CLAIMED is a podcast that provides women inspiration, tools and resources to embrace their wild, feminine nature so they can attract and keep a masculine man. We explore ideas and practical steps to create and sustain polarity in relationships and live a life of freedom, joy and creativity by fully stepping into our feminine power. On every episode you will hear inspiring conversations with real women (and men) about their experience with polarity, feminine/masculinity, leadership, relationships, intimacy and much more. You will also hear stories, answers to questions and inspiring content from Anna - your host and femininity, relationships polarity and feminine embodiment coach. Enjoy the ride!
#220: Small Town Problems & The Power of Letting Men Lead - Dating Q&A with Anna Rova
About This Episode Earlier this year, as a warm-up to my last live webinar before going on maternity leave, I did a series of live Q&As on Instagram where I popped in daily to answer your burning questions about dating.
As a woman living in a small town in Wisconsin where everyone basically knows each other, Abigail wanted to know how she should navigate dating multiple men. This is rule #1 of the “10 Rules of Being Claimed,” which is “You Create Your Dating Funnel, Men Compete.”
What should she do, for example, to avoid things getting awkward if they all end up at the same event together and bump into each other?
Then there was Lara who has been following my advice about letting men lead in dating when it comes to making plans but said she felt “lazy” not reaching out in between dates and “leaving all the work to him.”
How much initiation is enough to let him know you’re interested and when is it okay to take charge as a woman?
Join us as we discuss:
Why we should never date just one man at a time (competition is completely natural) How to shift our perspective when it comes to dating (it’s like “shopping for shoes,” ladies) Being careful with intimacy during dating (why sex = attachment for women) The dating game & how to play it so that it’s actually fun (no manipulative tips and tricks required) Paying attention to what feels good in your body more than any dating “rules” (even mine) Ideas for how to connect & engage with men in a playful, feminine way (without chasing or leading them)
LINKS Your Dating Frustrations: Symptoms vs. Root Causes & How to Fix Them
3 Things to Do to Let Go of The Drama and The Story During Dating
Playing the Dating Game With Intention & Ease
P.S. Sign up for the free, exclusive training from me on How to Start Attracting Committed Masculine Men By Releasing Control & Letting Him Lead to find out:
The #1 reason successful women are still single and can’t attract a committed masculine man (hint: it’s not what you think) How to break through the patterns of attracting unavailable or feminine men and find your blind spot so you start attracting the men you want How to master the art of feminine/masculine polarity so you start feeling taken care of, claimed and finally be able to let go of control How to get out of the “get the guy” mindset and instead move into your full feminine self and have the guy get you Uncover The Lie of Female Success that’s keeping you stuck, exhausted and unfulfilled (in masculine energy all the time) so you can start living in freedom & joy And much more… Sign up at girlskill.com/webinar
#219: The 4-Step Process to Reframing Your Limiting Beliefs About Men
About This Episode If I were to describe the work we do with women in the Claimed group coaching program it would boil down to these three concepts:
Feminine/Masculine Polarity Feminine Embodiment Reframing Limiting Beliefs Today, I want to share with you the four-step process to reframing limiting beliefs about men that my clients use every day to make the biggest shift and transform the kind of men they’re attracting.
Limiting beliefs are basically what's subconsciously driving your patterns of attracting emotionally unavailable men, men who’re toxic, or men who are in their feminine energy.
It’s crucial that you do this work if you want to shift and transform in powerful ways so you can have the relationship that you want.
Here is the 4-step process and the questions you can use to go through it: 1. Identify limiting belief (+ payoff)
2. Reframe into new belief
3. Release old belief
4. Embody new belief
Step 1: Identifying limiting beliefs + Payoff
Limiting belief: Actions are created by this thought/belief: Identify the payoff: How am I right/better/justified in thinking this thought? Why am I unable to change? What do I think/do/get that makes me feel better about myself when I think this thought & act it out in the world? What is deep below this? Step 2: Reframe into new belief
Who would you be without this belief? How would you show up in the world without this belief? What is a more positive thought or belief your body wants to believe? What action would this new belief have you take? Step 3 & 4: Release old belief and embody new belief using feminine embodiment practices and coaching (this is where I come into the picture as your coach and your guide.)
I hope this framework will be able to help move through and overcoming your beliefs about men so you can start attracting better men.
Because you’re worthy.
And because you deserve it.
Make the biggest change, shift and transform who you are and what kind of men you’re attracting
LINKS Rule#11: Practice The Essential Forgotten Skill – Embodiment 10 Things You Can Do Today to Change the Masculine/Feminine Polarity in Your Relationship Women who have Trust Issues when it comes to Men, Listen Up How Claimed is Different & Why It Actually Works
#218: Getting Off the Hamster Wheel of Broken Relationships - Client Story with Dana Sharkey
Every single woman who joins my group coaching program Claimed brings a new perspective, a new backstory, and ultimately a new success story! Here is an interview with one of these women, Dana Sharkey.
"I had a lot of answers and a lot of explanations for why I was the way I was and why I had the problems that I had, but I had no idea how to solve them."
Here is what I discuss with Dana:
The limiting beliefs about womanhood & relationships that we develop from a young age Reconciling our drive & ambition as smart, successful women with our femininity What happens when we stop trying to "move past" our pain & start "feeling into" it How feminine embodiment helps us to process our emotions & feel safe in our bodies A-ha moments from the program & why she recommends signing up for a discovery call And a lot more... Links 10 Things You Can Do Today to Change the Masculine/Feminine Polarity in Your Relationship
Practice the Essential Forgotten Skill – Embodiment
How My Claimed Group Coaching Program is Different & Why It Actually Works
#217: The Fastest Way to Feel Beautiful & Confident in Everything You Wear with Jeannie Stith
Jeannie Stith is the founder and CEO of Color Guru. She and her team help people look better, shop smarter, and create a coordinated wardrobe simply by discovering our best colors according to our hair, skin, and eye color. They have created a unique color analysis system that offers the most accurate color results available online.
"It was freeing that I could actually go to the store and everything wasn't an option. That to me felt like freedom... it's this way that our brains work. We really need some limitations. And when it comes to shopping for clothes there are just so many options that some sort of boundaries are helpful for most of us."
Join us for an inspiring discussion about the power of color that goes deeper than you might expect. Here are the details of this episode:
Why we need to give ourselves permission to care about how we look on the outside (because it totally affects how we feel on the inside) The three key elements of fashion: color, shape & personal style (in that order of importance) The cure to "closet overwhelm" (hint: knowing your color palette is the key to simplifying & figuring out "what to wear") How genuine body acceptance starts with getting to know your body shape (and which clothes work for it) And a lot more... Links Jeannie's book recommendations: Outrageous Openness: Letting the Divine Take the Lead, by Tosha Silver & The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less, by Barry Schwartz How can you use color to attract your committed, masculine man? Some tips from the color gurus Get 10% off any Color Guru services with the code "Claimed"
#216: Feminine Men & the Nice Guy Dilemma - Dating Q&A with Anna Rova
A woman in my Claimed client community (let's call her Jane) recently raised a juicy subject that I think is important for us to talk more about. So I decided to record a special episode to address her question.
(Listen to the full episode for more great Q&As around this topic from listeners who tuned into the live recording. )
Here’s what Jane asks:
“I'm dating this guy. He's a great guy and he would do anything for me. But I don't feel like I'm in love with him. My friends say that he's amazing and I'd be foolish to end this."
To Jane, and to every woman who finds themselves in this situation, I suggest asking yourself these questions:
1. How does it feel?
I have another client who says that she’s seeing this guy who’s extremely spiritual and talks about his feelings a lot and she’s not sure whether she should continue.
When I asked her this question in our group coaching call, she said something like, “Well, I think it’s great that he’s in touch with his feelings, but something isn’t right.
I’m questioning whether this is a good dynamic because I don’t want to fall back into my previous pattern of being with a man who is totally in his feelings and I’m ‘wearing the pants’ and that doesn’t feel good.”
This leads me to my next question…
2. Are you attracted to this man?
Usually, once we’ve identified how it feels, this is an easy one to answer.
No? Okay, next question…
3. Who’s holding more space for who?
Do you feel like you can completely trust this man? You can completely break down, and let him take care of you and himself when the sh*t hits the fan and things go down?
My sense is that your answer would also be no here.
When you know that:
1. This doesn’t feel good to you
2. You’re not attracted to this man &
3. You can’t completely trust him, let go of control, and just let him lead…
Then you know that you’re in the driver’s seat.
The polarity is reversed. You are in your masculine and he’s in his feminine.
Of course, there are a lot of questions and “grey areas” around these labels, but remember, they’re just labels.
What matters most is what you feel in your body.
Most women identify with a feminine essence which means we want to surrender.
We want to let go. We want to be taken. Ravished. And taken care of. By a masculine man.
So, when we are with a “nice guy,” we basically know that we can pretty much walk all over him… one way or another at one point or another.
And so if you do not stop or reverse this dynamic from the beginning, you might end up being in a long-term relationship, maybe even married.
I have a lot of clients who’ve been married to these men. And walked all over them. Told them what to do. Had children with them. And, look, every situation is different, but at the end of the day, that’s not fulfilling. You're not going to be attracted to your man. You're not going to respect him. You’re not going to trust him.
As feminine essence women, we have a deep need to feel safe. We have a deep need to let go of control and be taken care of.
So, that’s basically your answer. And it’s very simple.
But, I also know how easy it is to fall into because I have been in a long-term relationship myself with a man who is feminine.
And when I talk about “feminine men,” what I mean is men who are sitting on the feminine end of the polarity spectrum,energetically speaking.
Like magnetic poles, the opposite ends of the spectrum attract one another.
The more you are in your feminine as a woman, the more you attract masculine men. And the reverse is true.
If you are a woman who is very much in her masculine power, making all the decisions, leading the relationship forward you’re going to be attracting “feminine men.”
In other words, men who are in their feminine energy at that point in time. And that’s not to say they are necessarily feminine in their essence.
Many modern women w
#215: Feeling & Looking Your Best Beyond 40 with Sylvia Van De Logt
Sylvia Van De Logt is the Editor in Chief at 40+ Style, an online magazine and community that helps women to feel and look their best. Not just after 40, but at any age. And not just from the outside but also from the inside.
She has a refreshingly practical and down-to-earth approach to style. It's not about having to dress a certain way or follow a set of rules. It's about getting to know yourself and having fun!
"Even though I think it's really important that you look after yourself and that you have a sense of style, I also don't think that it should be too much of a focus. When you want to dress up and do all those things, go ahead! But when you just want to be casually simple and don't want to wear make up, that is totally fine, too. I'm very much about just being who you want to be at any given time and being totally okay with that."
Join us for a powerful discussion about feeling and looking our best through all stages of our lives as women. Here are the details of this episode:
Our limiting beliefs about fashion, make-up & style being frivolous and only for women of no depth The principles of dressing well & why it all begins with understanding our style personality Why we don't have to be too strict about sticking to the "right" colors for our skin tone & hair color The art of standing out in a way we're comfortable with by picking unique accessories & items according to our style How we can all look our absolute best by highlighting or downplaying certain parts of our body, especially as we age The importance of keeping a streamlined wardrobe (not too many "orphans" or repeat items) & developing our own style "formulas" And a lot more... Links What's your style personality? Take the 40+ Style Quiz Sylvia's book recommendations: The Golden Notebook by Doris Lessing, Atomic Habits by James Clear & Humankind by Rutger Bregman Storytel App for listening to audiobooks (only available in certain countries) One of Syliva's most popular articles, How to Hide your Belly with the Right Clothes Learn how to create a passive income stream online at syliviavandelogt.com
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This podcast helped me become clear on what I want from a relationship and the confidence that I can have everything I desire in a relationship.