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Ever wonder what tools and advice psychologists are inspired to use in their own lives? Join Avery, Jamie, and Lucy, three psychologists, and moms, as they discuss what they’ve figured out, what they’ve yet to figure out, and what there’s just no figuring out. Through our stories and pearls of wisdom, we hope we can inspire listeners to connect to themselves and others more mindfully, authentically, and powerfully. It’s sure to be fun, and you may learn a little something along the way!

Inspiration from the Couch Avery Hoenig, PhD, Jamie Wilson, PhD, and Lucy Smith, PhD

    • Health & Fitness
    • 5.0 • 14 Ratings

Ever wonder what tools and advice psychologists are inspired to use in their own lives? Join Avery, Jamie, and Lucy, three psychologists, and moms, as they discuss what they’ve figured out, what they’ve yet to figure out, and what there’s just no figuring out. Through our stories and pearls of wisdom, we hope we can inspire listeners to connect to themselves and others more mindfully, authentically, and powerfully. It’s sure to be fun, and you may learn a little something along the way!

    EP 8: Saying No

    EP 8: Saying No

    In today’s episode, Jamie, Lucy, and Avery discuss the importance and difficulties of saying no. We explore how to make more room in our lives for things that truly matter by saying one of the bravest words---no. We share anecdotes of our own struggles and successes in this area, review a “personal bill of rights” which provides rationale for saying no, and role play assertive and not so assertive ways of saying no.
    In this episode we discuss: 
    How we have the right to say no to harmful, hurtful, or toxic things and relationships, as well as energy-draining activities and relationshipsHow we have the right to assert what we want and what happens when we say yes when we really mean noHow we have the right to say no to stories that don’t work for usHow we have the right to take our time regarding our decision-makingHow we have the right to be honest with ourselves, be in the present moment, and connect with ourselvesWe also review the pragmatics of saying no assertivelyDo try this at home:
    Discern what seasons of life are a “blanket” no to reduce cognitive effort in everyday decision-makingGive ourselves permission to say no in order to make space for things that truly matter Say no to thoughts and stories that lead to anxiety and regret and are not useful to us

    • 26 min
    EP 7: Do it Afraid

    EP 7: Do it Afraid

    “Do it Afraid” is one of our favorite mantras, and in today’s episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy explore what this phrase means and how to put it into practice in our lives.  We talk about ways that we play it safe and ways that we take risks, as well as the pros and cons of each. We share about how to support ourselves while doing things that align with our goals/values but that terrify us nonetheless. 
    In this episode we discuss:
    Fear we heed vs fear we challengeHow we Play it SafeWhy we might want to take risks, and what gets in the way of taking risksWhat it means to Do it Afraid – how this feelsHow to support yourself before, during, and after Doing it AfraidDo try this at home:
    Figure out the cues to distinguish between fear we should listen to and fear we should push back againstMake verbal commitments. Say it out loud! Experiment! Play with all of this, harnessing courage and willingness

    • 25 min
    EP 6: Validation

    EP 6: Validation

    In today’s episode, Lucy, Jamie, and Avery talk about all things related to validation. We think of validation as a fundamental communication and healing skill, which, in essence, says “I see you.” There is great power in being seen, heard, and understood just as we are. We explore what validation is and what it is not. (HINT: validation is not approval, agreement, reassurance, judgment, or problem solving.) We share common ways that we invalidate ourselves and others, and we also talk about how to validate. We illustrate all of this with some concrete examples. 

    In this episode we discuss:
    The rational for why we want to validate ourselves and othersWhat it means (and does not mean) to validateCommon pitfalls of invalidationWhen we should validateHow to validate
    Do try this at home:
    Practice naming your feelings. Write down what you are feeling in the moment. (Remember that feelings are typically one word…thoughts are several words strung together!)Be mindful of the process of validation and invalidation, and begin to notice how those feel to you. Stay in the present when interacting with another human – avoid going into the past or future. 

    • 28 min
    EP 5: The Trance of Scarcity

    EP 5: The Trance of Scarcity

    In our first book club episode, Jamie, Avery, and Lucy discuss The Trance of Scarcity by Victoria Castle. We talk about Victoria’s brilliant metaphor of being “in the Circle” (where you live with flow, abundance, vitality, and ease) versus being “out of the Circle” (where life is defined by a sense of not enough-ness, constriction, urgency, separateness, and depletion). We explore two ways for getting back in the Circle: trading up our Stories and tuning into our Somas (a fancy phrase for physical bodies). Throughout the episode, we share about our personal experiences to help bring these concepts to life in real and applied ways. 
    Note: No prior reading/knowledge of this book is required to enjoy and benefit from this episode. 

    “Your job is not to figure everything out. Your job is to tune in and become available to infinite possibility.” – Victoria Castle, The Trance of Scarcity
    In this episode we discuss:
    How it feels and what it’s like to be “in” versus “out” of the CircleCommon factors that pull us out of the CircleWays to get back into the Circle, including how to catch/trade up our Stories and how to work directly with our SomasDo try this at home:
    Practice offering yourself compassion ( “Oh Darling” and hands on body)Focus on what is, not what is missingNotice and work with your body/soma – intentionally loosen and soften any tension/constrictionNotice and name when you are in or out of the Circle – practice curiosity 

    • 28 min
    EP 4: Wise Mind

    EP 4: Wise Mind

    Avery, Lucy, and Jamie chat about Wise Mind (aka, “Intuition” or “Knowing”) in the fourth episode. We discuss how to tap into one’s inner wisdom through incorporating emotions, thoughts, and the body, rather than over-relying on external sources to make effective decisions. We share stories of our own struggles connecting with Wise Mind and what we have learned to overcome these barriers.

    In this episode we discuss:
    Definitions of Wise Mind, Emotion Mind, and Reasonable Mind, as well as providing personal examples of eachGuiding principles of connecting with Wise MindBarriers to tapping into Wise MindHow Wise Mind can be useful to parentingTips for connecting with Wise MindDo try this at home:
    Listen to all facets of our direct experienceFocus on the breathPause between urges/urgency and behaviorsStop multi-taskingTune in and ask yourself, “What does my wise mind say about this?”

    • 22 min
    EP 3: Play

    EP 3: Play

    Warning: this episode is coming in hot with a few unexpected F-bombs. Be prepared! Or at least pop in your earbuds if you have small kids loitering or skip to the 52 second mark to avoid altogether! In today’s episode we talk about the importance of play. As adults, it can be hard to connect with “nonproductive” activity such as play. Jamie, Lucy, and Avery share their own experiences with play, discuss benefits of play, and encourage listeners to experiment with play to connect more fully with themselves and the world, both personally and professionally. 

    We don’t stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.—George Bernard Shaw. 

    In this episode we discuss:
    Play’s impact on our brains and overall well-being (the lesson of the sea squirt!)How play differs from other activitiesConnecting with childhood memories of playDifferent modes of playTips for creating more opportunities for playDo try this at home:
    Find everyday opportunities to playConnect to play through movementCreate a safe space for playAllow yourself to be a beginner againSurround yourself with others who are supportive of play 

    • 28 min

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As 3 therapists and moms talk, I feel like I can be a better person after listening to a few episodes. It’s not all kid talk either. We can obviously be a better parent by taking better care of ourselves.

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