Healing for Male Survivors with Mike Chapman Mike Chapman

This week I share a challenge & have an announcement.

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Links mentioned during the episode (and other helpful links on this topic):

No Longer Ashamed podcast (links to Spotify)

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

Website on my Recovery Life Coaching (now including Brainspotting Sessions): ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about 

Dovid grew up in Southern California as the middle child in a family of eleven. His mother died when he was only seven. He was sexually abused at a young age which led to struggles with unwanted same sex attraction since he was about twelve. He's done a significant amount of healing and recovery work, including participation in Jewish programs as well as Programs within Brothers Road along with counseling with Guard Your Eyes, a Jewish organization that helps people who struggle with porn addiction. Dovid is also finishing up his Masters of social work 

You can contact Dovid via Guard Your Eyes at dovidgreen41@gmail.com

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Links mentioned during the episode:

Brothers Road (multi-faith-based group helping adult men with unwanted same sex attraction) and their weekend retreats:


JiM - Jounrey Into Manhood


JC - Journey Continues


JB - Journey Beyond



Guard Your Eyes - organization helping Jewish men and women find freedom from porn addiction.

Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

Movie: Yours, Mine, and Ours (1968; links to “JustWatch”)

Movie: Sarah, Plain and Tall (1991; links to “JustWatch”)

Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa - episodes on Healing the Inner Child & on Triggers  (links to Youtube)::


“Arousal vs. Desire” with Doug Carpenter



Doug Carpenter’s Book, Secret Shame (links to Amazon)

Secret Shame Workbook (links to Amazon)

Podcast: Healing Hidden Wounds by Shadow of His Wings Ministry (links to Spotify)

Book: Not What I Expected: A 20-Year Journey to Reclaim A Child's Voice by Avremi Zippel (links to Amazon) 

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Website: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about

In honor of Memorial Day, I am posting early this week with a story that I created as a result of Husband Material’s recent Spring Story Challenge. I read the story and then discussed it with the Live Audience.

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Links mentioned during the episode (and other helpful links on this topic):

Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa - episodes on Healing the Inner Child & on Triggers  (links to Youtube)::


“Older Brother Coaching” 


“Porn And The Inner Child” with Dr. Eddie Capparucci 


“The Inner Child Challenge Workshop - LIVE” 


“Nine Tips About Triggers”



Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Website on my Recovery Life Coaching (now including Brainspotting Sessions): ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about

This week we have a panel discussion with 3 of my prior guests: Luke Wiersma, Daniel Eichelberger, & Dan Carlson. We attempt to answer and discuss this question:

As a survivor, what would be ways today for parents and other adults to help protect children from becoming abuse victims?  (and would any of those methods have helped to prevent your own abuse?) 

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

More about the panelists:

Previous podcast interviews with each panelist (links to Spotify): 


Episode 19 - Live interview with Luke Wiersma


Episode 22 - Live Interview with Daniel Eichelberger


Episode 31 - Live interview with Dan Carlson



Helpful Links on the topic:

Husband Material Podcast with Drew Boa - episode on Teaching Children about Sex:


“Rodney & Traci Wright: How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex” (links to Youtube)



Book: How to Talk to Your Kids about Sex by Rodney & Traci Wright (links to Amazon)

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Website: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about

"James" is a survivor of sexual trauma. He met his future wife in high school in Fort Wayne, IN. They have been married for 14 years. He and his wife have 4 children. He is here today to share his story.

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Links mentioned during the episode:

“The Survivors Circle #IAmMan” Facebook Group for male survivors (especially men of color, though all male survivors are welcome) 

Echoes: The Stories of Male Survivors Overcoming Sexual Trauma (links to Amazon)

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Website: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about

Mahesh Grossman is the “Love Heals Anxiety Guy” and a somatic hypnotherapist who specializes in overcoming anxiety, depression, & and trauma including MeToo wounds. He is the author of The One Minute Anxiety Solution with 57 ways to lower anxiety in a minute and the creator of the Defy Trauma course (DefyTrauma.com), which features his 5-Step Defy Trauma process.  His unique approach to healing through hypnosis starts with connecting to and releasing the leftover emotional tension we hold in our body, and using that as a tool to discover and break free of the old hurts that keep us stuck in habits like overeating and substance abuse, or in difficult mental patterns like anxiety and depression.

Please Note: The views and opinions expressed by guests of this podcast are their own and their appearance on the program does not imply an endorsement of them, or any entity they represent, by Polar Life Consulting.

If you would like to join us for future LIVE podcast events, learn more at: 

PolarLifeConsulting.com/live

Links mentioned during the episode:

Mahesh Grossman’s The One Minute Anxiety Solution  

Mahesh Grossman’s  Defy Trauma course

Wikipedia entry for “Hakomi Therapy”

Mahesh Grossman’s “The Emotional Overload First Aid Kit” can be found on his website: 123anxiety.com which redirects to https://berkeleyhypnosis.com/more-for-you/

Wikipedia entry for “Edith Bunker”

Wikipedia entry for “Soul Loss” (which includes the concept of “Soul Retrieval”)

Wikipedia entry for “Neuroplasticity”

Psychology Today article on “Epigenetics” (scroll down for section on “Epigenetics and Psychology”)

Wikipedia article on “Aphantasia”

Husband Material (“HM”; faith based ministry helping men find freedom from pornography and other sexual brokenness issues) FREE - https://www.husbandmaterial.com/

Info on Joining Husband Materials Academy (“HMA”; Paid)

Learn more about Husband Material's CSA Survivor Fellowship (led by Mike) and the PLC Chat on WhatsApp at https://www.polarlifeconsulting.com/live-chat

**Trigger Warning/Explicit Content Warning** - we will talk openly and frankly about sexual abuse from the victims perspective. Sometimes cursing may be used, but kept at a minimum. Please practice self-care while listening to episodes and feel free to pause if you become triggered while listening. 

Let me know what you think of the podcast with a rating and a review.

Website: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/⁠

Schedule a free 30-minute Coaching Intro call: ⁠https://calendly.com/polarlifeconsulting/intro-call⁠

Mike’s Story: ⁠https://www.PolarLifeConsulting.com/about