A minipod of Hey, Cool Job! with a focus on mental health and creativity by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi.
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 137
There is a wonderful, abundant thing happening in my writing career and I’m finding myself resorting to false modesty and derisive, catastrophic talk when I discuss it with other people which is only freaking me out! Do you do that? What is that? Do you know how to stop?
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 136
The way I can also weaponize gentleness to isolate, restrict joy and keep my life small. And how it’s often a weird trick I use to indulge in workaholism and achievement addiction.
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 135
This is about my personal misconceptions around self-esteem. And how I confuse it with ego. And how collectivism and the immigrant experience as an Asian-American makes it really hard to know what you want. Plus, the dysfunction inherent in immigrant households with intergenerational trauma.
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 134
This is about how all feelings are complicated. How most joyful things are bittersweet and how love is almost painful to hold in your body. I also talk about how leisure and pleasure isn’t modeled for a lot of us in immigrant families and how difficult it is to get out of a transactive mindset about careers.
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 133
I am in Texas with my family and feelings loom large. This is about how perfectionism can afflict every moment and decision. And the contradictions inherent in loving a deeply flawed family in real time vs loving them as a platonic ideal from afar.
Hey, Cool Life! Episode 132
I have been an author for four years as of this day. This is about how making art is teaching me how to receive love without feeling as though I owe everything back. This is about true abundance and how I felt like I knew what the word meant but also really didn’t.
I don’t feel completely alone anymore
I found this podcast this morning, and I don’t think I have ever felt more seen & heard! Thank you for helping me get out of my anxious spiral this weekend. Thank you for talking about dissociating & leaving your body- I felt so alone in that aspect of my life. Thank you for your honesty & light!! ✨
Thank you Mary for your courage and brilliance and humor and insight- and for sharing it all with us so generously. It means more than you know! Also you invented the micro pod
How so you calmly and thoughtfully express my deepest vulnerabilities but also making me so serene about them without preaching self care and other cliches?! This is going to be EVERYTHING for me the rest of the year.