Thrive with Elsa Elsa Makolli

In this episode with the lovely Maria Moore we cover: 


How has the year gone for us so far
New Year expectations
‘reality’:  being flexible and having acceptance
Don’t leave your taxes till last minute
Your circle matters
CLOSE YOUR LOOPS
The role our identity plays (self criticism, behaviours, habits)
The Sam Smith controversy
Things should not be reserved for thin people
If you're going to read a fat loss book, read Ben Carpenters’
We’re all just pretty obsessed with weight loss aren’t we
What am I reading
I am scared of time…
Making decisions and the anxiety that comes with it
How important should productivity be

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Maria's Podcast: 'Showing Up with Maria' on Apple Podcast and Spotify

Ben Carpenters' New Book: Everything Fat Loss: The Definitive No Bullsh*t Guide - https://amzn.eu/d/iXaygAt 

Four Thousand Weeks. Time Management for Mortals - Oliver Burkeman - https://amzn.eu/d/bNx0wnG 

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Here is my round up of advice I wrote down in 2022 from books and podcasts I read and listened to


[04:55] Life is not about ‘falling off’ (the skateboard and into the floor); it’s about the very moment you hit the floor; it’s what you do, how you react and your attitude that determine how your future is going to pan out
[06:32] Sometimes it’s not a skill, but an attitude that develops us
[07:07] Ultimate wealth is living a life you love
[07:11] The meaning of life: enjoying the passage of time
[07:18] Life is happening when you’re scrolling
[10:58] Don’t be envious. Most of life isn’t zero sum. Just because someone else wins, doesn’t mean you lose. Sometimes that person needs the fruit and you need the peel. And sometimes the strategy that makes you lose small on this round make you win big on the next
You regret most the things you did not too (old saying but read in barking up wrong tree)
[16:33] If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.
[17:15] A failure for Batman means death. Luckily, you’re not trying to be Batman. But all too often you and I act like we are. We think we always have to be perfect. But you’re not Batman. You can fail and quit and learn. In fact. That’s the only way you can learn
[19:09] The Terman study: the groups you associate with often determine the type of person you become
[21:11] If you don’t know of any awesome groups like these (book clubs, James clear blogging dinner etc and more) the easy solution is to start one and be the hub of the network. All those other friends of yours looking for a regular time to hand out and network in a non slimy way will thank you (create a hub for regular get together)
[23:06] ‘Authenticity is like charisma’, writes Andrew potter in the authenticity hoax.’if you have to tell people you have it, then you probably don’t’
[23:42] Relationships are things that you build, not things that you discover
[25:12] Don’t let your empathy impede on your self-respect
[28:18] Staying true to your soul, develop courage to be able to keep listening to your inner voice because the outer world will only think you nuts
[28:32] We don’t know what we need in our life until we know who we are
[29:36] Writer and former heavyweight boxer, Ed Latimore, on outsmarting yourself: "Someone with half your IQ is making 10x as you because they aren't smart enough to doubt themselves."
[30:54] Without altering the facts of the situation I am facing and without ignoring the reality of what must be done, what is the most useful and empowering story I can tell myself about what is happening and what I need to do next?
[32:17] 'You make your life meaningful by applying meaning to it - it's not just inevitably meaningful as a result of the choices you've made.' 
[34:38] But I do think there's a joy in being alive that's not dependent on any person at all. And there's something permanent about recognizing that the defining energy of my life is now centred within me, not defined by anyone else.
[36:52] When you understand love in this way - as an action, not a feeling - it's easier to see why it's unhelpful too. Erich Fromm, who compares the attitude 'to that of the man who wants to paint but who, instead of learning the art, claims that he has to just wait for the right object, and that he will paint beautifully when he finds it'. Love, by his definition, is 'a power which produces love'. 

Barking up the Wrong Tree: https://amzn.eu/d/imzVxWb

Not a Life Coach: https://amzn.eu/d/bYk19OW

Conversations on Love: https://amzn.eu/d/9rc74cV

James Clear Newsletter: https://jamesclear.com/3-2-1 

In this episode Maria and I speak about:


How triggering we found Christmas
We ate ALL the food, and thensome
Food guilt and anxiety
Restriction and rigid beliefs lead to overeating
Diets maintain this cycle, not fix it
Something you have to say to yourself when you find yourself ‘losing control’
What we think about new year's resolutions
The importance of reflection and being active in your goal setting

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BEGINNERS GUIDE TO FINDING FOOD FREEDOM HERE: https://mailchi.mp/fc3b0433e5a5/free-action-guide-to-finding-food-freedom

Contact me: elsa.nutrition@outlook.com

Welcome back to another episode of Thrive With Elsa. Today I am joined by my wonderful friend, PT and nutrition coach Maria Moore.

I ask Maria about her thoughts and ideas on some questions and topics that were on my mind.

We discuss:


Do we need to push ourselves in workouts to get through hard things in life?
Is a hardcore approach for everyone?
Maria’s life experiences shaping her strong mindset
Things we do that are not related to diet and exercise but have contributed to our health and wellbeing
Communication
Check up on your friends
Finding flow
Journaling, so much more than ‘dear diary’

where to find Maria - instagram @mooremovementcoaching 

Email: elsa.nutrition@outlook.com

Want to let go of food rules for a Christmas without food guilt. Download my beginners guide to food freedom by clicking this link: https://mailchi.mp/fc3b0433e5a5/free-action-guide-to-finding-food-freedom

Website: https://elsa01m.wixsite.com/emnutrition

Instagram: @thrive.with.elsa

This is a slightly different video where I open up about my mental health/ current mental state. It's like a little documentary with little snippets into my thought processes as I try to ride the low wave and attempt to get myself out. This is part 1 and I hope you enjoy. I have bullet pointed the topics I speak about below 👇   

In this video I speak about   


Current mental health 
Control, decisions and overwhelm 
This age is confusing 
Values, why do I feel like I don’t have any?  
Money, guilt, comparison 
Food, emotional eating  
Letting myself feel the feeling or making excuses? 
Getting support, and why you shouldn’t keep waiting for the next low to do so 
Things that make me feel grounded 
Am I being selfish by putting myself first or thinking about myself?
Identity changes 
Find activities that put you in a state of flow  

Download my free guide to finding food freedom and letting go of food rules HERE: https://mailchi.mp/fc3b0433e5a5/free-action-guide-to-finding-food-freedom   

Instagram: @thrive.with.elsa 

Email: elsa.nutrition@outlook.com 

This episode is all about my tips to find freedom around food. I cover:


the common trajectory of diets and diet failure
the effects of psychological restriction
why flexible eating and having a healthy relationship to food is so important
'good' and 'bad' food labels
skipping meals and importance of regularity
removing food groups / foods from your diet 
earning and burning your food / the calories you consume
cultivating a healthier mindset towards food

I hope you enjoy listening to this episode. To download the guide I mention in the podcast, click the link below: 

https://mailchi.mp/fc3b0433e5a5/free-action-guide-to-finding-food-freedom 

As always, please leave any questions in the comments section or send me a direct message on instagram or via email. 

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Email: elsa.nutrition@outlook.com

Instagram: @thrive.with.elsa