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Crystal is a wife, mom of 3, speaker, author, and online entrepreneur, best known for founding MoneySavingMom.com as well as YourBloggingMentor.com.
108. How to Love Someone You Disagree With
Recently, on Instagram, I got asked the following question, "How do you handle friendships and disrespect in this political turmoil and pandemic." I shared the slide above to answer it, but I had so many more thoughts swirling in my head as I wrote the answer that I realized it would be the perfect topic to tackle more in-depth in a podcast episode.
So this week on the podcast, Jesse and I share what we have learned and are learning about how to love someone you disagree with and how not to ruin relationships because of differing opinions.
In addition, we talk about new recipes Jesse is trying using duck, granola and Greek yogurt, wearing real PJs, my habit tracker, a book I loved recently, a funny story about mispronouncing words, and what Jesse has been reading.
In This Episode:
[01:47] Duck poppers are saving Jesse’s life this week. They were so good!
[05:38] Granola and greek yogurt are saving my life these days.
[07:08] Why I’ve been trying to wear real pajamas to bed.
[09:18] I posted about my habit tracker and came to find out… Jesse was right.
[11:35] I have been reading/listening to We Were the Lucky Ones by Georgia Hunter.
[15:53] A quick story about how I used to pronounce Yosemite.
[16:58] Jesse has been reading SOG by John Plaster.
[17:53] The question that inspired this episode.
[19:27] There is so much fear circulating in the world causing us to feel reactionary.
[21:06] Then to add on top of the fear is the nature of conversations on social media.
[23:28] We often lose so much context and empathy by not having face-to-face conversations.
[26:22] Why you need to listen with a heart to understand the other person.
[28:07] Don't make sweeping generalizations.
[30:00] Always remember to care about the person more than you care about their opinion.
Links and Resources: My Habit Tracker We Were the Lucky Ones by Georgia Hunter Libby App The 52 Books I Plan to Read in 2021 SOG by John Plaster Better Habits: 5 Steps to Start & Stick With Them Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org How to Listen to The Crystal Paine Show The podcast is available on iTunes, Android, Stitcher, and Spotify. You can listen online through the direct player here. OR, a much easier way to listen is by subscribing to the podcast through a free podcast app on your phone. (Find instructions for how to subscribe to a podcast here.)
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107. Better Habits: 5 Steps to Start & Stick With Them
As I talked about yesterday, good habits done consistently can completely change the trajectory of your life. (And the inverse of that statement is also true.)
So, how do you start with stick with better habits? In this week's podcast episode, Jesse and I tackle that topic along with sharing an update on our Christmas break, Jesse's hunting trip, an audiobook we both listened to, and two updates we made to our home recently.
Here are the five suggestions we gave for starting and sticking with better habits:
1. Keep it simple. Don't try to overhaul your life overnight. Focus on 1-2 small habit changes at a time. As you master those, you can add another 1-2 habits.
2. Write it down. Make a plan for the habits you want to develop. What will you do? When will you do it? Where will you do it?
3. Make it public. Get brave and share your plan for building a new habit with the world. Tell a friend who will help you stay accountable. Or, post about it on social media.
4. Do it consistently. Try to go for a streak. Don't miss more than one day. Give yourself grace if you do miss a day and then tell yourself you can't miss more than one day.
5. Track it regularly. I highly recommend something like my Habit Tracker Checklist or another habit tracker printable or app (there are lots of free ones available!)
My Favorite Book on Habits Looking for more practical encouragement to develop good habits? I highly recommend Atomic Habits. This is, by far, my very favorite book on habits.
James Clear, the author, does such a great job of unpacking why and how to build good habits. I’ve read a lot of book on this topic and I feel like he has a very fresh and encouraging approach. The book is not written from a Christian perspective so I disagree with some of his worldview and conclusions, but there are so many great nuggets of truth and inspiration in this book.
If you feel like you are forever failing at follow through or you just can’t seem to stick with good habits, get a copy of this book. I listened to it about a year ago and loved it so much that I bought a hard copy and then slowly read it again this year. That tells you how valuable I found it! (I loved it so much that I picked it as one of my top 10 reads in 2020.)
Listen in to the episode where we share a lot more tips, suggestions, and motivation for starting and sticking with good habits.
In This Episode: [00:33] We're back! Here's why we took a 3-week break.
[02:29] A quick rundown of our holidays and how they were different than in the past.
[05:12] Jesse shares some of the details of his hunting trip.
[08:32] The string light saga.
[12:09] After almost three years, we now have a working gas fireplace!
[13:13] The combination of Audible and Scribd is saving Jesse’s life these days.
[14:25] Both Jesse and I finished the same audiobook at the same time and we have thoughts on it.
[20:19] We’re talking all about how to develop new habits.
[22:53] Keeping it simple is the best thing. Just pick one or two habits to change.
[26:28] Why it’s important to write your new habit down.
[28:03] Make what you write down active instead of passive.
[28:58] Once you’ve figured out all of the details, make it public.
[29:50] Consistency is key.
[31:55] Give yourself grace and change the language that you use about yourself.
[33:30] Don’t forget to track your habit changes.
Links and Resources: Free 30-Day Trial of Audible Scribd Code Name Lise Atomic Habits Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send m
106. 10 Things We Learned in 2020
My word that I chose for 2020 was SAVOR. Little did I dream how much of my year was going to be able to live that word out so literally!
From so much time at home and so many things cancelled, to so much time spent rocking and holding and feeding babies, to so much unexpected family time, this year was the perfect year to choose to savor the gifts right in front of me.
Our year looked very different in so many ways — and yes, there was loss and hard things — but I look back and see so much beauty, so much growth, and so much to be grateful for!
In this last podcast for 2020, Jesse and I shared 10 Things We Learned in 2020. Here was our list (I know there are more things we could add, but this is what came to mind as we reflected on the year):
God Gives Grace for the Present Not the Future — If we had known what 2020 would hold, we probably would have felt overwhelmed by it. But, as we learned, God doesn’t give you grace for the future, He gives grace for today. Jesse Can Thrive on Less Sleep Than He Realized — Jesse has always needed more sleep than me. But this year, he got up every single night with a baby for months on each — and he realized that, when needed, he can thrive on less sleep. (I think it’s also connected to point #1, too!) I Can Have a Baby Without Having Postpartum Depression — I’ve always struggled with pretty intense PPD and anxiety for months after having a baby. This time around, we approached things very differently and I had almost zero PPD or anxiety! It was amazing! Foster Care is Brutal But Beautiful — This was one of the most emotionally stretching years we’ve ever walked through. Falling in love and advocating hard for a child only to say goodbye is brutal, but the memories and lessons we learned and how our hearts were forever changed as a family is so beautiful. Plus, we now have a sweet boy AND his mama to love — which is such a gift! Turning 40 Is Not a Terrible Thing — Jesse turned the big 4-0 and he survived just fine. I Am Not the Workaholic I Once Was — I worked a lot fewer hours this year and worried a lot less about all things running a business. And it was amazing! I realized that I used to spend a lot of time investing in and stressing over things that really don’t matter in the long run. Jesse Discovered That Audiobooks Really Are Amazing — I’ve been trying to convince him of this for a long time, so this was a big victory… of course, then it meant that he ended up almost beating me in the number of audiobooks listened to! I’m More Extroverted Than I Realized — Having so many things cancelled and spending so much time at home taught me to value and appreciate community so much more. AND, it helped me to realize that while I’ll always be an introvert at heart, I really, really love being around life-giving people. Zoom is just no replacement for face-to-face community. Teaching a Teen to Drive is Not as Hard as We Envisioned — Jesse and I have both gotten to tag team together on teaching Kathrynne to drive and it hasn’t been as hard or as scary as we envisioned it might be. (Jesse has done a lot more of the teaching than me and he’s actually really enjoyed it!) We Really Like Each Other — This might seem like a weird thing to put on our list of things we’ve learned, but with all the time we spent at home this year, we discovered anew just how much we like each other and how we just love hanging out together. Listen in to the episode to hear us share our perspective and a lot more details on each of these lessons.
In This Episode:
[00:36] In this episode, we’re reflecting on 10 things we learned in 2020.
[02:12] The first is that God gives grace for the present not the future.
[07:26] Jesse learned that he can thrive on less sleep than he realized.
[10:13] I learned that I can have a baby without having PPD.
105. Holding Both Grief and Gratitude
In this week’s episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Jesse and I sit down and talk about what this last week has been like for us. We open up candidly about how the grief of saying goodbye to Champ has profoundly impacted us. We share what has been helping us, how we are processing this loss, what has been helping us, and how we are holding both grief and gratitude at the same time.
And because we didn’t want the whole episode to be heavy, we also talk about our road trip to Kansas, chocolate collagen, a book I’m reading to Kierstyn, a project Jesse recently finished, and a sweatshirt I am loving.
In This Episode:
[00:46] This week has definitely been heavy and we’ll talk about that, but first…
[03:33] We got to go to Kansas recently. Hear about the trip.
[08:43] We had an unexpected event happen on the road on the way home from Kansas.
[13:07] Chocolate collagen is saving Jesse’s life.
[14:33] Our new deck furniture has been saving my life.
[17:08] I’m reading Stuart Little to Kierstyn.
[17:40] So, let’s talk about grief and gratitude. We’re sharing the story behind Champ going home.
[20:40] Why I’m so grateful looking back over the last week.
[23:35] Tuesday night and Wednesday morning were very difficult. I was hit with deep grief.
[26:14] Jesse was hit hardest the first night. Hear why.
[29:41] Why it’s important to allow yourself to feel the grief.
[32:04] What has been most helpful when I feel the cloud of grief come over me.
[34:04] Learning to receive from others instead of always being the giver.
Links and Resources:
Baby Signing Time Series on YouTube Chocolate Collagen Goods & Better Foster the Family Blog on Instagram Stuart Little by E.B. White Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: email@example.com
104. Sharing Some Good News!
I was sitting with a few women recently and we were sharing some heavy things in our lives and big feelings. After a little while, I said, "Does anyone have any good news to share?"
It's so easy to focus on the hard and difficult things. And I think we do need to acknowledge our feelings and not try to stuff down the difficult things, slap on a happy face, and pretend we're okay. But at the same time, I also think it's so good -- and important -- even on hard days and during sad or overwhelming seasons to look for the good, to notice the beautiful, and to practice an attitude of gratitude. Because, as you've heard it said, what you look for is usually what you see.
If you focus on the negative, you can find a lot to complain about. If you focus on the positive, you can find a lot to be grateful for!
In this week's episode, Jesse and I sit down and talk about some positive, fun, beautiful, and good things happening in our lives. We share about milestones, perspective shifts, and lessons we're learning. Plus, we talk about some fun updates and funny happenings. I also discover the history behind the phrase "deader than a doornail" (thanks, Jesse!) and we share what's saving our lives and what books we're reading.
In This Episode:
[00:42] We’re sharing some good news and fun things that have been happening lately.
[01:26] Champ is reunifying with his mom soon and we talk about processing that.
[04:02] Jesse’s Apple iPhone case is saving his life this week.
[07:25] My top 10 baby products are saving my life.
[08:58] Jesse is reading Fortitude by Dan Crenshaw and listening to One Vote Away by Ted Cruz.
[10:17] I’ve been reading Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl.
[13:16] Why we’ve decided to share some good news today.
[15:03] Jesse recounts the wonderful baseball season that they had this year.
[16:52] I’ve turned in the FINAL edits for my new book!
[20:18] Some fun updates on the babies and why we basically never do professional family photos.
[24:22] Jesse had a lot of fun shopping for the babies for the photos.
[25:14] We have a driver at our house -- and both Jesse and I have been teaching her, something I never expected I'd say!
[29:37] How the seminary class I'm taking is really challenging me.
[33:52] Some thoughts on doing your own research, not just going to one source, and what our currently political climate is teaching me.
[36:06] What is your good news right now?
Links and Resources: Apple iPhone Cases Top 10 Baby Items Fortitude by Dan Crenshaw One Vote Away by Ted Cruz Charlie and the Chocolate Factory by Roald Dahl The Bible Project Sign up for the Hot Deals Email List MoneySavingMom.com My Instagram account (I’d love for you to follow me there! I usually hop on at least a few times per day and share behind-the-scenes photos and videos, my grocery store hauls, funny stories, or just anything I’m pondering or would like your advice or feedback on!) Have feedback on the show or suggestions for future episodes or topics? Send me an email: firstname.lastname@example.org
103. Forgiving What You Can't Forget (with Lysa TerKeurst)
Forgiveness is certainly not the easiest topic to cover for anyone, but what if the ultimate betrayal was laid at your feet. How would you react then? For Lysa TerKeurst it led to authoring a book all about using forgiveness to heal and grow after a terrible experience.
Lysa found out several years ago that her husband was being unfaithful. Not just once or twice, but had been repeatedly unfaithful along with having a substance abuse problem. When she found out she was devastated.
The pain was so terrible it would literally stop her in her tracks no matter where she was. She was having panic attacks and anxiety flare ups and she was just lost to the pain. So she made an appointment to see her counselor and from there she truly began to heal.
You see she had a very “little girl” view of how forgiveness works and it hadn’t grown up with her. Not that she thinks that simply forgiving her husband of his faults would have saved them any of the pain that they went through, but if her sense of forgiveness had matured, she may have saved herself from some of that pain.
Listen as she shares her story and how it influenced her need to write her latest book, Forgiving What You Can’t Forget. She’s truly baring it all and sharing how we can use these tactics throughout the holiday season as well. Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself. So stop holding yourself back from giving it.
In This Episode:
[01:30] Welcome Lysa TerKeurst to the show and hear more about her and her family.
[03:43] Why she chose to write her most recent book.
[07:18] What caused her extreme sadness and anger and inability to forgive.
[09:24] Learn what her therapist did to help her reach a point that she could forgive.
[13:01] Why forgiveness is a gift that you can receive for yourself.
[14:56] What happens when you stuff pain down and refuse to acknowledge it.
[17:22] Lysa’s first memories of forgiveness.
[20:00] What did she do after acknowledging her pain?
[26:13] Lysa’s advice for the woman who is living in their pain.
[29:29] It doesn’t make you an unforgiving person to draw boundaries.
[30:43] Where she is now after writing this book.
Links and Resources:
Crystal Paine on Instagram
Money Saving Mom
Money Saving Mom on Facebook
Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group
Forgiving What You Can’t Forget by Lysa TerKeurst
Proverbs 31 Ministries
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
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