Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

Shelby Milford
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Beyond The High Road of Parental Alienation

Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target alienated parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation), coercive control, DV by proxy, post-separation legal abuse, forced estrangement, and/or domestic abuse. #parentalalienationrecovery #forcedestrangement #coercivecontrol #childpsychologicalabuse #estrangement #postseparationlegalabuse

  1. Surviving Turmoil w/ Self Compassion vs. Self Pity for Alienated Parents

    16H AGO

    Surviving Turmoil w/ Self Compassion vs. Self Pity for Alienated Parents

    Navigating Personal Loss and Understanding Self-Pity vs. Self-Compassion In this episode of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford opens up about the impact of dealing with a series of unfortunate events and the broader implications of experiences on our mental health. She transitions to explore the profound difference between self-pity and self-compassion as it relates to parental alienation. Drawing from her own experiences, she explains how self-pity can trap us in a cycle of hopelessness and isolation, whereas self-compassion provides a path toward healing and resilience. Through personal anecdotes and reflective insights, she encourages listeners to recognize and embrace their pain as part of the human experience, ultimately advocating for a shift from self-pity to self-compassion. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Update 00:26 Dealing with Pet Loss 03:45 Self-Pity vs. Self-Compassion 12:00 Choosing Self-Compassion 21:37 The Impact of Self-Pity 26:11 The Dangers of Repeating Trauma 28:27 Understanding Self-Pity 28:49 Embracing Self-Compassion 32:47 The Impact of Self-Pity on Mental Health 38:17 Moving from Self-Pity to Self-Compassion 43:48 The Value of Suffering and Connection 47:51 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

    49 min
  2. Creative Solutions: Trust Your Instincts To Make It Happen for Alienated Parents

    JUL 9

    Creative Solutions: Trust Your Instincts To Make It Happen for Alienated Parents

    Becoming Your Own Fountain of Resources Come listen to Shelby's personal and heartwarming story about rescuing an orphaned duckling, Buck, using it to illustrate valuable lessons on resilience, self-reliance, and overcoming obstacles following parental alienation. Shelby emphasizes the importance of trusting your instincts, especially when external help is not forthcoming, and relates this to the experiences of alienated parents. She discusses how friction and challenges are necessary for growth and call for adaptive, creative problem-solving. Shelby also touches on how external judgment and perceived lack of support can be distractions that hinder progress. By drawing from her recent experiences and reflections, Shelby offers practical advice on staying focused and resilient in the face of adversity.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:30 Personal Updates and Recent Events 02:39 Texas Flooding and Community Impact 04:53 The Duckling Dilemma 07:23 Challenges in Finding Help 11:43 Confrontation, Judgement, and Scrutiny 16:16 Realizations and Taking Action 22:49 Success in Reuniting the Duck 28:36 Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts 37:39 Conclusion and Farewell #ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastForAlienatedParents #AlienatedMom

    38 min
  3. Are You Suppressing Your Grief? Here's How to Tell

    JUL 3

    Are You Suppressing Your Grief? Here's How to Tell

    In episode 144, Shelby discusses the emotional challenges faced by alienated parents, focusing on the tendencies to desensitize and emotionally withdraw from their parenting roles. She shares personal experiences and observations on how coping mechanisms like masking emotions, disengaging from the parental role, and withdrawing socially can affect both the parent and the child. Shelby emphasizes the importance of resilience, processing emotions, and maintaining a connection with one's children to foster healing and potentially restore relationships in the future. Practical advice and insights on self-awareness, adaptive coping strategies, and the impact of emotional numbing are provided to help parents navigate their struggles. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:14 Understanding Emotional Desensitization 01:25 Personal Experiences with Desensitization 02:18 Common Coping Mechanisms 07:24 Recognizing Desensitization in Yourself 19:21 Differentiating Resilience from Desensitization 22:20 Coping Strategies and Their Impact 25:58 The Cycle of Numbing and Groundhog Day 26:20 Empathy and Connection in Resilience 27:30 Impact of Desensitization on Relationships 28:44 Maintaining Meaningful Relationships 29:54 Self-Awareness and Emotional Processing 31:49 The Role of Goals in Resilience 33:23 Welcoming All Emotions 36:30 Effects of Desensitizing on Parent-Child Relationships 41:40 Avoidance and Its Consequences 44:21 Personal Reflections and Final Thoughts 48:00 4th of July and Fireworks #parentalalienationrecovery #podcastforalienatedparents

    53 min
  4. The 3 Minute Life Hack To Move Alienated Parents Out of Negativity

    JUN 26

    The 3 Minute Life Hack To Move Alienated Parents Out of Negativity

    Turning Negativity into Empowerment: Strategies for Alienated ParentsIn episode 143 of the Beyond The High Road Podcast, Shelby Milford shares a heartfelt and insightful discussion about dealing with negativity, particularly meant for alienated parents. Shelby begins by sharing a personal story about finding a duckling and the challenges of unexpected situations. She then delves into the pervasive negativity that alienated parents often face, discussing how it stems from survival mode and past traumas. Shelby offers practical exercises to shift from a negative to a positive mindset, including evaluating daily events objectively and rewriting personal narratives. Through these methods, she aims to help parents break free from the cycle of negativity, enabling them to lead more joyful and productive lives.00:00 Introduction and Episode Teaser00:09 Unexpected Duckling Encounter02:33 Dealing with Negativity06:24 Client's Story and Negativity Bias13:26 Changing Your Narrative16:41 Story Writing Exercise19:44 Personal Example of Overcoming Negativity21:57 Aggressive Confrontation and Arrest23:46 Reflecting on the Incident26:48 Reprogramming Your Mindset27:41 Daily Reflection Exercise29:11 Challenging Negative Thoughts31:54 Adopting Positive Perspectives37:41 Breaking Free from Victimhood41:34 Final Thoughts and Encouragement #ParentalAlienationRecovery #PodcastForAlienatedParents

    43 min
  5. What Are You Willing To Accept In Your Life & WHY? For Alienated Parents

    JUN 18

    What Are You Willing To Accept In Your Life & WHY? For Alienated Parents

    Defining Personal Standards & Boundaries for Alienated Parents In Episode 142 of the 'Beyond The High Road Podcast', host Shelby Milford emphasizes the importance for alienated parents to define and maintain personal standards and boundaries in their lives. After thanking a reviewer and encouraging listeners to submit their own reviews, Shelby transitions into the main topic: evaluating what you currently accept in your life, and what you want moving forward. She stresses understanding the reasons behind both positive and negative self-talk, keeping commitments to oneself, the impact of relationships, and the difference between acceptance and resignation. Using personal anecdotes and practical advice, Shelby aims to empower listeners to set clear goals and standards, ultimately leading to a more purposeful and fulfilling life. https://beyondthehighroad.com/mystandardsforlife 00:00 Introduction and Announcements 02:05 Reflecting on Last Week's Episode 03:05 Understanding Acceptance and Setting Standards 09:46 Empowerment Through Acceptance 17:22 Your Commitments and Self-Care 29:55 Evaluating Relationships and Setting Boundaries 33:03 Understanding Relationship Boundaries 34:01 Living Up to External Expectations 35:00 Setting Personal Boundaries 35:51 A Defining Moment: Personal Story 43:39 The Quality of Your Self-Talk 45:47 Root Causes of Acceptance 52:26 Shifting Your Mindset 53:45 Creating a Compelling Reason 01:00:09 Final Thoughts and Resources #ParentalAlienationRecovery #ParentalAlienation #AlienatedParent

    1h 4m

  6. JUN 14

    Honoring Alienated Dads: A Special Father's Day Message

    Father's Day Support for Alienated DadsIn this special bonus episode, Shelby addresses a missed acknowledgment of Father's Day and extends her heartfelt support to alienated dads. She discusses the struggles of lacking recognition from children and family, and emphasizes the importance of self-love and perseverance. Shelby encourages fathers to continue their efforts in maintaining a foundation for their children's return, while reminding them to honor and care for themselves. She also offers additional support for those who need it over the weekend through various communication channels. This episode is a poignant reminder of the unseen efforts and emotional battles faced by many fathers on Father's Day.00:00 Introduction and Apology01:58 Father's Day After Parental Alienation05:29 Recognizing the Pain for Alienated Fathers07:05 Encouragement and Support10:05 Closing Remarks and Contact Information #parentalalienationrecovery

    12 min
  7. SO Much Time Has Gone By with NO Change. Now What? For Alienated Parents

    JUN 12

    SO Much Time Has Gone By with NO Change. Now What? For Alienated Parents

    Overcoming Directionlessness: Creating Purpose and Progress for Alienated Parents In episode 141 of The Beyond The High Road Podcast, host Shelby Milford addresses the pervasive feelings of directionlessness, purposelessness, hopelessness, and helplessness many alienated parents experience. Shelby shares her personal struggles and offers a comprehensive approach to creating change by advocating for self-empowerment through detailed goal-setting and actionable plans. She emphasizes the importance of having a structured, measurable, and adaptable plan for achieving long-term goals, thus transforming how you see yourself and your circumstances. Key strategies include envisioning the future, setting specific milestones, focusing on process over outcomes, linking behaviors to future goals, and maintaining adaptability. She also highlights the pitfalls of relying on others and underlines the necessity of taking ownership and proactive steps to move one's life forward. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:12 Feeling Stuck and Directionless 02:10 The Importance of Having a Plan 03:38 Personal Experiences and Realizations 11:18 Why Alienated Parents Don't Set Goals 18:46 Consequences of Not Having a Plan 28:37 Steps to Set and Follow Goals 28:55 The Importance of Detailed Planning 29:25 Envisioning Your Future 30:17 Setting Measurable Goals 31:31 Prioritizing Process Over Outcome 33:24 Linking Behaviors to Your Future Self 37:57 Tracking Progress and Celebrating Wins 41:51 Staying Flexible and Adaptive 45:33 Taking Control of Your Custody Case 53:20 Final Thoughts and Encouragement #parentalalienationrecovery

    58 min
  8. When They Want To Change Their Name: A Healing Guide for Alienated Parents

    JUN 5

    When They Want To Change Their Name: A Healing Guide for Alienated Parents

    Episode 140 examines the deep-seated fears and emotional turmoil experienced by alienated parents when their child decides to change their name. Shelby discusses this complex issue from multiple angles, including the parent's perspective of hurt and rejection, the child's motivations, and the potential psychological impacts on the child. The episode is structured to first address the parent's feelings, then delve into the children's reasoning behind such decisions, and finally offer strategies for parents to cope and maintain emotional stability. Shelby emphasizes understanding, compassion, and focusing on the child's internal struggles as key to navigating this challenging situation. 00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 00:15 Understanding the Emotional Impact of Name Changes 02:21 The Significance of Names in Identity 05:15 Parental Reactions to Name Changes 14:16 The Role of Parental Alienation in Name Changes 20:04 Reinventing Identity and Seeking Control 31:57 Manipulation by Alienating Parent and Emotional Needs 33:27 Identity and Long-Term Implications 33:54 Personal Story: My Brother's Experience 36:23 Emotional Repercussions of Name Changes 37:15 Guilt, Shame, and Emotional Distress 39:27 Loneliness and Isolation 40:38 Psychological Impact and Identity Confusion 41:42 How to Support Both You & Your Alienated Child 50:50 Respecting Autonomy and Individuality 53:15 Seek Understanding and Compassion 58:58 Focus on Healing and Resilience 01:00:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement #parentalalienation #PodcastForAlienatedParents #ParentalAlienationRecovery #NameChangesByAlienatedChild

    1h 3m
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Heal your life following parental alienation. Supporting and inspiring target alienated parents in their journey to rebuild after experiencing the gut wrenching effects of unjustified cutoff from their child (aka parental alienation), coercive control, DV by proxy, post-separation legal abuse, forced estrangement, and/or domestic abuse. #parentalalienationrecovery #forcedestrangement #coercivecontrol #childpsychologicalabuse #estrangement #postseparationlegalabuse

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