Reboundy Rules (for Single Men‪)‬ Jimmy Nickel

In this episode, I discuss how to level-up your conversational skills by using one basic idea taught in improvisational comedy classes.

Why does this help you with women? Because, most women have a hard time feeling chemistry with a guy who is boring, or worse, a guy who is obnoxious (and doesn’t know he’s boring). Listen now to learn how to stand out from the crowd with your conversational skills. 

Episode Notes:

RR42. Practice being a fun conversationalist by using the Yes, and idea from improv classes. 


When you invalidate someone’s thoughts, ideas, or feelings, you become instantly annoying.
When you validate someone’s thoughts, ideas, or feelings, you become more likable to that person.
“Yes, and…” = A phrase used to agree with someone and build onto their thoughts, ideas, or jokes.
“Yes, and-ing” validates another person by adding onto their ideas. 
The funniest conversations happen though interactions that are narrow, deep, and playful.

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“Get that badge! Play that validation game and get that Tribal Membership Badge in the Cool Kids Club.”

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In this episode, I talk about more about being the “safe” guy around whom women feel comfortable. 

This is important to think about because where you meet her can affect how she feels about you in the beginning. That is, a new woman can see you as good guy or a Creep - depending on what you say and do. When she sees you as a good guy who is “safe,” the conditions for her to feel attracted to you go way up.

Episode Notes:RR41. No matter where you are, know your reason for being there. 


Sharing your reason for being in a place gives a stranger information about you - which fills in an informational gap in their mind. 
When your reason for being somewhere is well-defined, you look more trustworthy...and less creepy to women.
When you share your reason for being in a particular place, you might have an instant conversation starter. 
Purpose Defined Setting = A place where people are centered around a common activity, shared thoughts, or shared focus. 
Typically, trust and rapport is more easy to establish in a Purpose Defined Setting.

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Quote to Remember:

“When women see a guy as a creeper, it means that they ALREADY perceive the guy as weird or threatening because he’s staring, circling, hovering, lurking.  So, even if the guy is a kind-hearted person, and he dresses well, and he’s in shape, and he’s good looking…it’s game over for him.”



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In this episode, I talk about getting rejected and how to do that the right way. 

This is important to think about because on dating apps (and in real life), rejection is part of the process for meeting someone great. Listen now to learn the smart way to navigate those inevitable crash and burn failures with new women.

Episode Notes:

RR40. Treat rejections like a test. If you can stay cool and upbeat afterward, you’ve passed. 


Women always have to worry about their safety. So giving a polite and believable rejection reason is sometimes a safety thing.
A “dating defense” is just an answer to this question: “What’s my next move if things with this woman don’t work out?” 
Not all rejections mean the same thing. Rejections can be hard, soft, or used simply to buy more time.
Rejection is part of the world of dating and part of the process for meeting someone great.
Keeping you attitude up and your chin up after a rejection sets you up for success with new women (or the same woman, if it was not a “hard” rejection).

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Quote to Remember:

 

“Some rejections are just 'filler rejections,’ done to fill time, because the woman does like you…but she’s nervous.”

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In this episode, I discuss why you never try to sell yourself to new women you hope to date. I also talk about the right way to impress new women in a way that does not make you look desperate (like most guys might do).

This is important because the better she looks and the more you think you have a chance, the more likely you are to sell yourself or try to impress her (the wrong way). Listen now for more on all of this.

Episode Notes:

RR39. Don’t sell yourself. Sell the experience of being around you. 


Don’t be one of those guys who tries to impress someone with facts and details about who you are and what you have.
Most women don’t care about facts and details about a guy until they start feeling attracted to that guy.
Most women are ONLY impressed and attracted to a new guy once they start enjoying the experience of being around him. 
When you’re charming, fun, and easy to be around, you’re selling the experience of being around you. 
New people who you like quickly are people who are cool and fun and easy to be around (not the most “impressive” ones or the people who “sold” themselves to you).

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“If you’re saying something about yourself to share information about who you are, that’s great. If you’re about to say something to make yourself sound like a good partner to her or because you think you’ll impress her and she’ll like you, STOP. Just, don’t do that!”

 

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In this episode, I talk about how your mood effects the vibes women feel around you (for better or worse). I also talk about some ways to get your mood up before going out so that you’re showing up with your most attractive you.

Why care about any of this? Because, most guys who are good with women “prepare” before even leaving the house. Their prep work is not just about hair, clothes, or cologne…but also about their mood. Check out this episode to learn more. 

Episode Notes:

RR38. Manage your mood from beginning to end because mood is everything. 


When you’re in a good mood, you’re using the creative part of your brain - which makes you more attractive to women.
When you’re in a bad mood, you’re using the analytical part of your brain - which makes you less attractive to women.
Do whatever it takes to get yourself in a great mood before going out.
Try to keep up this good mood throughout the night, even if you have setbacks or there are no women there.
Use this reminder in social situations: “When my mood slips, my sex appeal dips.”

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Quote to Remember:

 

“When my mood slips, my sex appeal dips.”

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In this podcast, I talk about how showing vulnerability makes you relatable and “real” if you talk about yourself the right way.

More importantly, I discuss why talking about yourself the wrong way can make you annoying to men and unattractive to women. Listen now for more about this. 

Episode Notes:

RR37. Showing confident vulnerability is fine. Showing weakness is bad, bad, bad!


Visible weakness has the body language and vibe that communicates this: “I’m screwed and there’s nothing I can do to fix it.” 
Visible weakness is unattractive to men and women alike.
Confident vulnerability is just you…being honest without making yourself look bad.
Confident vulnerability makes you more relatable without coming across as a sad sack.
If you share things about yourself with a slight smile, chin up, and an unapologetic tone, you can show confidence while being vulnerable.

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Quote to Remember:

 

“Be ashamed of nothing, apologize for nothing. If you’re cool with yourself (or at least appear to be cool with yourself) everyone else will be cool with you too, and that includes women you might wanna date.”

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