Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation Shelby Milford

Story Alchemy: Transforming Our Inner Narratives

In episode 95 of the Beyond The High Road podcast, Shelby Milford discusses the impact of the stories we tell ourselves and how they influence our happiness. She emphasizes the importance of re-evaluating and reframing these narratives to improve our interactions and mental well-being. Shelby shares examples from her clients to illustrate how holding onto negative beliefs can create unnecessary stress and dissatisfaction. She also introduces a new feature on Spotify that allows listeners to leave comments and interact with her directly. Tune in to learn practical strategies for transforming your mindset and finding joy in your current reality.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:37 The Stories We Tell Ourselves
03:04 Client Examples and Insights
07:12 The Power of Neutralizing Stories
13:27 The Farmer and His Horse: A Parable
16:35 Taking Control of Your Narrative
29:50 Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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In episode 94 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, host Shelby Milford discusses her insights and lessons learned from a tumultuous weekend and delves into the common traits among alienated parents and their potential links to childhood trauma stemming from the roles played by their own parent(s). She explores the possibility that many alienated parents might have experienced trauma as a result of growing up with a parent displaying traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) or Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Shelby emphasizes the importance of understanding these roots to aid in healing and offers words of encouragement and advice for setting boundaries. She highlights the significance of consistent support among alienated parents and provides practical advice on joining her private Facebook group for further community and support. She concludes by encouraging listeners to balance reflecting on past experiences with focusing on their present and future healing journeys.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview

00:22 Current Events and Personal Reflections

01:42 Podcast Announcements and Community Guidelines

03:42 Listener Reviews and Feedback

05:24 Addressing Negative Feedback

10:42 Personal Insights and Reflections

16:53 Introduction to Today's Topic

18:17 Exploring Common Traits Among Alienated Parents

20:13 Reflecting on Childhood Perceptions

21:08 Realizing Differences in Family Dynamics

21:54 Understanding Attachment Styles

23:30 The Impact of Parental Behavior

24:45 Healing and Moving Forward

26:25 Exploring Parental Personality Disorders

30:14 Personal Reflections and Client Insights

32:35 Empowerment Through Self-Awareness

35:44 Balancing Past and Future

43:46 Final Thoughts and Future Discussions



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In episode 93 of the Beyond the High Road podcast, Shelby Milford celebrates approaching the 100-episode milestone while working on a 'best of' collection. Shelby discusses the importance of physical exercise and nutrition in managing the prolonged freeze response and nervous system dysregulation experienced by many alienated parents. She shares personal anecdotes about reconnecting with physical fitness and offers practical advice on starting simple exercise routines and healthy eating habits to improve overall well-being and energy levels. Shelby emphasizes the powerful impact of exercise on mental and emotional health and encourages listeners to take proactive steps in caring for their bodies to better navigate their trauma and daily stresses.

00:00 Introduction and Upcoming Milestone
01:39 Listener Reviews and Feedback
02:59 Understanding Trauma Responses
05:51 The Importance of Physical Exercise
06:49 Mindset and Motivation for Exercise
07:39 Practical Tips for Staying Active
25:33 The Role of Diet in Mental and Physical Health
33:41 Conclusion and Encouragement

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From Freeze to Freedom: From The Journal of an Alienated Parent

In Episode 92 of the Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford takes a deep dive into her personal struggles and triumphs during a bleak period of parental alienation. Sharing raw excerpts from her journal, Shelby revisits moments of heartache, confusion, and eventual self-realization. She relives a poignant school event with her daughter overshadowed by her stepmom's invasive presence, and reflects on her emotional journey from victimhood to empowerment. With insights on managing trauma responses, reclaiming personal power, and the cathartic process of journaling, this episode offers a beacon of hope for alienated parents navigating their own dark times.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:45 Reflecting on Scarcity and Fear
02:17 Sharing Personal Writings
03:31 A Heartbreaking School Event
08:05 Lessons from Alienation
14:07 Group Coaching Experience
18:49 Health Struggles and PTSD
21:18 The Pain of Alienation
27:55 Finding Strength and Moving Forward
32:20 Encouragement and Final Thoughts


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Break Free from Stagnancy: Activate Purpose and Overcome Fear

In episode 91 of 'Beyond the High Road' with Shelby Milford, Shelby discusses the importance of overcoming the feeling of being stuck and finding purpose. She emphasizes the necessity of breaking out of survival mode by taking proactive steps, even when it feels uncomfortable or uncertain. By sharing personal experiences and practical advice, Shelby encourages listeners to commit to small, purposeful actions that build momentum and lead to meaningful change. She also highlights the role of shifting perspectives, setting new patterns, and facing fears to create a more fulfilling life. Throughout the episode, Shelby underscores the importance of creating a strong foundation for oneself in order to be better positioned to support others, including one's children.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements
02:36 Understanding Functional Freeze
05:34 Breaking Free from Survival Mode
08:34 Facing the Fear of the Unknown
13:05 Taking Action and Creating Change
20:49 Commitment to Personal Growth
26:40 Practical Tips for Getting Unstuck
28:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts


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Coping with Functional Freeze as an Alienated Parent

In episode 90 of Beyond the High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford shares her personal experiences and insights about functional freeze, especially in the context of being an alienated parent. She discusses the symptoms of functional freeze, how the condition can often be mistaken for depression, and the physiological responses involved. Shelby also offers practical solutions such as breathing exercises, dance parties, and somatic healing techniques to help move out of this state. The episode aims to provide understanding, compassion, and effective strategies for parents dealing with the emotional and physical impacts of alienation.

00:00 Introduction and Announcements
05:33 Understanding Functional Freeze
09:31 Personal Experiences with Functional Freeze
16:26 Symptoms and Signs of Functional Freeze
22:15 Impact on Daily Life and Coping Strategies
32:55 Living with Heightened Anxiety
33:58 Startling Easily and Seeing Shadows
34:52 Understanding Functional Freeze
36:13 Solutions for Functional Freeze
41:28 Breathing Exercises and Dance Parties
48:25 Connecting with Emotions and Overcoming Trauma
54:29 Compassion for Yourself and Others
58:05 Final Thoughts and Encouragement


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