54 episodes

A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever. 
In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first. 
Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.
You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜

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Unfollowing Mum Harriet Shearsmith

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 12 Ratings

A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever. 
In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first. 
Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.
You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Ep53 Self care, boundaries & guilt for cycle breakers with Emma Benyon

    Ep53 Self care, boundaries & guilt for cycle breakers with Emma Benyon

    On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with coach Emma Benyon about self care, guilt and setting boundaries as a cycle breaking parent.
    You can find Emma here: https://www.instagram.com/emmabenyon.coach and https://emmabenyoncoaching.co.uk/

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    • 37 min
    EP52 Generational trauma & toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants

    EP52 Generational trauma & toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants

    On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Rachel Varkey, host of It's Fine! Pod, about her experiences of generational trauma and toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants. They talk about the 'that's just white woman stuff' myth that surrounds cycle breaking and challenging our generational trauma.
    You can find Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/itsfinethepod?igsh=N3Fjdmp5ZXRtNXE1

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    • 55 min
    EP 51 Why is setting boundaries with your partner's family SO tough?

    EP 51 Why is setting boundaries with your partner's family SO tough?

    On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about setting boundaries with your partner's family and why it's so tough - from when they won't to navigating healthy reactions when you've never experienced them before, she breaks it down in this short episode.
    You can get in touch with Harriet at @tobyandroo or harriet@tobyandroo.com

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    • 27 min
    Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma

    Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma

    On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of late ASD/ADHD assessment and how that feels as someone who grew up with a toxic parent. You can find Harriet at @tobyandroo on instagram and tiktok or email her at harriet@tobyandroo.com
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    • 26 min
    Ep49 F.O.G - Fear, Obligation & Guilt: a narcissistic parent's toolkit

    Ep49 F.O.G - Fear, Obligation & Guilt: a narcissistic parent's toolkit

    On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats about FOG - Fear, obligation and guilt, and how this is an essential part of the narcissistic parent't toolkit.
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    • 34 min
    EP48 Complicated feelings that come up around Mother's Day

    EP48 Complicated feelings that come up around Mother's Day

    On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith shares insights into Mother's day from the perspective of an estranged or low contact adult children from her instagram community and her own experiences.
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    • 28 min

Customer Reviews

5.0 out of 5
12 Ratings

12 Ratings

save_the_animals_jb ,

Spot on

As a child to a mother with bipolar disorder, I feel like the host (and guests) are telling stories from my own childhood. Listening opened some old wounds I didn’t realize were there but it’s also validating to hear that others have had similar experiences. I went NC with my mom almost 3 years ago, it’s so helpful hearing other’s experience with this as society still pushes the “forgive family” narrative. Thank you for this podcast and please keep it going.

CharlotteMeow ,

Harriet the spy

😉 I feel like Harriet has spied on my life! She describes her experiences with Marc parents and I find myself resonating so much of what I went through growing up. I find this podcast validating and healing! I just had my first child and am also working through my trauma.Thank you.

lynbonds ,

So helpful

Healing to hear so many similar experiences.

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