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Life has a weird way of making the most amazing people feel like they’re not good enough. You know, not smart enough, pretty enough, or skinny enough. The Drop the BS podcast is dedicated to inspiring you through those moments. In each episode, seasoned therapist Dr. Kirleen Neely will take you in session to learn the tools you need to drop your backstory and live your best today story.306221

Drop the BS w/ Dr. Kirleen Drop the BS Podcast

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Life has a weird way of making the most amazing people feel like they’re not good enough. You know, not smart enough, pretty enough, or skinny enough. The Drop the BS podcast is dedicated to inspiring you through those moments. In each episode, seasoned therapist Dr. Kirleen Neely will take you in session to learn the tools you need to drop your backstory and live your best today story.306221

    81: Let's Do Some Work On Your BackStory

    81: Let's Do Some Work On Your BackStory

    Have you ever felt like, with everything you’ve accomplished in your life, you should have more confidence and self-esteem? If you answered YES, you are not alone. Many highly successful individuals struggle with feeling like an imposter. These insecurities often stem from past experiences that have never been worked through. When left unchecked insecurities, can lead to overthinking situations, panic attacks, giving more than you get in relationships, and questioning whether you’re good enough. The good news is you can learn how to let go of the insecurities that cause you to feel anxious. In this episode of the podcast, we are going to take a dive into three Backstories that sabotage success and peace of mind. Get a pen and paper because we dig deep in this episode so you can come out on top.
    Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show:
    BackStory Masterclass Sign Up https://neely-counseling-center-plc.ck.page/93288607ab
    Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/

    • 22 min
    80: Using Emotional Intelligence to Resolve Conflict and Keep Your Cool w/ Doug Noll

    80: Using Emotional Intelligence to Resolve Conflict and Keep Your Cool w/ Doug Noll

    It seems that conflict is all around us these days, from political discord to conflict on the job, to fights with partners. The interesting thing is if asked, most people would say the one thing we want more than anything else is peace. However, if that’s the case, then why does it seem that so many of us are having trouble controlling tempers, comprising, and finding the peace they say they want. Some research would say it's because we have not been taught the power of using emotional intelligence to harness peace. Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to perceive, control, and evaluate emotions. The ability to express and control emotions is essential, but so is the ability to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others. I’ve brought in Doug Noll to help us dissect this topic. He’s a lawyer, speaker, and author, Doug has spent much of his life examining human conflict. His latest book, De-Escalate, helps people resolve deep interpersonal and ideological conflicts. This is a must-listen-to interview. He truly shares nuggets of wisdom.

    Guest
    Doug Noll is an award-winning lawyer, mediator, author, teacher, speaker, and trainer who has mediated thousands of conflicts. After serving as a civil trial lawyer for 22 years, Doug is passionate about understanding human conflict. His groundbreaking work in de-escalating anger in potentially violent confrontations has transformed lives everywhere, including in maximum-security prisons. Doug’s fourth book, De-Escalate, is now available in four languages.

    Key Takeaways
    1. All conflict can be resolved in 90 seconds or less
    2. We must address the emotions before we address the problem
    3. Ignore the words and read the emotion

    Research on the Topic
    Emotional intelligence is the ability to perceive, reason, understand, and manage emotion (Cherry, 2020). While some argue that we are born with a set level of emotional intelligence, others argue that it is a skill that can be strengthened with knowledge and practice. Much research points to the latter argument, and programs for social and emotional learning have become standard curriculum in many schools. Gaining a greater understanding of emotional intelligence can have many benefits. Strengthening and understanding emotional intelligence helps you to think before you react to situations, maintain a greater sense of self-awareness, and have more empathy than others. To improve your emotional intelligence, it’s important to listen, empathize, and reflect the emotions of those around you as well as yourself. Overall, working to improve your emotional intelligence is beneficial in many, if not all, aspects of life.

    Want More?
    Check out episode 72: Exploring Mindfulness, Meditation, and Manifestation with Mahima for more information on keeping your cool in stressful times!

    Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show:
    Doug Noll https://dougnoll.com/
    BackStory Masterclass Sign Up https://neely-counseling-center-plc.ck.page/93288607ab
    Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/

    • 42 min
    79: Should You Consider Couples Counseling? w/Dr. Kimberly VanBuren

    79: Should You Consider Couples Counseling? w/Dr. Kimberly VanBuren

    Making the choice to go to couples counseling can feel like a very big step. It involves admitting things are not perfect in your relationship which often brings up feelings of failure, blame, and shame. For those who are unfamiliar with the therapeutic process, questions and concerns about couples counseling can limit a couple from seeking assistance. Some may wonder how talking to a complete stranger will help them or if talking about problems in your relationship will only make things worse. While these are common concerns, statistics from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy report a much more positive story; 97% of couples reported getting the help they needed after attending couples counseling. To help you unpack the uncertainty of couples counseling, I have brought in seasoned marriage and family therapist Dr. Kimberly VanBuren.

    Key Takeaways
    •Couples need to let go of the need to be “right” and become more focused on having the right outcome.

    •Relationship dysfunction bleeds into other areas of your life (work, kids, friends). Start the process by talking to your partner about wanting things to be better.

    •Statics show that 97% couples who go to counseling feel that the process helped their relationship.

    Mentions:

    Dr. Kimberly VanBuren https://balancingactlms.com/about/
    Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/
    Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
    EAP www.neelyeap.com

    • 34 min
    78: Using Acupuncture for Your Mental Health w/Dr. Winnie Chan Wang

    78: Using Acupuncture for Your Mental Health w/Dr. Winnie Chan Wang

    Talk therapy and medications are wonderful ways to treat mental health issues. However, there are many other therapeutic avenues that could be beneficial but are often not explored. One such therapeutic approach is the use of Acupuncture. Acupuncture is a form of alternative medicine and a component of traditional Chinese medicine in which thin needles are inserted into the body. Many people swear by Acupuncture's ability to heal physical and emotional trauma. To help us unpack this subject I've brought in trauma-informed licensed acupuncturist Dr. Winnie Wang. Dr. Wang believes that trauma is the root cause of many physical and emotional illnesses, she focuses on releasing trapped emotions in organs and meridians (energy pathways).

    About Our Guest
    Winnie Chan Wang is a trauma-informed licensed acupuncturist, Reiki practitioner, shadow worker, and shamanic Tao healer. She is also a professor in Acupuncture at Alhambra Medical University. In her private practice, Winnie honors her clients as divine self-healers, navigating their healing journeys as co-pilots. Winnie combines the medical science of a clinically trained acupuncturist with the spiritual knowledge of a shaman to help her clients process their trauma by channeling source healing energy and guided breathwork.

    Key Takeaways
    Your body keeps the score of mental health "injuries". To deal with your mental health, you have to deal with your physical health.
    Take the time to listen to your body. Your physical pain could be alerting you to deeper emotional wounds.
    Physical health problems such as headaches, fatigue, and stomach pain may be indicators of an underlying emotional health problem.

    Mentions:

    Dr. Winnie Wang https://mindfulhealingheart.com/Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/
    Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
    Neely Counseling Center: www.neelycounseling.com

    • 47 min
    77: Stress Management 101

    77: Stress Management 101

    The best part about a good vacation is how it can bring feelings of relaxation, peace of mind, and restoration. For a lot of people, however, those feelings are fleeting, and it’s not too long till you’re planning another vacation just to get a little bit of that peace and happiness again. As a society, we are constantly chasing happiness in the form of a stress-free life, but it always seems just out of reach. We get caught up in work stress, relationship stress, and much more. We may become so stressed that we start to feel depressed, anxious, or burnt out. Stress really does seem inevitable most times. However, the research on happiness and stress shows there is a way to live a life that is less stressful. On today’s show, we’re going to look at practical and research-based ways to reduce stress so you can live a happier life.

    Key Takeaways
    It’s essential to cultivate a mindset of happiness, no matter the circumstances. Doing this changes the lens in which you see the world, leading to less stress and more positivity.
    Make a conscious effort to be kind. This improves the day of those you are kind to as well as your own, leading to reduced negativity in your life.
    Create daily practices. Have a routine of things to help you stay focused throughout the day while reducing stress.

    Episode Moments/Quotes

    5:38 - “Throw out the idea, the thought, that has probably been planted in your head, that success precedes happiness.” -Dr. Neely

    7:01 - “Success is a moving target. We have to ground our level of stress and how we manage it in something that we have control of.” -Dr. Neely

    10:28 - Exercise about the importance of mindset in relation to stress.

    16:07 - “We pick up negative emotions like secondhand smoke.” -Dr. Neely.

    Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show:


    Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/
    Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
    Neely Counseling Center: www.neelycounseling.com

    • 32 min
    76: Why Are You Still Playing Small? w/ Joy Sutton

    76: Why Are You Still Playing Small? w/ Joy Sutton

    We often dismiss what we want in life in order to maintain a present moment illusion of security, acceptance, or control. We may know that we are playing small yet continue to do so to keep the illusion. Why do we do this? Maybe it’s imposter syndrome, anxiety or the fear of the unknown. Whatever the root cause playing small limits our potential and holds us back from success. Recognizing your gift, your dreams, and your goals while doing whatever it takes to reach them is essential to living your best life.

    About Our Guest
    Joy Sutton is a former TV journalist and current talk show host. Joy is a master communicator with over 20 years of media experience. She’s been engaging audiences as far back as she can remember. Her talk show interviews have made national headlines with features in People magazine, Daily Mail, and E!. Joy is also a certified life coach and media coach. In 2011, Joy launched her own show, “The Joy Sutton Show”. The show aired for four seasons before relaunching in 2020 as an inspirational podcast. She also hosts “Addiction Talk”, a Facebook live show.

    Key Takeaways

    · “If you believe it’s true, it’s true for you” -Joy Sutton. Believing in yourself and changing your mindset are essential to success.
    · Pay attention to the small things that happen in your life. Follow the path they lead you on and take advantage of experiences and opportunities.
    · Focus on your gift and what you want to accomplish rather than a specific route to get there. There is more than one vehicle that will lead you to your destination.

    Episode Moments/Quotes

    8:35 - Joy Sutton’s backstory of no limitations and perseverance.
    12:36 - “If you have a gift, it’s gonna show up. It doesn’t have to be perfect. It can be messy, it can take you a while to get there.” -Joy Sutton
    15:00 - How Joy Sutton stopped playing small and pulled herself out of a dark time. “Who you put around you makes all the difference.” -Joy Sutton
    21:20 - It takes time to balance your life. Experiment with different what-ifs and keep moving forward.
    28:01 - “You can’t stop thinking a thought, but you can replace a thought.” -Joy Sutton

    Resources/Things Mentioned During The Show:

    Drop The BS Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropthebspodcast/
    Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us
    Neely Counseling Center: www.neelycounseling.com

    • 31 min

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Wonderful Conversation

Dr. Kirleen is a sophisticated, kind, powerhouse who asks great questions and shares potent wisdom. Loved our conversation about all things intimacy!!

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So on POINT

I felt like Dr. Kirleen was talking to me! I’ve been thinking about all my goals lately. Listening to Dr. Kirleen gave me that nudge to make them a reality and not just a thought!! Thank you soooo much!!!!

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Episode #65

I am privileged to have been a student of Dr. Neely. Her podcasts are very informative and superb, just as her collegiate lecturing skills. She hits the nail on the head in so many areas such as “Anticipating the resistance “ which I learned in the military and “ Changing the conversation.”

I strongly believe anybody can benefit from Dr. Neely’s podcasts. One doesn’t necessarily have to be a client to listen to her podcasts.

**I also truly believe individuals in various professions should listen to them, as it will improve our overall wellness and obstacles we may encounter in our everyday lives.

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