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My Inner Torch DS
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4.1 • 9 Ratings
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My Inner Torch offers direct and personal insight with help for those of us in a relationship with someone who is undiagnosed/diagnosed with a Cluster B Personality Disorder. This is a safe place to come for words of inspiration that draw from my personal experiences and is produced to gain understanding and to find direction as we navigate through the often difficult relationships with those we love who suffer with a Cluster B personality disorder that includes BPD and NPD. PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is NOT for those who suffer with these disorders. This podcast is for survivors of these challenging and difficult relationships.
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Not Unhearing "The Said"
Send us a Text Message.Today's Podcast delves into the complexities of relationships with Cluster B individuals, particularly covert narcissists, emphasizing the importance of not overlooking past abusive behaviors and not excusing toxic traits. I highlight the challenge of forgiving abusers while questioning whether forgiveness enables harmful behavior. I stress the need for self-reflection to break free from dysfunctional dynamics and warn against idealizing or trying to change individuals ...
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You will NEVER trust!
Send us a Text Message.In this episode, we delve deep into the manipulative world of Cluster B personalities, including psychopaths, borderlines, and narcissists. These individuals employ deceitful tactics such as sweet talk and love bombing to lure in their victims, leaving a trail of broken promises and emotional devastation in their wake.Join me on a journey through the aftermath of toxic relationships with Cluster B personalities, where victims struggle to move on despite the harm inflict...
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Cold Hard Truths
Send us a Text Message.Today I reflect on toxic relationships, particularly with individuals displaying traits of Cluster B personality disorders. I question why we expect intense love from such individuals, only to realize their incapacity to sustain it over time. Terms like narcissist, borderline, and psychopath are used to describe such behaviors, pointing to relational abuse. Despite efforts to diagnose, the focus should be on recognizing toxic behaviors and understanding why one stays in...
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Look Back Listen 2020: Emotional Intelligence
Send us a Text Message.In today's Look Back Listen: 2020 podcast I delve into the challenges faced by individuals in relationships with those who have Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), focusing on emotional intelligence. I share struggles with a spouse exhibiting BPD symptoms, exposing the lack of empathy and distorted reality common in such situations. I touch on the challenges of managing BPD through therapy but acknowledge the difficulty of staying composed during emotional outbursts....
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Why we REMAIN.....
Send us a Text Message.This podcast explores my personal struggle with staying in a toxic relationship with a Cluster B partner despite being aware of her flaws. Drawing insights from a post in a narcissistic support group, they delve into the lack of empathy in individuals with Cluster B personality disorders and the futility of trying to prove love to such partners. Despite feelings of fear and being consumed by thoughts of abandonment, I no longer blame myself for my partner’s behavior. I ...
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"Shock and Sell" Have you fallen prey to this?
Send us a Text Message.In relationships impacted by cluster B personality disorders like borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disorders, manipulative tactics are prevalent. One common strategy discussed in this week's podcast is the “shock and sell” approach, where a shocking statement or action is used to destabilize someone, followed by rationalizing it to manipulate them into accepting behaviors that may not align with their needs. "Shock and Sell" aims to make ...
Customer Reviews
Nails it! Succinctly perfect.
So grateful for this podcast - he’s so well versed and to the point and tugs at the heartstrings of those in a BPD relationship - it’s everything you need to hear to get the craziness of what you’re in. Can’t give enough accolades to my inner torch.
Misleading and Stigmatizing
I agree with the other reviewer on here who stated how harmful this was for people with actual BPD. people with BPD do not lack empathy—-you’re talking about Narcissism and NPD, which are on the opposite side of this spectrum. I have friend who is diagnosed BPD, while I am on the spectrum, and I came here hoping to continue my healing and DBT skills. However, these episodes seem to really feed into the negative stigmatization of Borderlines and harmful for those who are doing their best to heal. I have met other Borderlines and am in a DBT group right now and they are some of those most empathetic individuals I’ve met. I’m sorry about your experience and it can truly be traumatizing for someone on the other side of that abuse. It sounds more like your wife was more of a narcissist than a Borderline. Please take some time to look into BPD more. These stereotypes can be so harmful for those of us looking to better ourselves. Best of luck to you 🤍 sending lots of love.
Ruined my night.
I was diagnosed with BPD 4 years ago and I struggle with it, however every day I try to be a better loving person for the few people I DEARLY love and care about. I came to this podcast to help better myself, and after listening to ‘You can’t Fix What you Didn’t break,’ I feel like I’m a horrible person that can’t change, because I “lack empathy.” From the sounds of the author, he should take a step back and look at WHY he stayed in this unhappy marriage for so long. If you have BPD you should check elsewhere for help, this seems very belittling to me.