Midlife Fulfilled Podcast: For People Over 40 Who Say NO To A Midlife Crisis Bernie Borges

In this takeaway episode, I explore key insights from my conversation with Dave Altman on episode 180. I begin by reviewing the three main talking points from ep 180:

1️⃣ Leadership Starts with Leading Oneself

Dave emphasizes that the essence of leadership begins with leading oneself. This broader understanding of leadership enables individuals to develop a sense of agency and purpose, fostering a culture of leadership at all levels of society.

2️⃣ The Role of Self Awareness in Leadership

Dave reinforces the idea that effective leadership stems from a holistic and balanced approach to self-awareness. By integrating physical and mental well-being, professional growth, meaningful relationships, and a focus on leaving a positive impact, individuals can enhance their leadership capacity and contribute to a more fulfilling life experience.

3️⃣ Embracing Humanity in Leadership

Throughout the conversation, Dave highlights the human aspect of leadership—the significance of humility, empathy, and the authentic connection with those being led. By addressing leaders as human beings with intrinsic value and not just instruments for achieving organizational objectives, there is a shift towards a more meaningful, fulfilling leadership paradigm. 

My main takeaway is the foundational importance of leading oneself, which sets the stage for self-awareness and the capability to treat others with humility, empathy, and authentic connection.
I shared an experience where I needed to be self-aware of my communication style, particularly when interacting with individuals from different backgrounds to ensure effective and empathetic connections.


My challenge to you is to assess how well you lead yourself. Focus on aligning with your values to enhance self-awareness and your ability to connect with and lead others effectively.

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Episode 180 features David Altman, the Chief Research & Innovation Officer at the Center for Creative Leadership (CCL).  Dave has published over 100 journal articles and book chapters, as well as five books including Discovering the Leader in You.

Three key discussion points are:

1️⃣ Leadership Starts with Leading Oneself

Dave emphasizes that the essence of leadership begins with leading oneself. Leadership is not solely about holding a formal title or position. Rather, it encompasses a way of being that guides one's actions and interactions. By recognizing and embracing the leadership roles we play in different aspects of our lives, we can develop a positive impact on those around us and within our communities. This broader understanding of leadership enables individuals to develop a sense of agency and purpose, fostering a culture of leadership at all levels of society.

2️⃣ The Role of Self Awareness in Leadership

Dave reinforces the idea that effective leadership stems from a holistic and balanced approach to self awareness. By integrating physical and mental well-being, professional growth, meaningful relationships, and a focus on leaving a positive impact, individuals can enhance their leadership capacity and contribute to a more fulfilling life experience.

3️⃣ Embracing Humanity in Leadership

Throughout the conversation, Dave highlights the human aspect of leadership—the significance of humility, empathy, and the authentic connection with those being led. By addressing leaders as human beings with intrinsic value and not just instruments for achieving organizational objectives, there is a shift towards a more meaningful, fulfilling leadership paradigm. The recognition of common values and experiences across different generations underscores the importance of embracing diversity and inclusion in leadership practices. The willingness to learn from each other’s experiences and challenges, and the acknowledgment of the human need for belonging and mattering, are key drivers for creating a collaborative and impactful leadership culture.

Questions to ponder:

How can individuals recognize and develop their leadership roles in various aspects of life, regardless of formal titles or positions?

How does self-awareness contribute to recognizing one's leadership potential in different aspects of life, and what are the implications for leader development?

How can leaders incorporate the desire for more meaning in life, including fulfillment, legacy, and giving back?

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In this takeaway episode, I explore key insights from my conversation with Art Turock on episode 178.

I reviewed three main talking points from ep 178:

1️⃣ Deliberate Practice: Art explains that deliberate practice isn’t just repeating the same practice over and over. It involves pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and continuously working on skills to achieve higher competency and growth.

2️⃣ Accountability: Art shares his philosophy on accountability and how traditional methods of holding people accountable often lead to blaming and rationalizations. Instead, he emphasizes inviting accountability through a series of questions that challenge individuals to assess their behaviors and mindsets in relation to their desired results.

3️⃣ Colossal Deception: Art explains the concept of colossal deception, the tendency to prioritize immediate comfort over long-term goals. Art shares strategies for reframing mindsets and focusing on passionate values to overcome this deceptive mindset.

My takeaway from our conversation is anchored in honesty. I’m referring to being honest with oneself.  If you cheat yourself, you may not reach elite performance at whatever capacity you can and that means that the people who would be affected by your elite performance would not benefit from it, because you didn’t attain it.

Most of us can look backward and recognize our elite performances, and also maybe recognize where colossal deception won out, robbing us of our elite performance achievement.

I choose not to beat myself up over the colossal deceptions and instead appreciate the elite performances I've experienced.

How about you? My challenge to you is to be honest with yourself. Reflect on your life and be self-aware of the elite performances in your life.

Also, recognize those times when colossal deception won out, and learn from it, as I have.

By being self-aware of elite performances and colossal deceptions in our life, we are better equipped to be honest with ourselves when we next face a moment of truth where we have to answer the question: “Am I interested in doing (fill in the blank,) or am I committed to it.” The only right or wrong answer is up to you.   

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Episode 178 features Art Turock.  Art has excelled in business and sports over the past three decades, delivering speeches to Fortune 500 companies and competing as a pentathlon athlete in his 50s. In this episode, Art shares his "bizarre reboots" and discusses achieving elite performance in fitness and career during midlife. 

Art reveals practical methods to separate oneself from the pack and achieve elite performance. 

Here are 3 key discussion points from our conversation:
1️⃣ Deliberate Practice: Art explains that deliberate practice involves pushing yourself out of your comfort zone and continuously working on skills to achieve higher competency and growth.
2️⃣ Accountability: Art shares his philosophy on accountability and how traditional methods of holding people accountable often lead to blaming and rationalizations. Instead, he emphasizes inviting accountability through a series of questions that challenge individuals to assess their behaviors and mindsets in relation to their desired results.
3️⃣ Colossal Deception: Art explains the concept of colossal deception, the tendency to prioritize immediate comfort over long-term goals. Art shares strategies for reframing mindsets and focusing on passionate values to overcome this deceptive mindset.
Art inspires you to separate yourself from the rest of the pack, aspiring to be an elite performer by embracing tools like deliberate practice, accountability, and reframing mindsets to prioritize long-term goals over short-term comforts.

Questions to ponder:

How can the methods used in performance fields like music, theater, and sports be applied to separate oneself from others?

How did deliberate practice help Art Turock excel in both his speaking career and as an athlete?

How does the red flag drill influence people to shift their mindsets and take greater ownership of their actions and outcomes?

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Have you ever heard of Human Design? In this takeaway episode, I explore key insights from my conversation with Vickie Dickson on episode 176. 

I reviewed three main talking points from ep 176:
1. Understanding human design, an intricate system based on a mix of astrology, biochemistry, The Chakra System, the I Ching, Kabbalah, and Quantum Physics.
2. Exploring how human design can enhance relationships by providing insights into individual traits, fostering better understanding and appreciation of each other.
3. How human design can help harness vision and intuition, offering a broader understanding of strengths, challenges, and relationships across different aspects of life, including health, fitness, career, relationships, and legacy.


I integrate my Bible-based faith with the principles of human design, specifically about my unique human design as a Projector.


In exploring the traits, strengths, challenges, and strategies of Projectors in human design, I relate them to my own experiences and provide commentary on how I apply these insights in my life. I also intertwine my understanding of human design with my Biblical beliefs, drawing parallels to the Parable of the Talents and discussing the concept of recognizing an invitation in relation to my faith-based calling.


I extend an invitation to my listeners for feedback, encouraging you to share your thoughts on how the Midlife Fulfilled podcast impacts you.


Whether you're familiar with human design or are hearing about it for the first time, episode 177 offers the opportunity to explore this system and its potential for personal growth and fulfillment. 

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Episode 176 features Vickie Dickson, a lifelong entrepreneur and certified holistic nutritionist who specializes in using human design as a tool to guide intentionality in this journey we call life.

Vickie explains the concept of human design as a practice that captures an individual's energy patterns, identifying your strengths, and talents. She reviewed my human design chart, revealing that I am a "projector" in human design terminology.

Three key discussion points include:

1️⃣ Understanding Human Design: Vickie explained that human design is a snapshot of the moment of birth and three months before, showing how our energy is meant to work, our strengths, talents, and areas where we may face challenges in life.
2️⃣ Human Design in Relationships: We discussed how human design can be used to improve relationships by providing insights into individual designs, allowing for better understanding and appreciation of each other.


3️⃣ Harnessing Vision and Intuition: Vickie uncovered fascinating elements of my human design, explaining how it aligns with my visionary approach and intuitive understanding of people, providing meaningful insights into my leadership and communication style.
Questions to ponder:

What role does human design play in guiding us to uncover our purpose and live a more fulfilled life, especially in midlife?

What insights did you learn about me from Vickie Dickson's analysis of my human design chart, and how do these insights align with my Midlife Fulfilled podcast?

How can human design be applied to the 5 pillars: health, fitness, career, relationships, and legacy, and how does it provide a broader understanding of these pillars?

Key Takeaway from this episode with Vickie Dickson:
Understanding human design can provide profound insights into our strengths, challenges, and relationships, contributing to more fulfilling and purpose-driven lives.


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