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Breaking up with a best friend can feel just as painful as splitting up with your partner. And while everyone acknowledges the trauma of romantic breakups, people don’t really talk about the fallout of a platonic separation. But the truth is a breakup is a breakup. When you share intimacy, and trust, in a friendship making the decision to dissolve the relationship can be very difficult. So on today show I’ve brought on one of my besties Frank Baly to dish on this topic we’ve both had our ups and downs in friendship and I hope our perspectives helps you navigate the choppy water of breaking up with a bestie.

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87: Feeling Unheard and Unseen in Relationships?

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Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show
Frank Baly www.frankabaly.com
Neely Counseling www.neelycounseling.com
Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
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In Episode 99, Pt. 2, we continue to unravel the Love Language Paradox: I dive into the dos and don'ts of how to effectively use love languages. You will leave this episode ready to love and live from a new perspective.

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57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Layer Conversations

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Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show
Love Language Test: https://5lovelanguages.com/
Neely Counseling www.neelycounseling.com
Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
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Odds are, you've heard of the five love five languages by now, and you may even have proclaimed out loud that your love language is physical touch, quality time, or one of the five. But in my work as a therapist, I find that people are missing the real magic behind what makes love languages a powerful concept and maybe misunderstand the original intent. Three decades ago, Gary Chapman, a 50-year-old Southern Baptist pastor with a doctorate in adult education, introduced the concept to the world with his seminal book, "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts." In our two-part series, we are going to break down how to effectively utilize the five love languages to give and receive the love you deserve.

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57: Heal Relationship Disconnects w/Third Layer Conversations

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Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show
Love Language Test: https://5lovelanguages.com/
Neely Counseling www.neelycounseling.com
Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
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If you know me, then you know that I am seriously a big fan of therapy. I might be a little biased as a therapist, but the truth is I am a big fan because I have seen firsthand the ability therapy has to transform lives. I have seen marriages saved, depression lifted, and teens get back on track with their life. However, I do understand that there may be a period in time when going to therapy is just not possible. Whether it is because of finances, time, or maybe you simply aren’t ready. So, on today’s show, I am going to share some simple self-help tools you can use in between therapy sessions.

Here's a glance at this episode:
[3:35] Disclaimer
[4:16] Tip #1: Journaling
[7:56] Prompt examples
[17:30] Tip #2: Work on disrupting your thoughts.
[19:10] Put your thoughts on trial.
[25:33] Toolbox Takeaway

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Episode 55: Dump the Inner Critic Episode
Episode 51: Are you considering therapy?

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It's challenging to help a loved one struggling with any type of addiction. Sometimes direct, heart-to-heart conversation can lead to arguments, lies, and denial. Family and friends are often unsure of whether what they are dealing with is really an addiction or just misuse. The bottom line is seeing someone you love spiral into what you think is addiction is scary and can have emotional and psychological ramifications for everyone. In Episode 96, to help me explore this topic I’ve brough in Aaron Ballesteros, Licensed Professional Counselor. He has a passion for substance abuse work and shares some nuggets of wisdom on this episode. Substance abuse and substance misuse are often thought to be the same, but they have different meanings. Someone who delas with substance abuse means that they are intentionally using the drug in an unhealthy and illegal way. Whereas substance misuse is using or taking medicine in a way it was not intended to do so. According to the National Center for Drug Abuse Statistics (NCDAS), 21.4% of people who are 12 and over have used illegal drugs or misused prescription drugs within the last year. However, it was also discovered that the drug use among people aged 12 and over is down 0.4% year-over-year.

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Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show
Aaron Ballesteros https://www.instagram.com/counseloraaron/?hl=en
Aaron Ballesterso https://www.tiktok.com/@counseloraaron?lang=en
Neely Counseling www.neelycounseling.com
Psychology Today https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
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It is never easy when someone you know personally puts a label on you, like saying, “you’re so controlling.” Initially, you might think this person is just hating on you, but if you hear this from multiple people, you may begin to wonder if there is any truth to what they are saying.
Controlling behaviors can be incredibly detrimental to any relationship and may have deep emotional roots. In many instances, you may not realize that your actions come across as controlling. So, on today’s show, we will explore red flags that you may be a control freak and identify strategies to help you move through life with more ease and less control. Many times, being a control freak can create other issues within yourself, like increased anxiety or even severe self-criticism. It is important to be self-aware and recognize the signs before it is too late and you have damaged your relationship with others.

Here's a glance at this episode:
[2:50] Level Set: Are you controlling?
[5:20] What are the subtle ways you may be a control freak?
[17:28] Understanding why you are controlling
[21:30] What you can do about it?
[35:21] Toolbox Takeaway

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