The Thais Gibson Podcast

Thais Gibson

Welcome to The Thais Gibson Podcast, where transformation happens fast and lasts a lifetime. Tune in for expert insights on breaking free from repetitive patterns, practical steps for reprogramming your subconscious mind, and empowering conversations that will inspire you to evolve into your best self across all aspects of life!

  1. 1D AGO

    5 Signs A Fearful Avoidant Still Isn't Ready for A Healthy Relationship

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7‑Day Trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-11-26&el=podcast If you crave deep connection but feel stuck in cycles of push-pull, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion… this isn’t because you’re broken, it’s because your nervous system learned to associate love with threat. And the good news? That conditioning can be rewired. 🎥 Episode Summary In today’s episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 clear signs a Fearful Avoidant attachment style may not yet be ready for a healthy relationship and what must shift internally before secure love can truly thrive. You’ll learn how unresolved core wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and unconscious relationship patterns can keep pulling you into chaos, intensity, or emotional burnout — even when you deeply want stability and closeness. Most importantly, this episode shows you what healing actually requires, so you can stop repeating old patterns and start choosing relationships from safety, clarity, and self-trust. ✨ Key Takeaways ✔ Why hot-and-cold patterns signal unresolved attachment conditioning ✔ How “testing” replaces healthy communication for Fearful Avoidants ✔ Why intensity can feel like chemistry when your nervous system is used to chaos ✔ How jumping to worst-case conclusions keeps you emotionally dysregulated ✔ The importance of knowing and communicating your needs before committing to a relationship ✔ Why nervous system regulation alone isn’t enough — and what must be rewired underneath Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    13 min
  2. 3D AGO

    5 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Isn't Ready for A Healthy Relationship

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7‑Day Trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-09-26&el=podcast If you keep feeling confused, disconnected, or emotionally shut out in relationships or you find yourself attracted to people who pull away when things get close, this episode is for you. Avoidant patterns aren’t about not caring. They’re about a nervous system that learned closeness wasn’t safe. And that pattern can be healed. 🎥 Episode Summary In today’s episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 major signs a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style may not yet be ready for a healthy relationship, and how to recognize whether real healing is actually taking place. This episode is especially powerful if you’re: Dating someone avoidant and unsure how to proceed Recovering from repeated emotional distancing or shutdown Or working on your own avoidant patterns and want to know what to heal next You’ll learn how avoidant strategies like emotional distancing, intellectualized vulnerability, conflict avoidance, and ambiguous commitment are rooted in unhealed core wounds and what must shift internally for secure, lasting connection to be possible. ✨ Key Takeaways ✔ Why “needing space after closeness” is an avoidant strategy, not independence ✔ How low-maintenance connection replaces emotional intimacy ✔ Why vulnerability gets intellectualized instead of felt ✔ The role unresolved core wounds play in nervous system shutdown ✔ How conflict avoidance blocks long-term relationship safety ✔ Why ambiguous commitment is a sign of emotional unavailability ✔ How minimizing your needs creates long-term relational harm Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    11 min
  3. 5D AGO

    How to Process Grief from A Loss of A Pet or Loved One (Personal Share)

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for Life When You Start your 7-Day Free Trial of the All-Access Pass and receive the Somatic Attachment Healing Course free for life when you join today. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-02-07-26&el=podcast When Grief Feels Overwhelming, You Don’t Have to Go Through It Alone. Grief can feel heavy, confusing, and isolating especially when you lose a beloved pet or someone who mattered deeply to you. In this deeply personal and compassionate masterclass, Thais Gibson shares her real time experience of grief after losing her dog Simba, while walking you through a grounded, somatic framework to help you process loss in a healthy, supportive way. Episode Summary This episode isn’t about “getting over” grief; it’s about learning how to be with it, understanding what’s really happening in your mind and body, and gently moving through the healing process with self-attunement, compassion, and clarity. In this video, Thais explores what grief truly is not just the loss of physical presence, but the loss of the needs, identities, and parts of ourselves that were expressed in relationship to those we loved. Drawing from neuroscience, attachment theory, and somatic processing, she introduces five powerful pillars to help you move through grief without suppressing emotions or getting stuck in painful stories. Whether you’re grieving a pet, a loved one, or another meaningful loss, this episode offers tools you can return to again and again especially during moments when grief resurfaces unexpectedly. Key Takeaways • Why grief is love with nowhere to go and how to give it a new place • How to practice self-attunement when emotions feel intense or overwhelming • The role attachment wounds and subconscious stories play in prolonging grief • How to identify the needs your relationship met and meet them in new ways • Why grief isn’t just about who you lost, but who you got to be with them • How to stay connected to memories in a healthy, grounding way without getting stuck in the past Timestamps 00:00 – Processing Grief 00:57 – Losing a Pet 04:27 – The Backstory: Simba 10:37 – Grief Is the Void Left by Non-Physical Loss 12:39 – Grief as the Mind & Body’s Response to Loss 14:22 – 1. Practice Self-Attunement 21:29 – 2. Examine the Stories You Tell Yourself 28:04 – Could There Be Another Truth? 30:22 – Somatic Course Promo 30:42 – We Attach to the Needs They Met 36:46 – 3. Identify Needs & Meet Them in New Ways 37:53 – 4. Express the Most Sacred Parts of Yourself 44:23 – 5A. Healthy Connection Without Living in the Past 47:23 – 5B. Healthy, Sustained Connection 50:02 – Summary Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    53 min
  4. 6D AGO

    5 Hard Truths ABOUT The Dismissive Avoidant

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7‑Day Trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-06-26&el=podcast If you have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, healing doesn’t mean forcing yourself to become someone you’re not — it means learning a new, healthier relationship with vulnerability, emotions, and connection. In this episode, Thais Gibson shares 5 hard but deeply transformative truths that can support dismissive avoidant healing, reduce emotional shutdown, and help you build relationships that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable. These truths may feel uncomfortable at first, but once integrated, they can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy, self-worth, and connection. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why emotions are not something to avoid, but powerful feedback tools How vulnerability creates safety, not weakness Why receiving support is a key part of healthy interdependence How compromise strengthens connection without self-abandonment Why being imperfect does not mean you are defective ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – These Truths Can Transform Your Life 00:35 – 1. Your Feelings Are Your Friends 02:03 – 2. Vulnerability Is Healthy and Necessary 03:10 – 3. Leaning on Someone and Receiving Support From Them Is Not Weak 04:34 – Ending Codependency Course Promo 04:55 – 4. It Is Important to Make Concessions in the Form of Compromises 05:37 – 5. It Is Normal and Human to Have Flaws Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    7 min
  5. FEB 4

    3 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Pulling Away & About to Leave

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7‑Day Trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-04-26&el=podcast If you feel like your Dismissive Avoidant partner is slowly disappearing — saying less, reaching out less, and emotionally checking out, you’re not imagining it. Most Dismissive Avoidants don’t leave with a dramatic breakup. They detach quietly first. In this episode, you’ll learn the 3 clearest signs a Dismissive Avoidant is pulling away and preparing to leave, the real fear driving this behavior, and how a securely attached person responds in ways that protect their nervous system, boundaries, and self-worth. This isn’t about chasing, over-functioning, or blaming yourself. It’s about clarity, emotional safety, and responding from security, not panic. 🧠 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: Why Dismissive Avoidants often detach before they leave How reduced bids for connection signal emotional exit Why focusing on “flaws” helps avoidants justify distancing The neuroscience behind avoidant deactivation What a secure response sees early and acts on calmly How exit narratives form long before a breakup happens ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – 3 Signs A Dismissive Avoidant Is Pulling Away & About to Leave 00:58 – 1. They Stop Making Bids for Connection 03:36 – 2. They Vocalize Flaws in the Relationship 05:07 – The Neuroscience Behind Dismissive Avoidant Detachment 06:05 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo 06:25 – 3. They Begin to Build an Exit Narrative Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    8 min
  6. FEB 2

    Top 10 Signs You Have A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7-Day Trial of the All-Access Pass: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-02-02-26&el=podcast   If you resonate with intense emotional highs and lows in relationships, fear both abandonment and commitment, or feel overwhelmed by closeness yet terrified of distance, you may have a Fearful Avoidant (Disorganized) Attachment Style. This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.   Episode Summary Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships. You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.   Key Takeaways Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships Why you may push people away even when you want closeness The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair   Timestamps 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment 00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away 00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions 00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless 00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic 00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries 00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion 00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course 00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing 00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame 00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-Deactivation   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/   Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    18 min
  7. JAN 31

    My Daughter Won’t Talk to Me | A Dad’s Guide to Reconnecting

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for life when you start your 7-Day Trial of the All-Access Pass. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-01-31-26&el=podcast   If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You… It’s easy to believe that silence means rejection, but in most cases, it means hurt, confusion, and protective walls, not a lack of love. Drawing from her personal story and over a decade of clinical experience, Thais explains why children disconnect, what not to do when trying to reconnect, and how small, consistent actions can begin rebuilding emotional safety. What You’ll Learn in This Video: Why silence doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed How learned helplessness keeps reconnection stuck The hidden danger of over explaining your side How to reconnect through your child’s emotional needs Why processing your own hurt is essential How accountability rebuilds trust over time TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You 01:01 – Your Relationship Isn’t Doomed Forever 01:42 – Thais’ Story 10:06 – 1. You Have to Get Out of Learned Helplessness 13:10 – 2. Explaining Your Point of View Can Take the Focus Away From Your Child 16:51 – Somatic Course Promo 17:11 – 3. Learn to Connect to Your Child’s Needs 19:26 – 4. Process Your Own Hurt Around the Situation 24:39 – 5. Honor and Be Accountable for Your Past Mistakes Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    27 min
  8. JAN 30

    THIS Happens When The Avoidant Realizes They Lost You

    Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course FREE for life when you start your 7-day trial of the All-Access Pass: https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/somatic-attachment-healing?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=somatic-attachment-healing&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-30-26&el=podcast If you’re caught in cycles of emotional pain, overthinking, or fear of getting close again, this episode will help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface, and how to start healing at the root.   Episode Summary Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics. You’ll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward.   Key Takeaways Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation How routines help rewire old attachment patterns Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity   Timestamps 00:00:00 – Intro 00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment 00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears 00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode 00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect 00:08:50 – IAT Promo 00:09:43 – Hold No Contact 00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories 00:11:46 – Find a Routine 00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a Breakup   Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.   Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/   Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

    13 min

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Welcome to The Thais Gibson Podcast, where transformation happens fast and lasts a lifetime. Tune in for expert insights on breaking free from repetitive patterns, practical steps for reprogramming your subconscious mind, and empowering conversations that will inspire you to evolve into your best self across all aspects of life!

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