Hi! I'm Belah. Discover with me the secrets to an incredible marriage! Join us, as I interview inspiring and amazing wives and marriage experts who share stories of their difficulties, joys, relationship advice, and secrets to a lasting marriage. I ask each guest to share advice about sexual intimacy as well! Listen in to find out how long-time wives have kept the fun, peace and passion alive!
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278-Requirement for Your Marriage Miracle
If you want your marriage to change... this is required.
Faith that it will change.
But how do you even get there? How does it relate to your life?
I have some extremely practical ways for you to have a renewed sense of faith that things can change. Keep in mind, if you don't have faith things will change---undoubtedly they never will.
It is so easy to compare our lives and our circumstances to those around us. Add on plenty of cultural norms that make negativity almost an expectation.
That becomes the breeding ground for anxiety, worry, depression, and angst to grow.
But God has called us to live a life full of joy and abundance even in our marriage and intimacy.
Join me as we discover the deeper meaning of faith, what having a disciplined mindset means, and how to visualize positivity for our lives in the middle of a hard season.
PS If you’d like to join the FREE training for women all about confidence in intimacy — which will be available for a limited time — go to delightyourmarriage.com/sc
If you’d like to be included in the FREE Men's Masterclass: Passionize Your Marital Intimacy---even if you're the only one who works: delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
This is very interactive, so you don't want to miss it!
277-Her Disinterest Transformed to Desire, When HE Changed. Testimonial with Jeremiah.
Today’s interview is with Jeremiah, a graduate of my Masculinity Reclaimed program.
They had a pretty good marriage. And originally their sex life was pretty good, but life happened…
Like many of my listeners, once kids came into the picture things began to deteriorate in that department.
She no longer felt emotionally connected and he no longer felt fulfilled intimately.
Jeremiah realized he was only getting out of his marriage what he was putting into it; it was not actually all her fault.
So, he set out on a journey of self exploration, enrolled in Masculinity Reclaimed, learned how to emotionally connect with his wife, and slowly but surely progress began to follow.
At one point he basically says -- honestly, I thought the men you interviewed of their success through your program were paid actors… until it happened to our sex life!
But most importantly he shares in this episode the specific shifts he made in himself that transformed their intimacy.
Join me as we dive into how Jeremiah went from somewhat stale and obligatory intimacy to deep, emotionally fulfilling lovemaking (where she initiated even 2x in one day!)
Be inspired--be encouraged--get motivated!
If you’re a man, you’ll really want to sign up for this free training “Men’s Masterclass” at the end of March 2021 at delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
If you’re a woman you can attend a free class all about confidence in intimacy — which will be available for a limited time go to delightyourmarriage.com/sc
If you’d like to find other free resources go to delightyourmarriage.com/free
276-Gents, When You Want It But She Doesn't
Frequently, men are craving intimacy more than their wives. If you're in that category, then this podcast will help you.
I have some very important lifestyle and in-the-moment advice for you when you are in the mood but she is not.
These are productive things you can do. And if you know me at all, I'm rooting for generous and fiery passion in your marriage, but... how do you get there?
Some of my advice may seem like it's not moving you in that direction. However, you may be surprised that when you become more the man God wants you to become--in the context of your marriage--your wife naturally is drawn to that. Intimately.
Lots of goodness in this podcast and I think it will help a lot of men get a vision of how to shift things long-term and even in the moment when they are desiring her.
PS... For the free Men's Training coming at the end of March, go to delightyourmarriage.com/menstraining
For the free advice training for men who want to invite their wives to listen to DYM, go to delightyourmarriage.com/advice
FREE Training for Women: Confidence in Intimacy
Would love to have you for the Seductive Confidence training being released right now...
Sign up at www.delightyourmarriage.com/sc and the video trainings will come to your email.
It's available for a limited time, so I hope you'll join me!
275-Wives, Organize Your Lives for Passion
Sex motivates us to be the men and women He wants us to be.
Men have to discipline themselves to be more like Jesus for her to want to have sex with him. For a woman to desire sex, she has to be at peace, confident, and aligned with God's priorities in who/what gets her time.
So, this podcast is directed towards women because often women are the organizers and they are the ones who tend to struggle to have passion. But what if there was a way to actually organize your life so that passion is a consistent desire and fulfilling activity?
That's what I want to talk to you about.
As Jesus followers, we are invited to do things that aren't the societal norms.
I think that passion for women is fairly "natural" for the first 2-3 years of a relationship/marriage. And after that it requires intentionality.
She just stops feeling it... nothing against that specific husband necessarily, she switches to life, busyness, mom - mode. And the attracting-that-guy-mode which heightened libido fades.
BUT! As a wife you can organize your life, your thoughts, and your pursuits in a way that causes you to desire sex, but it requires intentionality for women.
I vowed that on our wedding day, and it will never be negotiable. That's called exercising faithfulness to my marriage vows. Is it a "duty"? That's a gross way of thinking about loving a person---not to mention the most important person of your life.
Is a husband accepting, encouraging, and listening to his wife's heart a duty? It would be gross if that's how he thought of it. But, both are expectations of faithfulness as a married person.
Both are opportunities for them to bless each other and fulfill God's will at the same time.
PS If you'd like to join the free training for women all about confidence in intimacy -- which will be available for a limited time -- go to delightyourmarriage.com/sc
If you'd like to find other free resources go to delightyourmarriage.com/free
274-For 28 years It Was a Duty...Then a Miracle. Interview with Darcy
Darcy is a busy business owner, mother, and grandmother--married 28 years.
She loves God and has had a better than average marriage all that time.
A friend of hers invited her to listen to the podcast--saying it had brought them to tears.
And when she listened, she too was brought to tears with a very different understanding of intimacy than she had ever realized.
God did an utter miracle in her heart and her marriage.
For days she had a voracious appetite for intimacy with her husband. She says it gave her insight into how a man feels all the time. And she feels a oneness with him she's never felt previously.
Her husband changed! His low-grade depression disappeared! He is becoming a better father and man of faith. He is thriving before her eyes.
Their daughter even asked: "Mom, what happened to dad??"
If you're a wife, I encourage you to listen with an open heart.
God may want to speak to you through Darcy's story of love for Jesus. Which fueled a change of heart towards her husband.
I encourage you, if you know someone who may need to hear this story, send this to them. That's how Darcy's life changed. Someone had the courage to share it with her!
God bless you,
PS - I have MANY free resources! I would love to invite you to check them out: delightyourmarriage.com/free
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Changed my heart and opened my eyes
I have been changed by Belah’s podcast, her words, and her prayers at the end of most podcasts. I have listened to, read, and used many other marriage resources with the hope of “fixing” my marriage but didn’t realize that unless I fixed my heart and fixed my relationship with my wife that we could truly progress. I’m excited to keep listening and hope to work with Belah in the future!
It Starts with Intention
I discovered this podcast about 6 weeks ago when I listened to another podcast on which Belah was a guest interview. I was so drawn to her calmness and grace, and the humility in her wisdom.
Since then, I sent Belah an email about some personal issues I was having, and she replied with sheer empathy. She really is a beacon for everyone trying to navigate through the waters of marriage and intimacy.
I just made a cross country drive and listened to 15 episodes in a row. Some more than once.
And I can’t wait for the next episode to be released.
After years of trying to come to a deeper understanding of what my wife desires when it came to romance we came across Belah’s podcast. The discussions and advice shared in these podcasts has helped me shift my focus to better loving my spouse and has been a huge blessing to our marriage. This has also helped us both come to a much deeper understanding of each other’s likes and desires. God bless your ministry.