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Get strong. Get attractive. Get a strong, joyful and intimate marriage. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy or couples counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength. Strong is sexy. And, it feels great. As I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to transform their marriages as well. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Get strong. Get attractive. Get the marriage of your dreams.

Strong Men Strong Marriages Mike Frazier, MD

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Get strong. Get attractive. Get a strong, joyful and intimate marriage. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy or couples counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength. Strong is sexy. And, it feels great. As I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to transform their marriages as well. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Get strong. Get attractive. Get the marriage of your dreams.

    How To Speed Up Trust Building - The #1 Change

    How To Speed Up Trust Building - The #1 Change

    It’s easy to get discouraged when you’re trying to change your marriage.


    You put in a lot of effort. You feel the changes. But, your wife just doesn’t seem to see them.


    How long is it going to take? How long do you have to keep this up?


    Today we’ll talk about the #1 internal shift that you need to make.


    It’s about committing to change for “the long haul” instead of putting a timeframe on it.


    As soon as you put a timeframe, even if it’s subconscious, you start becoming impatient.


    You also can become hopeless if it doesn’t happen on your timeframe.


    Impatient and hopeless are not attractive emotional states.


    Instead, commit to change and improvement “for the long haul.”


    And not for her, but for you, for God, for your kids.


    Learn more about how to do this and why it works so well in today’s episode.


    Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. https://strongmenstrongmarriages.buzzsprout.com/


    Watch on YouTube here. 


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!


    P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting NOW
    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.
    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!
    P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…
    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program
    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

    • 24 min
    My Wife Said She Would Be Fine If She Never Had Sex Again - What Do I Do?

    My Wife Said She Would Be Fine If She Never Had Sex Again - What Do I Do?

    What do you do when your wife says she would be fine if she never had sex again?


    You are certainly not fine with that idea. Why would she say such a thing?


    Today I’m joined by Amanda Louder at Amanda Louder Coaching and host of the Sex for Saints podcast.


    Her mission is to help Christian women embrace their sexuality and love their sex life.


    We discuss what your wife might be thinking when she says “I wouldn’t mind if we never had sex again…”


    How you can respond…


    And why it’s not as hopeless as it sounds.


    We also talk about how you might bring up working with Amanda to your wife if you think your wife might benefit from working with Amanda.


    Watch on YouTube here. 


    Dr. Mike


    If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

    • 33 min
    How To Overcome Disconnection In Marriage

    How To Overcome Disconnection In Marriage

    My wife and I are experiencing some disconnection right now.


    This happens at times in any marriage.


    But, what do you do to overcome it?


    Step 1 - Express your feelings, even when it might upset the other person. This isn’t just losing your temper, but explaining what you’re frustrated about. This requires spiritual, mental,  and emotional strength.


    Step 2 - Figure out what you actually want from the other person. This requires thought and effort.


    Step 3 - Ask for what you want. This requires courage and communication skills. 


    Step 4 - Listen to what your wife wants. This requires mental and emotional strength and communication skills.


    Step 5 - Follow through on what you commit to do for your wife. This requires integrity.


    Finally, have faith that as you do good, good will come. This is the strategy my wife and I have used many times to overcome times of disconnection, and it’s what will work again this time.


    Watch on YouTube here. 


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. These are the skills that I teach high achieving Christian men in my program, Love, Intimacy And Legacy. You’ll learn how to get through times of minor and major disconnection to create love and connection and leave a great legacy for your children to follow.  CLICK HERE to apply to join Love, Intimacy And Legacy.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

    • 20 min
    My Wife Keeps Bringing Up My Past Mistakes - What Do I Do?

    My Wife Keeps Bringing Up My Past Mistakes - What Do I Do?

    This is one of the most common problems I see in the men I work with.


    It can be VERY frustrating to feel like you’re changing, but have your wife keep bringing up your past mistakes.


    What you have to understand about this is that your wife is HURT.


    And YOU are the one who hurt her.


    And over time, the wound you have caused her has become infected.


    And so, when you tell her to “get over it” or “move forward” or “trust you,” you’re basically trying to put a band aid on an infection.


    Instead, you need to:
    Deeply understand her pain. This is like letting the wound drain.Make permanent changes. This is what helps the wound heal.

    Learn about these principles in today’s episode:


    Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages.


    Watch on YouTube here.


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. To make permanent changes, you need to:
    Identify and eliminate negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and actingReplace those with positive, attractive patternsRepeat those new patterns over and over until you can’t get them wrong

    These are the three steps we follow in my program, Love, Intimacy and Legacy.


    If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!



    P.P.S. Weekly wins from men in the program (anonymized for privacy):
    -Mental, emotional and sexual infidelity… even after infidelity
    -Fun at in-laws, where before it was always a pain
    -Turning old conflicts about parenting into more connection
    -Turning a bad mood from work into a good mood and enjoying a great evening with family

    • 27 min
    Meet My Wonderful Wife

    Meet My Wonderful Wife

    This is LONG overdue, but today you get to meet my wonderful wife Elizabeth!


    We had the chance to be interviewed by Chris and Suzanne Vester from the Faith. Family. Fulfillment podcast.


    Today you’ll hear from both of us about:


    -The negative patterns we had in our marriage
    -What it took to finally recognize them
    -What we did to overcome them
    -Her experience of me as a husband
    -How my owning my negatives changed our marriage for the better


    You’ll get a sense of just how amazing she is, and you will definitely be hearing more from her in the future on the podcast.


    Hear the full interview on today’s podcast on Strong Men Strong Marriages.


    Watch on YouTube here.


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY…


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

    • 31 min
    The Best Books For Your Christian Marriage

    The Best Books For Your Christian Marriage

    After reading hundreds of books on marriage, dating and relationships, here are the books that have most shaped my thinking on how to help men with their marriages:


    -The Bible (In particular: Love your neighbor as yourself)
    -The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
    -Leadership And Self-Deception by The Arbinger Institute
    -Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch


    As an honorable mention:
    -How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie


    Each of these books give powerful tools and ideas that can help you be a better man and have a better marriage.


    Learn more about this in today’s podcast on Strong Men Strong Marriages.


    Watch on YouTube here.

    But, books and podcasts are not enough to really transform your marriage.


    You have patterns of thoughts, feelings and actions that are deep in your brain.


    Learning something new from a book feels good, and maybe you make a few changes… but they don’t last. Because your brain hasn’t been rewired from unattractive to attractive.


    To really transform your life… so that you consistently act in Christlike ways towards your wife… even in difficult situations (turning you down for sex, spending too much money, criticizing you, etc)...


    You need to:
    -Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
    -Replace them with positive, attractive patterns
    -Repeat those new patterns until you can’t get them wrong


    Now you “win” every interaction with your wife. Because you’re prepared for it. You win by acting in a Christlike way.


    That’s what I do as a coach. Help men prepare to “win” in their interactions with their wives by being Christlike men.


    When you do that, you feel amazing. You are far more attractive. And you set an example for your children and a legacy to follow.


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy and Legacy program.


    Rewire your brain so that you become the man that God, you, your wife and your kids want you to be.


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to:


    -Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
    -Create new, attractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting
    -Repeat those new patterns until you can’t get them wrong 


    So you can build yourself in to the man that God wants you to be, create incredible mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, create an amazing legacy for your family to follow…


    Starting TODAY…


    CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program.


    You’ll schedule a call and fill out an application that we’ll review on the call. I’m looking forward to speaking with you!

    • 34 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
64 Ratings

64 Ratings

Jjcarr ,

Phenomenal marriage podcast

The first marriage podcast that I’ve listened to that addresses Christian sexuality in a way that honors wives. This is life-changing to hear for both men & women.

jonny759 ,

Great podcast

This is a great podcast. It helps you to become the greatest version of yourself. Dr. Mikes methods are very useful so sign up to get great results!

Koerper ,

Christian marriage book episode

Enjoyed your comments but hoping you will regain your testimony in the church. Leaving out the Book or Mormon, other scriptures, and modern day prophets is a big disappointment. Hoping you will come back!

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