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Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your host Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:
Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com

Choosing to Stay Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal

    • Society & Culture
    • 4.6 • 32 Ratings

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your host Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:
Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate
For more information: ChooseRecoveryServices.com

    #61 Leading Relational Repair After Infidelity and Betrayal

    #61 Leading Relational Repair After Infidelity and Betrayal

    Join Stephanie to learn on what it means to lead. Leading relational repair refers to the proactive and intentional efforts taken by the person who caused harm in a relationship to restore trust, improve communication, and rebuild the emotional bond. It involves taking full accountability for the actions that led to the breach of trust, demonstrating genuine remorse, and actively engaging in behaviors that facilitate healing and reconciliation. 

    Leading Relational Repair after Infidelity and Betrayal Resource 

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

    Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

    Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

    Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. 

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. 

    Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

    • 26 min
    #60 Exploring Personal Healing Post-Betrayal and Infidelity

    #60 Exploring Personal Healing Post-Betrayal and Infidelity

    In this episode, we focus on the stages of healing from partner betrayal and infidelity, sharing insights from Paula Hall's work, breaking down the healing process into easily understandable acrostics. We highlight the first phase of safety and stabilization, followed by grief and mourning, and finally post-traumatic growth and reconnecting with oneself. We also explore the importance of understanding the impact of one's actions on their partner as a foundation for developing empathy in the relationship. Here are the models introduced in today's episode:

    SURF Model: (betrayed partner healing)


    S: Survive the trauma and initial shock.


    U: Understand the cycle of reaction and triggers.


    R: Repair self-identity and self-esteem.


    F: Face the future with new perspectives.



    CHOICE Model: (one who has acted out healing)


    C: Challenge core beliefs hindering change.


    H: Have a vision for a healthier future.


    O: Overcome compulsive behaviors and triggers.


    I: Identify positive support networks.


    C: Continue healthy living practices.


    E: Embrace life fully in recovery.



    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Email Stephanie: stephaniehambycoaching@gmail.com 

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

    Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

    • 27 min
    #59 Navigating Autonomy in Healing

    #59 Navigating Autonomy in Healing

    In this episode we discuss how infidelity and betrayal can erode a person’s sens of autonomy and can bring feelings of powerlessness and loss of control. Reclaiming autonomy is an important part of the healing process. We discuss some helpful ideas on how couples and individuals can navigate this process while maintaining the goal of relational repair if that is the desire. 

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community.

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

    Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.

    Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.

    Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery.

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

    Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.

    Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

    • 28 min
    #58 From Private Pain to Public Reality with Dani Peterson

    #58 From Private Pain to Public Reality with Dani Peterson

    In today’s episode, we are joined by Dani Peterson, who is a Holistic Practitioner and Coach, as she steps into vulnerability and shares her deeply personal and professional journey with healing from betrayal when it becomes public knowledge and is amplified in the media. Join us as we explore the challenges, triumphs, and invaluable insights gained from navigating through the aftermath of betrayal in the spotlight.

    Dani M. Peterson ACC, CPC, C-IAMYT 

    EMAIL: dani@danimpeterson.com

    WEBSITE: https://www.danimpeterson.com

    INSTAGRAM: @danimpeterson

    FREE CONSULTATION https://calendly.com/danimpeterson/consultation

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship.

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

    Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors.

    Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.

    Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

    The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey

    • 49 min
    #57 The Reality of Timelines in Relational Repair

    #57 The Reality of Timelines in Relational Repair

    In today’s episode we discuss the non-linear process of healing after betrayal in relationships. We highlight the importance of understanding healing timelines and managing expectations during this vulnerable period. There are many diverse factors that can influence the pace and trajectory of healing and we highlight the significance of self-compassion and patience in this journey.  

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hyper-vigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust.

    Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

    Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

    Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and camaraderie. 

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. 

    Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. 

    The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those leaning towards divorce. 

    Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

    • 33 min
    #56 Challenging Belief Narratives that Hinder Healing

    #56 Challenging Belief Narratives that Hinder Healing

    In this episode, we're joined by Joshua Hamby. Together, we explore how identifying and reframing limiting belief narratives can catalyze profound healing, personal and relational growth in recovery.

    Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

    Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

    Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Book with Hali

    Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    Book with Stephanie

    Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

    Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

    Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

    Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

    Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

    Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

    More from Choose Recovery Services:

    Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

    Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

    Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

    Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. 

    Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

    Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. 

    Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. 

    The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. 

    Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

    • 35 min

Customer Reviews

4.6 out of 5
32 Ratings

32 Ratings

Fumundamynuts ,

For men that have been betrayed this is great as well

There are not a lot of good podcasts out there that cater to this and as a man that’s been betrayed by my spouse this has been great for me to hear I’m not alone in my feelings. There is a stigma with men and mental health listening to this podcast has helped me tremendously and use these tools to help on my side and I’ve even shared them with my wife.

tatera1 ,

Exactly what I needed to hear

When you're at a place that you've never been before, how do you know what to do, what path to take, and what choices are rational? There are many things I did not know but many emotions I was feeling. Thankful for this podcast and the information that it brings. If you are offended that someone's faith has led them to a place of healing, then this podcast is not for you. But, if you are genuinely wanting to stay and needing clarity with points of reference to faith and open to that, then, this is definitely content worth listening to so that you can make the sound decision to stay and work things out in your marriage.

Rabbit_874992749 ,

Good but the religious aspect is disappointing

I’ve read a few books on betrayal trauma and healing from infidelity, as a betrayed partner. I began listening to this podcast because I thought it might be helpful for my spouse. I think it will be and I want him to listen. The hosts seem to know their stuff and I do recommend this podcast. However, I don’t understand why they have to mention God and faith. It isn’t mentioned in the show description and I was surprised and disappointed by the frequent mentions of God. That is irrelevant to the clinical/scientific topics discussed in this podcast and makes me cringe and feel less confident in the quality of the content I am receiving. It seems to be a theme, sadly, in content on this topic, but it is a huge turn off for those who are not religious to the degree that they think God led them to their husband (as was mentioned in an episode).

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