24 episodes
The Heart of the Matter Annalisa Bahadur
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5.0 • 24 Ratings
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Come with me into a bedroom in New Delhi, India. A young woman sits on the edge of a bed with ridges of tears dried onto her young face. She feels defeated - helpless, unworthy, and lonely. It's a familiar feeling. Touching rock bottom has been a constant phenomenon nearly most of her life. But this time, while the pain is nothing new - it’s felt more deeply.
As her thoughts and feelings spiral out of control, she finds her mind echoing a recurring question — "Why does this keep happening to me?"
That young woman is me. It’s twenty-seven-year-old me to be exact. I am trying to make sense of why I always end up in this place of feeling not good enough. And I decided to take on that question because I was tired of depending on everyone to fulfill my emotional needs and to validate my worth.
My own narrative kicked in — life is a classroom, and experiences are our lessons. I decided to free myself of fear and I chose to reshape my narrative. A purposeful and tenacious spirit took a hold and I started my healing journey towards a life of gentleness, peace, and unconditional self-love.
I want to believe my tenacity to push back at life helped me emotionally and mentally survive growing up in Guyana, India and the US. I learned to accept life as it happens because I have seen that once we get through the uncomfortable and unwanted experiences, we become a stronger and better version of ourselves to stand in the face of any adversity. And it’s quite liberating to stand up to life and say, Let’s see what else you’ve got that I can’t overcome.”
This freedom I now feel to love freely and still be in control of my emotions inspired me to help others achive the same results. I do that by combining traditional counseling and coaching techniques to uncover the unique strengths that will guide others through healing from childhood trauma and trauma from life experience.
My work is a reflection of a life driven by a dream of a revolution of happiness - a dream that compels me to empathize with those who have been unkind, and thus, rapidly reshaping painful experiences into sources of growth. My approach is curious and compassionate because I find it’s the only way that I can patiently lead my clients out of the darkness of trauma, anxiety, and despair, to a life of liberation.
It's a unique journey of rediscovery, rebirth, and healing deep wounds that I believe will set us free.This podcast is an extention of my passion to help other through their jouney to healing.
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Does The Attraction Return - Avoidant Attachment
The question is does the attraction return after an avoidant ex partner leaves the relationship. And how long does it take for that attraction to return if it does.
Remember, it’s also important to take into consideration of what the relationship was like and why it ended.
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TAKE CONTROL IN HOW YOU DATE
Consistency is incredibly important when we’re trying to build a healthy foundation for a healthy relationship. However, the way we react and responded. The very beginning of dating will set the tone for what to expect in a relationship. If you are on the dating scene or you’re about to get on it this is the Podcast for you.
You can also follow me on TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, LinkedIn.
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WHY AVOIDANT ATTACHED PERSON NEED SPACE AND WHAT YOU CAN DO TO HELP
You might be confused as to why your avoidant attached partner needs as much space or perhaps why they detach and disappear for days. This episode may shed some light and help you assist them.
If you have an avoidant attachment style and it's kept you from forming meaningful lasting relationship, perhaps this episode will help you manage the fears of opening up to a partner.
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Annalisa
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GHOSTING- Why They Do That
Ghosting is a phenomenon where one person abruptly cuts off all communication with another without any explanation or warning. This can leave the person being ghosted feeling confused, hurt, and rejected. The sudden disappearance of someone they thought they had a connection with can lead to feelings of abandonment and low self-worth. The lack of closure can also leave the person haunted by unanswered questions and doubts about themselves.
Psychologically, ghosting can have a significant impact on a person's mental health. It can trigger feelings of anxiety, depression, and self-doubt, as they struggle to make sense of the sudden rejection. The lack of communication can lead to rumination and overthinking, as the person tries to understand what they did wrong or why they were not worthy of a simple explanation. This can erode their self-esteem and trust in others, making it difficult for them to form new relationships in the future.
The emotional fallout from being ghosted can also manifest in physical symptoms such as insomnia, loss of appetite, and increased stress levels. The sense of betrayal and abandonment can linger long after the ghosting incident, affecting the person's ability to trust and open up to others. It can take time and effort to heal from the psychological damage caused by ghosting, as the person works through their feelings of rejection and learns to rebuild their self-esteem and sense of worth.
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Secure and Anxious Attachment Styles
Relationships can be complex, especially when individuals with different attachment styles come together. The dynamic between someone with a secure attachment style and someone with an anxious attachment style can be both challenging and rewarding. Understanding and navigating this relationship dynamic is crucial for fostering a healthy and fulfilling partnership.
In this episode, let's explore the unique dynamics, potential challenges, and strategies for building a strong and supportive relationship between individuals with secure and anxious attachment styles.
Individuals with a secure attachment style typically have a positive view of themselves and their relationships. They are comfortable with intimacy, express their emotions openly, and trust their partners. They provide a sense of stability and security in relationships.
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Impact of Unhealed Trauma Avoidant Attachment
Individuals with an avoidant attachment style often struggle with forming and maintaining close connections. If left unhealed, this attachment style can pose challenges when it comes to making future plans and can have a profound impact on the potential for a healthy relationship.
In this episode, we will explore why those with avoidant attachment may find it difficult to make plans for the future, how it can affect relationships, and offer potential solutions.
Avoidant attachment style is characterized by a fear of intimacy and a desire for independence. Individuals with this attachment style may have experienced emotional distance or neglect in their early relationships, leading them to develop self-reliance as a coping mechanism. As a result, they may struggle with the idea of making plans for the future that involve emotional investment and vulnerability.
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Customer Reviews
Extremely informative and applicable
Even though I am a mental health therapist myself I’m also a human being that needs to be reminded from time to time how the people I love and myself react differently to emotions and Ana and her podcast are doing it in a very gentle way with education and solution (which is more than important for anxious attached people like me). Forever thankful I found you!
New perspective
I started to learn about attachment styles just recently because of painful and confusing relationship I had. Learning about my and my partner’s attachment styles made so much sense! Questions about why and how were answered, and a clearer picture of the connection and possible ways to react to issues became obvious.
Grateful to the author of this podcast, Annalisa Bahadur for bringing enlightenment and strength to move on!🤍
So grateful for Annalisa’s Insight!
Annalisa Bahadur is one of the most emotionally intelligent person I have ever spoken to. I am currently only 21 years old but she has ALWAYS validated me on my healing process and emotions. I have learned so much from her in our one on one sessions, and I am so excited for her to be starting a podcast. I can have virtual support when needed with her podcasts and trust me you will want to write notes!!! Her advice and knowledge is so beneficial in helping support yourself in the healing process, and I learn more and more about myself every day.