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Sexy Marriage Radio Dr Corey and Pam Allan
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Conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive! We explore the wisdom and skills of the relationship world's most passionate and brilliant minds. Through in-depth conversations with authors, counselors, psychologists, professors, doctors and specialists, each episode explores topics every relationship faces and offers conversation starters or actions you can take to propel your life and marriage into deeper and more meaningful directions.
Find all our shows at https://smr.fm
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Best of SMR: Curing Ticklishness #686
This week is a Best Of SMR!
Our topics revolve around two main themes: ticklishness and sexual desire issues in marriage.
Ticklishness and a sensitivity to touch can affect sexual encounters. We explore a technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch.
The second topic focuses on two emails from listeners who are experiencing low libido and difficulties with penetration. There is pressure and guilt associated with these issues and we offer suggestions for relieving them.
Takeaways
Ticklishness can affect sexual encounters and set the stage for intimacy.
A technique to cure ticklishness and noxious touch involves rewiring the brain's response to touch.
Pressure and guilt can negatively impact sexual desire and performance in marriage.
Relieving pressure and guilt requires open communication and exploring different approaches.
Seeking medical advice and addressing underlying issues can help improve sexual experiences.
Libido fluctuates and requires dedication and effort to maintain a satisfying sex life.
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, a husband has no attraction towards his wife, and while he kinda thought this may be an issue while they were dating, their honeymoon confirmed it.
What should he do now?
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Best Of SMR: What Is Normal? #685
This week is a Best Of SMR!
A wife calls in wanting to know how to handle her husband's struggle with pornography.
A husband calls in asking for help in how to talk about sex with his wife, who was raised in a way that she won't even talk about it.
Takeaways
Struggles with pornography in marriage are common and can be addressed through open and honest communication.
Having conversations about sex with a spouse who has difficulty talking about it requires patience and understanding.
It is important to separate one's own worth and value from a spouse's struggles or actions.
Taking responsibility for one's own actions and decisions in the relationship is crucial for personal growth and change.
Each individual has the power to redefine their beliefs and values about sex and intimacy, regardless of their upbringing.
Approaching conversations about sex with a positive mindset and assuming the best intentions from one's spouse can lead to more productive discussions.
Struggles in marriage are normal, but it is possible to improve how they are addressed and resolved.
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, we explore the idea of what is normal. Is this even the right question?
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Revisiting Intimacy Anorexia Or Is It Cruelty? #684
On today's episode we we revisit an old episode of SMR.
Our conversation explores the concept of intimacy anorexia and the pain of love cycle of abuse and neglect in marriage.
We discuss the experience of being in a sexless marriage and the frustration of not having one's physical needs met. We also examine the dynamics of deliberate withholding of love and intimacy and the cruelty that can arise from it.
Takeaways
Intimacy in a relationship involves both knowing and being known.
Deliberate withholding of love and intimacy can be a form of cruelty.
It is important to face what is present in a relationship rather than focusing on what is missing.
Self-intimacy is also crucial in maintaining a healthy relationship.
Marriage requires navigating struggles and challenges with honesty and integrity.
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, we continue the best of SMR by revisiting Kate Bowler's helpful words regarding what to say and what not to say when faced with someone else’s grief or loss or struggle.
Words we all need to learn and use. Or stop using.
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Exploring The Meaning Of His Erection #683
On today's episode we discuss various topics related to marriage and sex.
We cover two segments from previous episodes, one about a couple who stopped fighting after improving their sex life, and another about a wife who is not attracted to her husband's penis.
What are the deeper meanings and implications of these issues, emphasizing the importance of understanding oneself and one's spouse.
Takeaways
Open and honest conversations are essential for a healthy marriage and sex life.
Understanding oneself and one's spouse is crucial for a deeper connection.
The meaning and significance of certain body parts can vary between individuals and couples.
Exploring the deeper meanings and implications of sexual issues can lead to personal growth and a stronger relationship.
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, another listen into the last part of the Q&A session at 2024 SMR Getaway.
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My Arousal Template Live From The SMR Getaway #682
This week was recorded live the 2024 SMR Getaway Q&A.
We answer a voicemail from a listener who has realized that since they began listening to SMR and talking more about their sex lives with each other, they don't fight anymore.
We also have an email from a husband who is aroused by big, beautiful women, yet married a woman who is not. Instead she was safe and mature. What can he do?
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, a listen into the Q&A session of 2024 SMR Getaway.
Enjoy the show!
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Rapid Fire Q&A Live From The Getaway #681
This week is a rapid fire Q&A - recorded live from the 2024 SMR Getaway.
We discuss topics such as how to get turned on by seeing a partner's penis, how to improve desire in a low-drive spouse during a stressful time, how much time couples typically spend on sex, and how to teach kids healthy sexual boundaries without invoking shame.
We emphasize the importance of open communication, setting boundaries, and creating opportunities for connection in relationships. We also discuss the need to let go of societal scripts and expectations around sex and focus on what works for each individual couple.
On the Xtended Version ...
In the XTD content, we cover more question from the Getaway last week.
Enjoy the show!
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Transformed Self and Transformed Marriage
I am so grateful for having found, met, interacted, and come to enjoy all of the content from Dr. Corey Allan, Pam, and Sexy Marriage Radio (SMR). It’s not just a podcast, but a real community of like-minded people who are pursuing bigger and better things for their lives, marriages, and great sex (married sex is the BEST sex). I’m now an Academy member. My friends and their friends are now listeners. My wife and I and another couple attended the SMR Marriage Getaway ‘24 and loved it. This is more than just a knowledgeable guy pontificating for 25 min about soapbox topics. He really cares and has a passion for what he’s communicating. Keep up the great work Corey and Pam!
- Pastor Kev
Hopeful
I randomly came across SMR podcast, sometime, last year. I am not married, but in a serious relationship. My SO and I have been evaluating each other as potential spouses, for almost a year and a half, and, now, we see there's the possibility of marriage. We are attending counseling sessions together (I'm go on a regular basis, and he'll join me often). We are both divorcees and in our mid-60's. I am retired and my boyfriend works. I have a lot of downtime; one of my passions is ongoing self-improvement which, in turn, benefits our relationship. I listen to your enlightening podcast almost every day! I want to share some applicable episodes with my boyfriend. So much of the subject matter you cover (and the guest speakers) applies to us, singles, navigating the future world of marriage. I have purchased several audiobooks which some of the speakers have written. Always delightful to hear you, Corey and Pam, and envy (in a good way) your interaction with one another. I hear a humbleness, raw honesty, Spirit-led, and a willingness to help people over the airwaves. Thank you!!! Grateful.
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