No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse Kevin Bolger and Laurie Hardie

One of the hardest questions survivors ask is if there is a God why does He let abuse happen?

Was it a part of his plan? Or was I being punished for something?

None of us truly know Gods plan but if we
are given free will than the only one to blame for our abuse would be
the perpetrator.

We are never at fault for the abuse that happened to us and blaming anyone besides the perpetrator does not help our healing.

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How we define ourselves and how others would define us can be very different.

Where our identity comes from matters on how we present our-self.

But we might not be aware of how others perceive us because of the way we learned to define ourselves that we are not aware of.

Alot of what we can learn about our own values can come from what we consider important in others , how we view what we feel is an important characteristic in others shows us what we consider important.

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Rage is an important topic that is so hard to talk about

Emotions aren't necessarily good or bad but they are information

But when you lose control of your emotions , especially anger, then it can be a problem.

That is why we are revising this episode of Rage.

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As survivors we are sometimes more aware of red flags because of our experience

What is our responsibility when we see something that makes us uncomfortable

This is an issue that can be so important to help prevent abuse

So we have revised this episode to make it sound better on all platforms


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Disclosure is an important step but not one to take lightly.

and it is not always the means to find closure.

In this episode we discuss what to expect from disclosure and the ways to find closure.

We have revised this episode to make it sound better on all platforms.

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For survivors shame seems to be a part of life.

It always seems to be present with us.

It doesn't have to be that way.

There are methods to counter the shame that we feel so we handle our shame in a healthier way.

So we are not controlled by our shame or identified with it.

Instead we can learn to control how we address our shame.

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