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Alive and Free Bob Gardner
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It's time to rip the cover off what really works to finally ditch stress, anxiety, anger, addiction, depression, past trauma, chronic pain, and all other kinds of human suffering. No, not just relief, recovery, comfort, healing, or sobriety. We're talking the F word here — freedom — Happiness and well-being on autopilot.
My team and I will share straight from the trenches what we've learned from using a non-therapy, body-based approach to leave our own struggles behind while also coaching thousands of others to do the same. And since these are often such heavy topics, we’re gonna get a bit irreverent and have a good time while we're at it. Because, despite what you may have been told, real freedom never involves a fight.
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To the Wives... "It's not you, it's me."
This one’s for the women. A man’s “addiction” to pornography doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you need to change. It is just the way that his body has found to cope with his discomfort. We’re going to talk about this more today. Have a listen.
Highlights:
Because the “addiction” is no longer sexual, we look at; what are they coping with? (15:50) Depression, shame, and guilt are all mechanisms that are engaged in order to solve an ongoing problem. (17:25) It’s a chasing of a sensation all because, the person is unconscious of the way that they have built discomfort into their lifestyle. (25:35) Women, there is nothing wrong with you. And if the guy is wanting to change, that is evidence that he cares and that you are enough. (36:20) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing. -
Get Good Help
If you’re going to get help with something, at least get good help. Ruminating on the problem won’t solve it, so find someone or something that looks at the source, not the symptom. We’ll talk about this more today. Have a listen.
Highlights:
Do you really want validation on your trauma? (5:20) If you don’t want things to continue down their current path, validation will not get you to another place. (7:20) When bad help becomes the main source, it causes rumination on the symptoms, and not on the causes. (16:50) If you’re going to get help, then get good help. (:) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing. -
Bad Therapy by Abigail Shrier
Therapy is not really as useful as it seems. In reality, therapy gets you to just ruminate on thoughts and situations that are no longer useful to you. Instead of spending time pouting about it, learn from it and move on. Today, we’re going to talk about that more. Have a listen.
Highlights:
When going to some form of entertainment, the emotional controls are almost willfully set aside for the enjoyment of another story. (6:05) No doubt, teenagers all over the planet have these hormonal things that show up, and have situations that they have emotions about. But it’s being blown out of proportion to where everybody is being taught, everybody will have emotions that are too big for them and these tools are needed. Instead of; there might be an emotion from time to time, no big deal. (10:40) There becomes such a focus on the problem that it becomes overwhelming and it can seem like there’s no hope. (27:30) Don’t feel bad if the tools that have been given to you aren’t as effective as some other ones out there could be. (43:50) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing. -
Money and Monsters
Money isn’t the source of happiness and problems in life. It might just be some warning lights on your dashboard of life. Today, we’ll talk about this more. Have a listen.
Highlights:
You’re thinking of this creeping up debt as a problem, when all that’s happened in the past is that a new solution to the problem has been found. (3:10) The money in your wallet might be a monster. (8:30) Life is the greatest give that you can get. (20:50) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing. -
Evolutionary Biology, Science, and Myth
Biology, evolution, science, and religions are all great and can be useful tools in life. But they shouldn’t interfere with your experience. We live in the present, the now. Not 100, not 500, not 5000 years ago. Today we’re going to talk about this more. Have a listen.
Highlights:
There isn’t a bodiless it out there, like god, that is saying; “this is the case and you must accept it”. But because it’s in a book, people accept it. (9:05) Just because you can connect all the dot’s on the paper, doesn’t mean that you actually understand the paper. (17:20) It’s not that science is bad. But in the end, it’s not needed to live a powerful life. The effort to try and understand the distant past, has prevented people from making use of the present, in order to have a powerful experience in your life. (33:35) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing. -
F.A.I.R.O's
FAIRO is an acronym for “false ah-ha’s impersonating real ones”. Meaning that when an ah-ha moment comes up, no time is wasted in assuming it is the answer and not just an observation. Today we’re going to talk about this more. Have a listen.
Highlights:
There’s danger in assuming that an ah-ha moment is the truth. (7:55) The ah-ha moment is the moment when you’ve conceptualized the world into an idea. (13:30) Assessing someone on a first impression isn’t the issue. Clinging to the impression is. (22:00) Stop making assumptions from ah-ha’s and start making real observations. (30:30) Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN
Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/ and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.