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The Love Intently Podcast with Sophie Kwok empowers you to have a thriving relationship with yourself and everyone around you. We feature relationship experts, researchers, and couples to explore the most important yet under-supported part of our lives, relationships.

Love Intently Podcast with Sophie Kwok Sophie Kwok

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    • 4.8 • 88 Ratings

The Love Intently Podcast with Sophie Kwok empowers you to have a thriving relationship with yourself and everyone around you. We feature relationship experts, researchers, and couples to explore the most important yet under-supported part of our lives, relationships.

    How to Explore your Secure Attachment Style with Tracy McMillan

    How to Explore your Secure Attachment Style with Tracy McMillan

    People want a deeper understanding of their own relationships and attachment than what they get from watching Sex in the City. Tracy McMillan is a Hollywood writer turned relationship expert who brings relatable, well-known characters to her descriptions to help you understand attachment and relationships. She’s always talked about relationships, and throughout her own life experiences she’s learned so much about relationships and it’s naturally progressed. That’s why episode 83 of the Love Intently Podcast is about how to identify and satisfy your own personal attachment style! 
    Find your Attachment Style with this Quiz! Understanding the science behind adult attachment and how it can help us find and keep love.
    In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, Tracy is sharing the importance of understanding your insecure attachment style and some actionable steps you can take right now to start experiencing autonomy in your relationships. 
    Key topics discussed in this episode:
    Tracy shares the statistics around insecure and secure attachments, and how if you exhibit insecure attachment patterns you’re actually not unusual. The 3 types of insecure attachment types, as well as the subtypes, to better understand the type you have or have exhibited before, between genders, relationship styles, and other key factors.How to know if your significant other is actually the One, or if it’s your attachment style being triggered, based on your reaction to the other person.Tracy has a lot of built self-trust and self-love, so she shares how important that has been on her journey, and can be on your own as well, especially around infinite choice.How one of the greatest lessons she’s learned in her current relationship has been to throw out all she knows about being a relationship coach.Ways to choose love over fear by being vulnerable and honest about where you in your life, and what you want, and how that can be scary but also so freeing to dispel.How secure and insecure attachments are tones, and how those around you can tell your relationship tone clearly. What autonomy is, what it means in a relationship, and ways people experience or ask for it in relationships. Why Tracy believes people aren’t married even when they want to be.Why you should be looking for Grace, more than anything else, and why Tracy believes it’s the most important thing to look for in a relationship.Why people generally don’t reveal things, like their past or expectations, but why you should reveal the truth as soon as possible. The question you should always be asking in any relationship, or end of the relationship, in order to grow and transform for the next relationship.The key to a healthy, grace-filled relationship comes from stating your truth and understanding your attachment type.
    Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!
    CONNECT WITH Tracy McMillan:
    Instagram
    Website
    Get her book!
    CONNECT WITH SOPHIE KWOK:
    Instagram
    Pinterest
    Work with Sophie! 

    • 1 hr 11 min
    How to Love Who You Are During Conflict

    How to Love Who You Are During Conflict

    Conflict resolution comes up quite frequently with my clients. I have wanted to do an episode on this for a while and I am very excited to share my ideas on loving in and through conflict. For so long it was something I was so terrified to do and be around. I hated being triggered. I didn’t like who I was during conflict. What’s been really incredible is that throughout the years I have learned to love who I am in conflict. That’s why episode 82 of the Love Intently Podcast is a solo episode about conflict resolution and 10 things that are huge for me when it comes to loving myself through conflict! 
    Find your Attachment Style with this Quiz! Understanding the science behind adult attachment and how it can help us find and keep love.
    In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, I’m sharing the importance of having a strong connected relationship and actionable steps you can take right now to love who you are during a conflict. I will share 10 things that I have learned to do that have helped me personally, with examples we can all relate to. 
    Key topics discussed in this episode:
    Why you need to learn to love yourself in conflict, and why ignoring it is not the answer to your feelings of discomfort.Why it’s important to understand your body and take cues from your body as to how you feel and why learning the early signs is so crucial to discovering your window of tolerance.How you can look at conflict as an opportunity for growth instead of a negative thing that you must avoid at all costs.When we are avoiding conflict, we are actually avoiding short-term discomfort for long-term dysfunction. The incredible shift from judgment or defensiveness to curiosity in times of conflict for a healthier conversation.Understanding and expanding your window of tolerance over time to better understand your own triggers and bodily response. The importance of taking responsibility for your half of the relationship instead of blaming the other person for the conflict on the table.Why it is not you against the other person, but rather it’s the conflict against the people involved, and how this made a massive shift in my own life with my relationship with my parents.You always have a choice when it comes to approaching conflict, but the ultimate truth is that when one of you wins, both of you lose. So make sure that you both win, so you both win.
    Be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on building thriving relationships with yourself and everyone around you and to hear even more about the points outlined above.
    Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  And don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!
    CONNECT WITH SOPHIE KWOK:
    Instagram
    Pinterest
    Work with Sophie! 
    Links mentioned: 
    Traci Ruble Episode: Are You in Autopilot or in Alignment? 

    • 26 min
    Rewrite the Rules with Alex Starr

    Rewrite the Rules with Alex Starr

    Alex Starr is a former wildland firefighter and now the host of the Rewrite The Rules podcast, which is about sharing the stories of those who have changed what they thought was possible for their relationships, work, and life. Alex has also authored Rewrite the Rules: An Unconventional Way to Build an Intentional Life, a book that provides a framework to break free of the status quo, trust your instincts and live a life you choose instead of the one you have been told to live. In this episode of the Love Intently Podcast, Alex is here to teach you how to rewrite the rules and also shares his experiences.
    Alex defines the fear of failure as the biggest reason people don’t go on things they want and instead run in the opposite direction. However, he has a different way of approaching the fear of failure. (“If you don’t get the job, you should go and apply for three more that are even in better positions and bigger companies.”) Fear and resistance can only keep you down.

    But how do you know that it’s fear but not instincts trying to protect you? Alex believes every situation and every person is different. But deep down, everybody knows the whisper. We just don’t give ourselves enough space to hear what we already know. Intuition tells us stuff all the time, and sometimes, there’s fear attached to it. (“It doesn’t mean just because it’s like your intuition is telling something, there will be no fear attached to it.”)
    In this episode with Alex, we chat about how he has had to let go of who society said he was, how meeting his fiancé changed his life, his biggest fears, and more. Tune in to hear Alex’s full story and learn how you can rewrite the rules for your own life!
    Key Topics Discussed
    -About Alex’s book and why it has been an important model in his life 
    -Rules he has written in his life
    -What made him rewrite his relationship rule about being single
    -Finding happiness 
    -Why people don’t want to love
    -Defining fear of failure
    -Telling the difference between instincts and fear


    Resources 
    Rewrite the Rules: An Unconventional Way to Build an Intentional Life
    Rewrite the Rules Podcast
    Connect With Alex
    Alex’s Website
    Alex’s Instagram


    Connect with Sophie:
    Sophie’s Instagram
    Love Intently Instagram 
    Love Intently Website 

    • 1 hr 4 min
    How Your Human Design Improves Your Relationships with Amanda Horvath

    How Your Human Design Improves Your Relationships with Amanda Horvath

    Amanda Horvath is a Youtube and video expert who is passionate about supporting entrepreneurs getting started in video. Whether you’re an aspiring thought leader or business owner looking to utilize video to grow your business, her Youtube channel, and her courses are the place you will find everything you need. Amanda started in video as a talented videographer working with incredible people like Ryan Holiday and Tim Ferris. A few years ago, she felt a deep call to start her own Youtube channel and never looked back. In the last few years, Amanda has gained over 45k subscribers, launched multiple courses, and created a mastermind on Human Design! As a projector, Amanda and Sophie (who is also a projector) talk all about how Human Design has impacted their business, life, and relationships!
    What is Human Design?
    The Human Design System is a synthesis of ancient and modern sciences and has proven to be a valuable tool for human understanding.
    With Human Design you discover what makes you different from everyone else. It offers profound insights into your psychology, along with strategies and techniques for making correct decisions and ultimately leading to a life of more ease and fulfillment.
    In this episode we discussed:
    The foundations of Human Design and how Amanda became drawn to itHow learning about her type has completely transformed her lifeWhy learning about your type may cause some initial resistanceHow understanding your and your partner’s types can better help you navigate your relationshipTips on how to read your chartExamples from Amanda and Sophie’s relationships of how they’ve used the understanding of their types to prevent conflictAre you riding the emotional wave? 
    Connect with Amanda:
    Check out Amanda's Youtube Channel
    Follow Amanda on Instagram
    Amanda’s Quick Start Guide to Human Design
    Amanda’s Launch with Video Course
    Get on the waitlist for Amanda’s Human Design Business Mastermind
    Find your Human Design Chart
     
    Connect with Sophie:
    Sophie’s Instagram
    Love Intently Instagram 
    Apply to work with Sophie
     
    Shownotes link: www.loveintently.com/blog/harnessing-human-design

    • 1 hr 16 min
    Hone Your Money Mindset with Whitney Morrison

    Hone Your Money Mindset with Whitney Morrison

    Whitney Morrison is a Certified Financial Planner, Money Mindset Expert, and the founder of Holistic Money, an online money coaching platform that teaches individuals to revolutionize their relationship with money, maximize their income and achieve the freedom lifestyle they've always desired.
     
     Her approach combines her experience as a financial planner with money mindset coaching. She helps people reach their goals by creating a money plan based on the foundations of wealth building, while also attending to the emotional, psychological, behavioral, and relational hurdles that are intertwined in the process.
     
     In this episode we discuss: 
    Whitney’s past of familial money traumaThe Top 3 limiting beliefs around moneyMen vs. women’s mindsets around wealthStrengthening your ability to ask for the compensation you deserve for your workWhitney’s moment of rock bottom in both love and businessThe choice to remain sober and how her sobriety has impacted her financesWhitney’s emotional journey from her past engagement to her new relationship.The best way to discuss finances within a relationship
     
     Links:
     Work with Whitney
    Follow Whitney on Instagram
    Join The Make That Money Mastermind

    • 1 hr 21 min
    Facing Your Complexities with Flexibility, with Lauren Popish

    Facing Your Complexities with Flexibility, with Lauren Popish

    Lauren is the founder of The Wave & SWELL. She started her first podcast, Book Wine Club, in 2017 after a public speaking blunder that sparked a speaking phobia. As the saying goes, when life gives you lemons, start a podcast about it! Rediscovering her confidence through podcasting encouraged her to share it with other women struggling to tell their stories. The Wave now serves more women than ever by providing educational resources and a digital community. In 2021, The Wave launched SWELL, the first podcast editing service for women by women. Lauren still pairs her favorite reads with a glass of wine.
     
     In this episode, we discussed:
    What happened when Lauren’s life-long dream no longer suited herSophie and Lauren’s time together in school and their realizations that it was time to explore new avenuesLauren’s adventure into entrepreneurship and the lessons she learned along the wayThe challenges of redefining yourself when your identity revolves around your careerThe idea that there’s no such thing as one career or role for a lifetime that you can expect to fulfill you throughout life (especially having decided at 18)The experience that changed Lauren’s relationship with public speaking foreverLauren’s journey to creating her podcasting businessHow Lauren met and fell in love with her fiance (IRL!)Adventures in dating in NYC
     Links:
     The Wave Podcasting
    Follow The Wave Podcasting on Instagram
    Follow Lauren on Instagram
    Get 15% off Swell services with CODE: love15 

    • 1 hr 21 min

Customer Reviews

4.8 out of 5
88 Ratings

88 Ratings

astr0sl0th ,

A must-listen for everyone!

This is a MUST-LISTEN for everyone, whether you’re FB relationship status is single, in a relationship, married, or “it’s complicated” — or whether you’re trying to have a better relationship with your friends, family, business partners, or even yourself (self-love and self-care are so underrated)! Sophie is a great host who asks great questions to her renowned, knowledgeable guests. We can all afford to learn a bit more on how to improve the various relationships in our lives, and this podcast is a perfect place to start.

jwallen137 ,

Must listen

By far one of the best shows out there, especially as far as love and relationships goes. Sophie is an incredible host and is always asking questions that even tend to make the listener think and relate to their own life.

The guests on the show are always interesting and the show is truly a must listen. Well worth your time! :)

sp_tx11 ,

My life is so much better with Love Intently

Ever since I’ve found The Love Intently podcast, I have a much better understanding of myself and how I approach relationships. Every podcast is eye opening and allows me to self reflect! Love love love every topic and truly allows me be more intentional with my actions. 🙌🏻 can’t recommend this podcast any more.

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