UnF*ck Your Brain is the podcast for high-achieving feminist women who struggle with anxiety, self-doubt, and imposter syndrome. If you know you’ve accomplished a lot professionally but still secretly feel like you’re unqualified….if you want to feel confident but you worry about what everyone else thinks about you...if you want to succeed but fear failure...this podcast is for you. In each episode Master Certified Confidence Coach Kara Loewentheil, J.D., will teach you how to overcome social conditioning and your own self-critical thoughts so that you can reduce your anxiety and insecurity, boost your self-confidence, and get what you want in life. Download a free guide to creating confidence at www.unfckyourbrain.com/podcastconfidence.
Three Money Mindset Lessons from the Feminist Business Mastermind
The mindset women have around money has been affected in no small part by how we have been socialized. At my Feminist Business Mastermind a few weeks ago, I shared three main money mindset lessons that all women - whether you own a business or not - should hear.
Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why understanding the nuanced difference between asking and offering is so important, why women have been socialized to believe they’re bad with money, and the importance of making sure you’ve carefully chosen your thoughts before you make an offer.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/244
Bonus: Roe v. Wade & Thought Work
Some of you know that I was a reproductive rights activist, advocate, litigator, and academic before I became a coach. So I am sadly not surprised by this decision as the writing has long been on the wall. But here's what I have to say as a coach:
The Supreme Court has overturned Roe v. Wade.
How do we meet this kind of challenge, from a coaching/thought work perspective?
Today is a day of mourning for anyone who cares about human autonomy and freedom. This ruling is a violation of the rights of anyone who can get pregnant, and in keeping with a long history of patriarchal control over women/childbearing bodies. As usual, the burden will be worse for people of color, disabled people, poor people, and anyone else living in a marginalized identity or a retrogressive state.
Thought work is not about finding a “silver lining” in human rights violations. It is not about seeing oppression as “perfect” because it exists.
It is about equipping ourselves to return to the fight.
It is about increasing our own resilience, to show up for what we believe, even when we seem to be losing.
It is about reclaiming our own ability to make meaning of our struggles and our lives, no matter what circumstances we live in.
It is about power in the one place that no one else can control: The inside of our own minds.
This work is about liberating ourselves from the inside out, so that we can continue to work to liberate the world.
So allow those emotions today. Anger, sadness, fear. Cry, grieve, scream, howl.
And when you’re ready, manage your mind. Choose what you want to believe – about this decision, about this world, about yourself, about your capacity to hold your experience, to find joy, to create change, to help others.
Many terrible Supreme Court decisions have been overturned in time. It is worth continuing the fight.
If we give up in our own minds, we are giving up on the world. That's how the patriarchy wins. Don’t give up.
P.S. If you want more guidance: I recommend Episode 31, What About Sexism, and Episode 70, Clean v. Dirty Pain.
P.P.S. The quickest thing you can do to help equalize abortion access in a post-Roe world is to donate to local and state abortion funds that will pay for women to travel to states where abortion is still available. You can google to find one close to home or you can donate to the National Network of Abortion Funds here: https://secure.actblue.com/donate/supportabortionfunds?refcode=nnafwebsite
Here is another list: https://www.rollingstone.com/culture/culture-news/abortion-funds-to-donate-to-how-to-help-1351451/
Using Mindset to Succeed in White Male-Dominated Industries & Social Media: A Conversation with Isa Watson
While it would be nice if we could sit back and wait for our incredible intelligence and value to be recognized and rewarded, that unfortunately isn’t the way things work, especially for people socialized as women.
My guest on the podcast this week, founder and CEO of Squad Isa Watson, has masterfully navigated the white male landscapes of science, tech, and now startup, as a Woman of Color, and has used managing her mind to succeed in each of them.
Tune in to learn how creating opportunities for yourself and discomfort go hand in hand, why learning to be your own hype person is so important, how managing your mind can help when going through proper institutional channels (like HR) fails, and the difference between mentorship and sponsorship (and why you should intentionally cultivate the latter).
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/243
Bonus: Is This a Cult and Other Questions About the Clutch
Listen in as Kara answers questions like "Is the Clutch a cult?" and more in this bonus Q+A episode.
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Bonus: The Root Cause of All Your Problems (It Isn't Just Your Thoughts)
Doors to the Clutch are now open! They've been closed since last year, but you can join now through Tuesday, June 21. Listen to learn what kind of transformation is waiting for you when you join the incredible Clutch community.
Get more info here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/theclutch
What Is Human Nature and How Do You Motivate Yourself
Have you ever wondered if we (or the entire human race) would enter into total anarchy and violence in the absence of self-judgment, worry over other people’s feelings, or agreement on ethics or morality? More importantly, have you ever wondered *why* you think that would be the case? It all boils down to whether or not you think humans are inherently good or inherently bad - to what you believe the nature of humans is.
Listen to this week’s podcast episode to learn why it’s so critical to examine and intentionally choose your beliefs about human nature, how women’s socialization adds an additional complicated layer to the way we view human nature, and the role our beliefs about human nature play into how we motivate ourselves.
Get full show notes and more information here: https://unfuckyourbrain.com/242
Kara’s approach makes so much sense
I’ve always been interested in self development and self improvement but traditional and widespread affirmations, strategies and approaches didn’t really click with me and often felt like I was ‘faking it’, or left me sceptical or felt like nonsense. Kara’s strategies are so helpful in a concrete way. In the words of Kara -listen and let this stuff blow your mind a bit.
Excellent practical advice intelligently given. A podcast I return to weekly because the discussions have been life affirming.
I’d Skip it
The host talks over her guests all the time. She asks a question to the guest, and then answers it herself and doesn’t bother to listen. A bit of a know-it-all and needs to show more humility when approaching different topics. She talks in circles and never really gets to a point. Wanted to like it because there’s lots of great topics, but probably won’t listen again.