44 episodes

Have you ever had a hard time 'letting go'?Replaying the same embarrassing moments over and over in your head? Then join us, Shadoe Ball and Victoria Muir-Burcea for an uplifting, therapy-adjacent podcast. This is a show where we reveal the messy bits about ourselves, without judgement. It’s a show where we can reflect, learn, grow and maybe even laugh about our actions, attitudes and behaviours. 

Let's Relieve Regret Podcast Shadoe and Victoria

    • Health & Fitness

Have you ever had a hard time 'letting go'?Replaying the same embarrassing moments over and over in your head? Then join us, Shadoe Ball and Victoria Muir-Burcea for an uplifting, therapy-adjacent podcast. This is a show where we reveal the messy bits about ourselves, without judgement. It’s a show where we can reflect, learn, grow and maybe even laugh about our actions, attitudes and behaviours. 

    You can change at any age (with guest Louise Carr)

    You can change at any age (with guest Louise Carr)

    On this episode, we are thrilled to be joined by Louise Carr, Certified Holistic Nutrition Consultant.  Her bio follows the episode description below.

    Episode Description:
    During the check-in, Shadoe is a 7 out of 10 and Victoria is a 7.5. But then Louise shares a Cause of Applause that brings everyone's energy up!

    To skip the check-in. tune in at 10:08.

    Victoria shares first, exploring the delicate balance between being a pushover vs using anger to stand up for herself.  We then chat about the coping mechanisms we pick up in puberty as well as the natural process of neural pruning that happens during perimenopause.

    Then, Louise shares her regret about staying in a relationship with a covert narcissist for too long.

    We then have an intense conversation about narcissism, anxiety and going down the rabbit hole. We also discuss how much easier it is to focus on others instead of ourselves. For example, when Louise did leave her relationship; she became hyper-vigilant about her kids.

    Shadoe suggests that Louise could count the wins of this experience as a potential reframe.

    As always, we conclude the episode with 3 calming breaths of letting go. 

    Shadoe's appearance on Unforget Yourself 


    Louise Carr Bio:
    Louise works with midlife women who are feeling exhausted, depleted, and out of balance in their life with ALL the uncomfortable symptoms of perimenopause.
    The food we eat daily has the power to reduce our symptoms of menopause and is a tool you can use to manage your menopause experience.

    In her online course Menopause U, Louise educates women to know exactly what is happening to their hormones in midlife using clear and easy to understand language, she advises on the nutrition your body is craving which will reduce uncomfortable symptoms, help you reclaim your sleep and which boosts their energy. Louise aims to empower midlife women with the information their mothers never gave them and will guide you through the lifestyle changes that help you to shift out of the loss of confidence, fear of menopause and overwhelm that can arise in midlife.
    When you understand the power your diet holds to help you manage your menopause experience you step out of the battle with your body and regain your mojo as you deeply nourish and nurture your health. Your goal is to BUILD your health, even in hormonal change, so you can boost your daily energy, protect your bone, brain and heart health and extend your active years for an exciting next chapter.
    Recipe Book: https://www.louisecarrnutrition.com/recipebook Instagram: @louise.carr.nutritionPrivate Facebook Group: The Nourished Midlife WomanOnline course: Menopause U
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    • 1 hr 20 min
    Grief and Trust (with guest Sam Mitchell)

    Grief and Trust (with guest Sam Mitchell)

    Guest Bio
    Our guest today is Sam Mitchell and he runs a successful podcast called Autism Rocks and Rolls. He has autism and this podcast has exploded and become very successful! He is here today to spread the mission of his podcast and nonprofit.
    He has thousands of downloads on Autism Rocks and Rolls, and has had some big names on his show: Armani Williams, first NASCAR driver open about having autism, and American Idol Rocker James Durbin who has autism and Tourette’s. His biggest guest of all was Dr. Temple Grandin, professor in Animal Science at Colorado State University and autism activist. He even had WWE legend Mick Foley on his show! Huge guests are upcoming as well!
    He is also a motivational speaker, entrepreneur, writer and blogger. He sells merchandise, has several sponsors, sells ad space and loves to promote his podcast and business. He also has a published TED Talk called Souled Structure.

    Official Website is https://autismrocksandrolls.com/ 
    He is a high-functioning human being on the autism spectrum, and on a mission to show people that he is not broken, does not need to be fixed, there is no normal in this world. He is successful, with autism. He wants to celebrate the successes of all people. He embraces who he is and feels as though everyone should do the same. His mission is powerful and this extraordinary idea is catching on and getting the world’s attention.
    He has made it to the top 10 in the People's Choice Podcast Awards, placed second in the state of Indiana for the JAG Entrepreneurship project, was selected as the best business at the CEO trade show in Indiana, have had tremendous guests on show, and is in the top 200 podcasts in all of Canada while also being a current Davey Award winner.


    Episode Description

    During the Check-In, all three of us are feeling pretty good!

     We talk about concerts, music festivals and more. 

    to skip to the regrets, tune in at 9:12

    Shadoe opens up about feeling weird about the grieving process. Her grandmother passed on April 1, 2019; and, five years later, Shadoe is guilting herself over a 'proper way to grieve'.   

    Sam and Victoria offer great feedback and some solutions to help her find the closure she desires. 
     
    Then, Sam opens up about being bullied when he was younger. This has led to an ongoing regret about trusting the people in his corner.
     
    This leads to a conversation about how our inner critic can be louder than many kind voices.

    As always, we end the episode with our three breaths of letting go.

    Resources mentioned in this episode: 
     Autism Rocks and Rolls Episode 255: Rest in PeaceLet's Relieve Regret, Geet's Episode - discussion of Worry Time strategySupport the show
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    • 44 min
    Mini Episode - Radical Self-Care

    Mini Episode - Radical Self-Care

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    On this Minisode, Victoria explains Radical Self-Care.  

    Sometimes, self-care is seen as a bonus (like a bubble bath) instead of an essential life skill. 

    It is important for us to take care of all of our "selves". 

    It is not selfish to focus on filling our own cup. In fact, it helps us build up an overflow. That way, we can give help to others without becoming resentful or burnt out. 

    One way to help fill our cup is to practice the art of affirmations. 

    Affirmations are less effective when they are about who you want to be. Move the focus to how you want to feel instead. 

    Stay tuned to the very end for examples of simple and effective affirmations you can add to your radical self-care toolbox. 
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    • 15 min
    And then yesterday, I deleted my book (with Guest Jyoti Dhanota)

    And then yesterday, I deleted my book (with Guest Jyoti Dhanota)

    On this episode, we welcome special guest Jyoti Dhanota (a.k.a. Geet- full bio below the episode description).

    During our check-in, everyone is feeling pretty upbeat and enjoying some much-needed sunnier weather.  We also have a laugh about how confusing  it is to convert Celsius to Fahrenheit and vice-versa.

    For the Causes for Applause, Shadoe is happy about upcoming alone time, Geet had a wonderful meditation class earlier in the week, and Victoria celebrates life-long learning.

    To skip the check-in; tune in at 15:57

    Shadoe then opens up about a bad habit she has picked up, and that is allowing nostalgia to put her in a bad mood. For example, when she is missing her old neighbourhood, she downplays the benefits of her current neighbourhood, and gets into that self-doubt place.

    Geet then has a helpful tool to use here - and that is setting a timer for "Worry Time", or, in Shadoe's case "Nostalgia Time". 

    Then, Geet opens up about a powerful moment that happened the day before we recorded the podcast - she deleted her latest book! And, instead of that feeling scary, it felt freeing.  As she says in the episode "I felt like it's gone, but I didn't feel empty."

    We then have a fruitful discussion about family expectations and the challenges we face when turning certain ages. Funnily enough, it's not the number that matters, but, how we feel about those numbers throughout our lives.   


    Jyoti's Bio

    Jyoti Dhanota, also known by her preferred professional pseudonym "Geet," is a prolific self-published author renowned for her extensive literary portfolio, comprising 11 captivating books available on reputable platforms such as Amazon. Specializing in the genre of fictional romance, Geet fearlessly tackles taboo subjects prevalent in South Asian communities, thereby contributing to a more inclusive and diverse literary landscape. Her dedication extends beyond storytelling, as she actively seeks to address the underrepresentation of Punjabi culture within literature, fostering a more authentic and representative narrative.
    For those interested in engaging further with Geet's work and insights, she maintains a strong presence on prominent social media platforms, including Instagram and TikTok, under the handle @GeetisBooked. 

    Additionally, comprehensive information about her background, publications, and upcoming projects can be found on her professional profile hosted at Geetwrites.carrd.co.

    Geet on GoodReads   |    Geet on Amazon  


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    • 1 hr 12 min
    Maybe it will go away on its own

    Maybe it will go away on its own

    In this episode, we start with the Joy of Mini-Weiner dogs!!

    We also discuss that great feeling of not needing to minimize the things that bring us joy. (eg. Victoria is a Proud Health Nerd and loves her new temu products!)

    To skip the check-in and just listen to the regrets, skip to 11:47

    Victoria opens up about how she is feeling regarding a keloid scar she has from abdominal surgery two years ago. Interestingly enough; the shame she has about the scar is very similar to the shame she felt about needing the surgery in the first place. She recognizes that there is a pattern to it - advocating for herself a lot and then pulling away in hopes to not bother anyone. 

    Check out s1, E6: COWORKERS for more about Victoria's Fibroid surgery.  

    During the feedback session, Shadoe and Victoria talk about the pressure of being a "Good Patient" and not advocating for yourself. It is so much easier to advocate on the behalf of others! 

    Shadoe then shares Part 3 of her regret "not accepting help for things she should know how to do". 
    Part 1 was her job title;
    Part 2 was keeping a tidy home; and, today,
    Part 3 is: sticking to a fitness routine. 

    Regular listeners may remember the BEING NICER TO MYSELF episode from season 2 when Shadoe shared that she regrets using exercise as a punishment. It turns out, that this motivation is still really difficult to 'get over', and, keeps her fearful.  


    As always, we end our episode with three soothing breaths to let go! 
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    • 1 hr 1 min
    Wrapped up in the "should" of it

    Wrapped up in the "should" of it

    During the check-in this week, Shadoe is at a 4/10 since she still has a lingering cold. But, her Cause For Applause is that she is getting better! 

    Victoria is in much better spirits and her Cause For Applause is Ben and James from Tori's Bakeshop. One day, Shadoe and Victoria will visit this cafe together and both drink Heavenly Cream tea. 

    To skip the check-in, please jump to 9:46

    Shadoe continues her 3-part series of releasing regrets asking for help on the things she should know how to do.  Last week it was her job title, this week it is keeping her house tidy. 

    Victoria then gives great feedback and asks important, challenging questions. Shadoe does not have all the answers but is ready to re-evaluate why the judgement of others is more important to her than her own judgment. 

    From there, Victoria shares that she can feel "the wall" coming back in her interactions with other people. This leads to a conversation about wiggling in hugs being a sign to check-in with yourself! This part of the episode also explains the difference between BIG T Trauma and little t trauma. 

    As always, the episode ends with 3 breaths of letting go. 




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    • 50 min

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