Choosing to Stay Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal

We are so grateful to welcome our guest, Bonny Burns to the show today to talk about the important topic of sexual reintegration. We talk about sexual wouding and its impact on individuals. We delve into the shame that often comes up for both spouses and its affects on self-esteem and intimacy. We highligh the importance of acknowledging and addressing shame as a crucial step towards healing and reintegration.  We give some examples of how to handle triggers and create safety for couples who are ready to attempt sexual reintegration. We hope you enjoy this episode! If you want to connect with Bonny, you can read more about her and find a link to web site below:

About Bonny Burns

Bonny's professional career began as a Christian sexuality educator, writing and speaking on the popular podcast, Sex Chat for Christian Wives (over 1.7 M downloads). The trajectory of her career morphed as her third discovery day came to light. Bonny has a BS in Christian counseling from Liberty University, is an ICF credentialed coach and is an APSATS certified partner coach. She is co-host of the podcast, Hope For Wives: Overcoming the Impact of Sexual Betrayal through a Christian Lens. She is on the Leadership Team of the Sarah Society, a free Christian peer-led support group for betrayed wives. Also, she is on the Betrayal Trauma Religious Leader committee of the APSATS organization.

Because of her background in healthy sexuality, Bonny leads a class twice a year called, "Sexual Clarity for Christian Women: Reclaiming your sexual identity after betrayal."

If you want to learn more the courses and group she offers or to work with Bonny, you can check out her website: strongwives.com

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

Book with Hali

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

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Thank you for joining us as we reflect on our first year of walking along side you in your healing journey! Today we share our gratitude for you, our listeners. We also reshare one of our most popular episodes from this year. We hope you enjoy this final episode and look forward to diving into Season 2 next week! 

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

Book with Hali

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

More from Choose Recovery Services:

Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. 

Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. 

Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. 

The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. 

Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In this episode, Natalie Bigler shares her journey of navigating betrayal with internal agency. She discusses the role of setting boundaries, overcoming challenges, and fostering authentic connections in the aftermath of betrayal. Tune in for empowering insights and advice for betrayed partners seeking to reclaim power and autonomy. 

Guest Natalie Bigler

BCC trainee, APSATS trainee, Therapeutic Art Life Coach Natalie Bigler serves as a Betrayal Trauma specialist at Choose Recovery Services and is the CEO of Truth Rising Coaching alongside her husband and coach, Matthew Bigler. Currently undergoing training as a Board Certified Coach and APSATS trainee, Natalie combines fresh insights from addiction recovery with over two decades of personal experience healing from childhood trauma and betrayal. With a deep passion for empowering individuals and couples affected by sexual compulsion, Natalie offers compassionate support and evidence-based strategies to facilitate healing and transformation. She guides her clients towards reconnecting with their highest selves and inner truth, fostering a path towards profound personal growth and renewal. nataliebiglercoaching@gmail.com, www.chooserecovery.com, www.truthrising.com,

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

Book with Hali

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

More from Choose Recovery Services:

Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

Connect with Choose Recovery on Instagram

In today’s episode we delve into a crucial aspect of relational repair after betrayal: prioritizing the needs of the betrayed partner. Join us as we explore the importance of acknowledging and addressing the needs of the betrayed spouse as a foundational step towards healing and rebuilding trust in the relationship.

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

Book with Hali

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

More from Choose Recovery Services:

Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery. 

Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage. 

Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce. 

The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorce. 

Connect with Choose Recovery on Instag

Join Hali in today’s episode where she discusses how to know if and when it’s the right time to step into couple’s work with a coach or therapist. She will offer guidance on when to recognize if you are ready for couple’s work and how to find a coach or therapist who can provide the sensitive support you need in the complex journey of healing after betrayal. 

Thank you for tuning in to our podcast for couples healing from infidelity and betrayal. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Hali’s Bio

Book with Hali

Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

Read Stephanie’s Bio

Book with Stephanie

Contact us:  info.choosingtostay@gmail.com

Choosing To Stay Webinar: Join Hali as she teaches this monthly free webinar for those Choosing To Stay after infidelity and betrayal.

Help. Her. Heal. for Men - Hali Roderick helps men learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. Participants will receive weekly exercises and worksheets to help them gain the skills to begin healing a broken relationship. 

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men - Hali Roderick leads a betrayal trauma support group for men who have been betrayed where they can gain tools and resources to recover from betrayal trauma in a healthy way while being surrounded by a supportive community. 

Healing Hearts Couples Group - Stephanie Hamby leads Healing Hearts Live Group  a supportive community for couples seeking healing after betrayal and infidelity, emphasizing the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy, offering practical tools, skills, and a nurturing community to navigate challenges and foster relational growth.

Choose Renewal Group for women: Stephanie Hamby leads Choose Renewal: For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Our focus is on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out. This group aims to provide a safe, nurturing community where women can find support and guidance on their journey towards renewal.

More from Choose Recovery Services:

Choose Healing - Betrayal Trauma support for women - This weekly support group is for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help to cope with the symptoms of trauma such as depression, hypervigilance, anxiety, and lack of trust. Ask questions from our team of coaches at Choose Recovery Services who have been there.

Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity, and/or betrayal. Participants will gain tools and an understanding to better manage emotions and assess behaviors. 

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves. 

Choose 360 for Men - Support group for men who have reached a sense of wholeness in their recovery and are looking to maintain their recovery through awareness, accountability, and comradery.

Road to Recovery - Free monthly webinar with Luke and Alana Gordon for couples navigating the relational aspects that come along the road to recovery. 

Should I Stay or Should I Go? - Amie Woolsey teaches this free monthly coaching call for those stuck trying to decide whether to stay in their marriage.

Empowered Divorce Q&A - Amie Woolsey offers a free monthly coaching call to answer questions for women navigating divorce.

The Empowered Divorce Podcast - with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning towards divorc

We are pleased to welcome Morgan Ellsworth back to share her groups for children who experience family betrayal. With school winding down and summer quickly approaching, it might be the right time to get your teen or adult child registered for a family betrayal support group. Morgan is offering a $5 per week discount for the first month to anyone who registers for either the Resilient Teens or Adult Children United in Healing group by May 5th. She is hoping this makes group more accessible to your family.

Adult Children United in Healing

Thursdays 6:00 pm MT 

Register here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/adult-children-uniting-for-healing/

*PROMO CODE FOR DISCOUNT: 5-OFF-ADULT-CHILDREN

Resilient Teens

Wednesdays 4:30 pm MT

Register here: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/resilient-teens/

FOR DISCOUNT5-OFF-TEENS

Email for more info: ⁠info@chooserecoveryservices.com⁠

Or reach out to Morgan personally: Morgan.ellsworth98@gmail.com 



Check out Morgan's information or schedule a consult with her here:

https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/#MorganEllsworth