how to twenty-something

Jess Diamond

How To Twenty Something teaches young professionals how to “adult” across various aspects of their lives from career, to relationships, to overall health and wellness, so they can gain the confidence to take risks and try new things, helping them to reach their full potential.

  1. 3d ago

    Ep. 170 What it really means to Own Your Life

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Episode SummaryWhat does it actually mean to own your life? It's a phrase I talk about constantly, but owning your life doesn't mean having everything figured out or knowing exactly where you'll be five years from now. It means taking responsibility for the direction you're going, making decisions based on what you want, and being willing to take action even when you don't have the entire plan figured out. In this episode, I share the story behind my Own Your Life System and how leaving the corporate world forced me to stop doing what I thought I was "supposed" to do and start making decisions for myself. I break down what owning your life looks like in your career, relationships, routines, decisions, and the way you respond when things don't go according to plan. Because your twenties aren't about figuring out your entire life. They're about figuring out what you want your life to look like right now—and then doing something about it. In This Episode We DiscussWhat it actually means to own your lifeWhere the Own Your Life System came fromBreaking out of the "good girl" mentalityWhy following the path you're "supposed" to take can leave you feeling stuckTaking action before you have everything figured outMaking decisions based on your own values instead of other people's expectationsTaking responsibility for your life without blaming yourself for everythingWhy consistency matters more than motivationHow to respond when things go wrongWhat it feels like when your life actually starts to feel like yours Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if... You're questioning whether the life you're living is actually the one you want.You feel like you're following a path because it's what you're "supposed" to do.You're constantly looking to other people for permission or validation.You know you want something different but don't know exactly what that looks like yet.You're ready to take more responsibility for the direction of your life.You want to stop waiting for motivation, certainty, or the perfect time to make a change. Key TakeawaysOwning your life doesn't mean having a five-year plan or knowing exactly where you're headed.Your decisions should be based on what you want, not what you're told to want.You can question the status quo without having the entire alternative figured out.Taking action creates options and can help you discover what you actually want.Owning your life means taking responsibility for what you can control.Consistency and systems will carry you further than waiting for motivation.When things go wrong, curiosity is more productive than blame.Your definition of success doesn't have to look like anyone else's.Your life can be messy and still be completely yours.Owning your life isn't a destination—it's a decision you make over and over again. Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat does it mean to own your life? Owning your life means taking responsibility for the direction you're going, making decisions based on your own values and desires, and taking action instead of waiting for life to happen to you. Do I need to know exactly what I want before I can own my twenties? No. You don't need your entire life figured out. You need enough clarity to identify what you want to work toward right now and be willing to take the next step. How do I know if I'm living someone else's life? Ask yourself whether your current choices are based on what you genuinely want or what your parents, friends, society, or your younger self told you success was supposed to look like. Is owning your life something you eventually achieve? No. It's an ongoing process. There isn't a single milestone that means you've officially "made it." It's choosing to show up for the life you want again and again. Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 3 ways to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email Me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Christiane Palpant: Website: https://www.cuethelifeboat.com/ Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  2. Sep 7

    Ep. 169 What No One Tells You About Getting Pregnant

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI SummaryWe spend so much of our lives being taught how not to get pregnant that we rarely talk about what happens when you actually want to. In this episode, I’m breaking down the realities of trying to conceive that you might not hear about until you’re already in the middle of it. I talk about why pregnancy can’t be planned as perfectly as the rest of your life, how long it can actually take to conceive, what happens when you come off birth control, and why a negative pregnancy test doesn't automatically mean something is wrong. I also dive into pregnancy loss and why miscarriage is far more common than many people realize, the impact of age on fertility, why male fertility needs to be part of the conversation, and the many factors that can affect someone’s ability to conceive. And because we live in a world where pregnancy announcements, bumpdates, and newborn photos are constantly appearing on our feeds, I talk about how social media can make an already emotional experience feel even more isolating. Whether you're nowhere near ready to have kids, starting to think about family planning, or already trying to conceive, this episode is a reminder that there is no universal timeline for pregnancy—and your journey doesn't have to look like anyone else's. In This Episode We DiscussWhy you can't perfectly plan pregnancy or motherhoodHow long it can actually take to conceiveWhat to expect when coming off birth controlThe reality of miscarriage and pregnancy lossHow age can impact fertilityWhy male fertility matters, tooThe different factors that can affect conceptionHow social media creates unrealistic expectations around pregnancyWhy comparing your fertility journey to someone else's isn't helpfulThe importance of talking openly about fertility and pregnancy loss Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if... You're thinking about having kids someday and want to understand what the journey can actually look like.You're starting to think about family planning in your twenties or thirties.You're currently trying to conceive and need a reminder that everyone's timeline is different.You've experienced pregnancy loss and have felt alone in that experience.You find yourself comparing your fertility journey to what you see online.You want to have more informed conversations about fertility before you're ready to have kids. Key TakeawaysPregnancy isn't something you can plan as precisely as the other milestones in your life.Getting pregnant can take longer than you expect, even when there are no known fertility issues.Coming off birth control doesn't necessarily mean you'll immediately conceive.Pregnancy loss is common, but many people experience it privately and don't talk about it.Fertility is influenced by many factors, and your journey may look completely different from someone else's.Age can affect fertility, which is worth considering when you're thinking about family planning.Male fertility is an important part of the conversation and contributes to a significant portion of infertility cases.Social media only shows you one side of someone's pregnancy journey.Comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel can make an already difficult experience feel even more isolating.Talking to medical professionals and people you trust can help you feel less alone and better understand your individual situation. Frequently Asked QuestionsHow long does it usually take to get pregnant? The episode discusses how conception can take several months, even for couples in their twenties with no known fertility issues. A first-month pregnancy is not the only normal outcome. Is pregnancy something you can plan? You can plan when you'd ideally like to start trying, but you can't guarantee when conception, pregnancy, or motherhood will happen. Your body may not follow the timeline you've created. Is miscarriage common? Yes. The episode discusses how pregnancy loss is more common than many people realize and why it deserves more open conversation and support. Does age affect fertility? Age can affect fertility, particularly as egg quantity and quality naturally decline over time. That doesn't mean pregnancy isn't possible later in life, but it is something to consider when thinking about family planning. Does fertility only depend on the woman? No. The episode emphasizes that male fertility is an important part of conception and infertility, too. Why does social media make trying to conceive harder? Social media tends to show pregnancy announcements, bump updates, births, and happy moments without showing the struggles that may have happened behind the scenes. This can make you compare your entire journey to someone else's highlight reel. What should I do if I'm struggling to get pregnant? The episode encourages you to talk with appropriate professionals, including your OBGYN or a reproductive endocrinology and infertility specialist, as well as trusted people in your life. Your individual situation deserves individualized guidance. Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 3 ways to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email Me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Christiane Palpant: Website: https://www.cuethelifeboat.com/ Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  3. Aug 31

    Ep. 168 The Truth About Life After Graduation with Christiane Palpant

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Episode SummaryWhat if the biggest thing no one tells you about life after graduation is that it's not supposed to be linear? In this episode, I sit down with professor, author, and speaker Christiane "Professor CP" Palpant to talk about why your twenties can feel so confusing after college—and why that uncertainty is actually a normal part of adulthood. We dive into the pressure to have everything figured out, how social media makes us feel like we're falling behind, and why comparing your timeline to someone else's only adds to the confusion. We also explore one of the biggest questions every twenty-something faces: How do you know when it's time to keep going versus change directions? Professor CP shares practical questions you can ask yourself when you're feeling stuck, while I share how I've navigated career pivots, entrepreneurship, and the unexpected twists that ultimately led me to coaching. Whether you're a recent graduate, questioning your career path, or simply wondering if you're doing adulthood "right," this conversation is a reminder that there is no perfect timeline—and that's exactly what makes your journey your own. In This Episode We DiscussWhy life after graduation feels so overwhelmingThe myth that adulthood follows a linear pathHow to know when it's time to pivot versus push throughWhy so many twenty-somethings feel behindThe value of mentors and "hidden allies"Why your college degree doesn't have to determine your careerThe difference between following your passion and funding your passionLetting go of the "shoulds" that keep you stuck Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if... You're about to graduate college or recently graduated.You're wondering if you're on the right career path.You feel behind compared to your friends.You're debating whether to quit your job or stick it out.You're navigating a quarter-life crisis and don't know what's next. Key TakeawaysLife after graduation is rarely as straightforward as we expect.Feeling uncertain doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong.Use your values—not fear—to decide when it's time to pivot.Every career experience teaches transferable skills.Your degree doesn't have to define your future.Social media is not an accurate measure of success.Seeking advice is different from copying someone else's path.Growth often comes from the challenges you'd never choose for yourself.Your passion doesn't always have to be your paycheck.Let go of the timeline you think you're supposed to follow. Frequently Asked QuestionsWhy does life after graduation feel so hard? Because the structure you've followed for years suddenly disappears, leaving you to make decisions without a clear roadmap. How do I know if I should change careers? Look beyond temporary frustration and ask whether your current path aligns with your values, supports your growth, and protects your well-being. Is it normal to feel behind in your twenties? Absolutely. Everyone's timeline looks different once college ends, even if social media makes it seem otherwise. Does my college degree determine my career? Not at all. Many people build careers outside of their major while still using the skills they developed in college. Should I follow my passion? Passion is important, but it doesn't always have to be the thing that pays your bills. Sometimes your job funds the life you're trying to build. Related EpisodesWhy You Feel Behind in Your Twenties (This Is Not Your Forever)The Psychology Behind Your Quarter-Life CrisisThis Is NOT Your Life: Stop Living Everyone Else's PlanHow to Make Your Next Move When You Feel Stuck Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success 3 ways to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email Me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Connect with Christiane Palpant: Website: https://www.cuethelifeboat.com/ Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  4. Aug 24

    Ep. 167 The connections you're missing out on by staying comfortable

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Networking doesn't have to mean awkward conversations, business cards, or pretending to be someone you're not. In this episode, I'm breaking down why staying in your comfort zone is costing you more than you realize, the biggest fears that keep us from reaching out, why those thoughts feel so convincing, and how to start building genuine relationships without feeling salesy or transactional. Because the people who can change the direction of your career and life are often the ones you haven't met yet. Key Takeaways: Every connection starts with one uncomfortable action, whether that's sending a message or showing up to an event.Make sure you don’t say no for the other person, before they even have a chance to possibly say yes.Understanding the different fears that come with making new connections.Networking doesn’t have to only be at a formal event, it can be at a run club too!Why asking for help isn't a burden at all. Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success How to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  5. Aug 17

    Ep. 166 Are you the partner you want to date?

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI We spend so much time talking about what we want in a partner that we rarely stop to ask ourselves if we're showing up the same way. In this episode, I'm challenging you to hold up the mirror and take an honest look at the qualities, habits, and standards you're bringing into your relationships. We'll talk about the difference between having high standards and having double standards, uncover some common relationship blind spots, and explore what it really means to show up for someone you love. This isn't about settling or lowering your expectations—it's about pairing those expectations with self-accountability. Key Takeaways: Identify what qualities you want in your relationshipWhy high standards should always be paired with high self-accountabilityHow presence is one of the most underrated ways to strengthen a relationshipHow to see your blindspots, when they are blind to youHow to become accountable to the things you say you want in someone else Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success How to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  6. Aug 10

    Ep. 165 Get Unplugged: How to Break Your Phone Addiction

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Your relationship to your phone is destroying your relationship to your life. From the moment you wake up to the second you fall asleep, your device has a choke hold on you and I'm getting into exactly what that is doing to your mental health, your focus, your productivity, and your relationships. This episode talks about the hidden damage your phone is creating in your life, tactics to separate yourself from your handheld device, and reminders that the virtual world is not nearly as important as the real world. Because yes, they are different. Key Takeaways: Different ways your phone is messing with your focus, thought patterns, and productivityWhy physical connections is more valuable than digital onesWhat boredom does for you that your phone cannotHow to separate yourself from your phone in little waysWhy your phone is your coping mechanism and is destroying your mental health Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success How to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  7. Aug 3

    Ep. 164 When is it time to work with a coach?

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Episode SummaryHow do you know if it's actually time to work with a coach? The truth is, coaching isn't just for people whose lives are falling apart. It's for people who know they're capable of more but feel stuck figuring out how to get there. In this episode, I explain the difference between coaching and therapy, the five biggest signs that coaching could help you move forward, and why having someone in your corner can help you overcome the blind spots, fears, and resistance that keep you from making lasting change. I also walk you through the different types of coaches that exist—from career and business coaches to relationship, nutrition, and life coaches—so you can better understand what kind of support fits your current season of life. Finally, I take you behind the scenes of my Own Your Life System, the six-pillar coaching framework I've developed to help twenty-somethings build confidence, create meaningful goals, establish healthy routines, improve communication, and take ownership of their lives. Whether you're considering coaching with me or simply wondering if coaching is the right next step for you, this episode will help you recognize when it's time to stop trying to figure everything out alone. In This Episode We DiscussThe difference between coaching and therapyFive signs it's time to work with a coachWhy knowing what to do isn't the same as doing itHow fear and resistance keep you stuckWhy life transitions are easier with supportThe different types of coaches availableWhat to look for when choosing a coachThe six pillars of my Own Your Life System Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if... You keep setting the same goals but never follow through.You know exactly what you should be doing but can't seem to do it.You feel stuck and can't explain why.You're navigating a major life transition.You're wondering if coaching is worth the investment. Key TakeawaysCoaching focuses on helping you move from where you are to where you want to be.Repeating the same goals without changing your approach usually points to missing systems, not lack of motivation.Fear of the unknown often creates resistance, even when you know the next step.Feeling stuck doesn't always mean something is wrong—it may mean you've outgrown your current season.Major life transitions are easier to navigate with guidance and accountability.Your friends can support you emotionally, but they aren't responsible for helping you create lasting change.There is a coach for almost every niche, life stage, and challenge.Choosing a coach is about both expertise and finding someone you genuinely connect with.Building confidence comes from consistently showing up for yourself.You don't have to figure out adulthood on your own. Frequently Asked QuestionsWhat's the difference between coaching and therapy? Therapy focuses on healing and processing your past, while coaching helps you create a plan for the future and take action toward your goals. How do I know if I need a coach? If you feel stuck, keep repeating the same patterns, struggle to follow through, or want accountability while working toward a goal, coaching may be a great fit. Is coaching only for people who are struggling? Not at all. Coaching is for anyone who wants to grow, create change, or reach goals more effectively. How do I choose the right coach? Start by identifying the area of your life you want help with, then find someone whose experience, personality, and coaching style align with what you're looking for. What is the Own Your Life System? The Own Your Life System is my six-pillar coaching framework focused on Create, Consistency, Control, Connect, Communicate, and Confidence to help twenty-somethings build a life that's truly their own. Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success How to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

  8. Jul 27

    Ep. 163 This is not your forever, but it is your for now

    NEW COURSE: How to Make Adulting Suck Less: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/suck-less/ Watch my TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RE_7I6vDKrI Episode SummaryHave you ever looked at your life and thought, "I know I'm capable of more than this." Whether you're living with your parents, working a job that feels beneath your qualifications, recovering from an injury, or simply feeling like life isn't moving as quickly as you hoped, it's easy to believe you've somehow fallen behind. In this episode, I share a coaching conversation with one of my clients that completely changed how she viewed her career—and how it applies to every twenty-something navigating adulthood. We unpack the three biggest reasons we resist taking the stepping stones in front of us: ego, expectations, and comparison. I explain why your ego is often disappointment in disguise, how unrealistic expectations trap you into believing there's only one "right" timeline, and why comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else's highlight reel will always leave you feeling like you're losing. Most importantly, I want to remind you that where you are today doesn't have to be where you stay. Your current season isn't your forever—it's simply your for now. Every stepping stone, even the frustrating ones, is preparing you for opportunities you can't yet see. In This Episode We DiscussWhy your current season doesn't define your futureThe hidden cost of letting your ego make career decisionsHow expectations create unnecessary disappointmentWhy comparison keeps you feeling behindThe importance of taking stepping stones instead of waiting for the "perfect" opportunityHow to recognize the value in jobs or experiences that don't feel excitingWhy your twenties are about adapting, not following a perfect planA practical exercise to help you appreciate where you are today Who This Episode Is ForThis episode is for you if... You feel like you're behind everyone else your age.You're frustrated by a job that feels beneath your qualifications.You're living with your parents longer than expected.You're rebuilding after a setback, injury, or difficult season.You're wondering if taking a "small" opportunity means settling. Key TakeawaysEvery stepping stone serves a purpose, even if you can't see it yet.Ego often disguises itself as disappointment.Expectations should evolve as life gives you new information.Your first opportunity doesn't have to be your forever career.Comparison steals your ability to appreciate your own progress.Social media rarely shows the difficult parts of someone's journey.Small opportunities often create bigger ones later.Looking back at your own story helps you recognize how far you've come.Give yourself timelines for temporary seasons so they feel intentional.Your "for now" can become the foundation for everything you want next. Frequently Asked QuestionsWhy do I feel behind in my twenties? Because you're comparing your real life to other people's visible milestones while holding yourself to expectations that may no longer fit your life. How do I stop comparing myself to everyone else? Shift comparison from evidence that you're failing to proof that what you want is possible. Should I take a job I'm overqualified for? Sometimes the right opportunity isn't your destination—it's the stepping stone that gets you there. What if my life doesn't look like I expected? That's normal. The most important skill you can develop is adapting your plan as life unfolds. How do I stay motivated during a frustrating season? Remember that your current circumstances are temporary. Give yourself a clear goal and timeline so your "for now" feels purposeful instead of permanent. Related EpisodesWhy You Feel Behind in Your Twenties (This Is Not Your Forever)The Psychology Behind Your Quarter-Life CrisisThis Is NOT Your Life: Stop Living Everyone Else's PlanHow to Make Your Next Move When You Feel Stuck Helpful Resources: Let’s chat: https://calendly.com/coach_jessdiamond/success How to stop spiraling: https://jessdiamondcoaching.com/spiral/ Email me: coach.jessdiamond@gmail.com Contribute to an episode: https://forms.gle/QwvBrZFbZXRdCjQv9 Be a Guest: https://forms.gle/oiLVCbrydjzaK5pq5 Music: Hide and Seek by Free Music https://soundcloud.com/fm_freemusic Music Promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.com Creative Commons/Attribution 3.0 Unported License (CC BY 3.0) https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0/deed.en_US

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How To Twenty Something teaches young professionals how to “adult” across various aspects of their lives from career, to relationships, to overall health and wellness, so they can gain the confidence to take risks and try new things, helping them to reach their full potential.