Divorce on Planet Earth: Real World Advice for Well-Intentioned Humans

Kate Scharff
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Divorce on Planet Earth: Real World Advice for Well-Intentioned Humans

Psychotherapist and divorce expert Kate Scharff, MSW has worked with separating and divorcing families for over 35 years. She's also experienced divorce herself - both as a child and as an adult. So she knows, first-hand, that divorce is more painful and destabilizing, even, than most people imagine. In this podcast Kate and her guests offer compassionate, common-sense, practical and never-preachy advice on even the toughest divorce topics. Their message? Divorce (and parenting during divorce) is tough, and you're only human. But with the right support and advice, you can navigate it so that you (and your kids, if you have them) can emerge whole, happy, and ready to get on with the rest of your life.

  1. JAN 1

    Adults Whose Parents Split: The Invisible Children of Divorce

    With divorce rates rising among people who are over 50, many of today's children of divorce are adults themselves- often with families of their own. Divorcing couples often assume their grown-up kids are "just fine." But these "invisible children of divorce" are impacted just as profoundly as their younger counterparts, often in surprising and complex ways. Kate is joined by psychologist Lisa Herrick, PhD, who shares important tips for older divorcing parents and their adult children.

    39 min

  2. 2023-11-28

    Separating Finances in Divorce: It Doesn't Have to be a Nightmare with Debora May, CPA, CFP©, CDFA©

    Dividing finances in divorce- most separating couples dread it. After all, when you got married you didn't imagine having to discuss dividing all the assets you acquired during your marriage. Suddenly, the person you once shared a life with feels like an adversary. But it doesn't have to be so hard. Most people don't know that there are financial professionals with specific expertise in shepherding couples through this tough terrain in ways that can lessen anxiety, reduce conflict, answer crucial questions, generate new creative options, and take into account the needs of the entire family-- now and into the future. Divorce financial expert extraordinaire Debora May, CPA, CFP©, CDFA© joins Kate for an important and informative conversation.

    42 min

  3. 2022-06-12

    Episode 29-Protecting Your Children in Divorce: An Update on the Latest Research, with Dr. Lisa Herrick

    If you’re a divorcing parent, worries about how the split will affect your kids is probably the most upsetting and scary part of the whole experience. You have lots of questions, including "Is there anything I can do to make sure my divorce doesn’t have a permanent negative impact on my children's development? According to our guest today, Dr. Lisa Herrick, the answer is a resounding "yes!"

    46 min

  4. 2022-05-15

    Episode - 28 Covid, Mortgages, and What to Do with the House

    Even before the pandemic, divorcing couples struggled with the questions "What should we do with the house?" and "Where should each of us live?" Now, divorcing couples (many of whom have been trapped under the same roof for over two years) are struggling to understand the impact of Covid on such issues as finding (and qualifying for) the right mortgage, dealing with credit problems, understanding inflated property values, deciding whether to rent or buy, the implications of rising interest rates, and the the potential implications of temporarily inflated or deflated incomes-- to name just a few. In this episode Kate talks to mortgage broker Margie Hofberg, who shares clear, reassuring, important and often surprising tips you need to know right now (before you sign your separation or divorce agreement), so you can ensure a smooth transition from one household to two.

    32 min

  5. 2022-01-04

    Ep 27 - The Modern Pre-Nup: There's a Better Way, Really!

    Who’s afraid of the big bad prenup? Well, if you’re getting married probably you. So you might be surprised to learn that crafting a pre-nup should be a positive experience- one that strengthens the bond between you and your future spouse and sets you on a road to a happy, healthy marriage. Attorney Suzy Eckstein joins Kate to explain.

    42 min

  6. 2020-03-20

    Episode 26 - Divorce, Mortgages and What to do with the House

    If you're getting separated or divorced, where you'll each live is one of your biggest concerns. You have questions, like: "Can one of us keep the house?"; "Should one of us buy the other out?"; "How do we figure out what our house is worth?"; "Can I qualify for a mortgage, and what can I do to increase my chances?"; "What if I have been out of the job market for years?", and "If I don't keep the house, should I rent or buy?" Mortgage professional Margie Hofberg has over 15 years' experience helping separating and divorcing people to navigate this often anxiety-producing process. In this episode she shares helpful, reassuring, important and often surprising tips you need right now (before you sign your Separation or Divorce Agreement!) --to ensure that your transition from one household to two goes as smoothly as possible.

    56 min

  7. 2020-03-05

    Episode 25 - How to Protect Your Children in Divorce: Lessons from the Latest Research- with Dr. Lisa Herrick

    What steps can you take to make sure your divorce doesn't cause permanent damage to your child's development? Psychologist and divorce expert Dr. Lisa Herrick joins us to discuss what we can learn from the latest research on the impact of divorce on children of all ages, including how to identify "risk factors" and implement "protective strategies" -- so that your divorce can remain a sad memory rather than a bad developmental turning point.

    54 min

  8. 2020-02-04

    Episode 24 - Is Collaborative Divorce Right for You? Finding the Right Divorce for You Part 2:

    Collabortive Divorce is an an out-of-court way to resolve your divorce disputes in a respectful, non-adversarial manner. Never heard of Collaborative Divorce? Heard of it, but want to know more? In this episode Kate and Jane are again joined by family law attorney Suzy Eckstein. Together they explain and demystify the important aspects of Collabortive Divorce-- what it is, how it works, and what makes it different from all other divorce process options. They address common questions and concerns, such as "What is the difference between Collaborative Divorce and mediation?", "How much does Collaborative Divorce cost?", "My spouse and I communicate pretty well, do we really need Collaborative Divorce?", "Is it true that if I end up having to go to court I'll lose my lawyer?", "What if my ex isn't the collaborative sort?", "What if I have a secret I don't want to disclose?", "What if I'm worried my spouse is hiding something?", "What if my spouse is abusing drugs?", "What if there is violence in our family?", and more.

    41 min
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Psychotherapist and divorce expert Kate Scharff, MSW has worked with separating and divorcing families for over 35 years. She's also experienced divorce herself - both as a child and as an adult. So she knows, first-hand, that divorce is more painful and destabilizing, even, than most people imagine. In this podcast Kate and her guests offer compassionate, common-sense, practical and never-preachy advice on even the toughest divorce topics. Their message? Divorce (and parenting during divorce) is tough, and you're only human. But with the right support and advice, you can navigate it so that you (and your kids, if you have them) can emerge whole, happy, and ready to get on with the rest of your life.

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