290 episodes

Sari de la Motte is the host of "From Hostage to Hero" and has been dubbed the "Attorney Whisperer" because of her unique ability to help attorneys communicate their real selves. Join us weekly as Sari shares tips that will help you up your game at trial and connect with your jurors.

From Hostage To Hero Sari de la Motte

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Sari de la Motte is the host of "From Hostage to Hero" and has been dubbed the "Attorney Whisperer" because of her unique ability to help attorneys communicate their real selves. Join us weekly as Sari shares tips that will help you up your game at trial and connect with your jurors.

    Ep. 253 - The Heliotropic Effect: What it Is and How it Can Get You a Verdict

    Ep. 253 - The Heliotropic Effect: What it Is and How it Can Get You a Verdict

    🥁🥁🥁 Drumroll please! 🥁🥁🥁
    WE HAVE A GUEST SPEAKER: ROY CHANG.
    In this episode, he's sharing insights from an article he wrote about the Heliotropic Effect that aligns perfectly with our H2H method and philosophy.
    And he explains that as trial attorneys, this concept is something you simply CANNOT afford to ignore.
    Don’t miss out — this episode is what will BREAK YOU FREE from your law school brain and it is exactly what you need to flip the courtroom dynamics completely.
    Tune in now.
    Xo,
    Sari
     
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    Quote:
    "We were programmed to think, 'Well, jurors are against us. They're for the bad side.' We go with that. Our whole jury selection is based on, 'Pick out the bad guys. Find the bad guys, kick them out.' Never did I think about, 'Well, is that really true?' Jurors that I've talked to, a lot of times, they're just like us. They're no different than us. So why can't we communicate in that realm that they're not bad guys? We just need to communicate with them."
     
     
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
     
     
     



     

    • 31 min
    Ep. 252 - The Power of Contrast

    Ep. 252 - The Power of Contrast

    Contrast is the f*****g star of the show today ⭐
    Picture this: we're painting a badass masterpiece.
    Each stroke of contrast SHARPENS the narrative, adding depth and impact.
    Think about how you can leverage contrast to ELEVATE your narrative to motivate the jury to take ACTION. 
    Trust me, it's a game-changer. Tune into the episode now to dive in deeper.
    Xo,
    Sari
     
    Quote:
    “But the point is that the contrast is clarifying. It isn't messy. When you have contrast, it strengthens your argument. There's black and there's white, that's why the DVAQ, the Devil's Advocate. Don't do it in your regular voice, it has to be a contrast. There's another place, it has to be a contrast between your regular voice and your, "Yeah, but can you just say you're sorry" voice. It has to be different.”
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
     

    • 31 min
    Ep. 251 - Is it Ok to [GASP] CRY IN COURT?

    Ep. 251 - Is it Ok to [GASP] CRY IN COURT?

    Let's talk about a courtroom taboo: crying.
    IS IT -REALLY- OK TO CRY IN COURT?
    Spoiler alert: Mama Sari is giving you the green light.
    Because here's the thing: showing emotion isn't a sign of weakness — it's a sign of authenticity, passion, and unwavering dedication to your client.
    So, next time you feel that lump in your throat, embrace that shit.
    Tune in now.
    Xo,
    Sari
     
    Quote:
    "If emotions are contagious, my question to you is: why are you not using that opportunity to set the stage, and to set the tone of what happened? It's not facts that make people mad or sad or any of the other things. It's tone of voice, it's word choice, which is nonverbal. It's body language. We have to do these things so that the jury does feel an emotion, and that will then motivate them to act. Remember that your job is hard because you have to motivate the jury to do something when the easiest thing is to leave things as they are."
     
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
     
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
     

    • 25 min
    Ep. 250 - Holy Shit! It’s My 250th Episode!

    Ep. 250 - Holy Shit! It’s My 250th Episode!

    Holy f*****g shit! IT’S MY 250TH EPISODE! 🥳
    It is because of YOU that we have made it this far.
    So, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.
    Tune in to find out the 4 beliefs hindering your potential as a trial attorney.
    Xo,
    Sari
     
    Quote:
    "That's what I mean, is that there's a belief that it has to be hard. You read and reread all of the documents, due to your fear of missing something and missing out on something. You're overprepping. You are doing things yourself that you can be delegating. That's what I mean by you are making it hard or you think it has to be hard. You don't trust it when it's easy. What I'm here to say is, using the podcast as an example, it doesn't have to be hard to get great results."
     
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
     
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
     
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/

    • 23 min
    Wish You Had More Time? Why Having Less is a Good Thing

    Wish You Had More Time? Why Having Less is a Good Thing

    Forget burning the midnight oil to catch up on "unfinished" research, case preps, and admin tasks—Parkinson's Law says your work expands to fill the time you give it. 
    Hold on…
    LET ME FINISH.
    80% of your results come from 20% of your effort, and despite the popular opinion of many, it is OKAY to embrace B minus work (Yep, I said it and I’m not taking it back).
    Because perfection is overrated and you are bending yourself backwards for it.
    Love,
    Sari
     
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    Quote:
    “You knew you only had 40 hours. And by the way, you do have a side gig. It's called family, friends, taking care of yourself, resting. That's your side gig. But how would you spend those 40 hours? I think you would stop with all the b******t and you'd get down to business. See, when we have all this space, we think that's a good thing and it's actually the opposite. It's not a good thing.”
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
     
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
     

    • 21 min
    Do We Learn More From Success or Failure? You Might Be Surprised By the Answer

    Do We Learn More From Success or Failure? You Might Be Surprised By the Answer

    I always hear this from attorneys in and out of H2H –
    "I learned more from my failures than my successes." 
    Well, throw that bullshit out the window because this week's episode is all about debunking the myth that failure is the ultimate teacher.
    Tune in to find out how to break the cycle of fixating on mistakes (because let’s face it, that only leads to one thing: giving up 😤) and instead, champion a mindset fueled by success.
     
    Xo,
    Sari
     
    Mentions:
    The Winner Effect by Ian H. Robertson


     
    Quote:
    "We learn more from success than failure. Success is more motivating than failure. Success will have you work harder than failure. This is backwards from everything y'all believe. You believe it has to be hard. You believe you have to be hard on yourself. You believe that you can't decide you're amazing before you actually achieve something great. The research backs me up here. It's success that we want to emulate; it is success that we want to focus on."
     
     
    * * * * FREE H2H TRAINING * * * * 
    THREE POWERFUL STRATEGIES TO HELP READ A JUROR’S MIND
    Understand what the jury is thinking, so you can gain the confidence to trust them - and yourself - in the courtroom.
    Get the training here: 
    sariswears.com/jury 
     
    Can't get enough of me? Connect with me here:
    Instagram:
    https://www.instagram.com/saridelamotte/
    Facebook:
    https://www.facebook.com/SariSwears
    Watch on Youtube:
    https://www.youtube.com/@saridelamotte
    Free FB Group for Plaintiff & Criminal Defense Attorneys
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/fromhostagetohero/
     

    • 20 min

Customer Reviews

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120 Ratings

120 Ratings

katieo.esquire ,

Be a Better Trial Lawyer

As a mom, wife, trial lawyer, and law firm owner my free time is limited, but I always make time to listen to this podcast because in 20-30 minutes Sari offers advice and insight that has helped be be a better trial lawyer and live a better life. Sari you are a BAD MAMA JAMA and this podcast and everything you are doing is 100 percent making the practice of law and life as a trial lawyer better for us all. Thank you for all you do!

DawnSmithLaw ,

Inspired

Sari I cannot wait to hear every new episode. You inspire me and fill my cup when I need it the most. Thank you so much for believing in what we do and reminding us always that we change the world one case at a time. It’s about the fight and I’ll never quit! I gave a rebuttal closing yesterday and absolutely choked up with tears when I stood before the jury after the defense lawyer said he was just doing his job and so would I on rebuttal when I called him out in his lies. I remembered what you said - that it’s okay to show emotion and yes cry! I stood up and said this is not just a job, as my voice cracked and my eyes filled with tears. This is not a joke or something to make light of. People died and it’s only you that can say - No, not again. Not on our watch! I’m waiting for our verdict and so scared to let this family down. But I know we fought with everything we had using your method. Thank you thank you!

Dawn Smith

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Love Sari Swears

I have been following Sari since 2021. It is a whole body experience and you will undoubtedly better for it. Guaranteed!

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