The Don't Buy Her Flowers Podcast Steph Douglas

Steph chats with Rob and Josie da Bank about what it’s like to run a festival with your partner, and how they make it work alongside having four children. After 32 years together, and many festivals under their belts, they talk about the difficult bits, how they divide and conquer, and how helping people escape real life, screens and make some IRL memories is what drives them.
 
With Camp Bestival around the corner, in Dorset and then Shropshire, Rob and Josie share what they’re excited about. Their book ‘Camp Bestival at Home’ is out now, giving readers a behind the scenes peak at Camp Bestival as well as recipes and activities to enjoy through the seasons, and thoughts on festivals from the likes of Fatboy Slim, Sara Cox and Sophie Ellis Bextor.
This episode is sponsored by Kiddiwhizz, creator of the Whizzer, a portable loo for kids and adults. Use code DBHF for a 20% discount until the end of June www.kiddiwhizz.com
 
Camp Bestival at Home book (and available in Don’t Buy Her Flowers packages)
Camp Bestival Instagram
Rob da Bank’s Instagram
Steph’s Instagram
Thoughtful gifts at Don’t Buy Her Flowers

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Feel like you do everything at home, or at least more than is your fair share? This one’s for you. Steph speaks with Eve Rodsky - Harvard-grad lawyer, activist and New York Times Bestselling author of Fair Play.
 
Eve is working to change society one partnership at a time by coming up with a new 21st-century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering 2/3 or more of the unpaid domestic work and childcare for their homes and families. Eve and Steph talk about the massive impact this has not only on relationships, with couples everywhere hissing and resentful while trying to navigate this, but also the workplace, the pay gap, and our mental and physical health. They also talk about what’s in it for men to get more involved, and how do you bring them to the table.
 
Eve’s book Fair Play
Find out more about the Fair Play system
Eve’s Instagram
Steph’s Instagram
Thoughtful gifts at Don’t Buy Her Flowers
 
This episode is sponsored by gift experience website The Indytute

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Steph talks with author, journalist and mental health campaigner Bryony Gordon about her new book Mad Woman, an account of her life and challenges over the last few years.
 
With a live audience at Henley Literary Festival, in classic Bryony-style, she brings lots of energy, honesty and humour to the conversation, in which they discuss depression, OCD, Bulimia and Binge Eating Disorder, addiction and alcoholism and being perimenopausal and a woman in her 40s.
 
Bryony’s Instagram
Mental Health Mates
Buy Bryony’s book Mad Woman
Steph’s Instagram
Steph’s gift company Don’t Buy Her Flowers
Henley Literary Festival

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Steph talks with Dr Kirren Schnack, Clinical Psychologist and author of Ten Times Calmer, a book with tools to help beat anxiety.
 
The conversation starts by understanding what anxiety is, what happens when we’re anxious, what are the triggers and what is happening to our nervous system. They discuss the impact having children can have on anxiety, and with the festive season around the corner, they also talk about how to avoid Christmas anxiety.
Steph and Kirren then chat about some of the basics for good mental health, plus Dr Kirren talks through some of the tools to help bring some calm.
This episode is sponsored by The Indytute, handpicked experiences all tried and tested by another female founder, Calypso Rose. Use the code Steph10 for 10% off via www.indytute.com
 
Ten Times Calmer: Beat Anxiety and Change Your Life by Dr Kirren Schnack
Kirren’s website
Kirren’s Instagram
Steph’s Instagram
Don’t Buy Her Flowers Christmas Gift Guide

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Recorded Live at the Henley Literary Festival, Steph interviews Louise Boyce AKA Mama Still Got It, Gill Sims and Clara Batten live from a Town Hall full of women out for a Friday night! Join them as they discuss the rollercoaster of motherhood - the first year of being a mum, identity, holidays with kids, the PTA, and Louise’s gross middle-of-the-night payback on her husband. Expect some swearing, some drinking and a touch of raucous.
 
This episode is sponsored by Ancient + Brave, who create pure, potent and sustainable supplements, and are offering 20% off with the code DBHF20
 
Louise’s Instagram and book 
Gill’s Instagram, Facebook and book 
Clara’s Instagram, Tik Tok and book
Steph’s Instagram
For future Henley Literary Festival events
Don’t Buy Her Flowers Christmas Gift Guide

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Ahead of the release of her new book, Clinical Psychologist Dr Karen Gurney returns to the DBHF podcast after her previous episode about sex in long term relationships became the most downloaded to date, resulting in at least two pregnancies (that we know of!) and Steph received hundreds of messages from women and couples that felt huge relief in what Karen said about desire in long term relationships.
 
Now Karen, AKA The Sex Doctor, has written a book specifically for parents - How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life - out in April 2024. Steph and Karen talk about how tiredness, distraction, lack of time and the mental load affect sex lives, and Karen describes the ‘storm’ that children often bring to a relationship. They talk about the different impacts of new babies, primary school age kids and teens. Karen and Steph also discuss spontaneous vs responsive desire and the idea that it is normal to never feel spontaneous desire in a long term relationship. Karen also explains how key it is to understand the different role sex plays for individuals, communicating better about sex, and offers advice and practical ways to maintain (or bring back) sexual connection, particularly when there is no time.
 
 
Karen’s first episode on the DBHF podcast on Apple or Spotify
 
Karen’s Instagram
 
How Not to Let Having Kids Ruin Your Sex Life, out in April 2024 and available to pre-order now
 
Karen’s first book Mind the Gap 
 
Eve Rodsky’s book FairPlay
 
Darcy Lockman’s book All the rage: Mothers, Fathers and the myth of equal partnership
 
Steph’s Instagram
 
Thoughtful gifts www.dontbuyherflowers.com
 
This episode is sponsored by Ancient + Brave, a new generation of sustainably sourced collagen, blends and supplements with targeted health benefits. Use the code DBHF20 for 20% off any product on their website
 

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