That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

That Hoarder
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That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives.

  1. Distraction-free idea capture: Transforming chaotic thought streams into actionable to-do lists

    1 DAY AGO

    Distraction-free idea capture: Transforming chaotic thought streams into actionable to-do lists

    Get your 2025 decluttering calendar: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/2025  Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  Avoiding the chaos of complex idea capture systems is vital for preventing distraction and overwhelm. Today, I'm sharing practical strategies for transitioning from idea capture to action, breaking down large tasks into manageable subtasks and exploring tools like Google Tasks and voice assistants for prioritisation and organisation. Plus, I reflect on my own long-term struggle with to-do lists and how to experiment with different approaches to find a system that suits your needs. Simplifying Idea Capture Avoid complex systems to prevent distraction and overwhelm. Focus on simple, streamlined methods for capturing ideas. Set dedicated idea capture times to minimise distractions. Organising Idea Capture Materials Ensure materials and tools are easily accessible. Utilise technology for effortless idea capture using voice assistants. Transitioning from Idea Capture to Action Prioritise tasks based on urgency, impact, or personal goals. Structure and prioritise tasks. Break down large tasks into smaller, manageable subtasks. Combining Digital and Non-Digital Methods Use written to-do lists to complement digital systems for immediate tasks. Essential Elements for an Effective System Thinker's Notebook's five elements: omnipresence, efficiency, organisation, security, and offline thinking. Exploring Digital and Non-Digital Tools Popular digital tools: Evernote, OneNote, ToodleDo, Todoist, Trello, Taiga.io, Google Calendar, Outlook Calendar, Google Tasks. Non-digital methods: scraps of paper, notebooks, preprinted planners, bullet journals, mind maps. Personalising the Capture Method Importance of selecting a method suited to personal preferences and technical comfort level. Experimentation with different approaches. Two-Step Strategy for Idea Capture Combine digital or portable capture methods with comprehensive home organisation tools. Mind Mapping for Subtasks Use mind maps to break down tasks, providing a visual representation. Realistic Time Management Decide on timings based on deadlines and personal flexibility. Visual Task Management Track progress and prioritise tasks using visual tools like checklists or kanban boards. Prioritisation and Breaking Down Tasks Organise tasks by priority for easier management. Divide large tasks into smaller parts for simplification. Timely Task Execution Be realistic about time required for tasks and accommodate flexibility. Psychological Boost from Completion Mark tasks as completed for a dopamine boost and visual progress tracking. Adapting Idea Capture Systems Experiment with various methods to find an effective system that suits personal needs and goals.

    36 min
  2. Digital hoarding and digital clutter with Dr Jan Eppingstall

    NOV 8

    Digital hoarding and digital clutter with Dr Jan Eppingstall

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall, a counsellor with a PhD in hoarding, to discuss the phenomenon of digital hoarding, where people accumulate excessive digital items. We'll explore the emotional responses to losing digital content, the organisational and environmental implications of digital clutter, and strategies for managing our ever-growing digital lives. From the nostalgic pull of old photos to the overwhelming influx of emails, this conversation reveals the surprising similarities between physical and digital hoarding. Introduction to Digital Hoarding Definition of digital hoarding Comparison with physical hoarding, highlighting similar stress, anxiety, and attachment. Emotional Responses to Digital Loss Non-hoarders experiencing emotions like anger and anxiety over losing digital items. Technological Advancements and Digital Storage The proliferation of digital content creation, especially digital photos. Impact of technology on creating and storing digital content. Historical context of storage limitations versus current capabilities. Broader Implications of Digital Hoarding Extending beyond photos and videos to emails, subscriptions, and digital accounts. Cybersecurity risks and financial costs associated with digital hoarding. Reasons we retain digital content. Emotional Attachment and Digital Data Emotional ties to digital items like photos and documents. Reflecting identity and memory triggers in digital possessions. Digital Organisation Strategies Host's impeccably organised digital life contrasted with a cluttered home. Tiago Forte's PARA method for prioritising digital items. Inbox Zero and maintaining an organised email setup. Challenges of Digital Clutter Volume over efficiency: issues accessing necessary information despite organised files. Parallels between digital and physical hoarding behaviours. Digital Inefficiency and Environmental Impact Wasted time, reduced focus, and productivity issues due to digital clutter. Significant carbon footprint of data centres and environmental concerns. Strategies for Managing Digital Clutter Reducing digital intake by unsubscribing from unnecessary emails and content. Advice on stopping excessive bookmarking and managing browser tabs. Importance of setting up email filters to streamline email management. Creating physical keepsakes from special digital photos for meaningful interaction. Permission Slip Segment Discussion on evaluating difficult-to-discard items for sentimental or practical reasons.

    48 min
  3. The Lazy Genius approach to planning, productivity and prioritising, with Kendra Adachi

    NOV 1

    The Lazy Genius approach to planning, productivity and prioritising, with Kendra Adachi

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode of That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding podcast, I'm joined by Kendra Adachi, author of "The Plan, Manage Your Time Like a Lazy Genius," as we explore self-compassion and realistic productivity. We'll discuss cultural differences in self-trust, the pitfalls of traditional planning, and how small, manageable steps can lead to meaningful progress. Kendra's insights challenge societal expectations and underscore the importance of kindness and contentment in our daily lives. Self-Trust and Societal Influences Cultural differences in self-trust between men and women Women's challenges with self-trust Understanding systemic influences Encouragement of kindness and acceptance towards oneself Societal Expectations and Productivity Pressure Critique of the "hustle" culture and pressure for excellence Contentment as opposed to constant optimisation Kindness to oneself as an alternative to relentless improvement Resistance to the idea of contentment Contentment and Self-Compassion Contentment not the same as giving up Defining contentment as awareness and appreciation of the present Self-compassion as a holistic life perspective Contentment and making mistakes Hoarding and Mindset Shifts Problem with future-focused thinking Importance of prioritising what matters to us Shifting mindset towards valuing fewer things and creating space Kinder approach to oneself and questioning what we have lose by trying contentment Integration vs. Greatness Embracing integration over achieving greatness Honouring emotions and practicing self-kindness Goal setting challenges and adopting flexible approaches Shrinking priorities to manage overwhelm Planning and Productivity Challenges Discussion on why many struggle with planning and productivity Unrealistic expectations from productivity experts Internalisation of failure for unmet expectations Disparity in authorship vs. readership of time management books The Lazy Genius Way and Practical Strategies Introduction to concepts from "The Lazy Genius Way" Principles of "going in the right order" (naming what matters, calming the chaos, trusting oneself) Encouragement of smaller, manageable steps Potential for meaningful change despite societal pressures

    49 min
  4. From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot

    OCT 25

    From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  In today's episode, I chat with Jo Cavalot, a compassionate inquiry practitioner and coach, about tackling executive dysfunction through a unique concept called "fibble", designed to help those struggling with focus and organisation. Jo shares her insights into treating internal parts with kindness, her own journey of recovery, and how she co-created Fibble as a tool to understand and manage executive function challenges. We explore the importance of personalised support in overcoming obstacles, and Jo offers a special discount for listeners interested in her work. Importance of a compassionate approach Internal family systems and parts work. Viewing internal parts as friends with individual needs. Differentiating exploratory sessions from physical organisation tasks. Executive Dysfunction and 'Fibble' Concept Challenges of executive dysfunction, specifically among people who hoard. Use of the 'fibble' acronym: Frustrated, Inadequate, Baffled, Befuddled, Lacking, and Exhausted. Fibble as a practical tool Jo Cavalot's experience with alcoholism Parallel between Jo's alcohol experience and hoarding. Emotional challenges and non-linear nature of recovery. Emphasis on self-awareness and self-compassion. Jo's significant life changes, like moving to Spain and involvement in the Camino de Santiago. Motivation through personal recovery and organisational skills. Involvement and motivation in Hoarding Disorders UK. Compassionate Inquiry, Based on Dr. Gabor Mate's work, focusing on trauma's impact. Positive impacts on clients with hoarding behaviours and related trauma. Key Challenges and Strengths in Addressing Organisation Common challenges: sustained attention, organisation, self-activation, planning, and prioritising. Creative problem-solving as a strength. Flexible thinking and stress tolerance. Use of a questionnaire assessing executive functioning across environments. Understanding and leveraging diverse personal strengths. Varying self-activation for personal vs. others' tasks. Goal Setting and Personalisation Personalised tools over generic advice. Introduction of the Ikigai concept in goal setting. Use of the fibble questionnaire for personal assessment and support. Understanding and Addressing Underlying Causes Identifying trauma responses and underlying causes. Adjusting expectations based on life circumstances. Holistic and trauma-informed support for personal challenges.

    42 min
  5. Addressing shame with creativity: dancing with your inner critic with artist Steve Chapman

    OCT 18

    Addressing shame with creativity: dancing with your inner critic with artist Steve Chapman

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  In this episode, I’m joined by Steve Chapman, an artist and coach, to talk about working creatively with your inner critic. We talk about understanding this inner voice as a misguided protector rather than an enemy and explore creative approaches like drawing or dancing with your critic to better engage with it. However sceptical you may be about it, listen to us talk about finding compassion for that voice in your head and how art can be a therapeutic ally in your journey. Even if, like me, you cannot draw! Steve Chapman: artist, writer, speaker, coach, with a background in Gestalt psychology, improv theatre, coaching, and art therapy. Discussion on creativity, imperfection, being stuck, shame, and the inner critic. Struggles with a harsh inner critic for years. Perspective shift influenced by the song "Hi Ren" Insights on the Inner Critic Inner critics act as misguided protectors from early childhood. An approach to understand inner critics rather than fight them. Creative Approach to the Inner Critic Drawing or creative engagement to externalise and personify the inner critic. Small creative experiments to better understand the inner critic. The therapeutic nature of experimenting with art. Inner Critic & Self-Compassion Developing a compassionate relationship with the inner critic. Thich Nhat Hanh on nurturing inner energy. Dealing with worry through acceptance and self-compassion. Art as a method to engage with emotions and inner critic Resonates with others and serves as a therapeutic tool. Shame & Vulnerability Shame thrives in secrecy; exposing it diminishes its power. Importance of bringing shame to light as discussed by Brene Brown. Comfort and Discomfort Finding a balance between comfort and distress. Advocates for taking small steps toward addressing discomfort. Discussing mental health openly demonstrates personal growth and reduced stigma. Working with different materials for creative exploration. Workshops begin without set goals to allow creativity to flourish. Dealing with Inner Critics Awareness of inner critics as part of being human and lifelong process. Engaging with the inner critic in a playful rather than adversarial way. Therapeutic Work and Community Support Value of in-depth therapeutic work and community support in managing inner critique. Artistic Abilities and Perceptions Societal pressures influence perception of artistic ability. Chapman aims to inspire and counter feelings of inadequacy. Role of Continuous Exploration in Art Art viewed as an ongoing process rather than a definitive product. Tuning into emotions and body sensations beyond verbal communication.

    46 min
  6. Dehoarding with the seasons: get inspired by nature when everything is overwhelming

    OCT 11

    Dehoarding with the seasons: get inspired by nature when everything is overwhelming

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  In this episode, I explore how the change of seasons can inspire and motivate dehoarding efforts, with autumn in the northern hemisphere and spring in the southern hemisphere being upon us. Drawing on traditions like harvest festivals and spring cleaning, we'll discuss how nature’s rhythms can support our journey toward a more organised home. Plus, personal insights on managing the emotional challenges of letting go and tips for embracing seasonal transitions as opportunities for growth. Seasonal Influence on Dehoarding Autumn Motivation Mixed feelings: beauty vs. precursor to winter Harvest festivals: gratitude and inspiration for giving and decluttering Nesting instincts as a motivational tool for organizing Spring Motivation Symbolism of renewal and hope Growth and change as motivators for overcoming hoarding disorder Spring cleaning tradition as an opportunity for new beginnings Emotional Aspects of Decluttering Acknowledge and understand feelings like overwhelm, anxiety, confusion, and fear Use emotions to gain self-insight and understand attachment to items Seek support from therapists, friends, family, or professional organisers Practical Steps for Dehoarding Assess possessions when transitioning between seasons Evaluate practical use of items like blankets and coats Decluttering inspired by seasonal changes Focus on small areas to avoid overwhelm Small, consistent changes over dramatic ones Set realistic goals for home improvements by New Year Community and Support Engage in dehoarding accountability sessions for communal support Donating items to reduce unnecessary storage Assess what you want for your home as the year end approaches Aiming for improvement, maintenance, or worsened state? Set intentions Walking, observing nature, and journaling Creating Rituals and Redefining Comfort Suggest creating rituals in tune with seasonal changes to aid decluttering Redefine comfort by reducing clutter rather than accumulating more Highlight the importance of a comfortable, decluttered space for winter

    31 min

  7. OCT 4

    Just because we want it doesn't mean we have to have it

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  On this episode, I share my experience from being a guest on Death, Sex & Money with Anna Sale. Then I dig into the idea of wanting things but still choosing not to have them and how it applies to various aspects of life, especially for those of us dealing with hoarding disorder. I’ll discuss how the disorder can distort our perception of items, leading to irrational attachments. I look at how desires often change over time, the unhealthy attachments formed for identity, comfort, or security, and how fear of regret can hinder the decluttering process. Choosing Not to Have Desired Items Distortion of item perception in hoarding disorder Temporary nature of desires Safety and clutter concerns Emotional and Irrational Attachments Understanding and challenging emotional attachments Exploring reasons for keeping or acquiring items Addressing “irrational” beliefs Dealing with fear of regret Joy from finding things often surpasses regret (Jasmine Sleigh's insight) Managing regret is possible Decision-making with clutter in mind Not Retaining Items for Others It's not our responsibility to keep items for others Prioritising personal and familial well-being Setting boundaries regarding others' potential desires Feeling loss, fear, sadness, and nostalgia Acknowledgment and validation of these feelings Communicating fears and emotions Recognising and challenging irrational thoughts and feelings Celebrating small victories without adding more clutter Liberation and freedom from letting go Misinterpreting laziness as anxiety Anxious sloth and decreased productivity

    34 min

  8. SEP 27

    What does "trauma-informed" mean when it comes to hoarding? With Dr Jan Eppingstall

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/  In today’s episode, I’m chatting with Dr. Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor, about what it means to take a trauma-informed approach to hoarding disorder. Stick around as we break down why understanding trauma is crucial for effective support and treatment. Trauma-informed approaches to understanding and treating hoarding Importance of understanding trauma's impact Concerns about wellbeing inquiries without adequate support preparation Collaboration in Trauma-Informed Care Practical Implementation for Non-Therapy Roles** Incorporate trauma-informed principles Sensitivity to potential triggers Misconceptions and Communication Fear factor surrounding trauma and its treatment Detailed trauma disclosure unnecessary for effective support Client Autonomy and Professional Boundaries Respecting clients' communication preferences Retraumatisation in Hoarding Harm of forced clearances and strangers touching possessions Negative impact of language and actions on hoarders Respectful Support Practices Building Trust Importance of building trust before intervening in a hoarder's space Ensuring professionals genuinely practice trauma-informed care Over-explaining as a stress response Broad approach of trauma-informed care Factors influencing trauma perception Trauma Definition Trauma and Hoarding Commonality of trauma in hoarding histories A supportive framework rather than a treatment model Five Pillars of Trauma-Informed Care Assuming trauma backgrounds in hoarding behaviour clients Loss of Control in Trauma Trauma involves loss of control; care pillars help restore it Tracking and managing nervous system responses Importance of recognising client-specific signs Term misuse by minimally trauma-informed trained professionals Dangers of Misleading Trauma Informed Claims Proper understanding of trauma to avoid harm Non-therapists adopting trauma-informed principles Importance of feeling present and calm during therapy Teaching clients to feel safe and grounded Clear Boundaries in Therapy Trauma Types and Responses** Variability of trauma Explanation of retraumatisation Managing Retraumatisation

    59 min
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Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives.

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