100 episodes

Through Alyssa's experience as both a trauma therapist and a trauma survivor, she has realized how incredibly isolating and painful recovery from PTSD can be. Despite the many people who are fighting to spread messages of hope and awareness, we still live in a world full of trauma survivors who are carrying so much shame, guilt, anger, and fear.

Light After Trauma has been created for those who are looking for support, connection and guidance on how to reclaim their lives and ultimately THRIVE in the aftermath of grief, loss, and unbearable pain. Although many times we seem to feel surrounded only by darkness, the goal of this podcast is to spread awareness that there is, in fact, light to be found find in the aftermath of trauma.

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Light After Trauma Alyssa Scolari

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Through Alyssa's experience as both a trauma therapist and a trauma survivor, she has realized how incredibly isolating and painful recovery from PTSD can be. Despite the many people who are fighting to spread messages of hope and awareness, we still live in a world full of trauma survivors who are carrying so much shame, guilt, anger, and fear.

Light After Trauma has been created for those who are looking for support, connection and guidance on how to reclaim their lives and ultimately THRIVE in the aftermath of grief, loss, and unbearable pain. Although many times we seem to feel surrounded only by darkness, the goal of this podcast is to spread awareness that there is, in fact, light to be found find in the aftermath of trauma.

https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma

    The Five Love Languages

    The Five Love Languages

    Alyssa is celebrating 100 episodes this week by talking about the five different love languages, first coined by psychologist Gary Chapman.  Learning about the five love languages can significantly improve the relationships you have with partners, friends, and family.
    To learn more about the different love languages, please see Gary Chapman's book: The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
    You can also check out Alyssa at www.alyssascolari.com
    Transcript:
    Alyssa Scolari [00:23]:
    Hey everybody. It is your host Alyssa Scolari. Welcome back to another episode of The Light After Trauma podcast and most especially, happy 100th episode. We are officially in triple digits. I don't know how that happened. I have no clue. It has been almost two years since the podcast started and I can't even wrap my brain around it. We are a hundred episodes in, and it has been so much fun every step of the way. I remember being in the pandemic right at the beginning when everything was supposed to shut down for only two weeks. And I remember thinking to myself, I have to do something to help people that are suffering. I have to do something to help people have a greater understanding about mental health. And it sort of just dawned on me like, "Oh, I really want to start a podcast."
    Alyssa Scolari [01:28]:
    That is a great way to reach people and to be able to provide people with free access to mental health education. So I remember I get all these reminders on my phone from Facebook, I guess, as my equipment would come in, like my podcast microphone. I would take a picture of it and I would put it on my story. So I keep getting little reminders on my social media from that two years ago and it is mind boggling and I'm really honored to be here. There are times when the podcast has really stressed me out and has felt like a lot. But honestly, for the most part, I have been loving every second of it and I have formed friendships with, I think so many of you. I have amazing friendships right now that I would've never had if it weren't for this podcast, whether it's people who have been on the show, whether it is people who have contacted me after hearing the podcast and we just connected on social media.
    Alyssa Scolari [02:38]:
    I just feel like I have friends all over the world and you have been right by my side, listening to me, not just share my story, but be vulnerable. Because I shared my story, but I share my story for the most part, as I'm going through things. And it has been great to feel the support. It has been great to be able to give support in the form of education about mental health. It's just been great. It's all been great. I don't even have any words. I don't have any words. So if you and I have talked and we're friends, thank you. I love you. If you and I have never spoken, but you just listened to the podcast. Thank you. I love you. We are going to keep going until, I don't know when. I don't know, we're just going to keep going. We're going to keep doing it. So thank you so much for all your support. I would honestly never be here without you.
    Alyssa Scolari [03:46]:
    And if you are continuing to like what you hear and you haven't done so already, I kindly ask that you please leave a rating or review of the podcast because those ratings really help the podcast to continue to grow and to reach a wider audience so more people can get the mental health education and support and t

    • 29 min
    Your Body Has Always Been A Beach Body with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Your Body Has Always Been A Beach Body with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Alyssa has stepped away from the podcast this week while she works on a very exciting project for you all! This week, we are reaching back into the archives with a timely episode as summer heats up in the Northern Hemisphere!
    REDUX: Live your best life this summer as Alyssa offers advice to those of us grappling with a fear of wearing shorts, tank tops, and bathing suits this summer. Tune in for some inspiration so that this summer can be one where you embrace the incredible body you have - at any shape and size!
     
    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
     
    Transcript:
    Alyssa Scolari: Hey,how's it going? You know what time it is. We are back out it with another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. You know the deal. I'm your host, Alyssa Scolari and life is pretty good right now. Just wanted to take a moment to kind of check in with all of you. And sometimes I feel like with the interview episodes, sometimes I feel like my personality or my connection to the audience can get lost in translation, just because I think there's a lot of obviously getting to hear and understand and process the stories and the information from the guest speakers.
    [00:01:27] So while I absolutely love having guest speakers, I also really want to maintain an authentic connection with all the listeners out there. So, today I was supposed to have a guest speaker come on and unfortunately there was just some kind of confusion in scheduling. So we had to reschedule and I have some free time and I was like, you know what:
    [00:01:53] "I actually have some things I wanted to talk about." So it's kind of nice to be able to do a solo episode. I have not done one in a while and that is not because I haven't wanted to, but life has been a little bit, how would you say this: wild, insane all over the place, aah I shouldn't say insane. One of the things I've really been trying to work on is trying to avoid the use of certain words.
    [00:02:25] When we talk about the concept of linguistic evolution, right?.We don't use certain words anymore. I think one of the words that I'm really trying hard to stop using is crazy and insane. So my reactions to things, because I'm such an animated person, my gut response is to always be like, "oh my God, that's crazy."
    [00:02:45] Or, "oh my God, that's insane." But you know, it can be offensive calling somebody crazy. You know, the word crazy itself has a very negative connotation and was, I think a lot of people who struggled with mental illness were called crazy and I've been called crazy actually. And it's, it cuts pretty deep.
    [00:03:07] So, that's just my own personal preference. Some people may be listening and may be like, "oh my gosh, that's way too much of a stretch," but that's just something I've been trying to work on. So that was a little tidbit, but life has been so wild. We are in the process of house hunting. And if any of you know anything about this market, it is...
    [00:03:29] I mean again, I'm not going to say crazy, but it is unlike anything I've ever seen before in my life. People are coming in and offering literally a hundred thousand dollars over asking price for homes, because there's such a high demand for homes. And there simply aren't enough sellers. And we know we've been looking for homes for....
    [00:03:50] I want to say coming up on a year now. And it has been a really defeating process. The last couple months in particular, we thought that we had found something and we're still actually not entirely sure if

    • 23 min
    Why We Need Pride Month (and a personal note on coming out) with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Why We Need Pride Month (and a personal note on coming out) with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Happy Pride Month! The month of June (and every month!) is a great time to celebrate the beauty of the LGBTQPIA+ community. In this week's episode, Alyssa notes that while we certainly have come a long way in gaining rights for the LGBTQPIA+ community, there is still very far to go in terms of achieving true equality. For example, many of our states still recognize the lethal "Gay Panic Defense". Alyssa also includes a personal note on her own experience with coming out for the first time this year. 
     
    Source Material:
    https://people.com/human-interest/pride-month-explained-pride-month-facts/  
    https://lgbtqbar.org/programs/advocacy/gay-trans-panic-defense/ 
    Donate to the Human Rights Campaign
    Donate to The Trevor Project
    Donate to the National Center for Transgender Equality
     
    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
     
    Transcript:
    Alyssa Scolari [00:24]:
    Everybody, welcome back to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I'm your host Alyssa Scolari. Super excited to be here because it is Pride Month. And that is exactly what we are talking about. This episode, we are talking about Pride. We are talking about the importance of Pride, and we are talking about why we need to continue to advocate for the LGBTQ community. I'm really, actually, a little bit anxious about today's episode, because I am going to be talking about things that I have never spoken about before. And so I'm a little bit nervous as we get into it, but we are just going to dive right in. Although before we do that, just some housekeeping stuff. So if you have not done so already, please leave a review for the podcast. Reviews, ratings go such a long way in terms of helping the podcast to reach a greater audience. And I really feel strongly that everybody deserves some kind of access to free mental health education, information, and support.
    Alyssa Scolari [01:43]:
    So the more reviews and ratings we have, the greater access people can have to this podcast. And it would mean the world to me. So if you have not done so already, please do so. I would greatly appreciate it. Also, if you are interested in becoming a Patreon member, you can check out the show notes where you can just click right on the link and you can donate as little or as much as you would like to the podcast. You can become a monthly Patreon member, or you could just do a one time donation, anything would be greatly appreciated. And all of the money that you donate goes directly in to helping fund the podcast and helping to keep the machine going, essentially. It costs roughly anywhere from $800-$900 a month to fund this podcast, between all of the software that we have to pay for and the editing. That is what it costs. So, again, this is not me complaining about the price. I am really fortunate enough to be in a place where I can do this, but if you are able and willing to give any amount would be greatly appreciated.
    Alyssa Scolari [03:04]:
    I hope everyone is off to a grand old week. I am doing pretty good, had a good day today. It's kind of late when I'm recording this, it's about 9:30 at night, which is pretty late for me to be doing any sort of work. But I had a burst of energy and I felt like I had a lot to say. And I was like, "I'm just a little anxious about this discussion today. You know what, we're doing it." So I made myself a cup of hot tea and here we are chatting today. So I think that as I get into this conversation, people are going to have one of two thoughts. And I t

    • 31 min
    Setting and Upholding Your Boundaries with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Setting and Upholding Your Boundaries with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    This week brings the final episode in a series of discussions on setting boundaries. Pulling from Nedra Glover Tawwab's book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, this week's discussion centers on the following: 
    - 6 areas where setting boundaries is necessary
    - 3 steps to set healthy boundaries 
    -What to do after setting boundaries
    -How to manage people's reactions to your boundaries 
    Order Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab

    Nedra Tawwab's Instagram: @nedratawwab
    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
    Transcript:
     
    Alyssa Scolari:
    Hey, everybody. Welcome back to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast, the full episode this week. I'm your host Alyssa Scolari, and I am so happy to be here for a full episode. If you listened to the mini episode that I put out last week, well, it wasn't even an episode. It was just a brief announcement. My husband and I have been recovering from COVID. We both went all this time without getting it, and then we went to a wedding. One of our really good friends got married, and the wedding was so much fun. But the next day, part of the wedding party had woken up and tested positive for COVID. And then a few days after, David tested positive for COVID, and then I tested positive.
    Alyssa Scolari:
    So it was not fun. I will say I am very glad that I have had the privilege of being both vaccinated and boosted, because I do not want to know what COVID would've looked like if I did not have the vaccine. It wasn't scary, but it was almost just like, "Whoa. I can't believe this feels this bad even with the vaccine." It felt like the flu. Thankfully, neither of us had to go to the hospital. Neither of us had any issues with breathing or anything like that. And we are both on the mend.
    Alyssa Scolari:
    Today is actually one of the first days that I have my voice back. And my voice might sound a little bit off. I don't know. It doesn't to me. But I had lost my voice and couldn't really work or do anything. So it's been a little relaxing, but also boring, but also just irritating being sick when it was Memorial Day weekend and then it was a really beautiful summer weather. And there was just so many things we wanted to do. And we were supposed to have a house warming party with all of our friends, and we had to cancel that. And it's just been a bummer.
    Alyssa Scolari:
    But again, I'm just very happy to be healthy and I'm very thankful that we are both on the mend. So thank you for bearing with me. There was no way I was going to be able to put out an episode, because I was just feverish and had no voice. But we are back with another part, well, another episode on boundaries. So it's like a three part series or a three episode series. I am fairly certain this will be the last one. We're going to see how much we get into today.
    Alyssa Scolari:
    But if you have not listened to the other two episodes, you can go back and listen. We are talking about boundaries. And a lot of the information that I am sharing today is going to be based off of Nedra Tawwab's book Set Boundaries, Find Peace. And that is the same book that I used in the previous two episodes. Boundaries, as I've said before and I'll say it again, I believe, are the most important tool for not just healing from trauma, but for honestly just existing and living a peaceful life.
    Alyssa Scolari:
    That's more of a personal belief. I think a lot of people would agree with me, honestly. So we're talking about it, because

    • 37 min
    Covid Had Other Plans

    Covid Had Other Plans

    This week was scheduled to be another episode in the series on setting boundaries, however, Covid seemed to have other plans. 
     
    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
     
    Transcript:
     
    Alyssa Scolari [00:23]:
    Hi, everybody. Welcome back to the Light After Trauma podcast. Although we do not have an episode for you today. I am so sorry. I know we were supposed to continue the conversation about boundaries and I had some great things to share with you, but David and I partied a little too hard this weekend and by partied, I mean, we had a wedding. One of our closest friends got married and it was the best time ever, but we both got COVID. So we have been sick and I have not been up for recording a full length episode. We are recovering, we made it all this time without getting COVID and now we have it. Luckily so far, our symptoms are pretty mild, so it's nothing too bad, but we are just resting and recovering. So there will be no episode today, but I will be back next week, hopefully better than ever excited to talk to you some more about boundaries. So take good care. I hope you have a wonderful week and I am holding you in the light.

    • 2 min
    Pushing Past Our Fears About Setting Boundaries with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    Pushing Past Our Fears About Setting Boundaries with Alyssa Scolari, LPC

    In this week’s episode, Alyssa continues the important discussion from last week surrounding boundaries. Pulling from Nedra Glover Tawwab’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself, this week’s discussion centers on the following: 
    Different ways people might react to setting boundaries Why we are often afraid to set boundaries How we can push past our fears around setting boundaries  Nedra Tawwab's Instagram: @nedratawwab
    Order Set Boundaries, Find Peace — Nedra Tawwab
     

    Check out the Light After Trauma website for transcripts, other episodes, Alyssa's guest appearances, and more at: www.lightaftertrauma.com
    Want to get more great content and interact with the show? Check us out on Instagram: @lightaftertrauma
    We need your help! We want to continue to make great content that can help countless trauma warriors on their journey to recovery. So, please help us in supporting the podcast by becoming a recurring patron of the show via Patreon:
    https://www.patreon.com/lightaftertrauma
     
    Transcript:
     
    Alyssa Scolari [00:00]:
    Hey everybody, what's up? Welcome back to another episode of the Light After Trauma podcast. I'm your host Alyssa Scolari, talking about boundaries today. This is the part two of a series that we are doing on boundaries. In the first episode, which if you haven't listened to, I highly recommend you go back and check that out. In that first episode, we talked about what are boundaries and why do we need them, why are they so important. We also talked about the different types of boundaries: porous, rigid, and healthy. And we also talked about some of the biggest areas in which people tend to struggle with boundaries the most.
    Alyssa Scolari [01:08]:
    As I mentioned in last week's episode, so much of this information is taken from a book that I highly recommend. It is called Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Tawwab, and you can also listen to it on Audible if you're not a big reader and you'd rather listen. I listen to the book on Audible. You can go look in the show notes, if you want access to the book, or if you want to follow Nedra on Instagram. She's absolutely amazing therapist and does awesome work with boundaries. And I said this last week, but it is worth repeating, I personally believe that boundaries are the most important tool that you can have with you, not just for healing from trauma, but throughout your entire life.
    Alyssa Scolari [01:58]:
    That being said, I also personally believe it's one of the hardest things to do, and it brings up a lot of feelings for people. I feel like I should probably say that. It's really, really hard, particularly for survivors of trauma who have been taught that our needs don't matter. And again, I speak about all of this in the last week's episode, so feel free to go and check that out if you haven't already. That being said, if you haven't listened to it, I don't think that you necessarily do need to listen to it in order to benefit from this episode. I think you can kind of just dive right in today with the rest of us.
    Alyssa Scolari [02:39]:
    So just some housekeeping things. I actually know, I started off last week's episode by talking about how I had gone no contact with my family. I know that I've been talking for the last couple of weeks about how I've been struggling a lot with depression, and then some things happened and I went no contact with my family and just wanted to follow up and say that I am hanging in there. I'm doing all right. I think that I'm better than I've been in a long time. I'm taking space and time to grieve and to give myself grace. But overall, I think I am better than I've been in a really long time. So feeling good, feeling energized, excited to be out of that depressive funk. It was awful. So really excited to be out of that, really excited to just have a new kind of zest for life.
    Alyssa Scolari [03:44]:
    It's been really hot here where I live, so I've been staying hydra

Customer Reviews

4.9 out of 5
42 Ratings

42 Ratings

Awpll ,

Incredibly Relatable

Alyssa’s episodes are powerful. Even though I’ve been in therapy 4.5+ years and have gone to two trauma centers, I ALWAYS learn something new on Alyssa’s podcast. When I feel alone in the way I am feeling, I’ll listen to a couple of episodes, and she reminds me that I am feeling this way because my trauma shaped me to feel isolated. This podcast is a great, free resource to start deconstructing your trauma narrative and to start healing.

Health_ Coach ,

Great support, exactly what a trauma survivor would need

Humiliation and self blaming is a serious matter, people should love and empower themselves instead but this is not as easy as it seems, it requires hard work and support from experts like you Alyssa, you're doing a great job with this podcast and the world would be grateful!

cgaars ,

Creating space for our hardest moments

Alyssa is compassionate, and working to provide space for us to work through and learn through the most painful experiences we go through.

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