NADP) www.divorceredefined.ca info@divorceredefined.ca cindystibbardcoaching@gmail.com   IG: @divorceredefined Clubhouse: @redefinedivorce Linke

    • 1 hr
    72: How to have a good Valentine's Day while divorcing or going through a breakup

    72: How to have a good Valentine's Day while divorcing or going through a breakup

    Valentine’s Day post separation and divorce can be a heavy day emotionally.

    First, let’s remember that it’s just another day until you say it’s otherwise. This year, Wednesday makes it feel a little easier because it’s not a big weekend thing.

    What are your expectations, or what were they when you were married or in a relationship?

    Honestly it is mostly, if not entirely, women who have a problem with this day. Huge expectations if in a relationship and feeling lonely and unloved if you aren’t. Noticing all the others receiving flowers and you’re not for example. 

    Do you notice the other women who are in relationships and don’t? Do you notice the women who receive flowers but don’t seem happy about it? Do you know anything about what is going on in their relationship because of those flowers or that dinner out?

    Just because someone is doing all the right things for their partner that day doesn’t mean anything.

    Let’s make this the year we stop. And if you are not able to entirely ignore the day which is hard I get it, then let’s at least plan to have a fabulous day/evening.

    So here are some ideas which by the way can be incorporated any day of the year that you are feeling a bit left out or unloved or lonely like on a birthday, or anniversary or any day.

    Plan to do something nice for yourself and be your own lover. 

    If you say you are lonely then you are. If you make plans to love yourself that day instead then that’s who you are.

    Some ideas for a single's Valentine's Day:


    If flowers are important to you then go and buy yourself some flowers. Or perhaps buy some seeds that you can plant for your spring/summer garden outside or on your balcony.
    Call your BFFs No one can make you feel better the way a very best friend can. Ask her for a little time on this day. She will remind you how loved you are.
    Make plans with other single friends
    Make plans for yourself like to go to a yoga class, the gym or maybe a Zumba class
    Plan a movie night with a horror flick if you like those or an action move. Avoid all romance movies obviously. Or maybe a really excellent documentary is your thing and you cna spend the evening watching the wonders of the world or the cycle of life of the Animal kingdom.
    You could go all out and plan a spa day/weekend either alone or with a friend
    Go on a date with your kids - I have had some of the best VDs doing this. And they will love it.
    Maybe doing something symbolic isn’t your thing - instead cozy up with a good book or even your journal like the Joy Journal. Maybe this day will be the perfect day to complete the vision pages in the journal or the Dreams and intention pages.
    Stay off social media all together. And that starts in the morning or even the night before. And the day after. Whatever you need to do to avoid all the braggy VD photos and declarations of love.
    Start making a list today of things you can do or choosing your favourite ideas off this list so you are well prepared and plans are in place. If you sense that this is going to be a difficult day then don’t leave it to chance. Choose what you want to do, make plans to that happens. You are not alone. So find someone to spend the day with if that’s what you want.

    There you have it. Please let me know what you chose to do and share a picture on Instagram or in the Facebook group and tag me. Maybe next year the list of ideas for things you can do will be twice as long.

    I love you big time.

    Elisabeth 💖

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    BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
    I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
    ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica,

    • 31 min
    71: Understanding Karma - the good, the bad and the transformational healing available

    71: Understanding Karma - the good, the bad and the transformational healing available

    Karma can tend to get a bad wrap. It's often misunderstood and just as often misused and especially during divorce it seems.

    Join me for a fun and illuminating conversation about all things Karma. Let's clear it up once and for all - literally.

    LINKS MENTIONED AND MORE


    BUY THE BRAND NEW JOY JOURNAL: https://www.theseparationclub.com/the-joy-journal
    I would love to work with you towards your healing, self-discovery and in creating your new life. Working with a coach is a great way to discover your purpose, your path forward while gaining clarity on your beliefs and core values. I have openings in my calendar for some new clients. https://www.theseparationclub.com/coaching
    ONLY 4 SPOTS LEFT. Join our upcoming retreat in Costa Rica, March 2-9th, 2024 https://www.theseparationclub.com/costa-rica-retreat 
    Step into a dream and join us in Italy June 22-29th for a week of sisterhood, Italian wine and ancient towns with cobblestones and beautiful shops selling olive oil and pottery. It's the ultimate girls' trip https://www.theseparationclub.com/italy2024 


    Receive our new and free Monthly Moon Journey Calendar showing you how to work with the phases of the moon and each phase’s unique energies to create the life you want. https://www.theseparationclub.com/moon


    Also make sure to download the Free Separation Checklist: https://theseparationclub.com/separation-checklist
    Join the private and free Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theseparationclub/
    You can also find me on Instagram @elisabethjoy444 where I share daily inspirations and tips as you navigate your divorce.
    And the brand new Instagram account for The Joy Journal: @thejoyjournal444 

    • 30 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
12 Ratings

12 Ratings

melissa.lee06 ,

My therapy as I navigate these tough times

I’m so happy I found Elizabeth and the Separation Club. It has been my comfort zone, my resource, my sounding board, and my community since the beginning of my uncoupling/separation. The podcast is just another extension of her great mentorship and reminders to help keep looking forward and not backwards. Each podcast hits straight home for me and gives the perfect reminders of how to navigate this tough time.

CinderellaFlyBaby ,

Love this podcast!

In July 2020 my husband of 41 years, blindsided me by telling me he wanted to end our marriage. He said he hadn’t been happy for the last few years. We did have some issues in our marriage however I was shocked at how he didn't even want to try marriage counselling.
I felt so hurt, angry, ashamed, embarrassed, unloveable, rejected and the list went on.
I only wish I knew about Elisabeth Parsons and The Separation Club sooner. I hired a therapist to help me cope with what was happening in my life, however I didn’t feel she was making a difference. When I finally found out about Elisabeth, I instantly knew she was the right person to help me cope & heal as she’d been through separation and divorce herself.
I have taken her Freedom to Rise course which has helped me tremendously! I am also a member of her Rising Free group, and the ladies I have met through weekly zoom calls are so great. We are all so supportive of each other.
I wouldn’t be doing as well as I am if it hadn’t been for finding Elisabeth and The Separation Club. I’m loving her new podcast, as it reinforces what she’s already taught me and I’m so grateful for that!
Sincerely,
Annette

Browsed 63930 ,

Blessings in Divorce

I highly recommend following Elisabeth!
She had such a kind and soothing voice!
She brings up so many different topics that each of us may be dealing with.
I love how she mentions self care and loving yourself!
I have personally done some one on one coaching with her.
She has face group called The Separation Club!

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