No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse

Kevin Bolger and Laurie Hardie
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No Longer Ashamed Surviving Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse survivors Messages of Hope and Healing for survivors of sexual abuse with hosts Kevin Bolger and Laurie Hardie

  1. 5D AGO

    Episode 162|(61) Unresolved Trauma and Repressed Memories for survivors of abuse

    We have been taking a break for a few weeks as our schedules changed which made it difficult to record We are getting ready to start a new chapter of expanding beyond into Youtube and Instagram with shorts so stay tuned we will be announcing soon While we get geared up we wanted to re-post this important episode about unresolved trauma and repressed memories since these are issues that can be very difficult for survivors of abuse to address

    44 min

  2. MAY 21

    158|58 Personal Growth for Survivors

    Why is personal growth so important for survivors of abuse? Many of us were taught by our abusers that we did not matter, that we were just objects to be used. It is through personal growth that we can prove to ourselves that we do matter and we deserve to have hope and healing. It is the small steps that we take to take care of ourselves and improve little by little that leads to the larger goals that take back our self esteem. No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    43 min

  3. MAY 12

    161|Oh, that Happened to You?

    This is something that has been on our minds a lot since we really find it important that as survivors of abuse that we do share our stories. But what do you say when people don't know how to respond? Which ends up being a lot of the time. Sometimes the subject of being a survivor comes up at unexpected times and we might not feel like it's appropriate to share our story. Or are we just dodging it because we don't feel like talking about it? None of us like to feel judged or shamed and sometimes it feels like the easiest way to avoid that is to not talk about it at all. Then this message that is so important will never get out. So how do you know when to talk about it? and how do you deal with it when people respond in an unhelpful way. No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    33 min

  4. APR 14

    160|Not Broken

    What does it mean to be broken? As survivors of abuse we often feel beyond repair. That isn't really true but it can feel that way. If we can unlearn the lessons we were taught by being abused. Then we learned that we aren't really broken, just injured.No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    29 min

  5. MAR 24

    159| Is Silence Condoning

    There are so many reasons that we stay silent about our abuse. It can be so hard to break the shame and guilt that keep us from speaking about what happened . But are you robbing yourself of getting past the abuse you survived by keeping silent. Are you forcing yourself and those that care about you to suffer from the issues that you refuse to address. If you feel that what happened doesn't matter so it isn't worth dealing with, you are just trying to hide from your issues. When you find the freedom and courage to share about what happened then you find the freedom to be compassionate with yourself and take care of yourself. No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    29 min

  6. MAR 10

    157|The Verdict in the Trial of the Sumner Basketball Coach

    The coach was found guilty of all 19 charges of sex crimes in Sumner Washington! We have been following this trial for the last couple of years and we are thrilled that the perpetrator has been found guilty on all counts of the sex crimes! We first reported on this crime back in episode 87 in December of 2023 when we did a panel about sex abuse in sports with our guest Charnell Bolger, Kevins wife, who as a former athlete and coach and daughter of a coach, is very passionate about this subject. Her research on this issue also led us to our interview episode 89 with Sam Dordulian the Founder and President of the Dordulian Law Group in the Los Angeles area, and to the website US Center for Safe Sport which is an important resource for athletes and for parents and family members of athletes to be aware of the issues of sexual abuse in sports. We, of course, are very thrilled with this verdict and are also so proud of the brave young men who had the courage to stand up to the abuse and report the abuser and go on the stand in the trial and testify what he had done to them, so we have joined with Charnell again to discuss this important trial. No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com https://uscenterforsafesport.org/safesport-ready-app/ https://www.king5.com/article/news/local/jury-reaches-verdict-trial-ex-sumner-basketball-coach-charged-sex-crimes/281-53513d7a-00a1-4bb8-a271-fbc4433e5d0e https://www.amazon.com/Secret-Shame-Survivors-Understanding-Development/dp/B09XVH1RWJ/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3T0PL2DOWBPPM&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.YzWjsw99X9Kum6sJzUbtb1QiSqxMh0W7-h4oggolaHw.eTBDRenGn25ITSHuh-quaNRQJbNS9jLv9rCw7OZIyKc&dib_tag=se&s=audible&sprefix=secret+shame+book+douglas+carpenter%2Caudible%2C140 https://www.dlawgroup.com/

    39 min

  7. MAR 3

    156|Kevin Shares his Story at his Church

    For this week we are doing something different. Charnell was able to find the original recording of when Kevin gave his testimony of being a survivor of abuse in Church. Since this is where it all started for this podcast we decided to publish it to share how it all began. This is in a way the origin story of this podcast . No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    19 min

  8. FEB 24

    155|57 The Language We Use

    How we talk about what happened to us as survivors can be very important in our healing. If we are using language that can be harmful for ourselves we can make it harder to get past our history. That is why it is so important to pay attention to what we are saying to others and to ourselves about what happened to us and to learn from that on how to make changes. No Longer Ashamed⁠ ⁠No Longer Ashamed FB⁠ bolgerkevin15@gmail.com

    33 min
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