Sexy Marriage Radio

Dr Corey and Pam Allan
Sexy Marriage Radio

Conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive! We explore the wisdom and skills of the relationship world's most passionate and brilliant minds. Through in-depth conversations with authors, counselors, psychologists, professors, doctors and specialists, each episode explores topics every relationship faces and offers conversation starters or actions you can take to propel your life and marriage into deeper and more meaningful directions. Find all our shows at https://smr.fm

  1. NOV 20

    Oral Sex and Trauma #703

    This week Pam and I discuss the complexities of intimacy, particularly focusing on oral sex and the impact of past trauma on current relationships. The conversation emphasizes the importance of communication, understanding, and presence in sexual encounters, while also addressing the challenges faced by individuals with traumatic histories. We hope to encourage listeners to navigate their sexual relationships with empathy and openness, highlighting the journey of healing and connection between spouses. Takeaways Relationships are constantly evolving and require adaptation. Communication is key in navigating sexual intimacy. Past trauma can significantly impact present relationships. It's important to approach intimacy with empathy and understanding. Presence and engagement matter more than technique in intimacy. Self-image issues can affect sexual confidence and performance. Creating a comfortable environment can enhance intimacy. Learning about each other's bodies is a continuous journey. Facing past traumas can lead to healing in relationships. The willingness to confront challenges can strengthen partnerships. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I cover an email from a husband who misses the sex they had before his wife went through menopause. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway

    30 min
  2. NOV 13

    Intimate Desire | Alex and Kadi Dutton #702

    In this episode, I'm joined by Alex and Kadi Dutton, founders of EveryLove Intimates.  We talk about their journey in creating their company aimed at enhancing intimacy in marriages. They discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining intimacy, the importance of variety and exploration in relationships, and how their products provide couples with the tools and permission to try new things together. We emphasize the significance of communication and intentionality in nurturing a healthy marriage. Take advantage of their special offer to the SMR Nation by getting $20 off each Date Night Box with our code, SMR.  Get yours here - https://smr.fm/everylove Takeaways Communication is key to improving intimacy in relationships. Couples often need resources to enhance their intimate lives. Spicing things up shows your partner they are important. The box provides a framework for couples to explore intimacy. It's important to make intimacy a priority in marriage. The scenarios in the box allow for flexibility and personalization. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I talk through the differences between a goal of desire for sex vs desire during sex. What does this actually mean? Listen to find out. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get up to 50% OFF your entire order with our exclusive link – https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway

    29 min
  3. NOV 6

    Anatomy Of Desire | Dr Emily Jamea #701

    Dr. Emily Jamea joins me as we discuss her new book, 'Anatomy of Desire,' focusing on the concept of flow state in sexual experiences. She outlines five key aspects that contribute to achieving flow: sensuality, curiosity, adaptability, vulnerability, and attunement. We explore each aspect in depth, emphasizing the importance of reconnecting with innate qualities to enhance intimacy and emotional connection in relationships. Plus our discussion highlights practical strategies for couples to cultivate these qualities and improve their sexual experiences. Learn more about Dr Emily here - https://emilyjamea.com/ Takeaways Flow state is a state of total absorption and focus during sexual experiences. Sensuality involves fully inhabiting the body and engaging the senses. Curiosity is essential for keeping the erotic experience alive in long-term relationships. Adaptability is necessary to navigate changes in sexual dynamics over time. Vulnerability allows for deeper emotional connections during intimacy. Attunement is crucial for synchronizing partners' experiences in the bedroom. Prioritizing sex is important for maintaining a healthy relationship. Trying new things together can reignite passion and excitement. Emotional connection is vital for a fulfilling sexual experience. Co-regulation of arousal can enhance pleasure and intimacy. On the Xtended Version ... Dr Emily and I go through the research she conducted to write this book. What surprised her? What's the biggest takeaway? And more. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Paired App for Couples: Practice love every day with Paired, the #1 app for couples. Download the app at https://www.paired.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway

    35 min
  4. OCT 23

    Navigating The Depths | Dr Dave Jenkins #699

    In this conversation, I'm joined by a colleague and friend Dr. Dave Jenkins as we dive deep into the concept of regression, particularly in the context of emotional states and relationships. We discuss how regression manifests as a brain state, the contagious nature of it in interpersonal dynamics, and the metaphor of the Mariana Trench to illustrate the depths of emotional regression. Our conversation also goes through strategies for recognizing and managing regression, the impact of intimacy on emotional states, and the importance of self-soothing and increasing one's buoyancy to navigate life's challenges effectively. Connect more with Dr Dave here - https://www.linkedin.com/in/davemjenkins/ Takeaways Regression is a brain state, not just an emotion. We all experience regression, regardless of intelligence. Regression can be contagious in relationships. Understanding regression helps in managing emotional responses. The Mariana Trench metaphor illustrates the depths of regression. Intimacy can trigger regression due to vulnerability. Self-soothing is essential for managing regression. Recognizing regression in oneself and others is crucial. Feelings are important and should not be ignored. Increasing buoyancy requires intentional strategies. On the Xtended Version ... Pam and I go through a story that depicts more about the tensions of differentiation in relationships. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway Academy: Join the Academy and go deeper with us, and get more support all along the way.https://smr.fm/academy

    37 min
  5. OCT 16

    Problems Are Fixable | Casey and Meygan Caston #698

    In this episode I'm joined by Casey and Meygan Caston of Marriage 365 - we discuss the challenges couples face in maintaining healthy marriages. We dive into the importance of intentionality, self-reflection, and personal responsibility in relationships. And highlight the unrealistic expectations set by societal norms and media portrayals of marriage, and the need for couples to focus on their own growth to foster a better partnership. Our conversation also touches on the significance of emotional connections and the fleeting nature of material success in achieving true happiness.  There is an importance of empowerment in marriage, emphasizing that individuals should focus on self-improvement rather than solely relying on their partners. We believe that most marriage problems are fixable with the right tools and mindset, and hope to encourage couples to engage in meaningful communication and self-discovery. Learn more about Casey and Meygan at their site - https://marriage365.com Takeaways People desire healthy marriages but often lack a plan. Many couples are winging it and using hope as a strategy. Loneliness in marriage can lead to a ticking time bomb. Society's portrayal of marriage creates unrealistic expectations. Happiness is often sought in external factors rather than within. Self-reflection is crucial for personal and relational growth. Healthy relationships are built on emotional connections. Couples often put their relationships on pause during busy seasons. True happiness comes from meaningful connections with others. It's about the couple working on the marriage together. Marriages are about working on yourself. Your marriage is working on you more than you ever could on it. Nothing that matters in life is a quick fix. Most marriage problems are fixable. Curiosity unlocks conversations within a relationship. Enjoy the show! Sponsors ... Uncommon Goods: Get 15% off your next gift, head over to https://uncommonoods.com/passion Honey Love: Treat yourself to the best bras. Get 20% Off your entire order with our exclusive link - https://honeylove.com/SMR SMR Getaway: Come get away with us June 19-21, 2025 in downtown Ft Worth. https://smr.fm/getaway

    49 min

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Conversations and actions to create a life and marriage fully alive! We explore the wisdom and skills of the relationship world's most passionate and brilliant minds. Through in-depth conversations with authors, counselors, psychologists, professors, doctors and specialists, each episode explores topics every relationship faces and offers conversation starters or actions you can take to propel your life and marriage into deeper and more meaningful directions. Find all our shows at https://smr.fm

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