The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan

What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips.      A Mags Creative and Dear Media production.

Episodes

  1. DEC 5

    I’m on Grindr not Children in Need! With Ash Self

    Ruby and Meg chat to actor, comedian and writer Ash Self (best known for playing Felix in Heartstopper), who debunks the myth that disabled people either can’t have sex or don’t want to.  We hear about sex education (or lack of it) in the hospital youth ward where Ash spent some time and how he feels people expect to see him on Children in Need rather than Grindr. Ruby, Meg and Ash also debate whether Love Island is ready for a trans wheelchair user (or even just hairy armpits?!).  Ash shares his dating highs - sleeping with another trans person for the first time - and dating lows  - a comically bad sex moment that he swerved, thanks to asthma and his gran!  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Follow Ash on socials @smashself Ash’s recommendations:Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire, edited by Alice Wong Ruby and Meg’s recommendationsHeartstopper TV series (Netflix) The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    36 min
  2. NOV 14

    Slut shaming and secret fantasies with Charlotte Fox Weber

    Who are you when no one else is watching? Ruby and Meg have a raw and candid discussion with their first ever guest: author and psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber.  From painful stories of being slut shamed to laughing at the shame you can feel for f*cked up TV crushes, Ruby, Meg and Charlotte get shame out in the open. This is a complex and tender discussion.  Sexual violence is discussed in this episode so please listen with care. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Links and resources: Charlotte Fox Weber: @charlottefoxweberpsychotherapy Sacred Monsters (Forthcoming) by Charlotte Fox WeberWhat We Want by Charlotte Fox Weber Charlotte recommendations:Paula Rego (Artist)Anaïs Nin (Author) The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    30 min
  3. NOV 7

    Speedy sperm, awkward sex-ed and Meg asks: why are we learning about triangles but not sex?

    Was your sex ed growing up giving Mean Girls vibes? Ruby and Meg give you the sex ed you wish you’d had…. Including a fun fact about the speed of sperm!  As a sex educator on the ground, Ruby shares some of the most popular questions kids ask in sex ed classes and Meg shares her mortifying 1970s-style sex ed experience at school. They chat about the things they wish they’d been told and why a more open dialogue would help cut the shame and stigma for teens figuring out their sexuality.  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Links and resources: History of the dildo - e.g. https://umsu.unimelb.edu.au/news/article/7797/2019-08-11-the-history-of-the-dildo/ Alabama and sex toys - e.g. https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/high-court-lets-alabama-sex-toy-ban-stand/ Sex ed guidance (May 2024) - https://educationhub.blog.gov.uk/2024/05/16/new-rshe-guidance-what-it-means-for-sex-education-lessons-in-schools/  Ruby and Meg recommendations:Sex Ed: A Guide for Adults by Ruby Rare The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    37 min
  4. OCT 31

    Porn: Sexy or unrealistic?

    Ruby and Meg chat about the first time they watched porn, growing up queer, the history of porn, and the ethical porn industry. Plus, what are the top 5 search terms of PornHub? Ruby and Meg reveal all.  Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Links and resources:Mozart’s “Leck mich im Arsch” - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C78HBp-Youk Ruby’s steamy sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3v2QpYyO0tSz2I5nsbKt6R Ruby’s tender sex playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1UhYyzNIbc22sBQA76NHdR Top 5 UK search terms on Pornhub (2023) - https://www.pornhub.com/insights/2023-year-in-review#united-kingdom   Ruby and Meg recommendations:Ethical porn: Erika Lust, Lustery, Cheex The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    28 min
  5. OCT 17

    Being single: love or loathe?

    Ruby is newly single and to use her own words, entering a ‘slaggy era’. Megan has been single for years. So what’s their take on singleness?  Ruby and Meg chat about their personal lives, the shocking cost of being single, solo sex and w**king stories, and where the “modern Bridget Jones” would be living today. Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@InsandOutspod Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare  Follow Megan on socials @meganbartonhanson_ Ep links and resources: How many of us are choosing to be single - https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/article/2024/jun/24/no-being-single-doesnt-make-me-miserable-its-the-key-to-living-my-best-life The cost of being single - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/relationships/a42652414/single-penatly-revealed/  Ruby and Meg recommendations:Really Good, Actually by Monica Heisey The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production   Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

    41 min

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What do you get when you bring a curious sex expert together with the nicest woman on OnlyFans? A show that really goes there. Each week, Ruby Rare and Megan Barton-Hanson welcome listeners to an unfiltered, playful and inclusive space to talk about sex in all its glory. They unpick all the big questions like: “How can we talk about kinks and fantasies?”, “Does stress kill the vibe?”, “What place does humour have in the bedroom?”, “How can we banish shame around sexual desires?”, and “Does wearing socks actually lead to a better orgasm?!”. Along the way, they share their own unforgettable stories of sex and dating, and hear from you lovely lot about your sex questions and tried-and-tested sex tips.      A Mags Creative and Dear Media production.

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