440 episodes

A podcast dedicated to bringing real help to real couples! Hosts Seth Studley, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and his wife Melanie Studley, Marriage Expert and Coach, answer listener questions about sex, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, in-laws issues, healing from infidelity, and so much more! Their authentic and down-to-earth approach to helping couples has transformed thousands of relationships. They have three kids and live outside of Seattle, Wa.

Anatomy of Us Anatomy of Us

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A podcast dedicated to bringing real help to real couples! Hosts Seth Studley, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, and his wife Melanie Studley, Marriage Expert and Coach, answer listener questions about sex, intimacy, communication, conflict resolution, in-laws issues, healing from infidelity, and so much more! Their authentic and down-to-earth approach to helping couples has transformed thousands of relationships. They have three kids and live outside of Seattle, Wa.

    Your Triggers Might be WRONG! Rethinking what your triggers REALLY mean.

    Your Triggers Might be WRONG! Rethinking what your triggers REALLY mean.

    Welcome back to Anatomy of Us! 🎙️ Today, Melanie Studley is flying solo to dive deep into a hot topic: triggers. Ever feel like you're constantly on edge, blaming others for how you react? This episode's insightful discussion is for you! 🙌
    Here's what you'll learn:


    Redefining Triggers: Melanie breaks down why the term "trigger" is overused and often misapplied. Discover what really constitutes a legitimate trigger.


    Personal Insight: Hear Melanie's powerful story of overcoming trauma from a severe childhood car accident and what true triggers look like.


    Analogy: Meet Zinga, Melanie's mini Australian Shepherd, whose past experiences cause her to misinterpret friendly intentions. This analogy will change how you see your own triggers!


    Client Case Study: Learn about a client who mistakenly blames his partner for his emotional reactions. Could you be doing the same?


    Transformative Moment: An inspiring story about Zinga learning to trust and how changing your perspective can lead to healthier relationships.


    Join Melanie as she challenges you to rethink what your triggers really mean. Change your mindset, transform your relationships, and build a stronger, more resilient you! 💪✨
    👉 Want to dive deeper? Check out our coaching at anatomyofus.com. We love helping you create the life and marriage you want! 👫💬

    Thanks for listening, you're amazing!
    Peace! ✌️

    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

    👥 Connect with Us:

    Subscribe to our show for more insightful episodes.
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    📌 Keywords:

    Empowerment, Intentional Living, Proactive Preparedness, Emotional Regulation, Life Challenges, Relationship Advice, Marriage Tips, Personal Growth, Stability, Behavior Standards, Mental Resilience, Triggers

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    • 16 min
    Take Life by the Horns!

    Take Life by the Horns!

    🎙️ Welcome to Anatomy of Us! 🎙️

    In today’s special mini-episode, Melanie takes the reins solo to share some transformative insights that have been floating around in her mind. 💭 She dives deep into the empowering concept of Taking Life by the Horns and how you can direct your path with intention and strength.

    🔹 Empowerment through Choice: Learn how to make deliberate choices about your reactions, instead of letting life push you around.

    🔹 Proactive Preparedness: Discover the power of deciding in advance how you'll handle life’s challenges to maintain stability and reduce stress.

    🔹 Consistent Behavior Standards: Find out why making declarations about your behavior in relationships can transform how you interact with your loved ones.

    🔹 Emotional Regulation: Melanie shares tips on staying calm and regulated, even when those around you are not.

    🔹 Intentional Living: Embrace intentional living by choosing your responses and actions, shaping your future with proactive and thoughtful decisions.

    Tune in for practical advice and powerful strategies to help you navigate life’s ups and downs with confidence and purpose. Let’s take life by the horns together! 🐂✨

    👉 Want to dive deeper? Check out our coaching at anatomyofus.com. We love helping you create the life and marriage you want! 👫💬

    Thanks for llistening, you're amazing!

    Peace! ✌️

    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

    👥 Connect with Us:

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    Empowerment, Intentional Living, Proactive Preparedness, Emotional Regulation, Life Challenges, Relationship Advice, Marriage Tips, Personal Growth, Stability, Behavior Standards, Mental Resilience

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    • 11 min
    Is this Anxiety REALLY Mine?! Examining Inherited Anxiety

    Is this Anxiety REALLY Mine?! Examining Inherited Anxiety

    👋 Welcome to Anatomy of Us! Today Melanie Studley is flying solo to dive into a topic that's been on her mind: Inherited Anxiety. 🌟
    In this episode, Melanie explores how we often unknowingly inherit anxieties and fears from our families and claim them as our own. 😲
    Join Mel as she breaks down the importance of examining and distinguishing between inherited anxieties and our own true feelings. This concept doesn't just apply to anxiety but to other inherited traits like prejudices and assumptions. 🧠✨
    Let's untangle these knots together and transform our lives by identifying what's truly ours. 💪❤️
    If you're ready to examine your own anxieties and make a positive change, this episode is for you. Don't forget to like, comment, and share your thoughts!
    📺 Subscribe for more episodes 💬 Leave us a review and share your experiences!
    Thanks for listening, you're amazing! Peace! ✌️

    👉 Want to dive deeper? Check out our coaching at anatomyofus.com. We love helping you create the life and marriage you want! 👫💬

    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

    👥 Connect with Us:
    Subscribe to our channel for more insightful episodes.
    TikTok @anatomyofuspod
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    Website anatomyofus.com

    Thank you to our sponsors!

    📌 Keywords:
    Anxiety, Mental Health, Stress Management, Family of Origin, Generational Trauma, Self-Care, Personal Growth
    #AnatomyOfUs #InheritedAnxiety #SelfDiscovery #PersonalGrowth #FamilyOfOrigin #AnxietyRelief #MarriageTransformation




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    • 13 min
    Building a Non-Anxious Life with Dr. John Delony

    Building a Non-Anxious Life with Dr. John Delony

    Welcome to the latest episode of the Anatomy of Us podcast, where Melanie Studley and Seth Studley are joined by special guest and friend, Dr. John Delony, for an enlightening discussion on his new book "Building a Non-Anxious Life." This episode kicks off with a laid-back conversation featuring personal anecdotes and even some pet stories, setting a relatable tone for what follows. Dr. Delony, drawing from his experience as a therapist, delves into the normalization of anxiety and the challenges faced in diagnosing mental health issues. He shares invaluable insights on viewing anxiety as a natural response to stress and emphasizes the importance of being present in managing it. As the conversation unfolds, practical tips for managing anxiety emerge, including the significance of self-care, building support networks, and seeking professional help when needed. Dive into this engaging dialogue for actionable strategies to cultivate a more peaceful and balanced life.

    🔗 Links and Resources

    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

    👥 Connect with Us:

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    📌 Keywords:

    Counseling, Anxiety, Mental Health, Stress Management, Support Network, Non-Anxious Life, Dr. John Delony, Therapy, Self-Care, Personal Growth

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    💬 Your Thoughts Matter: We love hearing from our listeners! Drop a comment below sharing your key takeaways from this episode or any topics you'd like us to cover in future episodes.

    #Therapy #MentalHealth #Coaching #TheAnatomyOfUsPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalDevelopment #Growth #HealthyRelationships #Podcast #CommunicationTips #MarriageGoals #CoupleGoals

    👉 Make sure to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes that help you deepen your connection and communication in your marriage.

    🙏 Thank you for listening to The Anatomy Of Us Podcast – where we explore all aspects of relationships. See you in the next episode! 🎧✨
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    • 1 hr 7 min
    HELP, my kid is OUT OF CONTROL! W: Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor & Parenting Coach Dan Peterson

    HELP, my kid is OUT OF CONTROL! W: Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor & Parenting Coach Dan Peterson

    In today's episode, we sit down with Dan Peterson, Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor & Parenting Coach, to discuss what to do when your kid is out of control! 😩 😵‍💫 😭

    Meet Dan, the Founder of The Compass 4 Life, who brings years of expertise in clinical psychology and the Nurtured Heart Approach™ (NHA) to the table. 🌟 With a Masters degree from Benedictine University and personal training from NHA founder Howard Glasser, Dan is your go-to expert for handling challenging children.

    In this enlightening conversation, Dan shares valuable insights and strategies to empower parents and caregivers facing similar challenges.

    💪🏽 Don't miss out on his 90-day Coaching Program - check it out at https://www.thecompass4life.com/work-with-me

    ✅ And if you're ready to take the next step, reach out to Dan directly at https://www.thecompass4life.com/contact

    ❌ Don't struggle for one more day, reach out to Dan and get the help you need to TRANSFORM your relationship with your kid! 🚀✨

    🔗 Links and Resources
    We have a FREE download of the Clearing Structure available RIGHT HERE! shop.anatomyofus.com/collections/free-pdf-resources

    👥 Connect with Us:
    Subscribe to our channel for more insightful episodes.

    TikTok @anatomyofuspod
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    Website anatomyofus.com

    📌 Keywords:

    Marriage Communication, Parenting, Parenting Tips, Counseling, Nurtured Heart Approach, Parenting Techniques, Positive Reinforcement, Recognizing Greatness, Emotional Regulation, Intense Children, Parent-Child Relationship, Transformative Parenting, Setting Boundaries, Building Resilience, Acknowledging Successes, Parenting Workshops, Mindful Parenting, Self-Esteem.

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    #MarriageCommunication #EffectiveCommunication #TheAnatomyOfUsPodcast #RelationshipAdvice #PersonalDevelopment #Growth #HealthyRelationships #Podcast #CommunicationTips #MarriageGoals #CoupleGoals #ParentingSupport #NurturedHeartApproach #ParentCoaching #ProblemChild #TransformativeParenting #Boundaries #MindfulParenting

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    🙏 Thank you for listening to The Anatomy Of Us Podcast – where we explore all aspects of relationships. See you in the next episode! 🎧✨
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    • 53 min
    How to OWN YOUR DAY with Melanie's Prayer Planner + Journal!

    How to OWN YOUR DAY with Melanie's Prayer Planner + Journal!

    Today, we share a behind-the-scenes look at Melanie's all new Prayer Planner + Journal! Melanie created this planner/journal to master her ADHD, Dyslexia, and the chaos of being a business owner and a busy mom of three!

    Melanie explains the components of the planner, how she uses it each day, and where you can get your own so that you can master YOUR LIFE!
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    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.7 out of 5
1.1K Ratings

1.1K Ratings

Mombwr5 ,

Love This Podcast!

Pretty sure I have listened to every episode and have enjoyed them all so much! I love the authenticity Seth and Melanie display. It truly is real help for real couples and I feel like a I learn something new every time I listen. It has been neat to have see how they have evolved in their faith and relationship over the years and these guys are just plain fun! We lead a Marriage Life Group and recommend this podcast to everyone who comes through this group.
Keep up the good work, it is so appreciated ! ❤️💪🏻

TRBL9836 ,

Take your Vitamins!

If you care about your health and take your vitamins, this show needs to be part of your “daily’s” for your mental and emotional health! I stumbled across the Studley’s when I began individual counseling needing something extra than my weekly session. This remains my top listened to show and I cannot begin to express the positive impact it has had in my life and my marriage. The messages/topics seem to come when I need them most and it’s changed my interactions with my wife, children, and others for the better. It’s also incredible how the content leaves a mark in my mind which has encouraged positive habits that have become subliminal in nature. For example, their 100 days of Q&A. I began expressing my gratitude to my wife and didn’t notice at first what inspired it, but realized a couple weeks later that it was Seth and Melanie in the show. It led to her reciprocating the same and the connection between us has become more meaningful! Thank you Seth & Melanie!!

Trompete87 ,

A Huge Blessing

My wife and I have been struggling for years and we can’t seem to get past certain issues. We have been to some pretty dark places mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. We have all the “tools” from counseling, but we have always felt like we are the only ones who struggle this badly. We discovered this podcast about a year ago, and it has been a blessing ever since. We will have some crazy arguments or read something in scripture or a book about marriage and somehow AoU will post an episode the same day or the next day about that same topic describing it in a way that we can relate to directly.

Case in point: spiritual warfare. We discovered a book by Tim Muehlhoff on the topic and began reading it. Just as the book started to sound a lot like our marriage, Melanie posted the first Spiritual Warfare episode and shared what she and Seth were going through. I cannot begin to describe what a blessing and encouragement those two episodes were to our marriage. Between Dr. Muehlhoff’s book and the AoU episodes, we have begun developing healthier habits to properly guard our marriage against the plans of Satan, including being more disciplined in prayer and setting prayer alarms. If your marriage is not in the best place and you are looking for hope, know that Seth and Melanie get it. I pray that God will continue to use their ministry to bless your marriage as He has ours. There is hope in Christ and this couple is a testimony to that hope.

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21.

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