Through Alyssa's experience as both a trauma therapist and a trauma survivor, she has realized how incredibly isolating and painful recovery from PTSD can be. Despite the many people who are fighting to spread messages of hope and awareness, we still live in a world full of trauma survivors who are carrying so much shame, guilt, anger, and fear.
Light After Trauma has been created for those who are looking for support, connection and guidance on how to reclaim their lives and ultimately THRIVE in the aftermath of grief, loss, and unbearable pain. Although many times we seem to feel surrounded only by darkness, the goal of this podcast is to spread awareness that there is, in fact, light to be found find in the aftermath of trauma.
Losing a Child to an Overdose with Robert Cox, LPC
Therapist and host of the Mindful Recovery podcast, Robert Cox, shares his grieving process after the tragic loss of his son, Tristn Jevon, to an overdose in February of this year.
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Alyssa Scolari [00:03]:
Alyssa Scolari [00:23]:
Hi everybody. If you are new here, welcome, and if you are not new, then welcome back. I'm going to dive right into it today. We have special guest Robert Cox, who is an LPC, a therapist, in Missouri, specializing in trauma, addictions and autism. He is the creator and founder of Life Recovery Consulting, which will soon be turning into a nonprofit organization called The Tristn Jevon Center for Recovery. Robert is also the host of The Mindful Recovery Podcast, which I had the honor of being a guest on. It is a fantastic podcast that covers all things addiction, trauma and mental health related. Welcome, Robert. Thank you for being here.
Robert Cox [01:14]:
Thanks for having me here. I appreciate it.
Alyssa Scolari [01:17]:
Now you do a lot of incredible things. I feel like there are so many different conversations that I would love to have with you. First, let's just talk a little bit about your podcast. The Mindful Recovery, when did you start that up?
Robert Cox [01:39]:
I started it probably five or six years ago but I took two years off because life got very complicated for me and building this group practice, The Life Recovery Consulting, was taking up all of my time, but I continued to get downloads and I continued to get emails from people saying, "When are you going to get a new episode out? This really helps me." And so just last January I started it back up and we're currently at like 380,000 downloads or so in like 90 countries, so it's ringing a bell with some people because I've only got about 35 or 36 episodes out total, right, so we're averaging about 5,000 a week hits so it's doing pretty well right now.
Alyssa Scolari [02:22]:
Robert Cox [02:23]:
It just came out of the fact that I had been an addict with a lot of trauma myself and in my recovery when I thought mindfulness saved my butt to a large extent. I was a practicing Buddhist for 15 years and that really helped me, so I thought I might as well share this space and some of the information that I've accrued not just as a professional with a Master's degree but as someone who's been there and done that and made really stupid choices.
Alyssa Scolari [02:53]:
Right, and in listening to your podcast that's something that, one of the many things that makes your podcast really great is the vulnerability that you add in again coming to this as a human who has been through some shit, made some mistakes. Just so the listeners out there know, I first found Robert on a platform that we are both a part of as podcasters and he had posted in the Facebook group that he was starting up his podcast again after taking a break for a couple of years. Then we touched base and we planned to record together and after doing some more research on Robert and listening to his podcasts I had realized that he had been through a great, great loss recently and today we are here to talk about that. If you wouldn't mind Robert, I will turn it over to you, if you wouldn't mind sharing what life has been like for you for the last several months.
Robert Cox [04:07]:
Wow. It's been a lot of loss. I talk a lot on my podcast about holding space for the pain and not trying to numb it out and trying to learn from it or make something of it instead of just allowing it to eat you alive. I have struggled with every avenue of addiction. My own addiction and then my wife relapsed while we were married and she has bravely overcome that. Then we dealt with my oldest child,
Creating a Movement
Alyssa steps away from interviews this week for a solo episode in which she shares some exciting announcements about the podcast.
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Alyssa Scolari: Hello everyone. Welcome to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. A podcast by trauma survivors for trauma survivors. I'm your host, Alyssa Scolari and. Today we are having a little bit different of an episode. So there's just some housekeeping that I wanted to keep everybody up to date on.
We have some really exciting changes happening on the Light After Trauma podcast. So I wanted to make you all aware in an episode. We are skipping this week for an interview. We've got lots of great content lined up. But just wanted to take the time to share with you all the awesome things that we have that are launching as of today.
So before we get into some of the major changes that are happening, I just want to backtrack a little bit and go back to really the beginning of quarantine. And, you know, I know I've said this on the podcast before, but it's definitely worth repeating. I started this podcast. I've always wanted to start a podcast, but things have gotten in my way, like being in jobs that I was chronically unhappy and planning a wedding, buying a house.
And then I was trying to get my private practice off the ground. And when quarantine hit and we were stuck at home, I really seize the opportunity. And I probably started in April and that was just all the back work. So from April, I worked diligently on this podcast to be able to launch it in late August of 2020.
And again, I know I've said this before, but I'm going to say it again. This really was just a hobby for me, a way to spread awareness. And I definitely thought, okay. If I reach five people, if I help five people or even one person fantastic. For me, I continue to be blown away by how many people are being affected and are resonating with this podcast.
It's become so much more than just a podcast. It has become a huge part of my life. Something that I care about just as much as I care about my private practice, it has become a place of healing for me, a place of connection with other trauma survivors, and it's become a source of healing and connection for so many of you out there.
I have made so many quality friendships. As a result of this podcast, I have met so many incredible survivors as a result of this podcast. And I have healed so much as a result of this podcast. One of the things that I had no idea was going to happen when I started this podcast in August, is that, you know, I was going to go through something extremely traumatic only weeks after I started the podcast.
I really haven't spoken much about it and I'm not going to get into it today because that's not the point, but the timing really is uncanny that when I needed this podcast the most, it was there for me and people from all over the world have reached out to me and have said the same type of sentiment that this podcast is there for them.
And over the last seven to eight months, I can truly say that this podcast went from a hobby to a movement, a movement to take the shame away from what trauma survivors experience, a movement to educate family members and friends, and even just the general public on all the different aspects of trauma, a movement to educate people on what types of treatment is out there, to talk about all of the things that are so tough to talk about in the field of trauma, when it comes to our own recovery, the battles, the victories, all of it. It's become a movement. We are taking the shame away. We are acknowledging what we've experienced. We are calling it what it is. And there's so much empowerment in that. You know, there was one
An Alternative Treatment for Chronic Pain with Jennifer Bristol, LCSW
This week Alyssa sits down with friend and colleague, Jennifer Bristol, LCSW, to discuss the mind-body connection and the idea that addressing our emotions can help to pacify chronic pain.
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Alyssa Scolari: [00:00:23]
Hi, everybody. You know what time it is. Welcome to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I am your host, Alyssa Scolari and we have here with us today. My dear friend, Jennifer Bristol, LCSW. So I met Jen. I'm just going to give a personal bio for her. I met her as a result of COVID. So while I, of course would have never wanted COVID to happen.
And horrible things have happened. One of the wonderful things that has come out of COVID is the support group, or I guess it would be like a peer supervision group that we are in together on Sundays. I met her through there and I have really watched Jennifer make incredible changes in her life. In the last year when I met her, she was working for another company.
And you were working in like geriatric care, right. A social worker for...
Jennifer Bristol: [00:01:56]
Yeah, hospice actually.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:01:58]
Okay. So yes. So when I met her, she was working for hospice and over the course of the year, she has gotten married. Is it okay if I say...
Jennifer Bristol: [00:02:08]
Yeah, yeah, yeah, absolutely.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:02:10]
So she has gotten married. Had a beautiful wedding, even in a pandemic ,safely, of course.
And she works for herself now at Embracing Stages, she is a therapist working with people ages 18 and up. Correct.
Jennifer Bristol: [00:02:31]
Alyssa Scolari: [00:02:32]
So without further ado, I'm going to turn it over to Jen. Hi Jen. Thank you for coming on the show. I know you have a lot going on and it has been a year of changes for you.
Jennifer Bristol: [00:02:46]
Yes, a lot of changes, but wonderful ones. All good, except for COVID. Other than that, all good.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:02:54]
Right, except for COVID. But in terms of your career, you have just been thriving and it has been such a joy to watch because you are, you're so good at what you do. Jen to the listeners out there, and I will link her website. It's embracingstages.com. I'll link it on the show notes for everybody. Jen's a phenomenal therapist.
So one of the ways in which Jen helped me is early on in the pandemic. So it has to be probably like a year ago at this point, because I think we started the group in March of last year. So it had to be maybe like 10 months ago or so Jen started talking about back pain. And how she healed her back pain.
And I am somebody who has had physical symptoms out the wazoo, my entire life. I'm always like my back hurts. My knees hurt. My hips hurt. My neck hurts. And she recommended this book by John E Sarno called "Healing Back Pain." And I was like, what the hell. So I ordered it on Amazon. And I read it and I was like, Oh my God, we have to talk about this.
So I am having Jen on today to talk about back pain and the book. And so could you talk a little bit about how did you even stumble on this book?
Jennifer Bristol: [00:04:31]
So actually through my own experiences and my own complaining of physical symptoms, it was actually close friends of my husband and I they're a close couple of friends and she recommended the book to me because of her own experiences and how much it helped her. She recommended it to me and I read it and that was it.
My complete way of thinking changed everything. It's like a whole new world open.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:05:05]
Yes. And so as a disclaimer, let us say that Jen and I are not doctors. We are not, not, not doctors. So if you are listening to this podcast for medica
Intimacy After Sexual Trauma with Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.D.
Dr. Nazanin Moali is a public speaker, psychologist, and sex and relationship expert. Dr. Moali is also the host of her own podcast, titled "Sexology", where she dives into the psychology of sex and intimacy. In this week's episode, Dr. Moali and Alyssa discuss the impact that sexual trauma can have on us as well as the hope that comes with reclaiming our sexuality and discovering pleasure again.
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Alyssa Scolari [00:00]:
Hello friends. I hope everybody is well. I have some exciting news. We are adding a mini episode to the podcast every week coming soon. This episode is all about you. When I say mini I'm meaning it's going to be about 10-15 minutes long and what this little segment is going to be called is Survived and Thrived Stories. After starting this podcast I started to get people from all over the world who were reaching out to me to talk to me about certain things on the podcast that I touched on, certain parts of my story, specific topics that they could identify with, and I realized that there are so many people who want to share their story and want their voice to be heard, but they don't necessarily want to be identified or they don't want to share all of their story, so I wanted to create this mini episode series called Survived and Thrived Stories where you can email in anonymously or if you want to sign your first initial or just your first name, however you want, and you can share as much or as little of your story as you want.
Actually, part of why I really wanted to do this as well and part of why this is so special to me is because I realized that when I first started sharing my story, I did it in writing and I did it anonymously and I actually wrote into a podcast. I wrote into a very famous podcast called My Favorite Murder because I wrote in about a trauma that I experienced that I was a victim of a crime and that was my first kind of like, it was the gateway into me sharing my story and into me I think ultimately starting this podcast and helped so much in my recovery and I want to give all of you the same opportunity.
If you are struggling with something, if you have been through a hardship, if you are experiencing PTSD or if you have recovered or you are in recovery, because I believe recovery is a lifelong journey, I want to hear from you. If there's something you want to share, send it on in and I will read it aloud on the podcast and then of course I will comment and offer any kind of support that I can. Yeah, I just think it would be a really exciting way for everybody to get their voices heard and for you to be able to inspire so many others and to reach out to others and let other people who are sitting in the darkness know that they are not alone and that they can get through this.
Whether you want to talk about things that helped you to recover, whether you want to talk about what happened to you, you can send it on over. I want you to send it to the podcast email. That's firstname.lastname@example.org. Again, that's email@example.com. Again, you will remain anonymous. I look forward to hearing from you. I would be honored to share your story on this podcast, so looking forward to it. Stay tuned and send me your story.
Hello all you beautiful people. Welcome to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. You know who this is. I am your host, Alyssa Scolari, and I am happy to be here this week with Dr. Nazanin Moali. Dr. Nazanin Moali is a licensed clinical psychologist and a, is it double A sect or AAS-
Nazanin Moali [04:27]:
AASECT. I know, it's a complicated name. Yes. AASECT.
Alyssa Scolari [04:32]:
AASECT, okay. All right. Certified sex therapist, her private practice is located in Los Angeles and she specializes in working with co
Being with Primal Suffering with Robert Strock
On this week's episode, Alyssa sits down with psychotherapist, humanitarian, and author, Robert Strock. Robert discusses the core concepts from his book, Awareness That Heals. The inspiration from this book comes after years of experience as a therapist in addition to a life-changing moment in Robert's 30's that turned his world upside down.
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Alyssa Scolari [00:23]:
Good morning, good afternoon, and good evening, everybody. Welcome to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa Scolari. I am sitting here today with the wonderful Robert Strock. Robert is a psychotherapist, teacher, and humanitarian. He's also the author of a book that we are going to talk about today called Awareness That Heals, an expression of the powerful tools that Robert has developed over a lifetime of inspired exploration.
He has hundreds of online videos, blogs, and guided meditations, which I tried, by the way, and are fantastic, that he has shared with therapists, psychology students, social workers, caregivers, and seekers of their own inspiration. In addition to this, 20 years ago, Robert co-founded the Global Bridge Foundation, whose mission it is to continue on the creation of a more compassionate, just, and peaceful world that honors the dignity of all beings. This foundation is a part of a united effort to support systems for global change and economic inequality. Most recently, he has two podcasts that are coming out. As if he wasn't busy enough, now he is coming out in... You said April, right, Robert?
Robert Strock [01:44]:
Alyssa Scolari [01:45]:
In April, he has two podcasts coming out, one that is based off of the book, Awareness That Heals, and then one is... Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's the one that's tied to the Global Bridge Foundation, right?
Robert Strock [01:59]:
That's correct. It's really tied into homelessness, regenerative agriculture, and immigration reform.
Alyssa Scolari [02:08]:
All right. Welcome. How did I do with that bio?
Robert Strock [02:11]:
That was pretty good on the fly.
Alyssa Scolari [02:15]:
I did do that on the fly. Thank you. Thank you. Well, welcome. Welcome.
Robert Strock [02:21]:
Great to be here. Thanks for inviting me.
Alyssa Scolari [02:25]:
For the listeners out there, Robert and I connected on LinkedIn. We had had a conversation back in January of 2021, so this year, about his book. He was kind enough to send me a copy of his book, Awareness That Heals. It took me some time to get through it. It's an incredible book. I really wanted to have him on the show. Even just after my first conversation with him, it's very easy to tell how passionate he is and how much knowledge he has on healing, especially knowing his personal story.
I wanted to bring him on the show today to talk about this book because he really has developed tools that I think are helpful for everybody, especially going through difficult times. As I was just saying before we started recording, right when I got this book was when I started to go through a lot of health issues and a lot of health scares. Reading this book truly helped me to be able to ground myself during times when I felt so anxious and so worried about my health. Thank you so much, Robert, for sending me this incredible book.
Robert Strock [03:49]:
Well, you're very welcome. Thank you for being willing to share yourself personally, which is such a gift to the audience, to have someone that is leading the way by sharing their own process, which is... One of my pet peeves is just, we're all human. If we could just learn to be able to... with those that we trust, be able to share what our inner experience is and then guide ourselves or be guided to how we can best take care of ourselves.
How EMDR Can Help You Heal with Melissa Parks, LCSW
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy can sound overwhelming at first, but Melissa Parks, LCSW, breaks everything down on this week's episode. She talks about the benefits of EMDR, expectations during the treatment process, and why she has developed such a passion for this type of therapy.
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Alyssa Scolari: [00:00:23]
Hey all what's up. Welcome to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I'm your host, Alyssa Scolari. And we have here with us today, Melissa Parks. So you have Melissa and Alyssa, so it's going to be a good time. Melissa is an EMDR therapist, as well as a couples therapist. She is devoted to helping you stop the cycle of conflict in your relationships and to understand your nervous system in order to experience more joy, she has been using her expertise and her humor on social media to de-stigmatize mental health, you will often hear her use the phrase you make sense.
So just a quick side note, I found Melissa on Tik-Tok. She is a bomb Tik-Tok maker. I thoroughly enjoy watching all of your Tik-Tok. So when she says that she uses humor as part of her therapy, she is not kidding.
Her Tik-Toks are really funny and I really appreciate them. So, hi, Melissa. Welcome. And thank you for all that you do.
Melissa Parks: [00:01:56]
Hey, I'm so glad to be here. Thank you so much for having me. It's a true honor. I'm excited.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:02:01]
I'm so excited for you to be here and to talk about a topic that quite honestly, I don't really know a whole lot about. So this is going to be a major learning experience for me as well as a lot of the listeners. So would you be able to share a little bit more on like what you do, who you are and could you break down that like gigantic acronym?
That is EMDR.
Melissa Parks: [00:02:26]
Yes. Yes, absolutely. Well, like you so beautifully said, I am a therapist, a couples therapists, EMDR therapist. I do coaching. I do consultation. I do lots of things, but I treat clients in the state of South Carolina and I am so passionate about that. I came into the field and have been licensed for 17 years, and I still feel just as passionate, if not, even more passionate than I was when I first started, I really am on fire for all this stuff.
In terms of EMDR trauma-focused stuff, attachment focused stuff. It's just my favorite. It's just one of my favorite things. So I'm excited to be able to talk about this today to maybe help bridge the understanding for folks because you know, it can be kind of, you know, intimidating when you just, the acronym, like you said, is a little intimidating: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
That's a mouthful.
Alyssa Scolari: [00:03:26]
Yes, it is.
Melissa Parks: [00:03:27]
It's like what is Well I'd love to take some time to explain some about it and then. Open up for questions. Definitely. But Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing is an evidence-based treatment model, which just means that it has extensive research and it's been proven .It has proven outcomes and way back when it was only used to treat trauma, but now we know that it can treat trauma, it can treat complex trauma, it can treat a myriad of issues, including distressing symptoms, like chronic depression, anxiety, just a whole host of things. So it's not just trauma.
And it's based on a model that theorizes that our current symptoms are a result of unprocessed memories from our past that are showing up in our present. So for example, the brain may have had an experience from the past and it was unable to integrate all the components of that experience. And so what happens is our amazing nervous system comes up for us to
After hearing Alyssa as a guest on another podcast I was instantly drawn to her message. I quickly downloaded her (this) podcast and have yet to be disappointed. She’s raw, real and honest. As a trauma therapist and also dealing with my own recent CPTSD diagnosis, I’m here for it!
I did not know what to expect when I heard Alyssa was coming out with this podcast. I have learned so much, she is my go to for trauma now for sure! She is engaging while informative! I am all caught up and look forward to more episodes. Keep them coming
This is fantastic!
This podcast is an awesome concept! I know Alyssa is going to help so many trauma survivors!