U Up‪?‬ U Up?

J&J are jumping right into this week’s Sunday Special, kicking off with an “Icky or Picky?” about a delayed Hinge response. Our listener’s match explained that he took so long to get back to her because he only likes to focus on one match at a time, but she can’t decide if it’s unfair of her to be put off or if that was indeed too much too soon. Then, they get an email from a listener struggling to forgive herself for giving her ex a second chance despite problematic circumstances. J&J discuss who she's really mad at and what needs to change so she can move on in peace.

We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late 30s looking for long-term love and frequently finding short-term romance. He’s been quick to cut things off once he realized he and his dates weren’t looking for the same thing, but is he missing out on great experiences by doing so? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about sleep farts, childhood homes, and splitting the check.
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This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until his ex made a film about “the ups and downs of ‘young love’” based on their former relationship. She confronted her about the film and, when the ex claimed it was more about love in general, she asked for tickets. Her friends are egging her on to attend, but would that be petty? Next, we hear from a 35-year-old woman struggling with the men she’s meeting on the apps. She finds them all so…boring. She asks J&J a series of questions to adjust her approach (i.e. Should she lessen her expectations? Are these incompatibilities a deal breaker?), but they feel like she’s sidestepping an obvious factor in her problem.
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Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends.
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Benefits listeners, you’re in for a treat down several memory lanes in the lives of J&J! After joining us on the pod in March, Esther Perel gifted J&J with her conversation-starter game, “Where Should We Begin?” Today, they’re using her cards to guide them into conversations about various chapters of their life, past, present and hypothetical. Jared shares why he still remembers that time he didn’t meet NBA legend Larry Bird, we get to learn more about the end of Jordana’s situationship, what they would do if they could swap genders for a day, and more.

This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication.
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