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The Know with Nikki Spo is a podcast which highlights the experiences of women who are finding and celebrating their inner knowing. It is a space of honesty, vulnerability, creativity, tenacity, and magic. It is an energy exchange in which women of all walks of life can join and feel emboldened to become their highest, most authentic selves.
Our inspiring guests have shared their unique stories, perspectives, and expertise with Nikki Spo’s large network of “truth speakers” and “truth seekers,” always leaving listeners more hopeful, confident, and courageous.
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Episode 150. Bag… SECURED. Nikki Gets Interviewed by Jamie Ruiz
Okay so. This week is a little different. My girl, Jamie Ruiz is here interviewing ME to get all the TEA… Jamie and I have been besties for forever and she has been a guest on The Know a few times now. She is a life coach and is helping hundreds of women achieve their goals and dreams and live the life that they have always wanted to live. But yeah. Um… she’s going in on me this week and she’s not holding back.
In this episode…
“Fumbling the bag”I ain’t sayin she’s a gold digger. Social media haters The struggle bus of money Life experiences
Quotes
“I don't think I fumbled any bags because my bag is peace, and when peace is involved I don’t think you’re fumbling any bags.” - Nikki Spo
“I’m interested in coming home to myself and I think a lot of people want that but they don’t know that they want it.” - Nikki Spo
“Life can be good on the other side of a sad experience.” - Nikki Spo
“Sometimes you start relationships as one version of yourself and either one person changes or both people change and you’re no longer an energetic match for each other. And that’s okay.” - Jamie Ruiz
“Things last however long they need to last and we grow into the versions of ourselves that we need to be and we make our exits where we need to make our exits.” - Jamie Ruiz
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:20 | Intro
3:20 - 5:20 | Why Jamie is interviewing Nikki
5:20 - 12:10 | Answering the haters
12:10 - 22:29 | The struggle bus of money
22:29 - 26:40 | The Know
26:40 - 28:45 | Podcast content changing post divorce
28:45 - 34:35 | Dating
34:35 - 41:20 | Finding an outlet
41:20 - 42:36 | Outro
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Connect with Jamie
https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/
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www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Episode 149. Breaking Cycles of Toxic Parenting with Cari Fund
Welcome to The Know! We are on that continuous healing journey vibe so today I am excited to introduce you to Cari Fund who is a passionate advocate for women's empowerment and emotional healing. With a mission to inspire women to turn their pain into potential, Cari encourages them to be the women they were born to be and the parents that they never had. Tune in!
In this episode…
Leading by example Learning from trauma Healthy mom vs. toxic mom Being your true self Generational trauma Ongoing healing journey Toxic upbringing
Quotes
“Pain keeps you silent and shame keeps you so silent .” - Cari Fund
“It's all about the tiny little shifts. Get a therapist, talk to your friends, don't carry shame, secrets, disappointment, and pain with you because it's going to come out in everything in your life and it's going to take away your joy.” - Cari Fund
“If you're a mom and you have kids, your past is going to parent your children if you let it.” - Cari Fund
“It's really interesting and fascinating to see who sticks around when you start to speak your truth, because some people really don't like it.” - Nikki Spo
“I think about anxiety a lot because I wonder if I’m anxious or am I just operating from a place of fear in my upbringing? Like, am I anxious or is my environment genuinely stimulating this anxiety?” - Nikki Spo
“It feels good to feel good so do what makes you feel good.” - Cari Fund
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:20 | Intro
1:20 - 6:10 | Facing challenges
6:10 - 7:50 | Cari’s accomplishments
7:50 - 10:50 | Toxic mom vs. healthy mom
10:50 - 14:25 | Not hiding behind a character
14:25 - 18:40 | Finding people and things that support you
18:40 - 22:13 | Leading by example
22:13 - 29:30 | Recovering
29:30 - 34:40 | Balancing motherhood while healing
34:40 - 40:05 | Sharing family and relationships on social media
40:05 - 41:47 | Outro
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Connect with Cari
https://www.cari.fund/
@cari.fund
Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Episode 148. Narcissism in Relationships with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri (Part 2)
What’s up fam! Today we are welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri for another conversation about narcissism and how to navigate it. This is part two of a multi-part series that we are doing and I'm really honored to have this opportunity to chat with her again. In our previous episode together, we talked about some of the different types of narcissism and narcissism in general and today we are focusing on the effects of being in a relationship with a narcissistic person. Tune in!
In this episode…
Spectrum of personality traits Relationship patterns of narcissism Love bombing The 3 C’sRed flags Trauma bondingDIMMER - what it means and what to look forGaslighting
Quotes:
“Narcissists come across as being really curious about you, but really what they're doing is they're collecting as much information so that they can use it against you.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Trauma bonded is trauma occurring within the relationship and that is the bond between the two.” - Nikki Spo
“Gaslighting mostly occurs by a person who you trust.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Lying is a denial of reality and gaslighting goes on to dismantle the target.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“I've learned over the years that I can't control how other people treat me or what they do to me or what they say to me or how they try to make me feel. I can only control my reaction to things and how I respond to those situations.” - Nikki Spo
“You can't gaslight me because I know myself. I know who I am. But when you are in a space of not knowing who you are and slowly your self-worth is being chipped away at and that breaks down over and now you feel like your self-worth is completely diminished, that person is easy to gaslight.” - Nikki Spo
“Gaslighting is the pathologically insecure person who's preying on the conventionally insecure person.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Let's not blame the victim. Let's give them the support that they need. Let's give them the understanding.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Intro
2:10 - 5:20 | Relationship patterns of narcissism
5:20 - 8:25 | Breakdown of narcissistic relationships: Love bombing
8:25 - 11:55 | Identifying the red flags
11:55 - 14:05 | Trauma bonded
14:05 - 15:55 | The devaluing phase
15:55 - 22:40 | Manipulation
22:40 - 34:05 | Gaslighting
34:05 - 39:45 | The D and R of DIMMER
39:45 - 42:40 | Hoovering
42:40 - 46:05 | Having a narcissistic partner
46:05 - 48:55 | Cognitive fallouts
48:55 - 51:15 | Emotional or interpersonal fallouts
51:15 - 52:10 | Fallout of identity
52:10 - 53:25 | Physical and behavioral fallout
53:25 - 55:50 | Giving support
55:50 - 57:44 | Outro
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Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/
@bruxanicare
Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Episode 147. Understanding Narcissism with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
What’s up fam! Today I am welcoming back a woman who I feel comfortable enough now to call a regular, Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri, for a conversation about narcissism and how to navigate it. Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri is a licensed mental health counselor. With nearly 20 years of experience nationally and internationally, she has worked in government, private practice and school settings. Her approach focuses on providing a safe and empathetic environment for clients to heal and become resilient and empowering them to reclaim their strength. Let’s jump in!
In this episode…
Education around narcissismNarcissistic abuse Different types of narcissism Self worth/respect vs. narcissistic tendencies Attention seeking The vulnerable narcissist The grandiose narcissistThe malignant narcissist
Quotes:
“I think the sign of a really great psychologist or any type of professional is somebody who's willing to keep learning about it.” - Nikki Spo
“Remember that the arrogance and the envy of others and the grandiosity is really just covering up a deep level of insecurity.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“I have a self esteem that's not dependent on somebody else. For a narcissist, it's completely and solely based on what other people think of them.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Narcissism is a problem in relationships because what it's doing is it's hurting the people in these relationships much more than it's hurting the narcissist.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
“Where it really gets tricky is when you live with a narcissist and you are building meaningful relationships or trying to build these meaningful relationships.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:40 | Intro
3:40 - 6:10 | Education around narcissism
6:10 - 9:00 | Diagnostic and statistic manual
9:00 - 10:55 | Defining narcissism
10:55 - 16:20 | Differentiating having self worth/respect vs. having narcissistic tendencies
16:20 - 26:18 | Different types of narcissism
26:18 - 27:55 | The malignant narcissist
27:55 - 36:15 | Empathy
36:15 - 39:20 | Interpersonal relationships
39:20 - 44:00 | Defining gaslighting
44:00 - 47:30 | Understanding the cause of narcissism
47:30 - 50:16 | Outro
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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!
Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/
@bruxanicare
Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Episode 146. Women and Wealth with Shea Curtin
What is upppp! Today we have an awesome episode with my friend Shea Curtin. Shea is the vice president at one of the largest financial institutions in the world who focuses on wealth management and financial education. She's a global sports and entertainment associate director and is a registered financial advisor for the NFL Players Association. She's a woman who is making waves in the world of finance and today we are having a much needed conversation about women's relationships with money and wealth so let's get started.
In this episode…
Being rich in every part of life Stigmas around women and wealth Wealthy women empowerment Finances with divorce Women vs. men perspectivesLong Term security vs. immediate fun Financial discipline and financial goals
Quotes:
“It's cool now to ask questions because you realize you're helping yourself and you're helping so many other people.” - Shea Curtin
“I want to be rich in all ways. I want to be rich in the bank account but I also want to be rich in my life experiences. I want to be rich in the relationships I have and I want my wealth and abundance to carry over into all areas of my life.” - Nikki Spo
“I can't help people who don't want to be helped and I can't be everything for everyone and those were huge lessons that I wish I would have learned long before.” - Shea Curtin
“You're inheriting your family trauma and emotional and mental behavior but you are also inheriting their financial traumas, and so you've got to be conscious and work really hard and get comfortable being uncomfortable to lean into it” - Shea Curtin
“I trust myself fully to put myself in the best possible scenarios for my life, not for today, but for my life.” - Nikki Spo
“I think money can give you freedom of choice and I think that having freedom of choice can bring you tremendous joy.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:45 | Intro
1:45 - 4:50 | Understanding the finances
4:50 - 8:10 | It’s okay to not know
8:10 - 11:10 | Stigmas around women and wealth
11:10 - 13:20 | Finances with divorce & relationships
14:45 - 17:30 | Women vs. men perspectives with finances
17:30 - 21:38 | Women becoming more interested in finances
21:38 - 23:30 | Long Term security vs. immediate fun
23:30 - 27:15 | Financial discipline
27:15 - 31:00 | Creating an environment where you can trust yourself
31:00 - 40:50 | Tips for women when speaking to a financial advisor
40:50 - | Outro
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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!
Connect with Shea Curtin
fa.morganstanley.com/shea.curtin
http://linkedin.com/in/shea-curtin
Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Episode 145. From Trauma to Triumph with Alreen Haeggquist
Trigger Warning: This week we are discussing a topic that can feel heavy for some. Our guest is Alreen Haeggquist and we are having a conversation around sexual abuse, assault, healing from trauma, and advocating for yourself and others. Alreen is a seasoned lawyer, author, and advocate on a mission to amplify voices and combat silence around abuse. As always, check in with yourself as this topic can be super triggering, so move through this as you need to🤍
In this episode…
Women feeling silenced Secrets Emotional triggers GaslightingShame Women as sexual objects Belief
Quotes:
“Keeping secrets is like drinking poison. It really poisons us from the inside out.” - Nikki Spo
“Not staying silent and starting to let out all the trauma is how we can get out of that shameful mindset and stop the generational pattern of keeping it all in.” -Alreen Haeggquist
“I was really angry. Not about what happened to me, but angry that I had to deal with the messed up stuff and thoughts that I had to deal with this and that I have to clean it up.” - Alreen Haeggquist
“I want women to know you could talk about it and it actually is how you're going to get to the next step and live the life that you didn't think you were deserving of or didn't think you could have.” - Alreen Haeggquist
“It is so important to have people in your corner who believe you. I know what it's like to come out and not be believed, and it’s excruciating when you have to try to convince people you've been hurt. It's really such a horrible toxic place to be in.” - Nikki Spo
“Sharing what happened to you with other people is healing in and of itself.” - Alreen Haeggquist
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:15 | Intro
2:15 - 5:20 | Feeling silenced
5:20 - 7:20 | Not keeping secrets
7:20 - 12:15 | Listening to your body
12:15 - 17:15 | Gaslighting
17:15 - 23:21 | Silencing as the biggest form of gaslighting
23:21 - 25:00 | Woman are under attack sexually
25:00 - 27:35 | Identifying and not identifying as the victim
27:35 - 29:40 | Helping women from a lawyers perspective
29:40 - 32:30 | The importance of being believed
32:30 - 39:55 | Steps to healing
39:55 - 42:21 | Outro
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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
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Connect with Alreen
https://www.alreen.com/
Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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The Know with Nikki Spo
Nikki inspires people, especially women, to rise up and claim their most authentic and true selves. She doesn’t just talk the talk…she walks the walk and blazes through the darkest and most daring moments of life and rises like a phoenix through the ashes. I have followed her for years, I’m honored to witness her strength and courage to face some of life’s most difficult subjects including a fractured relationship with her mom who she mended with grace and dignity and her son’s cancer journey. As if that wasn’t enough she is successfully navigating the complex terrain of divorce. Her most recent podcast on divorce is so much more than that. She encourages women to challenge the status quo by claiming their own strength and independence.
Gems of Wisdom
Filled with gems of wisdom, great advise and inspiration. I love this podcast has great episodes that touch the heart like a great pep talk from a good friend.
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Nikki, the host, consistently delivers insightful and engaging content that keeps me coming back for more. Her ability to choose and interview awesome guests really adds to listening creating a good mix of entertainment and enlightenment. I appreciate the positive energy she brings making this a must listen for anyone seeking inspiration and thoughtful insights ☀️