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Get strong. Get attractive. Get a strong, joyful and intimate marriage. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy or couples counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength. Strong is sexy. And, it feels great. As I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to transform their marriages as well. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Get strong. Get attractive. Get the marriage of your dreams.

Strong Men Strong Marriages Mike Frazier, MD

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Get strong. Get attractive. Get a strong, joyful and intimate marriage. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy or couples counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength. Strong is sexy. And, it feels great. As I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to transform their marriages as well. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Get strong. Get attractive. Get the marriage of your dreams.

    How To Manage Your High Achieving Brain

    How To Manage Your High Achieving Brain

    What do you want to accomplish in your marriage?


    In your career?


    With your money?


    As a high achieving man, you’re used to setting goals and reaching them.


    But why is it that when you reach them, you STILL don’t feel fulfilled?


    Why do you immediately start seeking the NEXT big goal?


    Why do you tend to spend money or pick a fight with your wife or get mad at your kids…


    Right when things seem to be going well?


    You’ll find answers to these questions in today’s episode, which is a summary of some of the concepts from the book Driven by Douglas Brackmann.


    Watch on YouTube here.


    Dr. Mike

    P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. https://mikefraziermd.mykajabi.com/savemymarriage

    • 25 min
    Don't Ask: What Do You Do For Me?

    Don't Ask: What Do You Do For Me?

    Have you ever asked your wife… “What do you do for me?”


    So have I. And so have most of my clients.


    How did it go for you?


    Did your wife become more loving and connected?


    Or angry, hurt or guilty?


    Learn why this question is terrible…


    And what to do instead to have your wife start doing more for you…


    In today’s episode.


    Watch on YouTube here. 


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. Interested in joining The Strong Man System but want to chat first to see if it’s a fit? Schedule a 20 minute Marriage Assessment here. We’ll talk about where you are in your marriage, where you want to go, and if we’re a fit to work together. Whether we work together after or not, I want this to be the best 20 minutes you’ve spent on your marriage. CLICK HERE to schedule your Marriage Assessment.

    P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. https://mikefraziermd.mykajabi.com/savemymarriage

    • 17 min
    LDS Faith Crisis In Marriage

    LDS Faith Crisis In Marriage

    My wife and I were both born and raised members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.


    A few years back, my wife started to have some questions about the Church.


    This was VERY hard on me… to the point that I thought if she wasn’t going to be a member of the Church, it would be better if we got divorced.


    Fast forward to now, we have both evolved in our faith and belief in God…


    And have a STRONGER marriage because of our “faith crisis.”


    This is more of a personal episode, sharing what helped us get through it and build MORE intimacy because of our LDS faith crisis.


    Watch on YouTube here.


    Dr. Mike


    P.S. Interested in joining The Strong Man System but want to chat first to see if it’s a fit? Schedule a 20 minute Marriage Assessment here. We’ll talk about where you are in your marriage, where you want to go, and if we’re a fit to work together. Whether we work together after or not, I want this to be the best 20 minutes you’ve spent on your marriage. CLICK HERE to schedule your Marriage Assessment.

    P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. 

    • 34 min
    Why You Need To Rest

    Why You Need To Rest

    When you lift weights, you create small tears in your muscles.


    If you keep lifting weights without resting, these tears just get bigger, making you WEAKER over time.


    That’s why it’s IMPERATIVE that you REST and eat well if you’re trying to build muscle.


    The muscle REGROWS bigger and stronger while you REST.


    The same is true of building spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength…


    And the interpersonal skills of trust, communication, and intimacy.


    You need to work to build the strengths and skills.


    But you ALSO need to let yourself REST and RECOVER for optimal results.


    Learn some of my favorite tools to rest and recover in today’s episode.


    Watch on YouTube here.
    Dr. Mike

    P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. 

    • 19 min
    Stop Procrastinating Your Apology To Your Wife

    Stop Procrastinating Your Apology To Your Wife

    Men WAIT to apologize to their wife.


    They FEAR that bringing up all their flaws will make things WORSE.


    Or, they’re too PRIDEFUL to see their mistakes (or how bad the mistakes are).


    Both of these responses REPEL your wife instead of attracting her.

    Instead:


    OWN your mistakes COMPLETELY and HONESTLY (requires you to set aside your pride)TELL your wife your mistakes and understand the PAIN they caused (trust me, you’re not going to surprise her. She already KNOWS your flaws. That’s why she’s lost attraction to you).GET TO WORK every day DELIBERATELY working on your flaws

    This is the pattern to becoming the STRONG and ATTRACTIVE man that becomes BEST FRIENDS and INTIMATE LOVERS with his wife.


    Watch on YouTube here. 


    Dr. Mike

    P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. 

    • 21 min
    Why You Should Treat Your Wife Like Your Pet

    Why You Should Treat Your Wife Like Your Pet

    When your dog is hungry, do you…


    A. Tell your dog it’s not time to eat yet and why he shouldn’t be hungry
    B. Tell your dog you’re hungry too and he should be more considerate
    C. Tell your dog that you have needs too and he shouldn’t be so selfish
    D. Try to talk your dog out of wanting food
    E. Get the dog some food


    Unfortunately, we often use A-D when our wife needs something from us.


    When your wife is upset with you, what she is HUNGRY for is UNDERSTANDING.


    Learn HOW to RECOGNIZE that need and GIVE that understanding in today’s episode.


    Watch on YouTube here.


    Dr. Mike

    P.S. If you’re a high achieving man trying to save his marriage, you’re probably making one of the 3 FATAL MISTAKES that will drive your wife away instead of ATTRACTING her to you. CLICK HERE to watch the free training. 

    • 16 min

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New listener

I just started listening 1 week ago and my mind has been blown. The concept of how being a nice guy is killing the romance in my marriage is life changing. I’ve always wanted to blame my wife for our lack of romance despite catering to her every need. I knew I needed to focus more on myself since I can’t change her, but now I know why and what needs to change and that has given me a sense of empowerment.

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I wish I would have found this sooner

I am 4 weeks almost 5 into separation and I am devastated. My wife and I met at 18 and 17 years old and fell in love fast and hard! Within 6 months she was pregnant and a year later we married. We have been married for 10 years coming Aug 2021. I find myself so complacent in my marriage, not focused, going through the motions, no improvement, so very immature in my emotions. My temper has caused many problems! My wife left me., 3 daughters and she left, just wants space. I feel like this podcast has helped me understand I have to be better for ME before she’ll ever consider coming back. I am thankful for this show and the advice. I’m trying to stay strong, but wow this is tough!!!

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