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Calming the Chaos is a podcast by Licensed Mental Health Counselor Tracy Kenela, who interviews a variety of professionals around the world in an effort to find different ways to help people (and herself!) find peace in a chaotic world. Each episode contains Information, tips, tools, and resources that come from different schools of thought, and are presented as a fun and entertaining way to help you move toward a more peaceful and enjoyable life.

Calming the Chaos Tracy Kenela

    • Health & Fitness
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Calming the Chaos is a podcast by Licensed Mental Health Counselor Tracy Kenela, who interviews a variety of professionals around the world in an effort to find different ways to help people (and herself!) find peace in a chaotic world. Each episode contains Information, tips, tools, and resources that come from different schools of thought, and are presented as a fun and entertaining way to help you move toward a more peaceful and enjoyable life.

    The Chaos of Sensory Input

    The Chaos of Sensory Input

    Sensory Input and Chaos - Interview with Dr. Rebecca Jackson
    Today, our guest is Dr. Rebecca Jackson, a Board Certified Cognitive Specialist and Author of the book “Back on Track,” which is a practical guide to help people of all ages thrive in this age of sensory overload. Dr. Jackson will give us examples of sensory input, help us understand sensory overload, and suggest some ways we can calm the chaos of sensory overload.
    Key points and Timestamps:
    What are the things we DO have an influence on in this chaotic world, and be the best version of ourselves?
    2:48 Tracy displays Rebecca’s book “Back on Track”
    3:16: “The more I learn, the more I feel like I know nothing” ~ Rebecca
    4:16: Rebecca’s description of herself, who she is and what she is doing in neuropsychology. “I want to understand why things are here in the first place.”
    Rebecca started out as a chiropractor. As a young mom, she was interested in human development. She also has a passion for learning.
    As Rebecca learned more, parents would ask Rebecca, “Is this on track for my child?”
    Rebecca asked the question, “What can we do today so that we don’t have to worry about whether our children are on track?”
    7:40: “We’re sensing things all the time”
    7:55: What Rebecca does at BrainBalance - Chief Programs Officer (Builds and Develops new Programs for creating change in kids)
    10:10 Rebecca’s Book: Back on Track. “It’s all about hope and action plan.” Rebecca helps determine why things are the way they are, and what people can do to change it.
    “I feel like the pandemic took fire and poured fuel upon it.”
    “What are we prepared to do about the problems?”
    13:00 – The research about the infants born during the pandemic – different brains??! “Structural changes in the brain.” Tracy wonders about the children, pre-teens and teens during the pandemic and the changes in brain structure…even in adults!
    Could ALL of our brains have changed during the pandemic?
    What happened? “A change in our sensory experiences” happened during the pandemic
    We all experienced a limited sensory experience during the pandemic – “It’s the same, every day.”
    We cut off our rich and varied sensory experiences every day.
    It can disrupt attention, increase anxiety, disrupt our ability to regulate our moods
    17:36: “When we’re tired and hungry, our brain is more negative and has a harder time processing information.” We become vulnerable to emotion.
    20:20 Rebecca differentiates between
    • A sensory Overload
    • A Sensory Disregulation / Processing Disorder
    “We rely on our senses to give us accurate information”

    ARFID (Avoidant Restrictive Feeding Disorder)
    The lights in Target
    Am I overly sensitive
    “My sensory experience is not your sensory experience”
    26:33: “When there is a trauma experience, it puts the brain into a higher sense of sensory alert.”
    27:00 (Tracy) “The Bulls and the Butterflies” spectrum
    Sensory-Seekers and Sensory-Avoiders – Both a sign of maturity
    29:11: Should we use Tik-Tok to self-diagnose as neuro-divergent?
    DON’T go to Tik-Tok for Diagnostics
    DO Talk about Mental Health Concerns
    Sensory overload threshold doesn’t equal a Sensory Processing Disorder
    If you are wondering if you struggle with a Sensory Processing Disorder, go to the specialists for a Diagnosis
    31:45: Major Life Domains Palm Tree – if your condition is affecting your Life Domains, you might
    32:24: The Domains of Brain Health are Sensory, Motor, Cognitive, Social/Emotional and Behavioral
    Everything in the brain is so interconnected, so if something affects one area, it affects all of them
    34:20: How to approach being overly tired or sluggish: The Reticular Activating System has a direct impact on how we take in sensory information opens...

    • 49 min
    Calming the Chaotic Brain with Dominika Staniewicz

    Calming the Chaotic Brain with Dominika Staniewicz

    Calming the Chaotic Brain - Interview with Dominika Staniewicz
    Today, our guest is Dominika Staniewicz, one of the few Elite Neuroencoding specialists in the world. She is also Licensed as a Brain Coach by Dr. Amen, a renowned Neuropsychiatrist. Dominika helps people overcome a variety of mental and emotional issues using techniques like Brain Coaching, Neuroencoding and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). In this episode, we learn about how Dominika treats issues like trauma, stress, pain, depression, anxiety, ADHD, Anger and aggression using a mixture of science, neuroscience and psychology.
    Key points and Timestamps:
    2:26: What is Neuroencoding? “Using the body, mind, neuropathways and neuroplasticity to create lasting change in the brain, behavioral and emotional change.”
    5:14: Dominika tells how she made the shift from practicing Sociology, Education and Coaching to practicing as an Elite Neuroencoding Specialist and Brain Coach. “Life was Life-ing for me and I made a change.” Life Coaches helped her reduce her own issues significantly, and improve the quality of her life.
    Anger Management – The Amygdala and Hypothalamus
    9:23: “There is so much we now know about the Brain” Dominika’s tips on “optimizing the brain”
    Oxygenation and Gut Health
    Stress in Your Environment
    Vitamin D and the Sun and other supplements
    11:52: “Your brain is happy to change…if you direct it.”
    12:09: Ways to trick your brain – remember more and study less by throwing your brain off balance, studying, and going into deep rest or sleep afterward. (Stanford study)
    16:43: Can you see inside the brain? “Absolutely” – A Spect Scan
    18:55: Working with a client with ADHD - it can become a superpower with the right assistance, supplements and brain care!
    21:44: What can we do about the loss of hope?
    22:00: Case Study – A client of Dominika’s who was frustrated and unhappy about her work and her life. “The brain likes categorizing.”
    Sports analogy: People enjoy the journey and the progress they are making toward their goals
    25:52: Depression and the mirror exercise: High five yourself in the mirror and tell yourself “I love you.” Also, celebrate the things that go well during the day. Yoga and walking in green areas also help!
    Learning how to put your attention on the journey and the little things help depression.
    31:18: Chronic Pain suggestions – Ketamine Treatment at a facility in Arizona can help more quickly than Neuroencoding. Also, use medication (vs. self-medication)
    35:22: Dominika’s website tour – www.yourbraincoachd.com See Blog, Online Coaching Group and Book
    39:00: Overwhelm and “shooting for the stratosphere.”
    Parting thoughts: “Your brain…like your liver. can heal itself.” “There’s no reason to choose to be unhappy.”
    Dominika’s Website: https://www.yourbraincoachd.com/

    Chronic Pain Website: Dr. James at Advanced Wellness and Pain - 5111 N. Scottsdale Road, Suite 105 Scottsdale AZ 85250 or https://advancedwellnessandpain.com/

    Dominika’s Book – “The Magic of Dreaming Big, Acting Small and Achieving Success” at Amazon: https://amzn.to/3vukMAd

    #ADHD #Depression #mentalhealth

    • 44 min
    Helping Introverted People Date - With Jon Pethke

    Helping Introverted People Date - With Jon Pethke

    Dating Help for Shy and Introverted People - Interview with Jon Pethke
    Today, our guest is Jon Pethke, a United States Air Force Veteran out of Appleton, Wisconsin with a Bachelor Degree in Organizational Leadership who has developed a dating app specifically for shy and introverted people.

    Jon started development of the app in 2022 when he founded Introwoo LLC and partnered with CodeGlo Technologies. Together, they developed CoyAmore, the dating app for shy and introverted people.

    Join us as we talk with Jon about what inspired him to develop CoyAmore, how he developed the app, and how to use it. We will also take a tour of the app and his website to give the audience an idea of how it works. As an introvert himself, Jon will offer some dating advice to those who are shy or introverted and offer tips and tools to use in the dating world.
    Jon is currently working on his Masters in Science Degree in Sustainable Management at the University of Wisconsin Oshkosh. He currently works as an Internal Auditor for American Family Insurance while also working part time as an instructor for Fox Valley Technical College teaching veterans about small business development.

    Key points and Timestamps:
    2:02: Jon explains why he developed CoyAmore
    “Developing an App wasn’t easy at all” It took a year to develop CoyAmore, and it was released in May of 2023.
    A lot of time and patience went into developing CoyAmore.
    5:46 Jon explains how he developed the questions on CoyAmore specifically for shy and introverted people.
    • Based around the 5 universal love languages and paired with people who best fit your love languages
    • CoyAmore is different, and hopefully will help to create a community that helps shy and introverted people more comfortably engage with one another
    • The hope is to create more features (like a “Blind Date” Option) which is a second layer of matching that takes the fear of asking someone out on a date.
    8:45: Jon Explains how the App works, starting with the login process, and the intention of meeting up in person eventually. Tracy goes over the questions that CoyAmore asks when creating dating preferences.
    Smoking, drinking, political affiliations, height, Astrology, Love Languages, children, pets and movie genres
    For example: “What do you think about Astrology?” or “Cats or Dogs for Pets”
    14:05: More information about Jon and the work he is currently doing while going to Graduate School
    15:12: How did you come up with the name “CoyAmore” (or “ShyLove”)
    17:10 CoyAmore Website Tour and CoyAmore won the 2023 May Award for Best Mobile App!
    21:32: Tips for helping people feel more comfortable developing a dating profile
    • “Get support and talking with someone to help” to be as comfortable as possible reaching out
    “At the end of the day, to meet someone in any capacity you need to take a step out.”
    More people have problems getting a conversation going to figure out if they want to go out on a date
    Check out Jon’s blog at https://coyamore.com/blog/
    • Make a dating profile with support from others
    • Encouage yourself with positive suggestions
    • Like yourself and you can’t go wrong
    • Positive self-talk
    25:38: CoyAmore is in the first year of development so there is a small pool of people on it now. Be patient! And stay on as it continues to grow.

    Download CoyAmore at the following links:

    Apple Devices: https://apps.apple.com/in/app/coyamore-dating-for-introverts/id1661401116
    Google Play: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.codeglo.coyamore&pli=1

    Best Mobile App Award of May 2023! https://bestmobileappawards.com/app-submission/coyamore

    Jon’s Website: www.coyamore.com
    Check out Jon’s Blog! He posts every week:...

    • 28 min
    Jealous Minds - Overcoming Jealousy with Shanenn Bryant

    Jealous Minds - Overcoming Jealousy with Shanenn Bryant

    Jealous Minds - Interview with Shanenn Bryant
    Today, our guest is Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert and one of the select few who focus on jealousy in relationships. Many people have daily anxiety and mistrust of their partners, even without evidence of infidelity. This fear runs so deep from either childhood dysfunction or past infidelity that they’ve now developed insecure habits like checking their partner’s phone, text messages, and social media accounts for any signs of infidelity. Shanenn is here on Calming the Chaos Podcast to discuss jealousy, how it can hurt relationships, and how people can move past jealousy and into trusting relationships with themselves and others.
    Key points and Timestamps:
    2:42: Shanenn’s story of chaos and how she became a Jealousy Relationship Expert
    4:50: Shannen – “If my own father doesn’t love me, then why would anyone else?”
    5:50 Shannen – Jealousy is shameful for people to admit. “There’s a lot of time wasted when your attention is focused on your partner 90% of the time.”
    Jealousy affects all major life domains: Home, work, family, etc.
    7:27: Shanenn - The difference between jealousy and envy
    9:07 Shannen - How Jealousy shows up (3 ways)
    1. Projection – Have YOU cheated in the past, so jealousy is projected onto another person
    2. Protection – Were YOU in a relationship before where you were cheated on, so jealousy is protective
    3. Competition – Were YOU in a friend group where you were excluded or uninvited to events, so jealousy is competitive in nature.
    11:46: Tracy asks Shanenn to describe some situations where people are jealous
    Two buckets:
    1. Family of origin is unstable
    2. The adult experience of infidelity on you helped you to develop insecure habits of protection
    “Jealousy isn’t a problem, it’s a solution.” “What is the jealousy trying to solve?”
    13:47 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #1 to Shannen and she responds about what she would do
    1. No cheating is happening, but jealousy is happening.
    Shanenn: The first step is you need to get self-aware of what you are doing. Then, realize that it probably has nothing to do with what your partner is doing, but how YOU are perceiving what is going on. Then, asking yourself, “Why do you have so much fear about this?” Look at the beliefs and thoughts and check the facts.
    18:27 Tracy presents Hypothetical Jealousy Situation #2 to Shanenn and she responds about what she would do
    2. Cheating has happened in the past
    Shanenn: It’s important for the offender to come clean about the whole story of the infidelity one time, preferably in the presence of a professional. It’s also important to give the offended partner time to process it, and consider the information they REALLY want to know, and what information might hurt them.
    21:46: Tracy – Do you work with the person who ISN’T the jealous person? Setting boundaries and limits to questions and requests for reassurance. Work toward not providing reinforcement to the jealous partner
    24:40 Tracy – When is there manageable jealousy and toxic jealousy? How can we figure that out and take action? Consider whether the jealous person is seeking help or working on the problem, how much love they have for the jealous partner. Seek out therapy or coaching from someone like Shanenn.
    27:38 – Tracy describes how she works with couples who struggle with actual infidelity
    “I don’t know whether this couple will stay together or break it off, but I do know this is that through the process we will gain some clarity either way.
    Shanenn describes getting “kicked out” of couples therapy
    Tracy – Some therapists admit they are beyond their expertise, so they do need to refer couples on
    30:38: We tour Shanenn’s website and the products and services she has to offer www.topself.com
    Free resources from...

    • 40 min
    Healing from Heartbreak

    Healing from Heartbreak

    Ben Oofana offers some insights and suggestions for those who are struggling with romantic breakups.
    This podcast episode is being aired in the month of February, 2024, and is the start of the month where I focus on love and relationships.

    More show notes to come! In the meantime, take care and check Ben out on his website at www.benoofana.com

    Healing From Heartbreak - Interview with Ben Oofana

    Today, our guest is Ben Oofana who, after a succession of destructive relationships in his mid-twenties, realized that he was reenacting the traumas of his childhood and adolescence. He had been living among the Kiowa and Kiowa-Apache Indians had been chosen to be an apprentice for Horace Daukei, the last surviving traditional Kiowa Medicine Man. After the breakups, Ben developed a series of intensive meditation practices to help people heal from deep emotional wounding, which is the work he continues to do today. Join us as Ben tells his story and tells us how we can heal from the heartbreak of a breakup or loss.

    Key points:

    Timestamp 5:54: Ben says “To scrape bottom is the only way to understand the suffering of the people you’re working with.” And “I discovered ways to heal devastating wounds, including romantic relationships.

    Tracy: Who we are, and who we present ourselves in the world….that’s who we attract. And a spiritual connection can help when you go through a breakup

    Timestamp 8:28 Ben says “Emotions are the doorway to access this deeper core being and a higher power. Most people dissociate, self-medicate and distract from the pain.

    Timestamp 9:15: Ben says, “You can’t heal it if you don’t feel it.”

    Timestamp 12:08: Ben’s theory about why we get into these relationships in the first place: When we have deeply wounded experiences as kids with no resources to cope, we develop coping that turns us away from emotions and numbs our senses and waking awareness. On the conscious level, we have a waking awareness, but the deeper subconscious level doesn’t come up until we’re triggered. Then, we carry the wounds and draw people similar to who have wounded us in the past.

    Timestamp 25:00 “Nobody is broken, it’s just that sometimes your antennae is damaged or corroded.”

    “Healing the deeply wounded parts of ourselves will make it possible for us to choose more wise partners and friends in the future."

    Tips and Tools for Healing Heartbreak

    Tip #1: Timestamp 9:20: You are the only one you will never lose or leave.” When a relationship doesn’t work, we can truly be present and feel authentic emotional responses, breathe, digest and use various therapeutic interventions to help.

    Tip #2: Pay attention to yellow flags in relationships: notice numbing, desensitization, dissociation. This is happening because we can’t deal with our emotions.

    Tip #3: When you are triggered emotionally, drop down into your body and breathe into your feelings and bodily sensations.

    Tip #4: Develop your senses so that you can feel the person in your body….both the connection and the incompatibility

    Tip #5: Timestamp 30:00 Do things to protect yourself from negative / toxic people (i.e. walking meditation and healing the deeply wounded parts of yourself). This will make you less vulnerable and will transform you and in turn help you attract healthier companions.


    Ben’s website is https://benoofana.com/

    Ben Oofana’s recently posted article about strategies for bouncing back and healing after breakups

    Ben’s free E-Book: "The Essentials of Getting Over Your Breakup and Moving On"...

    • 59 min
    Ticked Off - Surviving the Chaos of Tourette's Disorder

    Ticked Off - Surviving the Chaos of Tourette's Disorder

    Ticked off! | Surviving the Chaos of Tourettes Disorder with Kristof Morrow
    Tourettes Disorder is one of the most challenging and debilitating mental health anyone can experience. It’s technically a Tic Disorder. Tics are sudden, rapid, unexpected and recurrent motor movements (i.e. hands, feet, legs, eye-blinking) and / or vocal utterings, either of random words and even vulgarities. People experience Tics and Tourettes in different ways, and few presentations are the same from person to person. Sounds like chaos, right?
    Today, our guest is Kristof Morrow, a man who developed Tourettes Disorder at age 18 while serving in the U.S. Navy. And though he was eventually be discharged from Naval service because of the debilitating effects of Tourettes Disorder and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Kristof was able to discover his talents as a writer. Today, Kristof is an award-winning Author, journalist and his videos have gone viral on TikTok. Join us as Kristof tells his story and tells us how he was able to find success despite having a disability, and to give hope that anyone can overcome even the most challenging and chaotic situations in life.
    Key points:
    Kristof learned at an early age “When you are wrong, it gets violent”
    When you grow up abused, you become an expert in changing and modifying yourself. It’s a perverted metamorphosis because modifying yourself doesn’t work because then you have no identity.
    When you have an identity crisis, OCD and other means of coping are used, but these also cause problems.
    Military service is a solemn, noble thing. Being a Corman Medic in the navy “was a beautiful thing” and “I wanted to know that I was capable of doing that kind of good.”
    The letter Kristof wrote to service members in middle school. “What’s important to me is to provide care to everyone, and do no harm.”
    Tics are a brief loss of agency. “The underlying cause is unknown, but I know what exacerbates it.”
    Tips and Tools:
    Tip #1: One of the main keys to healing is to understand that the notions you have about yourself arrived from abuse and not from the truth.
    Tip #2: Know what exacerbates your tic(s), and wear gloves or protective clothing to prevent harm to yourself
    Tip #3: Tics can manifest when you are under pressure, so learning to manage anxiety is crucial
    Tip #4: When any meaningful relationships or any other life domains are compromised, it’s a sign that you need to accept that you have a mental health issue and can receive help for it
    Tip #5: Mental health is not your fault but it is your responsibility
    Tip #6: Being more forgiving toward yourself for having a mental health condition is helpful
    Going Forward – And Doing Great Things (Kristof’s Top 10 Tips):
    1. Making inspiring and profound connections with others who fulfill and support you
    2. If you feel like you have a talent, cultivate it and don’t give up trying
    3. “A lot of my success was privilege” (Being a white male) – Acknowledge your privilege
    4. Learn to turn rejection into resilience
    5. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
    6. Work with your dopamine receptors by removing stimulants and sensory input and take medications if prescribed
    7. Meditation and meditative breathing “Emptying a pool with a garden hose”
    8. Emotional Freedom Technique or “Tapping”
    9. Loop Earplugs – invisible noise reducing devices for sleep and during waking hours to reduce sensory input
    10. “Even if the world falls down around us, we can all get through it hugging each other.”
    “Justice and Redemption are folly…but to seek them is not.”
    Link to Kristof’s Book:
    Social Media Links:

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kristofmorrow
    Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/KristofMorrow/posts

    • 45 min

Customer Reviews

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Raising awareness

It was truly an honor to join the podcast and share the story of Praline’s Backyard Foundation. Being able to discuss the profound impact we're making in the lives of domestic violence survivors and their pets was a heartfelt experience. I want to extend my deepest gratitude to the team for giving us a platform to amplify our mission and connect with a wider audience. Your thoughtful questions and genuine interest in our cause made the conversation all the more impactful. To anyone reading this, do give the episode a listen and learn about the difference compassion and action can make. Thank you for this incredible opportunity! - Orazie Coo

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Fantastic Topic

Loves listening to this episode with Elizabeth. She is inspiring. Love that she is working to change laws and to produce art at the same time.

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Awesome podcast!

I love listening to this podcast! Tracy has such a pleasant calming voice and she is so enjoyable to listen to. She brings on interesting guests who provide great information. This is a must listen podcast for anyone that has ever felt stress in their life (so everyone)!

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