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The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.

From Crisis to Connection - with Geoff & Jody Steurer From Crisis to Connection

    • Health & Fitness
    • 4.9 • 123 Ratings

The goal of healing isn't just stopping the crisis. It's ultimately moving into genuine and meaningful connection with ourselves, each other, and the world around us. Join licensed therapist and author Geoff Steurer as he interviews experts and other guests about how to move out of the crisis of sexual betrayal and relationship betrayal trauma toward connection. The information in these interviews transcends religious and cultural lines, as we all seek the same healing power of connection.

    The Lure of the Victim Mindset - Episode 168

    The Lure of the Victim Mindset - Episode 168

    Life is full of situations that are out of our control. Once we have recovered from the initial shock of what has happened, how do we proceed? Do we continue to live as if we are powerless? Or do we make choices that we can control to heal and move forward? We have to be accountable and conscious with how we respond to what happens to us. Today we discuss the victim mindset and how that is often a default response mechanism, but how it is so important to choose to take ownership of our lives.

    If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

    For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

    We are excited to introduce Connection Plus
    Our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery

    • 17 min
    Balancing Autonomy and Partnership in a Committed Relationship - Episode 167

    Balancing Autonomy and Partnership in a Committed Relationship - Episode 167

    Our relationships, especially committed ones like marriage, give us the opportunity to influence and be influenced. We may value and prioritize many of the same things, but we will also have areas that are not congruent with our partner’s values. In those times, how do we react? Today we discuss the difference between trying to motivate and influence our partner in a healthy manner, and trying to manipulate and control them merely to get our own way. 

    If broken trust is an issue in your relationship, download the FREE video series “The First Steps to Rebuilding Trust” to help you get on the right track. https://www.geoffsteurer.com/freebie

    For details on our new Connection Plus Community, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

    • 18 min
    How Our Relationships Influence our Internal Motivation - Episode 166

    How Our Relationships Influence our Internal Motivation - Episode 166

    Each of us have areas of our lives where we are naturally motivated, disciplined, and focused. In contrast, we also have areas that are not as important to our core values, or that we struggle to prioritize. Today we discuss extrinsic vs. intrinsic motivation and how those shape and evolve throughout our lives, especially through our relationships with others. 

    For details on our new Connection Plus Community and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: 

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

     

    • 22 min
    Helping Children be Intrinsically Motivated - Episode 165

    Helping Children be Intrinsically Motivated - Episode 165

    Have you ever wondered what motivates you to make good decisions, work hard, or put effort into the important areas of your life? Have you wondered the most effective way to motivate others around you, especially your children? Today we start a 3-part discussion on Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic motivation and how one can often influence the other. 

    Today we begin a new format for this podcast. Hopefully you have listened to last week’s episode where we announced the launch of our new membership program Connection Plus: a community for relationship recovery. In Connection Plus we will have expert interviews, group coaching, webinars, and other great resources to help you learn and grow in your most important relationships. Moving forward, the “From Crisis to Connection” podcast will be with my wife Jody discussing topics from our professional and every-day viewpoints. We hope you’ll continue to enjoy the topics and discussion we will provide in this podcast, and also consider joining our membership for further instruction, application, and resources!

    For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! 

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treatin

    • 22 min
    A community for relationship recovery - Episode 164

    A community for relationship recovery - Episode 164

    We are thrilled to introduce Connection Plus, a one-of-a-kind community to give you direct support from us. This is our exclusive community for couples and individuals who want to maintain their recovery momentum and strengthen their relationships. 

    If you have been impacted by:


    Betrayal trauma
    Marriage/family conflict
    Compulsive sexual behaviors
    Abuse
    Infidelity
    Extended family drama

    …then you are in the right place.

    You will get expert, research-based content to help you stop destructive patterns, build skills for connection, and highlight a clear path to long-term healing. And you’ll get the added bonus of engaging with a community of people all committed to strengthening themselves and their relationships. 

    For details on what’s included and our special introductory “founder’s pricing”, please visit https://www.connectionpluscommunity.com

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Jody Steurer:Jody has been a strong voice supporting women as co-host of the podcast “Speak Up Sister”. She completed a bachelor's degree in psychology from Brigham Young University and is an ACA certified coach. She runs a small business and has years of experience in corporate training and organization. Jody’s most challenging work has been raising her four children (two of which are on the autism spectrum). She loves to do landscape design, paint in watercolor, spend time outdoors, and snow ski.

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients, and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to s

    • 15 min
    How we build trust with others (Part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 163

    How we build trust with others (Part 2) - Hank Smith - Episode 163

    For the next few weeks we will be running previous episodes that you may not have heard before! With over 150 past episodes, we have so many great topics and guests in the archives to choose from. We are taking this break to gear up for another exciting announcement coming soon. We can’t wait to share more! 

    This is part 2 of my interview with Hank Smith, speaker, author, and professor, who did his doctoral research on building trust in relationships. We dive into the research on what it takes to build trust in our close relationships, especially after trust has been damaged. Hank shares stories, examples, and some really helpful acronyms to help us remember key principles in building trust with others. 

    Sign up for our FREE weekly newsletter to stay up-to-date on exciting new announcements! https://www.geoffsteurer.com/newsletter-opt-in-podcast

    Download my FREE guide to help you quickly end arguments with your spouse: https://www.geoffsteurer.com/3-steps-to-end-your-marriage-argument

    Connect with me on social media:INSTAGRAMFACEBOOK

    Visit http://www.geoffsteurer.com for online courses and other supportive resources.

    About Geoff Steurer:I am a licensed marriage and family therapist, relationship educator, and coach with over 20 years of experience. I am the co-author of, "Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity", the host of the weekly podcast, "From Crisis to Connection", and have produced workbooks, audio programs, and online courses helping couples and individuals heal from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and rebuilding broken trust. As a leader in the field, I am a frequent contributor on these subjects at national conferences, documentaries, blogs, magazines, and podcasts. I also write a weekly relationship advice column available on my blog. I founded and ran an outpatient sexual addiction and betrayal trauma recovery group program for over 14 years, co-founded and chaired a local conference to educate community members about harmful media, and founded and administered a specialized group therapy practice for over 10 years. I currently maintain a private counseling and coaching practice in beautiful Southern Utah where I live with my wife and children.

    About Hank Smith:Dr. Henry “Hank” Smith grew up the son of a golf professional in sunny St. George, Utah. After earning a Bachelor’s Degree from Dixie State University, Hank earned a Master’s Degree in Business Administration from Utah State University and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Brigham Young University, where he is an Assistant Professor of Ancient Scripture. 

    Hank enjoys speaking , writing, and podcasting, especially for members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. 

    His weekly podcast followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway is enjoyed by millions across the globe and shares the gospel of Jesus Christ. 

    Hank has also authored many books, talks, and additionally speaks to tens of thousands of youth and adults each year. 

    Hank loves the Utah Jazz, biking, and running. He and his wife Sara are the parents of five adorable children. 


    Podcast: followHIM with Hank Smith and John Bytheway 
    Websites: http://www.hanksmith.com, http://www.followHIM.co (NO M), http://www.hankspeaks.com  
    Instagram: @hanrkrsmith, @followhimpodcast 
    Facebook: hanksmithcds

    The advice offered through Geoff Steurer's podcasts is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Geoff Steurer is a trained psychotherapist, he is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these podcasts, but rather using his training to inform the content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not

    • 43 min

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
123 Ratings

123 Ratings

Momof3cuties ,

Wise, entertaining, practical

Geoff is an amazing therapist who really understands relationships. I’ve enjoyed listening to his podcast and the wisdom shared with his guests. My favorite was the trust podcasts with Hank Smith! So many golden nuggets. Thanks for sharing such great wisdom with us Geoff!

Sunshine & Rain ,

So inspirational

Love that Geoff tackles some really hard topics! He’s helped me navigate several relationships in my life and he is by far one of my favorite podcasts to listen to every week!

Justine Nicole Brent ,

Love!!!

Just listened to “How we build trust with others” and absolutely loved the 4 types of trust discussed. Can’t wait for the other half of it.

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