25 episodes
Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation Shelby Milford
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5.0 • 13 Ratings
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Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation) and/or domestic abuse.
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24. Dealt a Bad Hand? ♠️🃏...Or Maybe....🤔
Do you find yourself saying things like:
"Why me?"
"I'll never find happiness again. It's just not in my cards"
"I was just destined to have a s****y life. Alienation proved this true."
I GET IT. I was there too. It was a foundational belief that affected my results on every level or many years. I felt like I had my own ecosystem of black clouds & buzzards flying over my head on the constant. I hated how I felt. I hated how it showed up in my life. So, with a ton of determination and perseverance, I made new thought habits that proved this belief wrong.
BUT.... Know what I found out this week? A fragment of this belief still lingers in my subconscious mind. In this episode, I share with you 1.) my life before I did the work 2.) the work I did 3.) how the thought showed up the other day, 4.) and my philosophy on what my circumstance of alienation provided for me.
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23. When You Wish Things Were Different
We all do it. We've been conditioned to live much of our lives wishing our circumstances were different than they are. As little kids we wish we had someone else's toys, their lunches... as teens, we wished we had different teachers, hair, and even different parents. And...on into adulthood, much of the same.
As a parent experiencing the effects of alienation, of COURSE you've been here. We wish life would go back to the way it was before -- you know, in the "normal days". You wish that the alienating parent (and/or your children) would come to their senses; that the family courts would finally get their shit together; that you could kiss your babe on the forehead at night; or even just that you could do simple/otherwise mundane "parent things", like making dinner, carpooling to weekday ______ practice, and back to school shopping, like "all the other parents out there".
The thing is, when we spend our time wishing life would be different, we miss how it COULD be different. We miss out on opportunities to SEE it differently -- with fresh eyes and new ideas. Listen to this episode to get the 411 on how to begin the conversation with yourself, and how to move thru the "stuck-edness" of living in "if only" and start living in a world of your own possibility.
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22. When You Feel Shaken: Bullied By The Alienator
We all know the feeling. You know, the impending doom feeling you get when you hear your email ding..? How you duck into the booth at the restaurant to avoid the confrontation? Dodging them at community or school events, for fear of being chastised? Yep, the worst. In this episode, I share with you a few ways to help you break from from the overwhelm, and begin to start seeing their efforts for what they are.
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21. The Pain Of Alienation: Reasons We Hold On & Why It's Imperative To Let Go
As an alienated parent, you will likely always hold on to grief; however, your feelings of anger, helplessness, regret, & shame, can and should be ones that you have authority over. But.. its very possible that your lower brain is keeping you stuck, because it thinks you're safest in familiarity (even tho that familiar place happens to be smack dab in the middle of Suffering). In this episode, I share my thoughts on
WHY (I think) you need to heal
the 4 main reasons you might be holding on to pain & suffering on an unconscious level
my rebuttals to each one of the above objections/excuses your mind is trying to give you
HOW you can begin to rewire your brain to help you, rather than keep you in harm's way
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20. Your Worthiness/ Your Purpose
If you're experiencing any degree of alienation, you know firsthand the effects it can have on your perceived role at home, the office, and in the community around you. I share with you:
my thoughts on worthiness
the struggle that many of us go thru when it comes to finding our purpose
why we endlessly search, and
how to finally find satisfaction and peace, knowing we are doing exactly what we are intended for
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19. Anger/Negativity as Your Default Setting & Who Holds Your Power
As an alienated parent, you’ve been thru HELL. When we experience repeated & ongoing abuse, our lower brain adopts the message that the world is a scary & bad place. But, the lower brain doesn’t understand that, by doing this, it’s only perpetuating your suffering. How to recognize when negativity is your unconscious undertone, and how to teach your mind to default to a more helpful way of thinking.
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Customer Reviews
Shelby! Actionable Words!
Shelby, thank you for taking the time to share your words really resonate and provide genuine support for Parent Alienation Compounded by experiencing a Custody Battle. Taking control of the scenario isn’t common talking points. Starting with processing emotions that keep me from doing stuff. I haven’t found a therapist that gets this space. I have hope :)
I’m so grateful to have found this.
I’m going to avoid the want to write things like “oh my God, that’s exactly how I feel!!” or “thank God for your hard work” and I’m going to write an actual review. This show, for me, is Raw. Honest. Brutal. Caring. Supportive. Helpful. Accurate. For 4 years I have been to afraid to listen to a show like this. I couldn’t bare the pain that they bring up. Shelby, however, seems to convey that she understands that feeling and gently yet firmly delivers her honest accounts. The insight is both profound AND obvious. And by obvious I mean like “Oh yeah… of course I feel that way. I just didn’t acknowledge it.” Shelby points out self reflective insight as well as provides ideas or solutions for issues her listeners my be dealing with. Her delivery is calm, but not without emotion. There just seems to be an acceptance in her voice. She has found a way, for me at least, to approach subjects I just wouldn’t go near. I HIGHLY suggest listening. Thank you Shelby.
At Last a Podcast for Us
Shelby, thank you for giving this to the world. Each episode is a star in a sometimes very dark sky. You are helping me with more than one ray of hope and providing encouragement that life isn’t over for me without my active role as mother in play. I hope to “see” you and be seen at the holiday support groups if my work schedule allows. Support groups are much needed. Good luck! ✨