From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer Geoff & Jody Steurer

Trauma responses can alter how we see ourselves, our relationships, and the world. In this episode we focus on managing betrayal trauma and its impact on our self-perception of goodness. While this can be affected through other traumas, betrayal uniquely affects our core identity and sense of safety. Join us as we discuss the importance of boundaries, understanding and managing strong emotions like hate and disgust, and the misconception that being good means being a doormat.

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About Geoff Steurer:

I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

 

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

 

Relationships of every kind make up the fabric of our lives. In this episode we invite Heather Linchenko to join us, author and expert on healthy relationships. Heather discusses her book 'I Meant Well…and Other Words That Kill Relationships,' which offers advice on improving relationships. She shares insights from her experiences working with Stephen R. Covey and Douglas T. Snarr and talks about her personal journey of learning and teaching relationship skills, emphasizing the importance of addressing both sides of relationship dynamics - nurturing and addressing conflict. Heather also shares personal anecdotes, including transformative parenting techniques and advocating for clean, deep, and genuine relationships. 

The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! 

Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” 

Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.

Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

About Heather Linchenko:Heather Linchenko's “claim to fame” was working for several years as the executive and personal assistant to Stephen R. Covey, author of the best-selling book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. She also worked for many years for Douglas T. Snarr, a Salt Lake City native, who spoke in circuits alongside effectiveness gurus like Zig Ziglar and Art Linkletter (household names of the time). She worked closely with each of these thought leaders in the perfecting process of works they authored.

She followed in the footsteps of these and other mentors by authoring books herself: Letters from Kazakhstan, which details her family’s 1998 adventures in post-Soviet Kazakhstan; Your Kids are Human, which teaches parents and teachers how to educate their children in a way everyone loves (no resistance!); and “I Meant Well” And Other Words That Kill Relationships, wherein she shares a wealth of knowledge on how to make bad

There are always complex challenges and dynamics in managing one's own recovery after betrayal or broken trust, and it is often tempting to become overly invested in a partner’s recovery journey as well.  Perhaps you've heard the recovery metaphor of 'sweeping your side of the street,' and how partners can sometimes fall into patterns of over-controlling each other's healing processes. We recognize there's an individual process in the recovery journey, but how do you ignore the very real relational issues that surface in recovery work? Join us in this episode as we discuss the significance of individual responsibility, the difficulty of balancing support without being directive, and the need for open communication and visible effort in the recovery process. It is important to remember the need for patience, understanding, and making conscious decisions to allow each partner to work through their own healing journey.

The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! 

Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” 

Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.

Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through t

If you could go back in time, what would you share with your younger self about their body, sexuality, relationships, and sexual connection? In this episode, we welcome Bonnie Young, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and founder of Azure Counseling. Bonnie discusses her book 'Sex Educated: Letters from a Latter-day Saint Therapist to Her Younger Self,' which tackles topics of body, sexuality, relationships, and sexual connection through a series of letters. Despite being written within a spiritual framework, her book offers scientifically grounded insights applicable to both men and women. We examine beliefs about body and sexuality to foster better relationships and provide accurate, non-shaming information to the next generations.

The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! 

Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” 

Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.

Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

About Bonnie Young:Bonnie Young is a licensed marriage and family therapist, frequent presenter and podcast guest, and published author of several academic articles, essays, and a book covering topics including sexuality, religion and mental health. She is the founder of Azure Counseling, an online mental health clinic focused on treating clients/ couples with anxiety, religious OCD / scrupulosity, and sexual disorders. Bonnie holds a bachelor’s degree in history with an emphasis in Mormon women’s history and a master’s degree in marriage and family therapy, both from Brigham Young University. Born and raised in the Seattle area, she currently lives in Logan, Utah where she is completing her doctoral studies at Utah State University in marriage and family therapy. Her dissertation work explores questions about power dynamics in Latter-day Saint marriages.

www.bonnieyoungcounseling.comwww.azurecounseling.comBonnie Youn

When you are on the sidelines watching a friend go through the trauma of betrayal, it can be difficult not to choose sides or to know when to help and when to step back. In this episode we explore the importance of assessing your role in their support system, setting clear boundaries, and managing personal resources while offering support to an individual or couple. The overall aim is to provide compassionate, long-term support while maintaining personal well-being and effectiveness.

The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! 

Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” 

Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.

Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

About Geoff Steurer: I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Typically our podcast and practice focuses on repairing relationships. But within that work is the very real question of “should I stay or should I go?” In this episode we invited Amie Woolsey to discuss the challenging topic of deciding whether to stay in or leave a relationship following serious betrayals such as infidelity, abuse, or neglect. The conversation highlights the complexities and emotional turmoil involved in making such decisions, including the pressure from societal and religious expectations and the fear of outcomes like financial insecurity and the impact on children. Amie emphasizes the importance of personal agency, safety, and self-trust in the decision-making process, advocating for a thoughtful, nuanced approach that goes beyond black-and-white thinking. 

The Power of Community in Pornography Recovery: Download Relay and try it out for free, or learn more at Relay's website. Use code GEOFF1 for 15% off! 

Broken trust? Download my FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” 

Join my 12-week program, The Trust Building Bootcamp, to heal your broken relationship.

Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

About Amie Woolsey:Amie Woolsey is a certified betrayal trauma life coach and Brainspotting Practitioner. She has helped hundreds of people reclaim their lives after abuse, betrayal & or divorce, using her extensive experience and holistic approach to healing the heart, mind, and body.

Having personally experienced the heartache and upheaval of betrayal and divorce, Amie empathizes deeply with the pain and turmoil these life circumstances can create. Through her transformative coaching style, she empowers women to navigate their challenging journeys with strength, confidence, tools, and unwavering support. There are multiple resources available created by Amie, alongside opportunities for both group and private coaching.

Amie is the creator and host of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, co-host of The Choose to BE Podcast, is affiliated with Safe Space, and the creator of her signatur