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I’m Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. And I’m Guy Winch, author of Emotional First Aid. We’re both advice columnists, TED speakers, and of course therapists in clinical practice who want to bring the lessons of the therapy room outside the therapy room… to all of you. Each week on DEAR THERAPISTS, we invite you to be a fly-on-the-wall in these personal, raw, transformative sessions with everyday people and then hear what happens when we give concrete, actionable advice and have them report back to let us know how things went after the session ended. We’re sharing these real sessions because we believe that everyone can benefit from hearing how people just like them get through their struggles and grow and change. So sit back and come into the therapy room with us… and prepare to learn a lot about yourself in the process.

Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb and Guy Winch iHeartPodcasts

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I’m Lori Gottlieb, author of Maybe You Should Talk To Someone. And I’m Guy Winch, author of Emotional First Aid. We’re both advice columnists, TED speakers, and of course therapists in clinical practice who want to bring the lessons of the therapy room outside the therapy room… to all of you. Each week on DEAR THERAPISTS, we invite you to be a fly-on-the-wall in these personal, raw, transformative sessions with everyday people and then hear what happens when we give concrete, actionable advice and have them report back to let us know how things went after the session ended. We’re sharing these real sessions because we believe that everyone can benefit from hearing how people just like them get through their struggles and grow and change. So sit back and come into the therapy room with us… and prepare to learn a lot about yourself in the process.

    Encore: Ep 5 - Amy's Boyfriend's Dog

    Encore: Ep 5 - Amy's Boyfriend's Dog

    Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week, we explore the ghosts of a partner's ex-girlfriend. A woman is happy in her new relationship, except for one thing: her boyfriend insists on taking care of his ex's dog, and she has a sinking feeling that it's not just the dog her boyfriend is holding onto.
    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
     
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    • 37 min
    Encore: Ep 4 - Ryan and Beth's Relationship Impasse

    Encore: Ep 4 - Ryan and Beth's Relationship Impasse

    Hey, Fellow Travelers. This week, a married couple with kids struggles to come to a decision on where to raise their family. Ryan wants their kids to grow up near his family in Nebraska. Beth wants them to live near her mother in New York. We show them a new way to talk through an impasse that's been causing resentment and keeping them stuck for years.
    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
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    • 42 min
    Encore: Ep 3 - Mike's Messy Affair

    Encore: Ep 3 - Mike's Messy Affair

    Hello Fellow Travelers, this week a man who ended his marriage to be with the love of his life wonders if that makes him a bad person. We talk to Mike about coming to terms with his decisions by seeing things from the perspective of others. 
     
    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
     
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    • 49 min
    Encore: Ep 2 - Priscilla's Blended Family

    Encore: Ep 2 - Priscilla's Blended Family

    Hello, Fellow Travelers. This week we explore the challenges of blending families together. Priscilla is struggling to deal with her boyfriend’s six-year-old daughter and is wondering if it's even possible to build a relationship with the girl who constantly says she hates her.

    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
     
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    • 31 min
    Encore: Ep 1 - Shrina's Broken Heart

    Encore: Ep 1 - Shrina's Broken Heart

    Hello, Fellow Travelers. Our very first episode deals with a problem familiar to a lot of people: a breakup and a broken heart. Our guest Shrina struggles to understand why her boyfriend suddenly decided that he no longer loved her and she's questioning what changed and what she might have done wrong. 
     
    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
     
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    • 42 min
    Encore: S04 Ep10 - Stephanie’s Mother’s Judgment

    Encore: S04 Ep10 - Stephanie’s Mother’s Judgment

    This week, we’re in session with Stephanie and her mother, Rona, who hasn’t forgiven her daughter for something that happened twenty-five years ago. We help them acknowledge the hurt they caused each other and find a new path forward. 
     
    If you have a dilemma you’d like to discuss with us—big or small—email us at LoriAndGuy@iHeartMedia.com.
     
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Customer Reviews

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Donder1 ,

2 & Monk

I had a thought about the letter from the woman who wanted revenge. It very much sounds like the daughter sent message and it went as planned. Sorry for the vengeful woman and I pray she finds peace. She could well be dodging a bullet. I can tell her first hand that when the daughter doesn’t want her dad to date or marry, she can cause great damage to herself, the father and you. I’m in a relationship where the daughter and sons have been a nightmare to deal with to the degree I have PTSD now at the thought of seeing them. I treat them well however and am thoughtful and kind and forgive them. I figured that I would be understanding and patience and give it time. When you treat people well and don’t impose or overstep after time, they should see you and just want peace themselves. It hasn’t happened. After so many, after the fact, negative comments to their dad about me, even when the visits seemed great, it has taken its toll. I want peace in my life so I refuse to keep the frustration they try to give out. It’s hard when my now husband has never validated how I must feel or that they shouldn’t treat me this way. I gave with him the whole time encouraging him and giving advice. When he hasn’t listened and persisted with his tactics with them, he has gotten shut out. Two of the three refuse to talk to him and upon reflection and by his own admission he didn’t have a good relationship before we met. He will blame me in arguments, even when I only was thoughtful and helpful to him to have a good visit. I felt hopeful at first because I’m tenacious and don’t give up easy. I have tried by paying attention to the barometer of feeling when he would talk to them so I didn’t come between and would be quiet or let him just see them on his own. From the start I’ve encouraged him to contact them and to think of how they might want to hear from him. At this point, his daughter sent a Thankyou card for Christmas gifts I sent her family that was filled more with snide remarks than thankfulness. I was stunned at the reading of it and hurt and upset and he said nothing. When asked why he wasn’t saying anything he said he thought it was fine. I cried and couldn’t believe how cold hearted he could be. I found out later that she sent a note to him as well at work that said mean things about me. I am a generally calm, kind person and I’ve worked hard in my lifetime to get past abuse in my childhood and to claim my right to have peacefulness in my life and to have healthy relationships by reading much about human behavior and know that after looking at yourself to see what you could need to change or what did you do or not to contribute, you must forgive and look at how the person must be in pain to be hurtful. No, I obviously don’t have it all figured out, but I know that my whole life I took care of my brothers and extended family since I was young enough to see they aren’t getting what they needed from my parents. I have worked hard to reframe my childhood and live in peace. My grown daughters call me for advice and I know that I tread lightly and only talk about experiences that have worked for me or others and encourage them about what I have seen in them that makes them able to deal with what ever they face. I want them to feel empowered and loved. I also don’t bring things back up. I consider myself a strong woman but this marriage is taking its toll. There is more but have already write so much. I didn’t plan this but must have needed it. Thank you for your show.

VandD3456789 ,

Applied therapy— for listeners too

I have learned about my internal self and seen others from a new perspective by listening to dear therapists. I’m sure a lot goes on before we hear these episodes including vetting and editing, but the result is still substantive and revelatory. I like the go-forth actions and the feedback from the person a few weeks later. A chance to apply what they’ve learned. A lot of bravery on the part of participants. Great podcast. Thanks.

Wellsprings ,

One of My Favorites

After reading Lori Gottlieb’s great memoir of therapy, “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” I was excited to find her podcast with fellow psychologist, Guy Winch. People write in with seemingly insurmountable problems, and Lori and Guy provide a therapy session in which deeper aspects of the presenting issue are uncovered. Then they offer some assignments and the “client” reports back with how it went. No matter the subject, there are usually take-always for the listener about communication, listening, setting boundaries, etc. it’s one of my favorite shows and hope they will have a new season soon because I’ve already listened to most of the encore old episodes!

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