Emotional Cripples Andrew Lowe and Tim Tucker

Happy new year. We've only gone and done another fortysomething minutes of talk about male mental health.
This episode:
• 2019 and all that. We considered a look back on our favourite albums and movies and shows and things and trends of 2019. But we got bored with it, and talked about what we're worried about and looking forward to in 2020 instead.
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
Chase The Rainbow: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/Chase-the-Rainbow/Poorna-Bell/9781471160721
The Bob Dylan film Tim goes on about: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rolling_Thunder_Revue:_A_Bob_Dylan_Story_by_Martin_Scorsese
Julian Baggini - The Ego Trick: https://www.microphilosophy.net/the-ego-trick/
The Enigma of Kaspar Hauser: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Enigma_of_Kaspar_Hauser
Derren Brown - Happy: https://www.waterstones.com/book/happy/derren-brown/9780552172356
Brian & Roger: https://play.acast.com/s/brianandroger

Hello, it's us again. Two middle-aged British men talking about their mental health struggles: solidarity, coping strategies, trends, commentary on mental health in culture, shoehorned Simpsons references.
This episode:
• Perfectionism. Or, in mental health terms, OCPD (Obsessive-compulsive Personality Disorder). We talk to Chris Ward, global charity campaigner and adventure cyclist, about his book Less Perfect, More Happy, in which Chris documents his struggles with OCPD.
• The differences between OCD and OCPD.
• Why striving to be 'perfect' isn't necessarily a good thing.
• How the idea of being a 'perfectionist' can be a euphemism for destructive - and self-destructive - behaviour.
• What you can do to manage your life if you suffer from OCPD, or feel your behaviour displays elements of OCPD.
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
Chris's book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Less-Perfect-More-Happy-Chris/dp/0957612370
Perfectionism & OCD: https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201612/perfectionism-versus-obsessive-compulsive-disorder
Chris on Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisatcoffice

We're back. Two middle-aged British men talking about their mental health struggles: solidarity, coping strategies, trends, commentary on mental health in culture.
There'll be occasional guests (let us know if you've got a story to tell) but for now, you're stuck with us, and our revolutionary new plan of 'doing an episode whenever we feel like it'.
This episode:
• That January mood. SAD or sad or clinical depression?
• How trying too hard could be a marker for a mental health issue.
• Why Gillette's 'The Best Men Can Be' campaign is a thing of goodness.
• How Andy has sort of misunderstood hedonic adaptation: https://positivepsychologyprogram.com/hedonic-treadmill/
 
 
Simpsons references: 1.
 
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
Gillette: The Best Men Can Be: https://gillette.com/en-us/the-best-men-can-be
Coming off antidepressants (MIND): https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/drugs-and-treatments/antidepressants/withdrawal-effects-of-antidepressants/#.XE15v8_7RTY
Crimewatch File: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLzrGOTtoco
Sorry To Bother You: https://danhett.itch.io/sorry
Andy's favourite Laurel & Hardy episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZujoJaR2ERY&t=225s

It's Christmas time. And, according to Band Aid's spurious claim, there's no need to be afraid. So, here we are to let in light and banish shade during one of the most joyous/stressful times of the year.
Just me and Tim this time, giving our tips for sanity retention over the Christmas period.
 
Plus:
• A fascinating educational moment where everyone learns about the celestial origins of Christmas.
• Some men occasionally clanging scaffolding in the background.
 
Simpsons references: 2.
 
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
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Trello: www.trello.com
Getting Things Done: https://gettingthingsdone.com/
Tim's band, Furlined: https://furlined.bandcamp.com/
The man who is eating nothing but mince pies in December: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-46622524
Food Rules by Michael Pollan: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/305288/food-rules-by-michael-pollan/9780143116387/
MR James ghost stories: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p06vz14y
Five stages of grief: https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/
Januaryland (Viz): http://viz.co.uk/2014/09/26/januaryland/
Monty Python's The Meaning of Life: http://www.philfilms.utm.edu/1/meaning.htm
 
Podcasts we mention:
A Podcast to the Curious (MR James): http://www.mrjamespodcast.com/
The Monster Hunter: http://themonsterhunters.com/
The A-Z of David Bowie: https://www.davidbowie.com/blog/2018/2/25/the-a-to-z-of-david-bowie-podcast
I Am The Eggpod: https://iamtheeggpod.com/
DavidBowie: AlbumtoAlbum (David Bowie, annoyingly with no spaces): https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/davidbowie-albumtoalbum/id1355073030?mt=2
Don't Do Things The Way I Do: http://zuzusbakery.co.uk/dont-do-things-the-way-i-do-the-podcast/
Bigmouth: https://audioboom.com/channel/bigmouth
Is It Rolling, Bob? (Bob Dylan): https://itunes.apple.com/gb/podcast/is-it-rolling-bob-talking-dylan/id1437321669?mt=2
Griefcast: https://play.acast.com/s/griefcast
Happy Place: http://www.officialfearnecotton.com/news/2018/2/26/happy-place-podcast
Mrs Brightside: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p0683q6p
Slow Radio: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p05k5bq0/episodes/downloads

Teenage male mental health. In the final episode of Series One, Andrew engages in a spot of artistically valid nepotism - by interviewing a member of his family. Tommy Lowe is Andrew's son - seventeen at the time of the interview. He talks about the view of mental health among his peers, his experiences with ADHD, and what it's like to grow up in a world where everything is on and everybody is expected to be open and available 24/7. Spoiler: it's surprisingly positive. 
Also:
• Andy has a moan about the mental health pressures of Christmas.
• Tim has got a new microphone.
Simpsons references: 1.
 
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
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The ADHD Foundation - https://www.adhdfoundation.org.uk/
Karl Pilkington on Christmas - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ih360TF60Vc
Greg Lake - 'I Believe In Father Christmas': https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JPm6CheT6rs
Perfectionism and OCD - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truisms-wellness/201612/perfectionism-versus-obsessive-compulsive-disorder
The Day Today Sinn Fein helium thing - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MR6jGJ1lq2U
 
 
 

Neuro-linguistic programming. It's a controversial approach to personal development and psychotherapy, with plenty of negative, bullshitty connotations. But a lot of people swear by it, including one of the EC co-presenters. So, we talk to NLP practitioner Ben Grassby about what it is, what it isn't, and how it can help with mental health struggles.
 
Also:
• Tim has had a conversation with 'a mate' about which male qualities women find attractive and how they relate to male mental health.
• Andy is annoyed about the inaccessibility of transcendental meditation.
 
Simpsons references: 2.
 
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Get in touch:
contact@emotionalcripples.com
@emcripples (Twitter)
Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1707014319375624/
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Samaritans:
https://www.samaritans.org/ 
Call 116 123 (UK and ROI)
 
Befrienders:
https://www.befrienders.org/
CALM – the Campaign Against Living Miserably:
https://www.thecalmzone.net/
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SHOW NOTES
MUSIC
The Weathermonger - 'Fourier'
The Weathermonger - 'Through The Honeycomb Window'
https://soundcloud.com/theweathermonger
https://open.spotify.com/artist/11QnHi5wotoXtx2O4uF8ny?si=TWAYe_bzS9-q9le35nVFZA
 
 
Ben Grassby and Bristol NLP: http://www.bristolnlp.co.uk/
Transcendental Meditation: https://www.davidlynchfoundation.org.uk/
Idris Elba/People Magazine: https://people.com/movies/idris-elba-sexiest-man-alive-2018-reveal/
Did 'shell shock' make us serious about mental health? http://www.bbc.co.uk/guides/zwg9kqt
A thing about Steve Strange: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/obituaries/steve-strange-lead-singer-with-visage-and-club-owner-who-became-the-leading-light-of-the-1980s-new-10045777.html
'Neurotypical': https://www.healthline.com/health/neurotypical#characteristics
Nietzsche and the 'ubermensch': https://www.britannica.com/topic/superman-philosophy
Stoicism and choice: https://dailystoic.com/control-and-choice/
Simpsons episode featuring self-help guru Brad Goodman: http://simpsons.wikia.com/wiki/Bart%27s_Inner_Child