Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

Shelby Milford
Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target alienated parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation), coercive control, DV by proxy, post-separation legal abuse, forced estrangement, and/or domestic abuse. #parentalalienationrecovery #forcedestrangement #coercivecontrol #childpsychologicalabuse #estrangement #postseparationlegalabuse

  1. Are You Suppressing Your Grief? Here's How to Tell

    JUL 3

    Are You Suppressing Your Grief? Here's How to Tell

    In episode 144, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents, focusing on the tendencies to desensitize and emotionally withdraw from their parenting roles. She shares personal experiences and observations on how coping mechanisms like masking emotions, disengaging from the parental role, and withdrawing socially can affect both the parent and the child. Shelby emphasizes the importance of resilience, processing emotions, and maintaining a connection with one's children to foster healing and potentially restore relationships in the future. Practical advice and insights on self-awareness, adaptive coping strategies, and the impact of emotional numbing are provided to help parents navigate their struggles. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:14 Understanding Emotional Desensitization 01:25 Personal Experiences with Desensitization 02:18 Common Coping Mechanisms 07:24 Recognizing Desensitization in Yourself 19:21 Differentiating Resilience from Desensitization 22:20 Coping Strategies and Their Impact 25:58 The Cycle of Numbing and Groundhog Day 26:20 Empathy and Connection in Resilience 27:30 Impact of Desensitization on Relationships 28:44 Maintaining Meaningful Relationships 29:54 Self-Awareness and Emotional Processing 31:49 The Role of Goals in Resilience 33:23 Welcoming All Emotions 36:30 Effects of Desensitizing on Parent-Child Relationships 41:40 Avoidance and Its Consequences 44:21 Personal Reflections and Final Thoughts 48:00 4th of July and Fireworks #parentalalienationrecovery #podcastforalienatedparents

    53 min
  2. What Are You Willing To Accept In Your Life & WHY? For Alienated Parents

    JUN 18

    What Are You Willing To Accept In Your Life & WHY? For Alienated Parents

    Defining Personal Standards & Boundaries for Alienated Parents In Episode 142 of the 'Beyond The High Road Podcast', host Shelby Milford emphasizes the importance for alienated parents to define and maintain personal standards and boundaries in their lives. After thanking a reviewer and encouraging listeners to submit their own reviews, Shelby transitions into the main topic: evaluating what you currently accept in your life, and what you want moving forward. She stresses understanding the reasons behind both positive and negative self-talk, keeping commitments to oneself, the impact of relationships, and the difference between acceptance and resignation. Using personal anecdotes and practical advice, Shelby aims to empower listeners to set clear goals and standards, ultimately leading to a more purposeful and fulfilling life. https://beyondthehighroad.com/mystandardsforlife 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:05 Reflecting on Last Week's Episode 03:05 Understanding Acceptance and Setting Standards 09:46 Empowerment Through Acceptance 17:22 Your Commitments and Self-Care 29:55 Evaluating Relationships and Setting Boundaries 33:03 Understanding Relationship Boundaries 34:01 Living Up to External Expectations 35:00 Setting Personal Boundaries 35:51 A Defining Moment: Personal Story 43:39 The Quality of Your Self-Talk 45:47 Root Causes of Acceptance 52:26 Shifting Your Mindset 53:45 Creating a Compelling Reason 01:00:09 Final Thoughts and Resources #ParentalAlienationRecovery #ParentalAlienation #AlienatedParent

    1h 4m
  3. SO Much Time Has Gone By with NO Change. Now What? For Alienated Parents

    JUN 12

    SO Much Time Has Gone By with NO Change. Now What? For Alienated Parents

    Overcoming Directionlessness: Creating Purpose and Progress for Alienated Parents In episode 141 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford addresses the pervasive feelings of directionlessness, purposelessness, hopelessness, and helplessness many alienated parents experience. Shelby shares her personal struggles and offers a comprehensive approach to creating change by advocating for self-empowerment through detailed goal-setting and actionable plans. She emphasizes the importance of having a structured, measurable, and adaptable plan for achieving long-term goals, thus transforming how you see yourself and your circumstances. Key strategies include envisioning the future, setting specific milestones, focusing on process over outcomes, linking behaviors to future goals, and maintaining adaptability. She also highlights the pitfalls of relying on others and underlines the necessity of taking ownership and proactive steps to move one's life forward. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:12 Feeling Stuck and Directionless 02:10 The Importance of Having a Plan 03:38 Personal Experiences and Realizations 11:18 Why Alienated Parents Don't Set Goals 18:46 Consequences of Not Having a Plan 28:37 Steps to Set and Follow Goals 28:55 The Importance of Detailed Planning 29:25 Envisioning Your Future 30:17 Setting Measurable Goals 31:31 Prioritizing Process Over Outcome 33:24 Linking Behaviors to Your Future Self 37:57 Tracking Progress and Celebrating Wins 41:51 Staying Flexible and Adaptive 45:33 Taking Control of Your Custody Case 53:20 Final Thoughts and Encouragement #parentalalienationrecovery

    58 min
  4. When They Want To Change Their Name: A Healing Guide for Alienated Parents

    JUN 5

    When They Want To Change Their Name: A Healing Guide for Alienated Parents

    Episode 140 examines the deep-seated fears and emotional turmoil experienced by alienated parents when their child decides to change their name. Shelby discusses this complex issue from multiple angles, including the parent's perspective of hurt and rejection, the child's motivations, and the potential psychological impacts on the child. The episode is structured to first address the parent's feelings, then delve into the children's reasoning behind such decisions, and finally offer strategies for parents to cope and maintain emotional stability. Shelby emphasizes understanding, compassion, and focusing on the child's internal struggles as key to navigating this challenging situation. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:15 Understanding the Emotional Impact of Name Changes 02:21 The Significance of Names in Identity 05:15 Parental Reactions to Name Changes 14:16 The Role of Parental Alienation in Name Changes 20:04 Reinventing Identity and Seeking Control 31:57 Manipulation by Alienating Parent and Emotional Needs 33:27 Identity and Long-Term Implications 33:54 Personal Story: My Brother's Experience 36:23 Emotional Repercussions of Name Changes 37:15 Guilt, Shame, and Emotional Distress 39:27 Loneliness and Isolation 40:38 Psychological Impact and Identity Confusion 41:42 How to Support Both You & Your Alienated Child 50:50 Respecting Autonomy and Individuality 53:15 Seek Understanding and Compassion 58:58 Focus on Healing and Resilience 01:00:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement #parentalalienation #PodcastForAlienatedParents #ParentalAlienationRecovery #NameChangesByAlienatedChild

    1h 3m
4.9
out of 5
44 Ratings

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Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target alienated parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation), coercive control, DV by proxy, post-separation legal abuse, forced estrangement, and/or domestic abuse. #parentalalienationrecovery #forcedestrangement #coercivecontrol #childpsychologicalabuse #estrangement #postseparationlegalabuse

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